I am 25 and she is 20.
I am leaving with my brother and she is leaving with her parents,I dated her and she got pregnant then abort the baby without telling me,but the baby didn't go after 6 months she told me I accept the pregnancy cause it was not even showing she is 6 months pregnant time goes on she gave birth peaceful.but before she told me about the pregnancy I have lost my job but still accept her with the pregnancy because of the love I have for her I paid every hospital bills like atnental etc the little I have I give her.after she gave birth i got a job on the march 14 before the COVID-19 outbreak that made the government to tell everyone to stay at home, they paid everybody and I was paid 25k for the half of the salary.I quickly bought diaper for the baby and also buy tea items for her she still complain that her stomach is paining her that there is a drug they proscribed for her to buy which is 1k+,and I gave her 2k and inside the money I will still pay agent that got the job for me half of it,later she requested for money to buy diaper I told her that I don't have money that the one I have naw is for my transport to go work if the lockdown stop,that she should collect from her parents later I can balance her behold the junior sis was their and started to insult me and be putting mouth in our discussion and I was like when did you start to put mouth in my matter I left there house and went to my own house after like one hour I received a call and it was one of her friend that called and started tell me am a useless man that I can't buy ordinary diaper,my dear my blood shake.i approach my woman and ask her if she was the one that gave my contact to her friend and she said no,I also told her what her friend told me on the phone and she heez and said "and so" that was the last day i stop going to their house.
Have I done any thing bad to accept you and the pregnancy you carry for six months before letting me know,don't I deserve a respect from you and your family,
Did she think 95% of guys will do what I did to accept you and pregnancy you carried for six months before I know
I even took my people to come and see your parents.
What have I done to deserve such insult from her friend, especially her friend insult and she wX backing her friend

Please I need a good advice to this cause I can't go there again,God in heaven knows that I didn't ignore her from the beginning the little one I saved from my formal work was what I used for her
Please what advice can you give me

Do your best to give your child whatever it needs but going by your post I don't need to tell you that. You seem to be a responsible guy and I applaud you for that. You have my respect. Now that you have no money tell her to use reusable cloth diapers. Stay calm. The moment someone crosses the line, hang up. You don't need to listen to insults. Do your best to provide for the baby and may you be successful in doing so. Don't visit her unless to see your baby and drop by whatever you succeed to acquire for your child.

Hmm...a coin has two sides. If only she could come and tell her own side of the story

First of all, are you the true father of the child?

If I was your friend or brother...until you do a DNA test, I won't have anything to say or do for you.

the matter get as e be. buh seriously, u never did a favour by accepting her nd the baby cos dats ur choice. on the other hand, u guys need 2 talk things out nd goin forward tell her no third party intervention whatsoever.

Cut off every communication for two months then let's see how her useful head will carter for the child

My brother no matter how much you're trying hard or how right you are, once women get the advantage of pregnancy, they'll use that to haunt you and make you think you have no point to be right... especially a girl of 20..too young.

You know what? Talk to ur parents if they can help you take custody of the baby while you send some money for upkeep. If they agree, collect the baby and forget the girl. Even when u don't have much, ur parents and ppl will understand and help you than the baby being with those girls ppl.

Another option is leave d baby with the girl's people, and accept responsibility for the baby and keep your evidences or get a witness. But expect unnecessary demands and insults from them just to haunt you, not about d baby again. When the insults and extravagant demand begins, don't panic, just offer them d option of collecting d child and bring him to your parents. If they agree, fine. If they dont, leave things the way they are but keep a close eye on ur child cus of future

If you are a broke man, use Condoms. Una no go hear. Babies ain't cheap.


OK you a good guy but the truth is, excuses breed contempt. You simply took on responsibility you not ready for. I hope you guys sort things out sha... Pls make she go buy napkins afterall our mothers used them and we fine.

D1987:
I am 25 and she is 20.
I am leaving with my brother and she is leaving with her parents,I dated her and she got pregnant then abort the baby without telling me,but the baby didn't go after 6 months she told me I accept the pregnancy cause it was not even showing she is 6 months pregnant time goes on she gave birth peaceful.but before she told me about the pregnancy I have lost my job but still accept her with the pregnancy because of the love I have for her I paid every hospital bills like atnental etc the little I have I give her.after she gave birth i got a job on the march 14 before the COVID-19 outbreak that made the government to tell everyone to stay at home, they paid everybody and I was paid 25k for the half of the salary.I quickly bought diaper for the baby and also buy tea items for her she still complain that her stomach is paining her that there is a drug they proscribed for her to buy which is 1k+,and I gave her 2k and inside the money I will still pay agent that got the job for me half of it,later she requested for money to buy diaper I told her that I don't have money that the one I have naw is for my transport to go work if the lockdown stop,that she should collect from her parents later I can balance her behold the junior sis was their and started to insult me and be putting mouth in our discussion and I was like when did you start to put mouth in my matter I left there house and went to my own house after like one hour I received a call and it was one of her friend that called and started tell me am a useless man that I can't buy ordinary diaper,my dear my blood shake.i approach my woman and ask her if she was the one that gave my contact to her friend and she said no,I also told her what her friend told me on the phone and she heez and said "and so" that was the last day i stop going to their house.
Have I done any thing bad to accept you and the pregnancy you carry for six months before letting me know,don't I deserve a respect from you and your family,
Did she think 95% of guys will do what I did to accept you and pregnancy you carried for six months before I know
I even took my people to come and see your parents.
What have I done to deserve such insult from her friend, especially her friend insult and she wX backing her friend

Please I need a good advice to this cause I can't go there again,God in heaven knows that I didn't ignore her from the beginning the little one I saved from my formal work was what I used for her
Please what advice can you give me

If you actually stood by her and along the line got this insult, sorry about it

I will suggest you calm down

When they are tired of talking, they will leave her in her own world

I suggest you give her a space for the time being let them do the rest

Don't call her but send sms to ask after her and the baby

She may return the sms with insults or may not reply

Don't get bordered about it

Any time you resume and have money, go to bank and pay into her account, keep your tellers as its going to be the only prove you have

Some women are ungrateful and the worst is they can't struggle so it's applicable to men

At this junction, look deep into the relationship if you can stand marriage or not

Don't be forced to go into marriage

Take your time, you are not the first and won't be the last

Even if the family calls you to start marriage preparations tell them politely that you can't live with her because she us unappreciative

That alone will keep everyone on their senses

Just be sending like 5000 every two weeks, instead of sending 10,000 every month

Some people must have sense by force

frozen70:


If you actually stood by her and along the line got this insult, sorry about it

I will suggest you calm down

When they are tired of talking, they will leave her in her own world

I suggest you give her a space for the time being let them do the rest

Don't call her but send sms to ask after her and the baby

She may return the sms with insults or may not reply

Don't get bordered about it

Any time you resume and have money, go to bank and pay into her account, keep your tellers as its going to be the only prove you have

Some women are ungrateful and the worst is they can't struggle so it's applicable to men

At this junction, look deep into the relationship if you can stand marriage or not

Don't be forced to go into marriage

Take your time, you are not the first and won't be the last

Even if the family calls you to start marriage preparations tell them politely that you can't live with her because she us unappreciative

That alone will keep everyone on their senses

Just be sending like 5000 every two weeks, instead of sending 10,000 every month

Some people must have sense by force

I can't believe it's a woman giving this advice. Women like you are rare. God bless you. You're very rational..

Oluromantic:

I can't believe it's a woman giving this advice. Women like you are rare. God bless you. You're very rational..

God bless you too

I don't have to pretend, am matured enough to understand why he was doing all despite his tight corner

If she doesn't value his efforts and contributions, let her family continue from where he stopped so that they will know that you have been doing it before they take over

I will support a man who is trying not one who has nothing to offer

He is trying but they expect more

He doesn't have to break a vault because of her and her friends

Be firm, family matters is tough and need a strong and willing heart to handle it

Yes you will step on stones but those stones are the obstacles

They will come begging, just make sure you keep your tellers

frozen70:


God bless you too

I don't have to pretend, am matured enough to understand why you were doing all despite your tight corner

If she doesn't value your efforts and contributions, let her family continue from where you stop so tgat they will know that you have been doing it before they take over

I will support a man who is trying not one who has nothing to offer

You ate trying but they expect more

You don't have to break a vault because of her and her friends

Be firm, family matters is tough and need a strong and willing heart to handle it

Yes you will step on stones but those stones are the obstacles

They will come begging, justake sure you keep your tellers

Yeah I'm not even the op, I commented too but read thru other comments and saw yours. I really admire your maturity. It's a great virtue.

Oluromantic:

Yeah I'm not even the op, I commented too but read thru other comments and saw yours. I really admire your maturity. It's a great virtue.

Thanks

Don't make the mistake of marrying into that group. They sound like the type that would make life hell for you. Listen to frozen70. Her advice is sound... at least until you can afford a DNA test and confirm paternity. Then she either becomes entrenched baby mama or you bail (depending on DNA result).

RisenPhoenix:
Don't make the mistake of marrying into that group. They sound like the type that would make life hell for you. Listen to frozen70. Her advive is sound... at least until you can afford a DNA test and confirm paternity. Then she either becomes entrenched baby mama or you bail (depending on DNA result).

I acknowledge your recognition on me

D1987:
I am 25 and she is 20.
I am leaving with my brother and she is leaving with her parents,I dated her and she got pregnant then abort the baby without telling me,but the baby didn't go after 6 months she told me I accept the pregnancy cause it was not even showing she is 6 months pregnant time goes on she gave birth peaceful.but before she told me about the pregnancy I have lost my job but still accept her with the pregnancy because of the love I have for her I paid every hospital bills like atnental etc the little I have I give her.after she gave birth i got a job on the march 14 before the COVID-19 outbreak that made the government to tell everyone to stay at home, they paid everybody and I was paid 25k for the half of the salary.I quickly bought diaper for the baby and also buy tea items for her she still complain that her stomach is paining her that there is a drug they proscribed for her to buy which is 1k+,and I gave her 2k and inside the money I will still pay agent that got the job for me half of it,later she requested for money to buy diaper I told her that I don't have money that the one I have naw is for my transport to go work if the lockdown stop,that she should collect from her parents later I can balance her behold the junior sis was their and started to insult me and be putting mouth in our discussion and I was like when did you start to put mouth in my matter I left there house and went to my own house after like one hour I received a call and it was one of her friend that called and started tell me am a useless man that I can't buy ordinary diaper,my dear my blood shake.i approach my woman and ask her if she was the one that gave my contact to her friend and she said no,I also told her what her friend told me on the phone and she heez and said "and so" that was the last day i stop going to their house.
Have I done any thing bad to accept you and the pregnancy you carry for six months before letting me know,don't I deserve a respect from you and your family,
Did she think 95% of guys will do what I did to accept you and pregnancy you carried for six months before I know
I even took my people to come and see your parents.
What have I done to deserve such insult from her friend, especially her friend insult and she wX backing her friend

Please I need a good advice to this cause I can't go there again,God in heaven knows that I didn't ignore her from the beginning the little one I saved from my formal work was what I used for her
Please what advice can you give me

Like RisenPhoenix pointed out, don't marry into her family. Tell she should be on her own and of she sees any man that will marry her she should go ahead and marry and you will take care of your daughter shikina.

useless woman
useless sister
useless friends
useless family

...and if you play into their useless tricks, they will turn you into a useless man!

forget about these people since they believe that you should go and rob banks to satisfy their nonsense. you can never win with useless people like that.

frozen70:


If you actually stood by her and along the line got this insult, sorry about it

I will suggest you calm down

When they are tired of talking, they will leave her in her own world

I suggest you give her a space for the time being let them do the rest

Don't call her but send sms to ask after her and the baby

She may return the sms with insults or may not reply

Don't get bordered about it

Any time you resume and have money, go to bank and pay into her account, keep your tellers as its going to be the only prove you have

Some women are ungrateful and the worst is they can't struggle so it's applicable to men

At this junction, look deep into the relationship if you can stand marriage or not

Don't be forced to go into marriage

Take your time, you are not the first and won't be the last

Even if the family calls you to start marriage preparations tell them politely that you can't live with her because she us unappreciative

That alone will keep everyone on their senses

Just be sending like 5000 every two weeks, instead of sending 10,000 every month

Some people must have sense by force

Um, are you sure you are a lady? This comes across like a piece of advice from a man!

U1:


Um, are you sure you are a lady? This comes across like a piece of advice from a man!

Am a woman I don't need to change my status

You can check my other posts

frozen70:

Am a woman I don't need to change my status
You can check my other posts

Ahem, are you married? In case I feel like firing 'em shots.

MrBrownJay1:
useless woman
useless sister
useless friends
useless family

...and if you play into their useless tricks, they will turn you into a useless man!

forget about these people since they believe that you should go and rob banks to satisfy their nonsense. you can never win with useless people like that.

But the girl is not asking for a car. She only requested for diapers which is a necessity to the survival of the baby. I am surprised you omitted the poster in the list of *useless*

When Op was forming fine boy and na them dey rush me, he wasn't aware of the responsibilities.

In Igbo, they say that a child that has the mind to swallow the seed of African star apple should have the mind to defecate it.

Op should borrow and send money to that girl, he's the man and it's his responsibility.

When all these small girls will be following guys that cannot take care of themselves

frozen70:


If you actually stood by her and along the line got this insult, sorry about it

I will suggest you calm down

When they are tired of talking, they will leave her in her own world

I suggest you give her a space for the time being let them do the rest

Don't call her but send sms to ask after her and the baby

She may return the sms with insults or may not reply

Don't get bordered about it

Any time you resume and have money, go to bank and pay into her account, keep your tellers as its going to be the only prove you have

Some women are ungrateful and the worst is they can't struggle so it's applicable to men

At this junction, look deep into the relationship if you can stand marriage or not

Don't be forced to go into marriage

Take your time, you are not the first and won't be the last

Even if the family calls you to start marriage preparations tell them politely that you can't live with her because she us unappreciative

That alone will keep everyone on their senses

Just be sending like 5000 every two weeks, instead of sending 10,000 every month

Some people must have sense by force

Na wooo, are U sure you are a woman? So reasonable, logical and objective. Kudos

laurenwhite:
Hmm...a coin has two sides. If only she could come and tell her own side of the story

what does she want to tell other than the guy can't provide for her. Didn't she know the guy is not financially buoyant b4 she slept with the guy unprotected in the first place.

MrBrownJay1:
useless woman
useless sister
useless friends
useless family

...and if you play into their useless tricks, they will turn you into a useless man!

forget about these people since they believe that you should go and rob banks to satisfy their nonsense. you can never win with useless people like that.

Hahahahahahaha!

Let me go and read the OP.

I read two lines and wanted to advise the OP to re-take his Use of English class.

D1987:
I am 25 and she is 20.
I am leaving with my brother and she is leaving with her parents,I dated her and she got pregnant then abort the baby without telling me,but the baby didn't go after 6 months she told me I accept the pregnancy cause it was not even showing she is 6 months pregnant time goes on she gave birth peaceful.but before she told me about the pregnancy I have lost my job but still accept her with the pregnancy because of the love I have for her I paid every hospital bills like atnental etc the little I have I give her.after she gave birth i got a job on the march 14 before the COVID-19 outbreak that made the government to tell everyone to stay at home, they paid everybody and I was paid 25k for the half of the salary.I quickly bought diaper for the baby and also buy tea items for her she still complain that her stomach is paining her that there is a drug they proscribed for her to buy which is 1k+,and I gave her 2k and inside the money I will still pay agent that got the job for me half of it,later she requested for money to buy diaper I told her that I don't have money that the one I have naw is for my transport to go work if the lockdown stop,that she should collect from her parents later I can balance her behold the junior sis was their and started to insult me and be putting mouth in our discussion and I was like when did you start to put mouth in my matter I left there house and went to my own house after like one hour I received a call and it was one of her friend that called and started tell me am a useless man that I can't buy ordinary diaper,my dear my blood shake.i approach my woman and ask her if she was the one that gave my contact to her friend and she said no,I also told her what her friend told me on the phone and she heez and said "and so" that was the last day i stop going to their house.
Have I done any thing bad to accept you and the pregnancy you carry for six months before letting me know,don't I deserve a respect from you and your family,
Did she think 95% of guys will do what I did to accept you and pregnancy you carried for six months before I know
I even took my people to come and see your parents.
What have I done to deserve such insult from her friend, especially her friend insult and she wX backing her friend

Please I need a good advice to this cause I can't go there again,God in heaven knows that I didn't ignore her from the beginning the little one I saved from my formal work was what I used for her
Please what advice can you give me

OK, Alternate Moniker which places you at 33yrs.

Confirm the child is yours. It is either she did not do an abortion (and lied to exhort you) or she did and got pregnant for someone else (unlikely) as you don't seem like her dream man.

While at it, also tell her to warn her friend and sister NOT to insult you any more. If they engage you again, just ignore and move on. Stop trading words with them... the saying 'silence is the best answer for a fool' rings true in this case.

And I will still say it: Re-take GST 101; Use of English .

PuZZyNegro:
But the girl is not asking for a car. She only requested for diapers which is a necessity to the survival of the baby. I am surprised you omitted the poster in the list of *useless*

the issue is certainly not about what the OP cant do (especially not in these difficult covid-19 times), it is about the fact that he is doing everything he possibly can, and instead of being grateful, they are still trying to have him do miracles. what do they expect' that he goes do armed robbery to satisfy them?!

When Op was forming fine boy and na them dey rush me, he wasn't aware of the responsibilities.

believing that 2 adult having unprotected sex is the responsibility of a man ONLY... believing that getting pregnant is the responsibility of a man ONLY; giving birth is the responsibility of a man ONLY; is the reason why you wont have any valid reasoning on this issue. they are BOTH to be blamed for having a child and BOTH responsible.

In Igbo, they say that a child that has the mind to swallow the seed of African star apple should have the mind to defecate it.

....ok, and what has this got to do with a man AND a woman having unprotected sex?

Op should borrow and send money to that girl, he's the man and it's his responsibility.

ARRANT NONSENSE!!!! nobody dating a babe should borrow money to raise a child...LAI LAI!!!!
they should BOTH do what they can to raise that child properly. basta!

When all these small girls will be following guys that cannot take care of themselves

the fact that you believe that women should be taken care of, is the reason why so many deluded useless woman think that a man should go do whatever nonsense to buy them whatever they desire. a man should buy what he can, and not a gram more....

Go for DNA test first

Sexyliciousbri:
Go for DNA test first

.

Somebody that can no longer afford diapers should go and do DNA test Do you know how much the test cost

Hmmmmmmmmm, this generation, what type of girls are mothers raising? At 20, already a baby mama. I have this neighbor, a man above 70, two girls are in his flat since more than one hour in the name of buy plantain. On easter day, under corona virus lock down, you allow your teenage daughters to go and sell plantain. I am minding my business but I just drew my husband attention to that, if only we knew. Many parents are failing, I don't know where we got it wrong. You can imagine the rude girl, what happened to napkins? Must she use pampers? Oga you self, how much is condom eh? Make sure you re-evaluate your life, learn from this and start afresh. At 25 you are already complicating your life. Imagine living the next 15years of your life trying to fix 5minutes problem. It is well!!!

MrBrownJay1:


the issue is certainly not about what the OP cant do (especially not in these difficult covid-19 times), it is about the fact that he is doing everything he possibly can, and instead of being grateful, they are still trying to have him do miracles. what do they expect' that he goes do armed robbery to satisfy them?!



believing that 2 adult having unprotected sex is the responsibility of a man ONLY...getting pregnant is the responsibility of a man ONLY, giving birth is the responsibility of a man ONLY, is the reason why you will have any valid reasoning on this issue. they are BOTH to be blamed for having a child and BOTH responsible.



....ok, and what has this got to do with a man AND a woman having unprotected sex?



ARRANT NONSENSE!!!! nobody dating a babe should borrow money to raise a child...LAI LAI!!!!
they should BOTH do what they can to raise that child properly. basta!



the fact that you believe that women should be taken care of, is the reason why so many deluded useless woman think that a man should go do whatever nonsense to buy them whatever they desire. a man should buy what he can, and not a gram more....

Get a woman pregnant abroad and tell the court that both of you had unprotected sex so it's a dual responsibility.

If his best is not good enough, he needs to try harder. He should live with the consequences of his actions.

EOD

akaahs:

Na wooo, are U sure you are a woman? So reasonable, logical and objective. Kudos

Thanks

Why are guys so supprise with my comment though with positive response

Anyway we all can't be the same
Things are hard any guy making effort should be commended

frozen70:


If you actually stood by her and along the line got this insult, sorry about it

I will suggest you calm down

When they are tired of talking, they will leave her in her own world

I suggest you give her a space for the time being let them do the rest

Don't call her but send sms to ask after her and the baby

She may return the sms with insults or may not reply

Don't get bordered about it

Any time you resume and have money, go to bank and pay into her account, keep your tellers as its going to be the only prove you have

Some women are ungrateful;...

You're a wonderful lady and on point. Op, don't just kill yourself. You tried to even accept the pregnancy, but having her sister and friend insult you, for me is wrong. Having said that, for keeping the pregnancy secreet for 6mnts, are u sure u're responsible? Don't force into marriage to her 'cus u'll not have peace. I'll keep off 4 now if I were 2 be u and consider DNA as last option.