Hello Fans, I made a post here on 15th September, 2019. If u missed out, u can click the link below. https://www.nairaland.com/5417653/brother-situation
The lady who claimed she got pregnant for me and I wasn't aware till the 5th month have given birth.
Lemme give u a little recap. She got pregnant by March 2019 she informed me and I begged her to keep the baby. I told her I'll meet her parents immediately to perform every rites before the pregnancy is exposed. All my plea fell on deaf ears. Finally I told her to go ahead if she insists but my money will not be part of that evil act. She said I should keep my money that she'll be fine. Days later she called that she has removed the pregnancy already. Out of bitterness in my heart, I stopped calling her and she stopped too. She removed me from he Facebook and blocked my number from calling her.
Till August, 2019, she chatted me up again and sent me a scan Result of her pregnancy and I told her I don't understand the picture she sent. And she told me she did not abort the baby as she earlier claimed that she's 5months gone. I was shocked cuz I never expected her to act that way. I told my mum and close relatives about it and I was warned to be careful.
Days later, I chatted her up that am not comfortable with her attitude. That why will she get pregnant for 5 good months and am not aware, that am already doubting. Because I said that she blocked me all again. Her last message was don't bother yourself. Tell ur people the baby is not for u.
August 2019 till date, no communication between us until last week she sent a message that she gave birth 10th December last year through operation. I wasn't informed too. I congratulated her and asked what the gender and she said baby gal. She sent me pictures of the baby. My next question was, who paid for ur hospital bills cuz it might have cost u alot since it was through operation. She said her uncle took care of the bills.
I asked her why her parents are not even willing to know the father of the baby. She told me she told her parents I ran away, changed my line and she doesn't know any of my family (All lies)....
I showed my elder sister the pictures of the baby and she said the baby looks like our late kid sister.
The confusion now is DNA test is very expensive and I don't think I can afford that at the moment. And she told me she has told her parents the truth and wants to meet me during this Easter period.
I don't want to accept the baby yet cuz am not comfortable with her attitude all this while. Not that I denied the pregnancy when she told me but keeping it again for months without telling is not done in my place.
Secondly, I don't want to depend on the assumption of my elder sister that the baby looks like us yet until proven right.
What do u guys think I can do at the moment cuz am confused.
Sorry for the long post
Pls ignore my typos
Help a brother pls
Lala Help me push

That girl is acting shady. Since you have not yet gotten emotionally attached to the child then it's not too late to confirm paternity. Discuss other ways with your doctor to confirm if the child belongs to you. There are less expensive ways though they are less accurate and not sensitive enough to rule out possibility of foul play. If she could put u on hold as the father surely she can also be put on hold till u are certain it's your child

Do a paternity test first before anything...

There's something she's not telling. Foolishly so.
She cannot be trusted.
Until a paternity test is done, please be careful how you proceed.
Make sure the timeline is right too. Check scan dates, hospital receipts etc to be sure that it is the same pregnancy of march 2019.

Winneygirl:
There's something she's not telling. Foolishly so.
She cannot be trusted.
Until a paternity test is done, please be careful how you proceed.
Make sure the timeline is right too. Check scan dates, hospital receipts etc to be sure that it is the same pregnancy of march 2019.

The timing seem to be accurate. She's not the type that flirt but women can't be trusted. She went too far on this

DominusPrime:
That girl is acting shady. Since you have not yet gotten emotionally attached to the child then it's not too late to confirm paternity. Discuss other ways with your doctor to confirm if the child belongs to you. There are less expensive ways though they are less accurate and not sensitive enough to rule out possibility of foul play. If she could put u on hold as the father surely she can also be put on hold till u are certain it's your child

Absolutely agree...there might have been more than one possible father in the contest. OP kept winning each time the other fails. Take your time to be sure OP.

sisisioge:


Absolutely agree...there might have been more than one possible father in the contest. OP kept winning each time the other fails. Take your time to be sure OP.

Exactly!!!

sisisioge:


Absolutely agree...there might have been more than one possible father in the contest. OP kept winning each time the other fails. Take your time to be sure OP.

Thanks

Innobee99:
The timing seem to be accurate. She's not the type that flirt but women can't be trusted. She went too far on this

Forget about whether she's not the flirty type or not. The first time a person will cheat it will come with strange happenings like this. That a person has never cheated does not exempt them from the possibility. You are indeed a wise man.

DominusPrime:

Forget about whether she's not the flirty type or not. The first time a person will cheat it will come with strange happenings like this. That a person has never cheated does not exempt them from the possibility. You are indeed a wise man.

Boss, u are indeed a brother. I wish i can get ur contact so we can talk sir

Slim shady babe dey play okoso for your head.

Very immature.

Innobee99:
Boss, u are indeed a brother. I wish i can get ur contact so we can talk sir

I'll mail you. And we can swap numbers...

DominusPrime:

I'll mail you. And we can swap numbers...

Thank u sir

Innobee99:
The timing seem to be accurate. She's not the type that flirt but women can't be trusted. She went too far on this

She's probably a drama queen.

Another innocent child brought into a dysfunctional family setting through no fault of her own.

Next thing co parenting will be wahala,fighting everyday.

Now this chick will be a much maligned single mother and if she wants to get ahead in life,her new partner may ask her to keep the child with relatives so the relationship can thrive OR the man will take this child and raise her in an environment where she will feel like a second class citizen.

Use condoms you people will not hear.


Abortions should be legalized.

oyoolima:
Another innocent child brought into a dysfunctional family setting through no fault of her own.

Next thing co parenting will be wahala,fighting everyday.

Now this chick will be a much maligned single mother and if she wants to get ahead in life,her new partner may ask her to keep the child with relatives so the relationship can thrive OR the man will take this child and raise her in an environment where she will feel like a second class citizen.

Use condoms you people will not hear.


Abortions should be legalized.

Thanks......
But ur contribution adds no meaning to this thread sir

Innobee99:
Thanks......
But ur contribution adds no meaning to this thread sir

Sorry o.

Your only means of certainty is a DNA paternity test.

Ellipsoid:
Your only means of certainty is a DNA paternity test.

Thanks

It is quite simple
She has more than 1 guy in her life, got pregnant and at first she was confused as to who she will’dash’ paternity. She obviously went with the one with the most cash at the time and fabricated story of abortion to the other which happens to be you in order for you not to ask
Stuff didn’t work out well with the first guy and now she is playing the second option card which obviously is you

Trust me I have seen the above happen and you really need her to confess what happened before jumping on claiming paternity
You will be surprised there is a very long chain of conspiracy theory in the mix

Good luck OP

When they are not sure who impregnated them, they just look for one innocent man to pin down with a bastard.

24kmagic:
When they are not sure who impregnated them, they just look for one innocent man to pin down with a bastard.

But the truth is, the baby looks like my late kid sister. The mata tire me sef.

Are you a matured adult or you're still a growing kid? you mean if you see a child with your blood running in him/her you can't tell? your smart elder sister saw the baby and instantly knew that she has a link to your bloodline. Were people using DNA test 100 years ago? didn't they know which children belong to them or not? if you like allow another man take your child, it's up to you. Good luck

Another useless girl doing the same thing like most single mom, you will just open your pussy for irresponsible men to be pouring their sperm in the name of friendship. Pity your parents, your future. Now look at an innocent child, no good future. Go to pocohant thread on giveaway and see how most of these shameless men are begging for 5k. Op, you don't need nairaland to tell if the child is yours or not. You didn't ask for their opinion when you couldn't use 50naira condom. If you can't afford 50 naira, is it DNA ? You can't even afford pampers let alone child support. I pity the senseless woman.

Graxie:
Another useless girl doing the same thing like most single mom, you will just open your pussy for irresponsible men to be pouring their sperm in the name of friendship. Pity your parents, your future. Now look at an innocent child, no good future. Go to pocohant thread on giveaway and see how most of these shameless men are begging for 5k. Op, you don't need nairaland to tell if the child is yours or not. You didn't ask for their opinion when you couldn't use 50naira condom. If you can't afford 50 naira, is it DNA ? You can't even afford pampers let alone child support. I pity the senseless woman.

Thanks..... But note the following:
1. The child's future is even brighter than ur present.
2. I wish ur father could also afford that N50 condom not to bring u into this world. Would have been better.
3. I can buy Pampers for u till ur 4th generation.
Ur contribution is a waste of ink and so is ur father's sperm a waste.
Thank u

Mizwisdom:
Are you a matured adult or you're still a growing kid? you mean if you see a child with your blood running in him/her you can't tell? your smart elder sister saw the baby and instantly knew that she has a link to your bloodline. Were people using DNA test 100 years ago? didn't they know which children belong to them or not? if you like allow another man take your child, it's up to you. Good luck

Thanks for ur contribution. But I have seen an over 30yrs old grown up man being returned to his real father. I guess the fake father should have discovered his blood doesn't run through him. I don't want to make a big mistake because of a mere assumption

Innobee99:
Thanks..... But note the following:
1. The child's future is even brighter than ur present.
2. I wish ur father could also afford that N50 condom not to bring u into this world. Would have been better.
3. I can buy Pampers for u till ur 4th generation.
Ur contribution is a waste of ink and so is ur father's sperm a waste.
Thank u

Somebody that can't afford DNA test is boasting of pampers to his fourth generations. Oga kpele oh, you can not afford condom and you want nairaland to teach you what to do with your carelessness. Hahahaha. Continue being confused, maybe your answer will come.

Mizwisdom:
Are you a matured adult or you're still a growing kid? you mean if you see a child with your blood running in him/her you can't tell? your smart elder sister saw the baby and instantly knew that she has a link to your bloodline. Were people using DNA test 100 years ago? didn't they know which children belong to them or not? if you like allow another man take your child, it's up to you. Good luck

What a post!
Dear OP...please get a DNA test
If you will learn only one thing on this thread? It should be to disregard this here post. It is highly fallacious and is blackmailing you for nothing really.
Lawd

So what do you want from Nairalanders @OP?
No one here can tell you the baby is yours or not yours with any certainty. You know that.
You know DNA is your way forward.
You can’t afford it. So why are you really here?

Graxie:
Somebody that can't afford DNA test is boasting of pampers to his fourth generations. Oga kpele oh, you can not afford condom and you want nairaland to teach you what to do with your carelessness. Hahahaha. Continue being confused, maybe your answer will come.

Oga, in ur father's era, condom was just 2kobo still he couldn't afford it. If he did, I wouldn't be hearing this trash.