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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by dannex4adx(m): 10:57pm On Apr 10, 2020
Crispels:


Lol. No vex. I’m only trying to share my experience. I know a lot of people will find it helpful. I also found the previous threads helpful - so I decided to also add to the conversation.

Nice one bro! Thanks for the enlightenment. I learned a lot from your post.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by IHate9jerianss(m): 10:57pm On Apr 10, 2020
RuudVanNisteroy:

How can you generalize like that?You are exposing your ignorance and repeating talking points made by racists.
Go away!
You are a boring attention seeker

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by nurric(m): 10:58pm On Apr 10, 2020
We are over tired..Canada and American people. We never see Visa go those countries. Make una deal with una loneliness.
This Topic don do abeg una..because say una way travel. Edakun
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Liposure: 10:59pm On Apr 10, 2020
Lesson

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Dearlord(m): 10:59pm On Apr 10, 2020
missimelda01:
But wait, why is love and relationship this complicated? If you're in Nigeria, problem.. out of Nigeria, problem undecided

In the midst of all this brouahah, there's still someone out there meant for you.

lol, you made me laugh so hard.
my sister I think it is high time we overlooked relationship and just live our life as a normal human.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by favour32(m): 10:59pm On Apr 10, 2020
leonard002:
The truth is relationships are the most complicated things ever.

Nobody has a straight foolproof theory about relationships and how they work and how to make them work.

Relationships are not science or math.

In reality, even if you follow a hundred percent all the advice written by the author and by millions of other authors on relationships, dating and marriage there is no guarantee that you're going to get the best of results.

There is no guarantee that the other party will be in the same reasoning frequency with you and cooperate with you.

It's just how complicated human beings are in interacting with one another.

Sometimes we get lucky and find the best but a lot of times we are unlucky and all we get is a big bucket of heartbreak.

The truth is we should keep trying. We learn from our lessons and move on with all hope and optimism. We should keep being good and nice without prejudice.

With a bit of luck and a bit of preparedness, perhaps we may meet the 'perfect' person and live happily ever after.

That's life for you.
You are not only smart but you know the complexity of life.
What works for A may not work for B even if it was the right theory to make a relationship work.
With a bit of luck and never expect near perfection, we may meet the one with the same emotional frequency.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by uuzba(m): 10:59pm On Apr 10, 2020
IHate9jerianss:

The guy is a weakling.
Didnt you see the part in his silly write up where he insinuated successful Nigerians in the US should be apologetic to worthless black Americans for being successful?
He also wants Nigerian men to treat their cunty,arrogant female counterparts like qeens when those same women treat Nigerian men like poo both at home and abroad

I spoke to my friend in US. He's married to a Nigerian paper girl. So he's a citizen like her.
Regardless, guy still said he will return to Nigeria, go to his village and build house because his children must know where they come from.

Do you know that ALL THE BLACK PEOPLE and ALL THE WHITE PEOPLE in America, cannot do this? They know they are strangers to America but they cannot trace their village. So they just live anywhere they like in the whole America.

Do you know how jealous they are of you when they discover you have a place called HOME that you can return to? And they don't have?

That's why they drink and Fu*k and behave anyhow they like.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by ODB2: 10:59pm On Apr 10, 2020
IHate9jerianss:

The guy is a weakling.
Didnt you see the part in his silly write up where he insinuated successful Nigerians in the US should be apologetic to worthless black Americans for being successful?
He also wants Nigerian men to treat their cunty,arrogant female counterparts like qeens when those same women treat Nigerian men like poo both at home and abroad

I keep saying that if you can not man-up in Nigeria you can never be a man anywhere in this universe.

I speak my heavy 9ja ascents to Oyibos and they have to keep asking me to pardon them.

What the stupid OP doesn't know is that oyibos will only respect you when you hold your ground and carry your head up.

White Americans do not need you to be another nigger. They know all about niggers in America, from the ghetto to the house nigger types. What they want to know by interacting with you is your Nigerianess [sic].

You are intriguing alone as an African to them. They naturally will flock to you to get to know and understand where you are coming from and who you are.

These inferior goat of an OP showed his low self-esteem from the very first paragraph by stating how he was snobbed by other Nigerian girls. Does he think him being a Nigerian makes it mandatory for every other Nigerian to nurse him? The very thing he is condemning Nigerian girls is what he was promoting with his nonsense equality b.s.

I fck all these white feminazi girls when I am in the US and they are the ones that shout DADDY FCK ME!

Nonsense.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Nobody: 11:00pm On Apr 10, 2020
IHate9jerianss:

Go away!
You are a boring attention seeker
Our country is the world's poverty capital and nothing works. We have no right to criticize black Americans, when we don't even have 24 hour electricity. And when Nigerian youths are risking their lives through the Sahara Desert and the Mediterrean Sea to get to Europe.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by shortgun(m): 11:00pm On Apr 10, 2020
Why are girls abroad trying so hard to make us believe they are not lonely undecided

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Liposure: 11:00pm On Apr 10, 2020
nurric:
We are over tired..Canada and American people. We never see Visa go those countries. Make una deal with una loneliness.
This Topic don do abeg una..because say una way travel. Edakun
baba, e don tire me sef
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Gracejeri(f): 11:01pm On Apr 10, 2020
Hello oo whose there, I need an abroad based guy to marry.. Not a student please, I'm willing to relocate and work for us to grow big over there.. Nigeria is kinda hot

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by cobrat: 11:03pm On Apr 10, 2020
They should come back and be quarantine

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by missimelda01(f): 11:03pm On Apr 10, 2020
Meeyankee:

This is how you Nigeria ladies behaves in the western world now.. I experience same thing in Russian.. when one one try wan talk one Nigeria lady she go Dey form but even the Russian girls were very free with us they will even be the first to talk to you.. cmon Nigeria to Dey form abeg.
I am still waiting for you to come
And feed me and my family remembered what you told me
Last week on nairaland here just because I was correcting you over one comment you made. Typical example of your behavior is what we are talking about here .

This man I hope you're okay, where did I mention that I was going to feed you and your family? It is people like you that give other people bad names without a reason. You were the one who called me a broke babe, is that how they correct people in Russia? Biko don't angry me this night grin

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by uuzba(m): 11:03pm On Apr 10, 2020
Dearlord:


lol, you made me laugh so hard.
my sister I think it is high time we overlooked relationship and just live our life as a normal human.
Then define what is normal
Because tomorrow, you will swear that you are normal and the other person is abnormal. And that is another source of relationship problems.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by fatymore(f): 11:04pm On Apr 10, 2020
5thcolm:


Ahah, drop your CV


Haaa...


Are you a Muslim
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by IHate9jerianss(m): 11:04pm On Apr 10, 2020
ODB2:


I keep saying that if you can not man-up in Nigeria you can never be a man anywhere in this universe.

I speak my heavy 9ja ascents to Oyibos and they have to keep asking me to pardon them.

What the stupid OP doesn't know is that oyibos will only respect you when you hold your ground and carry your head up.

White Americans do not need you to be another nigger. They know all about niggers in America, from the ghetto to the house nigger types. What they want to know by interacting with you is your Nigerianess [sic].

You are intriguing alone as an African to them. They naturally will flock to you to get to know and understand where you are coming from and who you are.

These inferior goat of an OP showed his low self-esteem from the very first paragraph by stating how he was snobbed by other Nigerian girls. Does he think him being a Nigerian makes it mandatory for every other Nigerian to nurse him? The very thing he is condemning Nigerian girls is what he was promoting with his nonsense equality b.s.

I fck all these white feminazi girls when I am in the US and they are the ones that shout DADDY FCK ME!

Nonsense.

Baba, I WISH I COULD LIKE THIS POST A MILLION TIMES OVER!!

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by kimjessey2019: 11:04pm On Apr 10, 2020
I don't know how one of my uncle managed to raised those humble daughters of his here in Nigeria while the other one of my uncle raised porn stars actresses in US. If them come Nigeria every mama go luck their sons and husband inside house. Tufiakwa

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Liposure: 11:04pm On Apr 10, 2020
shortgun:
Why are girls abroad trying so hard to make us believe they are not lonely undecided
naija girls case tire me. 2 Date dem na wahala. 2 fork na dem wahala
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Nobody: 11:04pm On Apr 10, 2020
nurric:
We are over tired..Canada and American people. We never see Visa go those countries. Make una deal with una loneliness.
This Topic don do abeg una..because say una way travel. Edakun

Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by oshaosha2014(m): 11:05pm On Apr 10, 2020
Thank you jare. That his bolder is bull crap. You as a man determine how your relationships run. Depending on your outlook to live, you’ll definitely find a lady that suits your want. The guy is just generalising nonsense.

ODB2:
leftoid crap. U might as well castrate yourself

White girls are dating black guys now over the skinny beta white cucks because of this sissy pandering

Women are looking for a second daddy figure in a man and you are here spewing your sissy campus indoctrination

You just showed how insecure you are and how desperate you want to fit into your Liberal crowd

cuck sucker

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by AreaFada2: 11:05pm On Apr 10, 2020
RuudVanNisteroy:

We would get more respect if our countries were well functioning societies. They also have ignorant stereotypes about us.
Word on marble!

People feel that if we are really that good, why can't we fix our country? Nobody gets full respect abroad if your country doesn't function well.

We are at most seen as opportunists. Milking Western system to advance ourselves.

Some of our African cousins will go out of their way to malign us. The hate is real.

But at the end the know how much we strive for success and often a bit ahead. Nigerians typically have no inferiority complex before anybody.

Other Africans always believe that any Nigerian, irrespective of his current job, be it a janitor or whatever, has something up his sleeve. grin cheesy

He might be pushing to become a lecturer, IT specialist or something. So we are unpredictable to them.

We should just try to be a bit less LOUD. Keep things on the low.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by missimelda01(f): 11:05pm On Apr 10, 2020
Dearlord:


lol, you made me laugh so hard.
my sister I think it is high time we overlooked relationship and just live our life as a normal human.

That would be best if only it was possible, love is part of life.
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by stormborn28(m): 11:05pm On Apr 10, 2020
Kweensavvy:
Lol OP this issue has been over flogged okay?

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by brownemmanuel43(m): 11:06pm On Apr 10, 2020
Tell them, let them hear.
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by stormborn28(m): 11:07pm On Apr 10, 2020
Ariza:
It is getting too much abeg, talk something else.

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Emmizofficial: 11:07pm On Apr 10, 2020
Thanks so much @ Swiss trees. I'm really grateful for the hope you gave me tonight. May your tree continue to flourish. God himself will bless unexpectedly. Thanks so much
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by KINGTELLER: 11:07pm On Apr 10, 2020
God really blessed her with wisdom

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by stormborn28(m): 11:08pm On Apr 10, 2020
vikkimimi:
As much as I would love to say this matter has been over flogged.... I'd like to say it's educating and an added info.
Your points are valid, and as a Nigerian girl, I've learnt one or two from the three threads today. THANKS

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by Liposure: 11:09pm On Apr 10, 2020
kimjessey2019:
I don't know how one of my uncle managed to raised those humble daughters of his here in Nigeria while the other one of my uncle raised porn stars actresses in US. If them come Nigeria every mama go luck their sons and husband inside house. Tufiakwa
seriously
Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by HappyNigerian: 11:09pm On Apr 10, 2020
[s]
SweetCunt97:
Yes! Nigerian men need to drop that male dominance bullshit. You both can't be working and you expect her to slave away in the kitchen all by herself while you watch television.. No no no.

Anyways, we'll get there some day, afterall the west had male dominance some decades ago before the rise of feminism breaking their women free from the shackles of male dominated oppression.
[/s]
Go and marry American man angry

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Re: Loneliness & Dating Abroad: Perspectives of a Nigerian Student in The U.S by kazyhm(m): 11:10pm On Apr 10, 2020
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ON A FINAL NOTE:

Dating abroad is totally different from dating in Nigeria. There are lots of cultural differences and you must really understand these differences before shooting any shot - otherwise: you will make terrible mistakes that may ruin your reputation, mental health and growth. You may even be hated and ghosted by certain people. In America for instance, dating apps is a big deal and things happen so fast - compared to Nigeria where on the average, things take longer.

If you are a Nigerian guy and you think it is the sole responsibility of your girlfriend(wife) to cook and take care of the family - then your stupi**d patriarchy mentality will fail you big time abroad.
Most Nigerian - American girls dislike some Nigerian guys (particularly those who grew up in Nigeria) due to this kind of patriarchy and “male dominance” mentality. Many Nigerian - American girls as a result of strong upbringing by their families can cook really well(even our egusi and other Naija food) but they will hate you if you make it look like it’s their responsibility to cook for you all the time. You must also get to the kitchen - do the dishes, wash the meat, clean the tables and even cook some food as well! Everything is 50-50 in America!!! Your wife(or even girlfriend) is not your slave and it’s high time most Nigerian guys(even those based in Ibadan, Uyo, Kano and Enugu) start realizing this.

WE NEED TO TREAT OUR WOMEN LIKE QUEENS, JEWELS AND SUPPORT THEM IN THE KITCHEN, THEIR CAREERS AND IN EVERY OTHER AREA.





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