seanwilliam:
if indeed she loves him, she should find means to support him and get a new apartment.. judging by the post self, the girl is very broke too

read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

seanwilliam:
already he's got 30k...assuming he's got nothing now, it is a different case.. most of these girls cant help/support honestly.. na only kpekus dem get to help you in time of ' agro holding'

fine and agreed on the bolded.
now the question is this?
is he begging her to raise house rent or if she does not have he will not get a better accomodation

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

is my eye seeing properly?

Don't apologise shii.
Your instincts are absolutely correct, I immediately knew it was a guy behind that moniker the very instance that I clicked on the dimwit's profile some time last year.
How simpletons fall prey to this stratagem beats me.

Jewessgratitudd:


Please I'm not Ma o. Drop it.

I only said what happened. Though I wouldn't know if there are two Arizas but I'm very sure of what I'm saying.
The very first PM I got when I just registered on nairaland last year August was from Ariza. So apologies if you're not the one.

As for friendship, sorry, I don't need any friendships here. If you see me mention anyone, it's prolly cos their comment got me or sounds funny.

Accept my apology
Thank you.

baralatie:

don't get me started with the nonsense definition of love by Titanic.

this scenario is more incomparable with tatanic .this is about a guy with a lady and a room.so the guy should vacate the room for the girl now

shebi the OP said the guy used his house rent to take her to Dominos pizza and coldstone ice cream and cubana night club because he loves her. Don't u understand. Now he has only 30k to pack into a new apartment.

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

pls I can't find where you mentioned supporting him with 200k in your post.. also, how many times have you supported him with money ? What makes you think he would be financially dependent on you?? If u really love him, support him, afterall, he is hardworking, isn't he??

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

Since u both love each other and he makes u happy.. My sincere advise for u is to stick with him and be some sort of motivation to each other. U never know what u both can achieve together. Afterall he has dreams of improving himself and is taking steps towards that no matter how small. The real question u should be asking urself is can u honestly wait for him I think if u can work with him things can go a lot faster as they say 2 heads are better than one

But if u know u can't wait leave him now so he can face himself and hustle properly. . The ball is in ur court. Serve

You will be at a loss because with his face me I face you him still collect knacks steady from you,as you don already cast kukuma ride the thing out and support him to move out

Lool.
Church rat love.
God forbid

proclinician:



shebi the OP said the guy used his house rent to take her to Dominos pizza and coldstone ice cream and cubana night club cos he loves her.

**coughs**
*whips eye glass to see what you wrote**
(#?&%@?$)

baralatie:

fine and agreed on the bolded.
now the question is this?
is he begging her to raise house rent or if she does not have he will not get a better accomodation

the guy is living where he can afford at the moment.. na the girl dey pester him to get new apartment judging by the post..who doesn't like living a comfortable life? But if you dont have what it takes, then you chill till you can...

brodalikeme:
My dear don’t allow the devil use you against yourself!

You have 95% of what every lady dream of and you want to throw it away for something trivial and temporary? He stays in a rented one bedroom apartment, he isn’t the landlord, he is not squatting with some friend, haba!
He loves you and is honest with you take that is all that matters!
If the plan is marriage, support him to grow in his career or business, the benefits will come back to you in the form of more love and comfort. If it’s not marriage, at least you would have helped your fellow human being. I know so many ladies that have gone the extreme length of giving their man money to pay their bride price(Dude should have borrowed from friends though).

Sister support him! If his a good man like you said, you’ll be better of for doing that.

Have you heard that great song by Cobhams Asuquo Ft Simi titled We Plenti? A part of it says “beans no dey cook forever”

A little patient, a little input, you guys will be fine.

Broke men are usually good, loving and nice.

justscorchone:
You will be at a loss because with his face me I face you him still collect knacks steady from you,as you don already cast kukuma ride the thing out and support him to move out

Support him with how much? How much the op get? Will the man be able to sustain a bigger apartment? Will he expect support come next payment of the rent?

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

Don't spend that money on him.
Use it and build yourself to attract well to do men lool.
Poor boys can love oo, but once the money is there, they start misbehaving.

Don't ever trust the love of a poor boy, he's even dishonest.
Btw, don't ever listen to the sermons of these 19year old kids on Nl.
They are very poor and would do anything to make you see poverty as a blessing.

women confused from time immemorial. they marry a rich guy they complain they miss their broke ex.they marry for love they later complain he is broke mtchewww women can make you doubt God because the bible says they are helpers but this ones i am seeing are opposite of helpers they are destroyers .

He is very honest with you .....just try to build him up... He is the few in the country

SweetCunt97:
Support him with how much? How much the op get? Will the man be able to sustain a bigger apartment? Will he expect support come next payment of the rent?

Don't mind them, see how they are saying support him.
Let the reverse be the case and they will all jump out to call the op A simp and beta.
Stupid boys full here sha

baralatie:

**coughs**
*whips eye glass to see what you wrote**
(#?&%@?$)

Tell me in what ways the scenario differs from the titanic incidence i made reference to? Do u think that u care for a nigerian girl by talking nonsense or coming to her house to sweep or give stupid advice with ur smelly mouth and not actually spending real money. Like spending ur house rent till it remains 30k?

baralatie:

wait as the guy is living in a room makes him a good person

Are yiu minding some people. As if they don't know a broke boy will spend the Lil he has to gain a girl who has money's trust so as to benefit financially from her. We know d hustle naw. Imagine 30k! What kinda story is that one

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

You can't have riches and love pick one. If you can't stay don't stay. But don't regret later if he makes it cause you will be a horrible person

If you are to support him or must support him, use the money to support his business if he's business wise, let him source out other sources of income. But my dear ladybeee, I strongly advise You, broke boys love are never to be trusted.

Use the money to develop yourself.
These foolish guys here advising you to spend the money on him would have called you a simp and all manner of names if you were to be a guy trying to help His babe.
These men aren't loyal, they are broke and their love can never ever be trusted.
I've said my own.

Admissionclass:
women confused from time immemorial. they marry a rich guy they complain they miss their broke ex.they marry for love they later complain he is broke mtchewww women can make you doubt God because the bible says they are helpers but this ones i am seeing are opposite of helpers they are destroyers .

Lol they are confused creatures, but the economic condition made it worse

seanwilliam:
the guy is living where he can afford at the moment.. na the girl dey pester him to get new apartment judging by the post..who doesn't like living a comfortable life? But if you dont have what it takes, then you chill till you can...

he is the one that went. and said to a girl more off financially than he is that he loves her and I want to marry you.definitively the girl will bring her own terms

Paxie55:

Don't spend that money on him.
Use it and build yourself to attract well to do men lool.
Poor boys can love oo, but once the money is there, they start misbehaving.

Don't ever trust the love of a poor boy, he's even dishonest.
Btw, don't ever listen to the sermons of these 19year old kids on Nl.
They are very poor and would do anything to make you see poverty as a blessing.

Everything in life is a choice, staying for love and leaving for a rich guy is all a choice, and choices can't make someone a bad person.

perousd:
Here's my thought from your write-up--
I think you Know better. I think you don't love him that much. I think it was His much show of affection that made you Even considered dating him. I think you don't love him but no guy has ever treated you like he does.

If I'm correct, just leave the relationship, don't make a poor man commit suicide eventually. He's trying so hard and it seems you ain't trying at all.

But if truly you love him, run some tests, give some attitude and when he pass, support him if you can.

Stay safe and stay Joyful.

We know there's a scam where guys butter you up well in order for you to fall in love and become stupid with ya money. If the guy had 70% of the rent, she supporting with 30% is sensible. You get 30k for account yiu dey look for gf.. Scam

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

Better keep ur money and manage d room with him. Just observe and watch what he'll do when d rent expires.

SweetCunt97:
Are yiu minding some people. As if they don't know a broke boy will spend the Lil he has to gain a girl who has money's trust so as to benefit financially from her. We know d hustle naw. Imagine 30k! What kinda story is that one

Ok you are a bit toxic, but for cases I think God made women to do the choosing not men, when a woman chooses it's always a lil happier

baralatie:

he is the one that went. and said to a girl more off financially than he is that he loves her and I want to marry you.definitively the girl will bring her own terms

so because the girl is financially ok than him, means he can't date her..? And if reverse was the case, what would you say,??

Don't forget that she was the that asked him about his savings ooo...

baralatie:

rather it seems more like the guy wants to manipulate this relationship by stating he has only #30k.
is he begging the girl directly or is he inducing the girl to indirectly raise funds for accommodation for him.

seanwilliam:
so because the girl is financially ok than him, means he can't date her..? And if reverse was the case, what would you say,??

To avoid problems cause of how the world in which guys are bread winners, I think broke guys should not date, only if the girl wants it admist the brokenness.
And I wonder, at this stage he needs a good friend not a lover l

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

If you say no to the Relationship, you will see another lady there next month if you pay him a surprise visit.
The most important thing you should go for is;
What does he do for a living?
What are his plan for a better tomorrow?
Today doesn't matter because is already over.

Lightangel65:


Ok you are a bit toxic, but for cases I think God made women to do the choosing not men, when a woman chooses it's always a lil happier

Toh. I expect someone who chooses not to complain like this Op. You see broke person living in face me I slap you, you got roped in and now u wanna complain? How am I toxic, I'm being realistic