LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

Do you have any Friends with this mentality like yours??
Just asking o!!!

LadyBeee:
he's a very hard working person, organized and focused

The best thing for you to do is give ur self a period to leave....nd then forget about his house...focus in how he can grow whoever it is he does...

If u can help in that aspect do...once the money comes,he will move

Jaqenhghar:

I dont advocate for these types of relationships sometimes because when the man eventually males it big there is no guarantee he will stil be faiithful.

But Men invest in ladies too, send some to school, established businesses for some, place some on monthly allowances but only to be dumped for other men. Why is it unimaginable/unthinkable when it comes to Women taking same risk? #justasking


Well as a liberal person, I suggest op should do whatever she thinks it's best for her. It's a free world after all.

Everything depends on your own background, if you are from a rich home, run for your life but if you're from a struggling home try to manage with him until God blesses both of you.

Nn3muka:
The day you start supporting a man to pay rent, will be the beginning of all your problems.
Be ready to continue paying rents for the rest of your life.

It's either you take a walk now, or support him.

Ur really harsh ooo

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

Before you support him with such an amount think twice, what is he bringing to the table? what's your own gain? love will seize over time and you will either become friends or enemies. As he's gaining financially what is he prepared to give you in other to balance things?

prettyaura:
must U always prove ur stupidity? Of course I know U are stupid but I don't know it has gotten to this level..U shld be washing ur dad's car or helping with household chores.amateurs like U are not needed in this discussion.

you cant be abusive like this and expect any sensible man to keep up with you... good day

When I met my wife I was still squatting. In fact I had nothing to my name except the clothes I wear daily and some books.

My father was obviously poor...but what kept us going was honesty and she loved me.

After about 5years,the story changed and changed for the better. I live in a comfortable apartment and I am so proud of my wife who i cherished for believing in me. And many other things i may not like to mention here.


If u believe in that ur guy,u can change his life and make him to be more ambitious and yearn for growth and prosperity. U might be the power that he needs to become what God wants him to be.
Do not lose sleep.

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

Plz dear don't give him 200k for house rent plz I beg u in d name of God...

Giv him however much u can forget but targeted at something he does to Improve him...

If he finds his feet,he will elevate his accommodation

Ariza:
But Men invest in ladies too, send some to school, established businesses for some, place some on monthly allowances but only to be dumped for other men. Why is it unimaginable/unthinkable when it comes to Women taking same risk? #justasking


Well as a liberal person, I suggest op should do whatever she thinks it's best for her. It's a free world after all.

Maybe I wasnt clear. I agree it goes both ways

prettyaura:
my dear, PLS move on with ur life, forget loving and caring becos he is just being humble becos he is broke...you can only know the true colour of a man when he has money

true talk

Jaqenhghar:
Maybe I wasnt clear. I agree it goes both ways

If people intend to be calculative and protective in relationships then I will suggest : The rich should date/marry the rich, the poor should marry/date the poor. That will save lots of stress. Lobatan

Paxie55:

Don't spend that money on him.
Use it and build yourself to attract well to do men lool.
Poor boys can love oo, but once the money is there, they start misbehaving.

Don't ever trust the love of a poor boy, he's even dishonest.
Btw, don't ever listen to the sermons of these 19year old kids on Nl.
They are very poor and would do anything to make you see poverty as a blessing.

mrblessed:
Hahaha! But washing daddy's car or giving mum a helping hand in the house, isn't a full-time job. There is always enough time to unwind. So, this is a leisure time, please allow us to play freely.

She should quit the relationship if she wants to, at least the guy would be smarter next time to keep his money to himself and see through women's fake love.

I’m just worried for a guy that stays in a one bedder spending generously. Maybe that’s why he still stays in that kinda apartment.

Paxie55:
Lool.
Church rat love.
God forbid

don't look down on anybody.
If you do, That will be your undoing.

Ariza:
If you can't rent house for him like he would do if reverse were to be the case , Aunty carry your bag and go!

You can't cook food in the passage but you can comfortably eat out making the guy spend more. Aunty you have eaten his accommodation money already nah.

As in

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

collect the 30k and keep for him, tell him to save more with you as more income comes in without informing him of your intention to add something. When it get to a tangible amount, you can complete it and pay rent in a more conducive environment

Jewessgratitudd:

Sincerely speaking, in this time and age, I wouldn't advise anyone to start a family in that condition. You'll end up regretting it.

As per his level, with not up to 30k to start with, OP, you might be wasting your time with such a guy except if you are ready to bear 90% of the cost.

Now, you didn't state the kind of job he does so I'll know if it holds any prospects for the future or you might need to exercise patience until he gets a better job.

If you truly love him and are ready to take the risk and damn the consequence, then go ahead with the relationship. Know that with your frequent sleeping over, belle go soon show. Hmm.. That is when you'll know the importance of comfortability.

He didn't say he wants to start a family. He can get a self contain or a one bedroom apartment. Anyway a 1 room for lekki na 3 bedroom flat for Ibadan.

seanwilliam:
you cant be abusive like this and expect any sensible man to keep up with you... good day

U are obviously a kid..see what a faceless forum can cause.had to check your profile and I am not disappointed..U are in your early twenties...lol..maybe twenty one or twenty two and I am here wasting data on u instead of looking for a good cane to lash U with...smh

seanwilliam:
so[b] because the girl is financially ok than him, means he can't date her..? [/b]And if reverse was the case, what would you say,??

of course he can date any girl of his choice as long as he can accept the responsibility attached to the relationship.

the same thing in the reverse where the guy is more financially stronger than the woman he can choose any girl as longer he accept responsibility

ArticleBeast:

He didn't say he wants to start a family. He can get a self contain or a one bedroom apartment. Anyway a 1 room for lekki na 3 bedroom flat for Ibadan.

Ok.
Get a selfcon for how much? Or didn't you read the part where she said he doesn't even have up to 30k in his account?

Let them chilax and work hard to save up some more and get a decent apartment.

Face me I face you is a no no.

This is the worst dilemma of the modern female; meeting a beta who has the attitude of a fantastic provider, but not the means; just when she is about ready to settle down.

Should she stay and hope that he will one day acquire the means which she will then be able to fully control? Or should she leave him and risk meeting another man who has the means but is wiser about the ways of women and hence, less subject to her control?

A big problem; kind of like which team one should bet all his school fees on, between evenly matched football teams.

realokopi:
Don't forget that she was the that asked him about his savings ooo...

what is the one curious question and thing about women when it comes to a guy.?
they will either ask you or your friends or find means to gauge you.(about financial security).
it is their genetic makeup

Lightangel65:


To avoid problems cause of how the world in which guys are bread winners, I think broke guys should not date, only if the girl wants it admist the brokenness.

And I wonder, at this stage he needs a good friend not a lover l

overgeneralization!

SweetCunt97:
Yes. What kinda tests?

That I won't give. Something situational to open up other sides of him. Something personal to see if he truly loves you. Think of something.

Only a foolish man will be spending to keep a woman whose expenses far exceed his income. Ladybeee, please, do your boyfriend a favour and break up with him. He’s obviously star struck and will hurt himself to keep this relationship with you.

Break up with and take him out of his misery. No good can come out of this liaison. Very soon, when the initial butterflies wear off, you’ll come to accept the fact that you settled and he’ll feel inadequate due to your demands of a more luxurious life than he can afford.

Please, pity him, and yourself, and leave.

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

How much money did the President wife gave him during campaign but you see her advice is priceless...biko teach him how to fish....dont give him fish...else tommorrow you start to nag him...or money creates problem...As a guy i go to my guys for money even if i default they are still my guys i will surely pay them....but the ladies might not be patient they might walk away but they would never forget n forgive.

Poverty humbles 90percent of men. Take it to the bank.

baralatie:

of course he can date any girl of his choice as long as he can accept the responsibility attached to the relationship.

the same thing in the reverse where the guy is more financially stronger than the woman he can choose any girl as longer he accept responsibility

so only men can give and support?? Only men should shoulder responsibilities?

Jewessgratitudd:


Ok.
Get a selfcon for how much? Or didn't you read the part where she said he doesn't even have up to 30k in his account?

Let them chilax and work hard to save up some more and get a decent apartment.

Face me I face you is a no no.

if reverse was the case, you people would tell the guy to singlehandedly ( or probably part with the highest amount) rent a new apartment for the lady....

proclinician:


Good question. No mind all these immature imbeciles. A guy can date a poor lady that earns 12k a month and lives with her parents but a guy that earns same and even owns an apartment is not fit to date.

a guy is fit to date any one his likes.
now if a guy earns #12k a month and mets up with for example a Lilian Bach who makes #2.5m a month(it is not a problem to met and the guy gives her the gbenshing love she has ever seen or experienced). already we can see issues.issues about accommodation,clothing,security etc.it is now a question of responsibility. who will bear the responsibility of this relationship. will it be the guy who is earning #12k/month or the Lilian Bach who earns #2.5m/month.each choice comes with serious risks.
and if the choice to be made is done outside legal contexts framework of longterm commitment. the risks become greater.
even if the choice is made with a longterm commitment the pressure on the side of Lilian Bach will or can burn the relationship down the road.
Example of this is Adenuga's daughter And that of Eleganza daughter.