safarigirl:
I have been living in Nigeria for over twenty years and I am also lonely.

Canadian loneliness will not kill me

I also enjoy minding my business anyway, not like I have a ton of friends in Nigeria

Make I reach the Canada first.

OYIBO no dey like us wey people go Waka come knock for your door dey ask you whether you sleep well.

No one borrows Maggi here ooo.
No one Keeps people engaged here.
PEOPLE WORK WORK and WORK, because there are JOBs. U can resign a job today and get another one by Saturday provided your PROFILE is devoid of nuisance.

Why do you think our AGED PARENTS rush back to AFRICA after visiting here.
It simply because they miss AFRICA INTERACTIONS and GOSSIPS... .
Nothing Like IN-LAW here oooo

Swiitdoll:

That’s very rare compared to the men. It’s higher with the men. I do think Nigerians in diaspora should just marry each other rather than crying about being used for visa at the end of it.

IMASTEX:

Seconded. For a very longtime I am seeing a thread devoid of childish mentions. Guess those kids didn't notice it or matured men dominated hence they stod off.

byinks:
Yeah I have a cousin in her 40s.
She used to be miserable living single in the northern province. Could break down from depression every winter.
Then one year, she married a local white boy and had kids after trying many years.
We are so happy for her.
But now she's depressed again... something to do with the children stressing her and the husband's issues..

God will help us in this life

IdioticNLmods:

You don't know what you have till you loose it, this men you are downgrading with this your statement will be the cause of tears in your eyes before you sleep every night while in diaspora if you don't plan well. Anyways, most of you females don't deserve pity and it gives me joy seeing some you over there.

EVILFOREST:

Hahahaha.
I Pray say you come.
But Get a Naija Guy first.
DIASPORA can be lonely ooooo.
OYIBO no dey like us wey people go Waka come knock for your door dey ask you whether you sleep well.

No one borrows Maggi here ooo.
No one Keeps people engaged here.
PEOPLE WORK WORK and WORK, because there are JOBs. U can resign a job today and get another one by Saturday provided your PROFILE is devoid of nuisance.

Why do you think our AGED PARENTS rush back to AFRICA after visiting here.
It simply because they miss AFRICA INTERACTION and GOSSIPS...

Analysiscorner:

Don't you have specifications?

GloShare:
I'm in canada, and I will tell you for real.

The only excitement a man may get is having sex with a woman or friends with benefits.

The moment you nut in her and she gets pregnant, or the moment you put a ring on it and marry her legally, she immediately has power over you.

Power intoxicates, and because African women have not tasted such power, it gets in their head.

There are a lot of good ones though.

In canada,
Children come first,
Seniors (old people) come second
Women come third
Animals come fourth.
[b]Men come last[/b].

Pharovo:


I swear gan, I feel say na only me dey notice am

gargoylern:

A couple of reasons. They don't know how to approach, since they have never approached a man all their life. Na una Naija guys dey rush them na, lol.
Two, the white guys don't really find them attractive. Some asian men do though. Some Nigerian men also do. But because most Nigerian guys are not stable (i..e they are still working survival jobs), they are not ready to marry.
Trust me , these Nigerian girls are in serious dilemma.

Again, if you are a Nigerian girl thinking of immigrating to Canada. Think twice about it. Be sure that's what you really want.

Babatunde40:


I see where you are trying to go with this.

But let me tell you. Happiness is a personal thing. Happiness is like salvation. You do not generalize. I personally do not comment in relationship threads to avoid the bandwagon of generalization.

Forget what the world says. Forget what feminists say. Forget what misogynists say. Do what makes you happy. You owe yourself to be happy. You only live once. If being with a man who loves you makes you happy, go for it. There are many internally unhappy people online, posting things online, forming strong women.

Just do what makes YOU happy. You owe yourself that

Neyoohpompy:
In fact you are making this trend interesting

yassinattah:

Madam if it is autonomy you want,So be it,We are even overpopulated in Nigeria,so if it's Canada or US u feel like eloping to,Bye Bye.
We have so many unmarried women in Nigeria seeking for spouses all over the country, the north predominantly,So please am begging you in the name of God,Go oo and live in peace in a white mans land

BestAccessories:


My brother, not only in Canada, come and observe small in Nigeria.

If you have time, take time out to visit Lekki, Ikoyi or Victoria Island and you would see the height of loneliness (Guys & Babes). See beyond the big houses, the flashy cars and the rest. Look at the person living in the house or riding the big car.

I will however, not discourage anyone (male or female) from travelling for greener pasture or to earn more money as far as you can cope.

Making more money also comes with depression and it isn't everyone that know how to cope or manage the pressure that comes with having more money at your disposal. You have all the resources to make you comfortable but can't find true love.

You don't know if the babe or guy you are dating is dating you for your money or really love you. Making more money also comes with arrogance. You don't wanna take shit from anyone, because he earns good money and you also earn good money, so why should I take shit from you.

Until you reach certain level, you can't understand what it takes to survives there.

tossedbae:
sorry I'm not in abroad

ednut1:
its not about money but qualifying. U need a bsc plus a diploma or masters with 3 years experience, high ielts scores and about 3.5m account balance to stand a chance of qualifying for canada pr visa

BusterG:
The Canadian System in itself is self derogatory.
Quite a number of people who travel there had too much expectations. Even when the welfare is top notch and the government supports immigrants from left, right and centre. At a point as a grassroots African you’ll wonder “ why am I here’ .

One of the suicide tickets you’ll ever buy is to Pearson Intll’ especially when you’re coming from Africa. At first you will be presented with quite a number of opportunities but in reality It’s a 50/50 game.

I will open a thread and entertain free-minded opinion about immigrating to Canada.

traihit:
Sometimes when I hear men lament over equality, feminism and the social system that's now trending in developed countries, I'd feel as if men are superhumans who have everything going well with them but seeing all the dilemmas here and abroad, I'm made to ask, who is responsible for the new social system, the men or the women?

adexpa:
Generally, it is not advisable for women to focus on money too much n neglect marriage thinking she can always find marriage later..... Such ideology can work for men n not women. It is good for women to locate marriage and start pursuing money with her husband than doing it alone. What op is saying happens virtually everywhere including Nigeria here. It is always tough for women to find love after making money.

gargoylern:

$15 per hour is the minumum wage. That's what moooooost people earn, Nigerians inclusive. On the average, it gets to about $2k per month. But the bills are also expensive. Phone is about $45 per month, rent varies depending on where you live, it is usually about $500 anyways. I think some girls I know are paying $800. Those working better jobs are able to pay higher rent.

But trust me, most will give up all that money if only they can get a guy. Most of them are staring down a tunnel into their future and that future has no kids and no man even things continue the way it is. The chances are very high that the average Nigerian girl immigrant will end up unmarried. Not that it is important that they get married o, but the problem is that they all WANT it.

Ghostmode2two:


Not in CA, in 9ja. Care to show me any dating site where I can 9ja chicks in CA? Thanks

aragonchuks:
maybe you are very young now and you think you have lots of time but later in life you will realize we all need someone to lean on be it husband , wife or children . Unless you are a bitter person or witch ...Ciao

EVILFOREST:

I will lose because I have LOVED her.
I will consider it a mistake except she messes around again, then I will see it as a reality show.

The FUNNY THING is that my WIFE buys Landed properties in my name without my request.
When I visited Nigeria without her, She hurriedly changed our CAR using my Name.
She's exceptional.
U will not understand.
I know you are surprised that a LADY can be like this .

Raalsalghul:


Now that you people have forced him, I wonder if you contributed to his wedding bills.

yettymuse:
I better be lonely in Canada and USA than be unlonely in Nigeria! Who all of una epp

Powerintoxicate:
stop fooling yourself. Get a man in Nigeria before moving. That's common knowledge

adexpa:


I mean not focusing on career n neglect marriage, it can be done hand in hand. She can make money in marriage. Some women neglect marriage n focus money for years n later look for marriage, it is dangerous for women.

I don't know where you see women should not hustle.... Take time to read