Swiitdoll:

Yes, because the men usually dump them after getting a permanent stay for a white lady of being his girlfriend from back home. It’s so common that the home office has moved it from 5 years to 10 years just so the women can figure it out easily if it’s indeed a visa scam marriage lol

So what will you say about guys who returned here to pick wife, only for her to come and dump him for some white guys..

You make it sound like it happens to ladies alone.

Mind you my friend spent 35yrs in Baltimore and experienced such with his first wife.

Samadhii:

I wish it's that easy.

It all begins with a positive mindset

At least should the person who owns the house not keep his house

Mstick:
He cheated on her, she has every DAMN RIGHT to leave the marriage. Because he took her to Canada doesn't give him the right to hurt her.

Cocao:
This is very funny. So as a Nigerian woman looking to immigrate to Canada I should think twice because of men? Men? Hahahahah... You people won't really allow women to make their choices in peace. Ha!

Madam if it is autonomy you want,So be it,We are even overpopulated in Nigeria,so if it's Canada or US u feel like eloping to,Bye Bye.
We have so many unmarried women in Nigeria seeking for spouses all over the country, the north predominantly,So please am begging you in the name of God,Go oo and live in peace in a white mans land

uuzba:

This pizza of a thing that you guys are summersulting about is just bread.
BREAD!
BREAD!
Ordinary bread.
Take bread, tomatoes, egg, fish, suya.... And you are good. End of story.

Before na GOLD....?
I just called you to come and eat Toasted Bread naa and celebrate NAIRALAND with such Traffic without INSULTS.
Some Flavor can be terrible.

BestAccessories:


My NL Stalker, you are here again.

How is life treating you and the lockdown.

To answer your question, we have to take a trip to canada together to go investigate and observed instead of staying behind computer, laptop or phone keypad arguing about it.

But you are too scared to live a life outside your keypad, so you can't really know the truth.

Enjoy your life behind the keypad.

Beside my discounted phone number in your profile isn't connecting, get a life sister.

ubunja well done...you tried, just what i expected.

we are not stalking you rather exposing you for the fraud you are

EVILFOREST:

My WIFE did it and she's not DEAD and will not DIE.

In Fact, she visited NIGERIA quarterly until I joined her.
The First Day I traveled that LONG DISTANCE by air my LOVE for her tripled.

Brother you are very fortunate and lucky. I can't believe such lady or ladies exist but now I do. For the good guys, just keep being good. I am in Nigeria though, hustling legally.

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Hmmm, everybody does things for benefits. The woman importing the guy is doing it to achieve children for herself. That's the main aim because if she's looking for only sex, a friend can supply that so it's children she wants to have from a man who is less likely to demand custody as she is more knowledgeable about the system than him. I'm talking about working class ladies with money. She should prepare her mind that's it's a contract thing na, is she planning to fall in love with an imported husband with his own dreams and aspirations? if it's love she's looking for then she has to relocate to Nja for some time but still settle for less because no time for prince charming to be found [\quote]


Why import a man when she can find one around her and stop being so close minded? There are african men from other countries who don’t mind but Nigerian women are extremely close minded they won’t even give them a chance. Nigerian women are known to prefer only Nigerian men and in some cases White men. When I do chat with other African/carribean men they talk about meeting pretty Nigerian women who don’t even allow them introduce themselves and write them off for not being Nigerian. Even though they have good jobs and their own legal staying papers, then they’ll complain about being single and lonely so. Talk about shooting ya self in the foot lol

Swiitdoll:

Yes go home and get the one that’ll use u for a visa and dump u then being his real girl over as usual. Lmao!

thats what I'm saying. Go home but disguise. You don't have to let the man or woman know you have some residence or citizenship till you sure it's true and REAL LOVE. And there are also many guys in Nigeria who wouldn't even want to live abroad. FACT

StrikeBack:

Me in Nigeria.

You in UK??

Can't reply pms bro

Prettiepearlz:

Iwo gan fc.uk off. Had no intentions to insult you, but you are not a loyal person, I hope someone uses your plight especially the one that makes you cry to trend on a "faceless forum". Then when you read it, you will be probably know how she feels if peradventure she is reading this. Most nigerians abroad visit nairaland and they read stuff, if you have a conscience think about it deeply and give yourself the answer. Back then loyalty used to be a thing, but these days people use other people's personal life to trend and make themselves feel better.

fc.uk off again lol

Powerintoxicate:
thats what I'm saying. Go home but disguise. You don't have to let the man or woman know you have some residence or citizenship till you sure it's true and REAL LOVE. And there are also many guys in Nigeria who wouldn't even want to live abroad. FACT

Why go through all that instead of just being open minded and date the other african or black carribean men that are right here? Damn!

GloShare:

..

In canada,
Children come first,
Seniors (old people) come second
Women come third
Animals come fourth.
Men come last.

The first I heard this fear catch me..

it's to stay in Canada single or remain a rich married man in Nigeria.

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Oh crap I added my reply to it instead of quoting it lol sorry

fairfora:
I concur. My 44-year old friend got married late last year. We had to force him. We used to think he had potency or fertility issues until he finally voiced out to us. He came to lagos for the wedding and left almost immediately. It's not easy over there as many people think.

True. Also it's not just naija women. Every women here suffers from it. Marriage or commitment relationship is a thing that sadly, is fading off. With Tinder for instant hookup, porn and intimacy gadgets for instant sex, who needs a long term partner when varieties full outside?

bukatyne2:


If I understand your post correctly, you cheated on your wife?

If yes, she has the prerogative to handle as she deem fit.

By keeping the children away from him? Wonderful

gargoylern:

The positive thing is that they are able to earn well. I met one that was working in first bank back in Nigeria and earning about 120k a month. Now she earns a little over 3.5k canadian dollars on the average working customer service after a lot of overtime. She is always stressed out sha. 3.5k is about 980k.
It looks like she is on course to save a lot of money before mid-year, and plans to visit Nigeria by July. She didn't tell me explicitly, but clearly she's going back to see how she can revive a few friendships back home that may lead to marriage. She is soooooo lonely. She cried sef. Eyah!

980k is nothing, compared to the humongous expenses that would be staring her in the face. My friend Ebola lives in Chicago pays almost half of that as rent monthly in their apartment. What would be left for her at the end of the day is meagre. The cost of living generally is huge

wat abt d UK o

jaxxy:


She doesn't need anybodys money. She doesn't even need Jay-Z if not she still likes him. The que of men waiting to scope her is looong bt Beyonce isn't the hopping from man to man type luckily for Jayz.

You are wrong bro. A woman like Beyonce has very few men she respects and Jay-Z is one of those few men, he is richer, more powerful and the fact he had the all beautiful Beyonce and still cheated with a less rich and probably less pretty lady is a dent on her Ego.. Just so you know Jay-Z signed a prenup and pays her yearly likewise payment for every pregnancy. I still remember this from those days when I was always listening to Hip hop /entertainment news on Radio

Let any lonely one call me on 07014771303

Munzy14:

This is a faceless forum.

OP has to enlighten people using a real issue..Especially those hustling to enter Canada.

U really don't need to bring the emotional blackmailing.

Enlightenment you say? I hear you. Not blackmailing anyone, its just the truth and you know it. Would you like to see your plight being discussed in the most condescending way on a "faceless forum"? While I get your point, I still feel its wrong, he was told such in strict confidence. Deep down Op is not enlightening, he is only catching fun with the responses. Besides lets stop making it seem like a woman is nothing without a man and there is nothing wrong with a young lady trying to go to a country to get a better life, The OP's post is discouraging that in my opinion. People go to Canada married and still end up divorced over there. There is no manual to this thing called life. You just have to live it the way you can.

Munzy14:

So what will you say about guys who returned here to pick wife, only for her to come and dump him for some white guys..

You make it sound like it happens to ladies alone.

Mind you my friend spent 35yrs in Baltimore and experienced such with his first wife.

That’s very rare compared to the men. It’s higher with the men. I do think Nigerians in diaspora should just marry each other rather than crying about being used for visa at the end of it.

Swiitdoll:


Why go through all that instead of just being open minded and date the other african or black carribean men that are right here? Damn!

yeah that's if the person gets someone right? Someone who ready to settle down. Thing is most Nigerian men in diaspora will prefer going back home to get married. As per other Africans or carribean men you deal with people who are not as stable marriage wise as your Nigerian man. As an example look at the South African male or Jamaican male.

fairfora:
I always notice that too. Guys are also scared of getting married over there, irrespective of their employment status, dunno why

But y is it so

ProudBiafran:
You have a point. Some girls even leave their partners behind in Nigeria.

I am syrongly reconsideting relocating. Make I enjoy my Europe jeje.

Enjoy my.dear but na biafra passport make you carry go.

Babatunde40:


I found out that a beautiful girl who is an introvert and can cook is a lovely gem. I see that you are beautiful. Do you enjoy cooking?

I can cook quite well buh I'm a lazy cook

ornicus:


People, men and women change when they enter obodo oyibo. I have a story of where they arranged a marriage for the US based babe, and the guy an alfa, comot for closet when he entered the US. Plenty of women also change because the dynamic in the west is different. No one will push you to remain in a marriage. No one will tell you to take infidelity etc. I have an uncle who they arranged one nice chick for. The chick was just biding her time till she entered us. Unfortunately for her the uncle is also very sharp. They came back home and he did the divorce there. Blindsided her with it. No alimony, no support etc.

Everybody for obodo oyibo just dey fear because the risks especially for men, are much higher.

Humans are not loyal and I am very cynical. I don’t expect too much from people. I just do my bit and bounce.

The idea of relocating abroad is one that never appealed to me. When I was a morning newspaper, I had many of them on my neck and I didn’t go. Me sef dey fear, make person no kill me for my papa because I say I am tired to cook after collecting citizenship.

Am planning to migrate to Canada... Any Nigerian lady willing to help with migration and we get married. Before I accept your offer you have to be my type first. Contact me let's talk

EVILFOREST:

When I found her she was already more than 4 times wealthier than me and also younger than me by 9 years.
She was 22 then. I earned $800 USD monthly in Nigeria while she earned almost $5000 USD monthly because of her double JOB.

Despite this she was visiting me quarterly until I joined her. She also got to know about other Ladies around but she fastened her seatbelt and loved me more.
She placed my Parents on salary without my notice.
She was just WONDERFUL.
I hate seeing her CRY...

Man you are blessed ! Kai this is what I wish for in marriage. More blessings on your family !

Powerintoxicate:
yeah that's if the person gets someone right? Someone who ready to settle down. Thing is most Nigerian men in diaspora will prefer going back home to get married. As per other Africans or carribean men you deal with people who are not as stable marriage wise as your Nigerian man. As an example look at the South African male or Jamaican male.

That’s very stereotypical, there are married Jamaican and South African men in stable marriages. It’s just like saying all Nigerian men cheat, yes a number of them do but there are also some in good marriages. My Nigerian dad walked off and never looked back should I say all Nigerian men are dead beat dads? If it’s not statistical at a high rate like visa scam marriages, it’s unfair to lump them all in one sum Bruv and I do agree to the men going home but not the women as they are often used for visa scams at a very high rate.

Which kind yeye trend be this sef
They're lonely as how ?
No man to blow the kpekus?
No money ?
No preeq at sight?
What exactly?
And tell me what I'm doing with all the big preeq wey I gather for legs ,
Give me their contact my sweet brother

gargoylern:

fc.uk off again lol

Lmao , nothing can pain this one sha. Anyway I hope you know I come in peace. May your friend find comfort to whatever is making her sad. But you know it could be that she is missing her family. Living alone abroad without friends and families for both genders I heard can be depressing. But it doesn't stop us from going ooo