"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.

I pick your drift bro.....

Word.. Lalasticlala come o

Spot on

Shormiey:
I pick your drift bro.....

I'm a girl tho

Wldzgr8st:
Spot on

thanks for reading

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mhizgracie22:
I'm a girl tho

I don't know now....you didn't indicate...

~Words crested on a Marble~

mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.

Now that's a front page material

you got good points...


your ex is pained when she doesnt see signs of you missing her.


stop being constant online (whatsapp facebook)

dont chat her up

when you make posts let them be business related (life progress)

celebrate birthday of other friends and make sure your captions dont smell of emotional hurts

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May coronavirus and dangerous thunder locate my ex and her parents immediately . idiot, stupid, silly, foolish mad family

Our 9ja babes go post so tey na to block them ho be it next option. Especially wen u nor even rewson dis mata after the break up

Same thing i always, ignore and overlook..no calls no chats infact i delete everything about my ex ....i was surprise to see her call earlier this year..after 5 years telling me she wish me unfruitful marriage with my wife..that i wil never enjoy any woman except her that she loved me so much that i will come back to her that she is d only one made for me...imagine after 5 years...i taught she would hav been married by now..because of the way she carries herself then...i never altered a word while she was ranting..i only allowed her finish .then i replied thank you..takia...put off the call and blocked d number again...why hasnt she gotten over me?

Shormiey:

I don't know now....you didn't indicate...

Gracie is a female name na

samtinx:
~Words crested on a Marble~

thanks for reading

KingZaddy:
you got good points...


your ex is pained when she doesnt see signs of you missing her.


stop being constant online (whatsapp facebook)

dont chat her up

when you make posts let them be business related (life progress)

celebrate birthday of other friends and make sure your captions dont smell of emotional hurts

exactly

yyba:
may coronavirus and dangerous thunder locate my ex and her parents immediately .

ahh .. seems she really hurt you

wizdomnzube:
Our 9ja babes go post so tey na to block them ho be it next option. Especially wen u nor even rewson dis mata after the break up

Wizywiz:
Same thing i always, ignore and overlook..no calls no chats infact i delete everything about my ex ....i was surprise to see her call earlier this year..after 5 years telling me she wish me unfruitful marriage with my wife..that i wil never enjoy any woman except her that she loved me so much that i will come back to her that she is d only one made for me...imagine after 5 years...i taught she would hav been married by now..because of the way she carries herself then...i never altered a word while she was ranting..i only allowed her finish .then i replied thank you..takia...put off the call and blocked d number again...why hasnt she gotten over me?

Bros you're wicked o , there's nothing more painful than getting "thank you" or "okay" as a reply after ranting on phone or sending a long dramatic text, that shi.t hurts like hell

mhizgracie22:
Bros you're wicked o , there's nothing more painful than getting "thank you" or "okay" as a reply after ranting on phone or sending a long dramatic text, that shi.t hurts like hell

well, she broke up with me then..i loved her so much then...she was so eager and desperate to marry, she gave me an ultimatum on when to marry her, i refused yielding to her pressure we broke up and now she is coming back to yarn dust to me...maybe because she still dey single and in her late thirties...

samtinx:
Now that's a front page material

Yeah right...... So worthy...

Lamanii22:




Yeah right...... So worthy...

awwn thanks

Wizywiz:
well, she broke up with me then..i loved her so much then...she was so eager and desperate to marry, she gave me an ultimatum on when to marry her, i refused yielding to her pressure we broke up and now she is coming back to yarn dust to me...maybe because she still dey single and in her late thirties...

women have a biological clock so It's quite normal for ladies in their thirties to be eager to get married,especially here in Nigeria (because of family pressure), ladies in their thirties are likely to end a relationship if they don't see marriage in the near future so I don't really blame her but I don't believe in pressuring a man to propose

Wizywiz:
Same thing i always, ignore and overlook..no calls no chats infact i delete everything about my ex ....i was surprise to see her call earlier this year..after 5 years telling me she wish me unfruitful marriage with my wife..that i wil never enjoy any woman except her that she loved me so much that i will come back to her that she is d only one made for me...imagine after 5 years...i taught she would hav been married by now..because of the way she carries herself then...i never altered a word while she was ranting..i only allowed her finish .then i replied thank you..takia...put off the call and blocked d number again...why hasnt she gotten over me?

u dumped her.

mhizgracie22:
women have a biological clock so It's quite normal for ladies in their thirties to be eager to get married,especially here in Nigeria (because of family pressure), ladies in their thirties are likely to end a relationship if they don't see marriage in the near future so I don't really blame her but I don't believe in pressuring a man to propose

honestly if she was a bit patient i would hav married her..i loved her so much then sad to say even more than d way i loved the woman that became my wife...but she was never patient enough..we only dated for a year plus

Wizywiz:
well, she broke up with me then..i loved her so much then...she was so eager and desperate to marry, she gave me an ultimatum on when to marry her, i refused yielding to her pressure we broke up and now she is coming back to yarn dust to me...maybe because she still dey single and in her late thirties...

men don show am pepper,she don sabi say not all glitters are gold...lol,see as e sweet me for body.

Youngpo413:
u dumped her.

nope, she called it quite

Youngpo413:
men don show am pepper,she don sabi say not all glitters are gold...lol,see as e sweet me for body.

she wasnt patient enough and the way she sounded when she called ..the vulgar words wey she use my brother ...the babe don wild oooo...she don turn something else...

Wizywiz:
she wasnt patient enough and the way she sounded when she called ..the vulgar words wey she use my brother ...the babe don wild oooo...she don turn something else...

keep on ignoring her,na desperation cause am...they always believe its all about beauty and 'endowments'.

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