A Very Big Mistake Of My Life

Hi nairalanders.

Please pardon me in case of any grammatical error. My story will be long, pls kindly bear with me and read to the finishing point. I'm ready to accept any insulting comments, it doesn't matter to me now.

I'm a 25 years old guy, not really financially buoyant but an average, money never dries in my pocket and back account as a hustler. Am currently still in part time program in university.

Now let me go straight to the point, here is my story. I started dating one beautiful girl back then in 2014, we were in love until something came up. There was a time I came home and she visited, that was the beginning of our separation, my mother warned me to stay away from her that she doesn't like her.

Honestly, I didn't know how to breakup with her without hurting her because she loved and cared for me so much. I love my mother so much and I listen to her as well. So, I started to avoid her, reducing my number of calls with her, sometimes when I visited home I won't tell her. All these to make her change her mind but all to no avail, I couldn't tell her what's up so that she won't hate my mother and make both of them enemies of each other.

She noticed my unprecedented and unusual behaviors, she asked me what has she done I only told her that I was very busy and concentrating on something. She later got fade up and started minding her own business because sometimes she would call I won't pick her calls, so she decided to let me be.

Fast forward to early this year, she went for a business trip and returned, so I decided to pay her a visit because even though we are no longer in love but we are still friends. I was hoping to visit her in her shop but she wasn't there, she told me to come to her apartment, I went there, we gist and had funs, she started making a move to me and we eventually had an unprotected sex.

I was thinking that she was a big girl and can take care of herself but after one month plus she called me and told me that she was pregnant, I was speechless and couldn't believe her, she threatened to report the case to my mother if I didn't show up and proffer solutions, my mind jumped. I hurried to her place and she showed me the pregnancy test result, we calculated the months and it was exactly the day I had sex with her, from that day till the month is exactly what was written on the paper.

To cut the story short, I got lost in thought until she waked me from my daydream, I told her straight that I wasn't ready for that, she should do something about it, so both of us agreed to terminate it, it was done successfully, I wasted much money on that moment but it didn't bother me.

So, after a while she called me and told me the sudden changes in her business that money disappeared from her hands always. She went home and complained to her dad, her dad suggested they should visit a native doctor to find out what was the problem. They visited the native doctor and he apparently exposed and told her what she did, that the pregnancy she terminated was the reason behind her misfortune. He listed all the things she will buy for cleansing and the total money involved. She called me and told me the development and demanded my own contribution (money), at that moment I didn't really have money to provide and she couldn't believe me.

Now am afraid if she will angrily expose me because she told her people that the person that got her the pregnancy is not around he traveled abroad. I haven't answered her since then because I have been busy thinking about my mistake, regretting the day I visited her, crying had I know. I returned but I didn't tell her so she won't visit me. Right now am having a double mind if I should adhere to what she told me by contributing money for the stuff, but the other hand, am asking for God's mercy upon my life, so if I should contribute money now it means I will be committing sin upon sin. I don't really know what to do now, I told her that I will visit her whenever I return to discuss with her but I haven't done that.

Presently I have a fiancee am dating now, my mother knows about her and she accepted her as well, also thinking about settling down with her when the time comes. I will hurt and loose her if what I did exposed.

Pls advice me my good people before I commit suicide and end everything, you can insult me if you like, it doesn't matter to me now, am very desperate human being now. The native doctor even told her to tell whoever that got her the pregnancy to also do his own cleansing or else he will encounter problems in life.

Should I also listen to the native doctor man or seek God's mercy, of whose report shall I believe..? Will there really be any problem, and what do I tell her now.

I just pity the innocent foetus aborted. Even if your mother said she doesn't like the one you are still dating now, you will dump her Well, I'm not surprised, you are still a kid. Let me wait for people to contribute, I'm just really annoyed!

Pucs has been the problem of man right from time memorial.. it's well with you my brother. I think you should open up to your mum, she will advice you better.

Guy u hv nothing to fear abt, will advise u get close to ur mum, tell her everything, she wouldn't let u suffer bcs of a mere terminated pregnancy. Confide with ur mum, she will help you out.

If you were anywhere close to me right now ehn, the kind slap wey you for chop from my palm na kobik wan nigh birus.

You are a very silly naive stupid boy. Na wetin you say want make you commit suicide?

I sorry for your mama. She don see am say the girl wise pass you that's why she warn you about her.

The slay queen don open pregnancy and dibia office for your head now you don dey shake like Awolowo leaf.

If you know what's good for you, you had better told her to refrain from calling to tell you any shit about any native doctor or else you'd block her from your phone, and damn her to announce whatever she likes to whoever.

Do not succumb to her cheap blackmail. She's seen through your naivety and that's what she's feeding off.

On a lighter note:

So suddenly:

New York 'the city that never sleeps' is now asleep, all quiet.

Paris the 'center of romance' lives in echos.

Rome 'the eternal city' is deserted.

Disney is out of magic.

London is caged in silence, the Queen speaks to her people from a hidden room.

Mecca is empty! Nobody to 'stone the devil'.

The Chinese wall is no longer a fortress.

The G8 nations are speechless.

The developed world suddenly on its knees.

Churches, mosques, great parks, monuments, stadiums are filled with unfilled spaces.

The busiest places at present were hitherto the most dreaded: hospitals and cemeteries.

The famous football leagues, fashion shows, exotic weddings, festivals all lost to memory.

Celebrities have run out of celebrations. Our titles, status and privileged positions are stale.

With all our boastful 'citizenship' we cannot step out of our houses. With all our savings in gold and cash, we can only buy food to eat and toilet papers to take care of the waste.

We usually went to watch animals in cages, now animals roam our empty streets, watching us in our 'cages'.

With our expensive clothes and shoes, our house clothes and pajamas are the latest fashion.

AND despite all these 'oddities'...the world still goes on; the sun still shines; the birds still sing.

When this long night finally gets over and a new day sets in, let us not forget the lesson of the long night - that the only essential is LIFE, the rest are but dispensable prefixes and suffixes - BUSY EMPTINESS.

You fvcked hard and poured all your watery Akamu inside her, you didn't come to Nairaland to tell us about the fun.

You killed a baby and didn't put it up on Nairaland that you just murdered a baby.

Found a new girl and didn't update on Nairaland.

Now you have issues and looking for solutions on Nairaland.

Okay, I will tell you an easy way out. Use the girl for money rituals.

Lol you said you thought she was a big girl who could take care of herself. You had the greater responsibility to prevent that pregnancy, yet you're casting the blame on her.

A lady you once dated invited you over to her apartment, and you couldn't tell that something unexpected would spring up? This is just a proof that abortion is a sin and a strong signal for people who are not ready to be in a family way and are engaging in premarital unprotected sex. Egungun go soon enter express o.

I don't understand the kind of cleansing that native doctor was talking about. As one who believes in the saving grace and mercy of God, I think you should be very sincere with yourself if you're truly sorry. Not because you're in a mess, but because you know what you did was wrong. Beg God for forgiveness and resolve within your mind that you won't go back to it. Be very sincere.

You shouldn't worry about being exposed to your mother and fiancée anymore because you're going to have to expose yourself by yourself. Yes! you will do that, because it would be more damning if they found out on their own later on. Let them know how much you regret your actions.

When that is settled, you should go and visit your ex and her family to do the same. It's not going to be an easy task, but there's always a price to pay for certain mistakes if freedom is what you seek. Most importantly, be prayerful. Maybe this is what God wants to use to get you closer to Himself. You don't need any cleansing except by the blood of Jesus. See a pastor if need be, but run away as fast as you can if any of them asks you for money or offers to take you to one river.

You can also advise her to also beg God. She needs to, because you were both in it together. You didn't force her or put any pressure on her (unless you're not saying everything that needs to be said).

You can ponder on this and reason its possible benefits. Please don't take your life o, you'd be giving the devil what he wanted the whole time.

PS: Please ensure you keep paragraphs with at least 1.2m spacing when typing a long text like this, to ensure easy readability

hehehe see children and confide with your mum-confide with your mum chai

but after you fvck dat day you be dey feel like big boy o you didn't need mummy

you no want girl but you like to fvck her, now you want carry post come disturb me this morning. still dey threaten us with suicide lol...what happened to staying away? as una no dey hear word e good

Why abort a child. Why o Why. Now karma is punising you na,ya wailing.
Kilokanmi

JDJ4:

Pls advice me my good people before I commit suicide and end everything

1stly, U r foolish to have threatened us with suicide, very foolish of u to have said that...never try to blackmail us with such thing again in ur life.

2ndly, u r very foolish to have an unprotected sex with a lady u avnt Met in a while


All manners of stupidity just full ur body... Even if a lady invite u for dinner or lunch, carry condom with u.. Any tin can happen

If a lady invite u for church crusade, carry condom along, anytin can happen.

If she invite u for wedding, carry condom along, anytin can happen

If you are going to a clinic and u no dt a lady nurse or lady doctor will attend to u, carry condom along... Anytin can happen

Even if your pastor wife or Alfa wife Wan pray for u, carry condom along.. Anytin can happen


Das all

Until we human beings understand and strictly adhere to the principle that a woman's vagina is an entrance and the key to open and enter it is marriage, we will continue to suffer calamities upon calamities.

Broken homes, broken trusts, tarnished and broken images, unwanted pregnancies, high rate of abortion, womb damage, spread of STDs, e.t.c... all these are the consequences mankind has suffered because of illicit sex and will continue to suffer unless we adhere to that simple principle.

Many men in this world could have become greater or the problems in their life could have been lessened... only if they had been able to keep their hormones in check.

Anyways, if I were you, this is what I'll do.

As for the whole native doctor's issue, it's one of the works of the devil. That's one of the ways by which the devil draws people away from the worship of the Almighty to worship of demons and draws them towards associating partners with God.

Is it today that people have been aborting children? Why did the many other people who did abortions not experience what the lady experienced?

So it's either some of the human beings involved in this case have involved or indulged mystical or supernatural measures sometime in their life of which it has something to do with the feotus in the lady's womb; maybe like the family she comes from, there's a deity they worship and one of their traditions is that it's a taboo for them to abort pregnancies;

Or it could be that the idea of her suffering those misfortunes as a result of aborting the child is nothing but a fallacy and superstition of which the devil has managed to toil with the hearts of the parties involved and convinced them to believe in it, taking advantage of the fact that the event of the abortion and the misfortunes she suffered were coincidental to each other.

But whichever way, if I were you, I wouldn't join them to do any bleeping cleansing because all the process is of the devil. I'll repent from my sins and turn to my Lord, seeking his forgiveness and mercy and pray to him to avert any possible adverse effects I may suffer from that experience.

Then as for your fear that this matter can reach the ears of your mother and new fiancee and the relationship may be destroyed, the only thing I can tell you is that you should man up and brace up for whatever happens. Regard whatever happens as a consequence of your actions and try your best to set things right as much as possible between you and your present fiancee.

Desperation will probably lead that lady to tell your mum and others and they may eventually get to know about it. So brace up for that and whatever comes after it and try to set things straight. If God decrees that your fiancee should forgive you and stay, that's fine. But if she leaves, it's not the end of the world. learn from your mistakes, apply corrections and move on with your life.

I remain mysterious

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CoronaVirusPro:
You fvcked hard and poured all your watery Akamu inside her, you didn't come to Nairaland to tell us about the fun.

You killed a baby and didn't put it up on Nairaland that you just murdered a baby.

Found a new girl and didn't update on Nairaland.

Now you have issues and looking for solutions on Nairaland.

Okay, I will tell you am easy way out. Use the girl for money rituals.

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It's a very big mistake of my life, I accepted

Nobi lie at all. Thanks

That is why most times out parents are always right ... Wetin dem see while sitting, you might not see it on London's tower...
Anyway , since you brought this upon yourself. Tidy up your mess.. call your mama, tell am.. call your current girlfriend tell am, call one of your close friend , tell am.. after doing that find small change give the girl , but make sure people you call are aware of it... after that delete the lady from your memorable and always use protection when you are not ready to settle down ....

Really

That was so unfortunate. You should be more disciplined.



Make free money today.
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Thanks for the advice, I have been thinking about it.

Children obey your parents for your days may be long,no be for where konji dey after biology come enter the pictures na naiarland we go run come dey shout ep ep

The reality is real... Forget herbalist nothing like God almighty it has been written that both of you will not happen ... Stop blaming yourself for
not supporting during the time of her needs, focus on the future cause that what I believe is the way out for both of you... She made the choice of aborting the baby you only suggested on it... It her choice to decide.... I pray money will not be your problem... Finally our mother are the reason for our existence so doing her the favour of listening to her might be the only happiness she want. Stay focus and approach the future with faith

Bola146:
I just pity the innocent foetus aborted. Even if your mother said she doesn't like the one you are still dating now, you will dump her Well, I'm not surprised, you are still a kid. Let me wait for people to contribute, I'm just really annoyed!

annoyed for wetin?? For dumping the girl or for clearing the mess?

For me, she wasn't pregnant b4, she just blackmailed you and you fell. This second one is another format of blackmail

Guy chill, nothing happened that hasn't happened before.

I know so many dudes that has destroyed girls foeteus in name of abortion and still left her.

That native doctor na confirm scam..

Wetin u gats do be say as the deed is already been done, you cant go back to undo it..

Just jejely dissociate yourself from the girl.. if she threatens you threaten am back.. life is too short to be held hostage by one loose guarded bìtch..

But In all these, use your head

Thanks for your concern, am getting encouraged in this forum

So I thought initially

seankafor:
Guy chill, nothing happened that hasn't happened before.

I know so many dudes that has destroyed girls foeteus in name of abortion and still left her.

That native doctor na confirm scam..

Wetin u gats do be say as the deed is already been done, you cant go back to undo it..

Just jejely dissociate yourself from the girl.. if she threatens you threaten am back.. life is too short to be held hostage by one loose guarded bìtch..

But In all these, use your head

Very certain

Holamic:
The reality is real... Forget herbalist nothing like God almighty it has been written that both of you will not happen ... Stop blaming yourself for
not supporting during the time of her needs, focus on the future cause that what I believe is the way out for both of you... She made the choice of aborting the baby you only suggested on it... It her choice to decide.... I pray money will not be your problem... Finally our mother are the reason for our existence so doing her the favour of listening to her might be the only happiness she want. Stay focus and approach the future with faith

JDJ4:
Hi nairalanders.


Please pardon me in case of any grammatical error. My story will be long, pls kindly bear with me and read to the finishing point. I'm ready to accept any insulting comments, it doesn't matter to me now.
I'm a 25 years old guy, not really financially buoyant but an average, money never dries in my pocket and back account as a hustler. Am currently still in part time program in university. Now let me go straight to the point, here is my story. I started dating one beautiful girl back then in 2014, we were in love until something came up. There was a time I came home and she visited, that was the beginning of our separation, my mother warned me to stay away from her that she doesn't like her. Honestly, I didn't know how to breakup with her without hurting her because she loved and cared for me so much. I love my mother so much and I listen to her as well. So, I started to avoid her, reducing my number of calls with her, sometimes when I visited home I won't tell her. All these to make her change her mind but all to no avail, I couldn't tell her what's up so that she won't hate my mother and make both of them enemies of each other. She noticed my unprecedented and unusual behaviors, she asked me what has she done I only told her that I was very busy and concentrating on something. She later got fade up and started minding her own business because sometimes she would called I won't pick her calls, so she decided to let me be. Fast forward to early this year, she went for a business trip and returned, so I decided to pay her a visit because even though we are no longer in love but we are still friends. I was hoping to visit her in her shop but she wasn't there, she told me to come to her apartment, I went there, we gist and had funs, she started making a move to me and we eventually had an unprotected sex. I was thinking that she was a big girl and can take care of herself but after one month plus she called me and told me that she was pregnant, I was speechless and couldn't believe her, she threatened to report the case to my mother if I didn't show up and proffer solutions, my mind jumped I hurried to her place and she showed me the pregnancy test result, we calculated the months and it was exactly the day I had sex with her, from that day till the month is exactly what was written on the paper. To cut the story short, I got lost in thought until she waked me from my daydream, I told her straight that I wasn't ready for that, she should do something about it, so both of us agreed to terminate it, it was done successfully, I wasted much money on that moment but it didn't bother me. So, after a while she called me and told me the sudden changes in her business that money disappeared from her hands always. She went home and complained to her dad, her dad suggested they should visit a native doctor to find out what was the problem. They visited the native doctor and he apparently exposed and told her what she did, that the pregnancy she terminated was the reason behind her misfortune. He listed all the things she will buy for cleansing and the total money involved. She called me and told me the development and demanded my own contribution (money), at that moment I didn't really have money to provide and she couldn't believe me. Now am afraid if she will angrily exposed me because she told her people that the person that got her the pregnancy is not around he traveled abroad. I haven't answered her since then because I have been busy thinking about my mistake, regretting the day I visited her, crying had I know. I returned but I didn't tell her so she won't visit me. Right now am having a double mind if I should adhere to what she told me by contributing money for the stuff, but the other hand, am asking for God's mercy upon my life, so if I should contribute money now it means I will be committing sin upon sin. I don't really know what to do now, I told her that I will visit her whenever I return to discuss with her but I haven't done that. Presently I have a fiancee am dating now, my mother knows about her and she accepted her as well, also thinking about settling down with her when the time comes. I will hurt and loose her if what I did exposed.
Pls advice me my good people before I commit suicide and end everything, you can insult me if you like, it doesn't matter to me now, am very desperate human being now. The native doctor even told her to tell whoever that got her the pregnancy to also do his own cleansing or else he will encounter problems in life. Should I also listen to the native doctor man or seek God's mercy, of whose report shall I believe..? Will there really be any problem, and what do I tell her now.

Lol
Guy na format!!!!

Thanks for your contribution. Right now, do I tell her that am around or keep quiet

IAmMysterious:
Until we human beings understand and strictly adhere to the principle that a woman's vagina is an entrance and the key to open and enter it is marriage, we will continue to suffer calamities upon calamities.

Broken homes, broken trusts, tarnished and broken images, unwanted pregnancies, high rate of abortion, womb damage, spread of STDs, e.t.c... all these are the consequences mankind has suffered because of illicit sex and will continue to suffer unless we adhere to that simple principle.

Many men in this world could have become greater or the problems in their life could have been lessened... only if they had been able to keep their hormones in check.

Anyways, if I were you, this is what I'll do.

As for the whole native doctor's issue, it's one of the works of the devil. That's one of the ways by which the devil draws people away from the worship of the Almighty to worship of demons and draws them towards associating partners with God.

Is it today that people have been aborting children? Why did the many other people who did abortions not experience what the lady experienced?

So it's either some of the human beings involved in this case have involved or indulged mystical or supernatural measures sometime in their life of which it has something to do with the feotus in the lady's womb; maybe like the family she comes from, there's a deity they worship and one of their traditions is that it's a taboo for them to abort pregnancies;

Or it could be that the idea of her suffering those misfortunes as a result of aborting the child is nothing but a fallacy and superstition of which the devil has managed to toil with the hearts of the parties involved and convinced them to believe in it, taking advantage of the fact that the event of the abortion and the misfortunes she suffered were coincidental to each other.

But whichever way, if I were you, I wouldn't join them to do any bleeping cleansing because all the process is of the devil. I'll repent from my sins and turn to my Lord, seeking his forgiveness and mercy and pray to him to avert any possible adverse effects I may suffer from that experience.

Then as for your fear that this matter can reach the ears of your mother and new fiancee and the relationship may be destroyed, the only thing I can tell you is that you should man up and brace up for whatever happens. Regard whatever happens as a consequence of your actions and try your best to set things right as much as possible between you and your present fiancee.

Desperation will probably lead that lady to tell your mum and others and they may eventually get to know about it. So brace up for that and whatever comes after it and try to set things straight. If God decrees that your fiancee should forgive you and stay, that's fine. But if she leaves, it's not the end of the world. learn from your mistakes, apply corrections and love on with your life.

I remain mysterious

Yes she was, I confirmed it too

meezynetwork:
For me, she wasn't pregnant b4, she just blackmailed you and you fell. This second one is another format of blackmail

Thanks for your concern, I admit that am very stupid

daddytime:
If you were anywhere close to me right now ehn, the kind slap wey you for chop from my palm na Covik 19.

You are a very silly naive stupid boy. Na wetin you say want make you commit suicide?

I sorry for your mama. She don see am say the girl wise pass you that's why she warn you about her.

The slay queen don open pregnancy and dibia office for your head now you don dey shake like Awolowo leaf.

If you know what's good for you, you had better told her to refrain from calling to tell you any shit about any native doctor or else you'd block her from your phone, and damn her to announce whatever she likes to whoever.

Do not succumb to her cheap blackmail. She's seen through your naivety and that's what she's feeding off.

The native doctor, the girl and her father are all trying to defraud you!
I recommend you get a police case and report for harrasmemt and extortion.
The time of women using juju men to collect money from us have passed!
Wise up brother's

daddytime:
If you were anywhere close to me right now ehn, the kind slap wey you for chop from my palm na Covik 19.

You are a very silly naive stupid boy. Na wetin you say want make you commit suicide?

I sorry for your mama. She don see am say the girl wise pass you that's why she warn you about her.

The slay queen don open pregnancy and dibia office for your head now you don dey shake like Awolowo leaf.

If you know what's good for you, you had better told her to refrain from calling to tell you any shit about any native doctor or else you'd block her from your phone, and damn her to announce whatever she likes to whoever.

Do not succumb to her cheap blackmail. She's seen through your naivety and that's what she's feeding off.

Guy seriously though, wetin be Awolowo leaf?