There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

Only the kind eye my mother go look..u no go know wen u go fetch 2 drums full..unless u wan make she remind u am with garri turner.

This is

strange

Men like that are the problems of this country.

Some things are strange and this is sure one of them

He is reaping the fruits of his labor �‍♀️�‍♀️..

'Train a child in the way ohe/she would go, and when they are old, they won't depart from it'


I hope some of our digital Nairaland parents learn from this..

So all the children sleep and face the same direction.. Not even one of them have sympathy for the father.....

The type of training children received while growing up matters a lot....

Acidosis:


Men like that are the problems of this country.

I dey tell u.

Very soon those irresponsible kids will become criminals.

Evil family pattern

Endtime children.

It's not Idoma thing, Most Idoma men are proud men, they hardly do house chores. In fact in Agatu, it's a taboo for a man to pound. Some of their men are usually lazy so this man is exceptional. It's possible he enjoys house chores while raising idiots. Go to markurdi, most of their women will be plaiting hair, selling all manner to feed okpani while he will be busy gisting. Your landlord is different but he also failed in raising sound kids.

That kind of upbringing is the reason for the violence these days. Lack of empathy. Everyone is just so cold. How can I sit and watch my dad fetching water while I'm there?
I kuku know the parents I have. If I say I don't have sense, they will install it for me. Just one slap from my mom and I'm restored back to factory settings.

It might b doin it to keep fit..my thought.

Mind your business.

Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

Hmmm

There's definitely something deep, very deep you don't know about that family.


So, just face front and mind your business except if the said father is complaining to you.

Up bringing. I think he started it when they were young.

Something isn't right somewhere, either you mind your business or you pray for the man....

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

I weep for comments like this. You mean he should go do chores for a man with 6 irresponsible fools so he could be taken serious?

I bet you go around looking for people to assist with chores in your vicinity.

Father Christmas!

And his wife, mother to the irresponsible children, is witnessing all of this and not saying anything.

If a woman does not have any regard for her husband, it will be foolhardy to expect the children to have any regard for their father.

The problem is almost certainly coming from his wife.

Initially,I thought he liked doing things himself because I'm a bit like that but 'fetching water with kegs and going rounds' is not it.
Parental failure on the part of the man and the wife.
Just ignore them,he has laid his bed and he's lying on it.

starbuck:
He is reaping the fruits of his labor �‍♀️�‍♀️..

'Train a child in the way ohe/she would go, and when they are old, they won't depart from it'


I hope some of our digital Nairaland parents learn from this..

I will go with this assertion of lack of proper upbringing. If he did his duty as a father and raised his kids well,at least one of them will be responsible. It seems they are all irresponsible especially the girls. I just hope he doesn't cook himself or else,I will just pack my load and move to another planet.

You're an adult......
1. You can call them aside especially the boys and advice them one on one.

2. Start chooking the children word small small. Make it public where people are at least shame go catch them.

3. You can talk to their mother, put fear in her body. Tell her the too much work will kill her husband fast and she'll be a widow.

4. Mind your business.

I strongly advise that you go with number 4. Thanks

He didn't raise them properly and what you're seeing is the end result.

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always make me curious and also raise unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here. My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue. This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing. Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends. What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything. My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

Stop trolling.

So what's your concern with that ?? Better mind your business before you are thrown out .. Na people like you no dey pay rent for two years coz you are busy minding other people's business

I have seen such bullsh.t before it happens that this man is a widower and he cooks for the children all fucking grown up and even does the dishes for them. What pained me most is that he even begs them to eat. Like WTF?

Mind your business o. (In Simi’s voice)

Maybe he is currently serving a punishment and he is on community (family) duties

I don't think the man is mentally ok

My grandma is now 123yrs old last January

I asked her on her birthday what makes her grow to this age?

And here is her reply

" I always mind my business"