My story is going to be lengthy, because I need you to understand my situation and offer useful advise. Please pardon any Grammatical error. Help me with advice.
I lost my dad when I was 11, mum take care of me and my education in all possible ways. She die immediately I finished my waec. I have grown up sisters and brothers.
I am from a humble Christian background. My dad denounced an idols practices and even make effort for church to be planted in my village.So basically, I never lack love.After my mum's death, everyone chart his or her part in life. I went with my uncle, struggling to gain admission but was fruitless.
I started hustling by myself and by 23 I had my first car, get a plot of land and start building. I lived in one of the Nigeria oil city so girls wasn't a big deal.
One of my mentor advice me against falling in love. I live with this principle, one girl for one day. No matter how beautiful you are, the moment we have sex, I will lose interest.
Being from a royal root, I strongly believe that a prince should not sleep alone at night, so I always have girls around me but never get to love them, we have fun and it ends there.my Anty taught me how to use a condom (she is a nurse) so I never for once sleep with a girl without condom because I don't want a commoner to exchange blood with me unless I am to marry her.
I always wanted the best for myself. After seeking admission for quite a while, a friend introduce me to a consultation who gave me admission in one of the West African university. Something happened and I had to go to my embassy which I was strongly advise to visit Nigeria. I did, only to be told by ministry of education that NUC doesn't recognize my school and the course I am into. So I lost all, become depressed. Start drinking, traveling to places, have a lot of fun, I just wanted to end it all.My late mum talk to me in a dream and from that day I stop everything fun, I start dreaming again.
After some year I make up my mind to start afresh. I wrote waec, used my ND gain admission this year. I have a dream to go into space science or oil exploration. So basically I'm am living my dream. I make up my mind that no girl will be in the picture, having traveling to five countries in Africa, I don't want to live in Nigeria, Can't raise my kids here, it a very toxic place.
I got engaged in a business, I make some good money. My family member requested for an help in her building project. I discarded her plan, instruct the building planner to draw another plan. I start the project for her, money got finished, she ask for my help. I told her,I can only help her with my capital, she beg and I release 400k to her. After paying for my admission process, school fee and my feeding, I had little left. I left the building at roofing level. My Anty didn't refund my money, I plead, make trouble, involved police,she refused to give me back my money. This is the third time my family has dealt with me financially. I make up my mind not to have anything to do with my family members.
Now here is the real story.
In one of my business deal, I met a girl. Natural skin, flesh in right places, very smart and intelligent. The more I get to know her the more I desire her then for the first time in my 30 years,I fall in love. We both want the same thing, we have the same dream. She visit me in a neutral place, I emptied my account to part pay for the place we will be staying, I even help her to acquire one of her document.
We instantly connect.I make love to her skin to skin ( my very time of doing that),did other things I won't dare with any girl. She is so real and sincere,she is truly amazing and an angel. For three days we stayed together we never had a dull moment. I saw in her a future,to a point that I call her my mum name. I told her everything about me.we make a lot of financial plan because she give me two years to get married to her or she walk.
She is already a graduate but she accepted to marry me while I complete my studies then we move to Europe,or Australia.
She make some sacrifice, give me some fund to add and start a business,but the lock down affect our plans.
Here is the problem
She has started acting up. We video chat for hours every day but since two days ago she wants her space.
Now I need advice: 1: Can I stay with her and we continue planning our life together or I should let her go and concentrate with my studies? Note she doesn't affect my ability to study negatively.
The most important question now
2:If I should allow her to wait for me,how is it possible that I will achieve my dream and make a family with her? I don't want to frustrate her, I care about her to a point I can let her go and hurt my self.
Please anyone who has gone through this before can share his or her story. I will share it with her freely and we take a decision. Also anyone with useful advise PL drop.
Please note, I am not obsess with her. I am truly in love with her.

This epistle sha

Amanee:
This epistle sha

. Sorry , I need to paint a picture of who I am. I need your honest opinion thanks

factormatt6:
My story is going to be lengthy, because I need you to understand my situation and offer useful advise. Please pardon any Grammatical error. Help me with advice.
I lost my dad when I was 11, mum take care of me and my education in all possible ways. She die immediately I finished my waec. I have grown up sisters and brothers.
I am from a humble Christian background. My dad denounced an idols practices and even make effort for church to be planted in my village.So basically, I never lack love.After my mum's death, everyone chart his or her part in life. I went with my uncle, struggling to gain admission but was fruitless.
I started hustling by myself and by 23 I had my first car, get a plot of land and start building. I lived in one of the Nigeria oil city so girls wasn't a big deal.
One of my mentor advice me against falling in love. I live with this principle, one girl for one day. No matter how beautiful you are, the moment we have sex, I will lose interest.
Been from a royal root, I strongly believe that a prince should not sleep alone at night, so I always have girls around me but never get to love them, we have fun and it ends there.my Anty taught me how to use a condom (she is a nurse) so I never for once sleep with a girl without condom because I don't want a commoner to exchange blood with me unless I am to marry her.
I always wanted the best for myself. After seeking admission for quite a while, a friend introduce me to a consultation who gave me admission in one of the West African university. Something happened and I had to go to my embassy which I was strongly advise to visit Nigeria. I did, only to be told by ministry of education that NUC doesn't recognize my school and the course I am into. So I lost all, become depressed. Start drinking, traveling to places, have a lot of fun, I just wanted to end it all.My late mum talk to me in a dream and from that day I stop everything fun, I start dreaming again.
After some year I make up my mind to start afresh. I wrote waec, used my ND gain admission this year. I have a dream to go into space science or oil exploration. So basically I'm am living my dream. I make up my mind that no girl will be in the picture, having traveling to five countries in Africa, I don't want to live in Nigeria, Can't raise my kids here, it a very toxic place.
I got engaged in a business, I make some good money. My family member requested for an help in her building project. I discarded her plan, instruct the building planner to draw another plan. I start the project for her, money got finished, she ask for my help. I told her,I can only help her with my capital, she beg and I release 400k to her. After paying for my admission process, school fee and my feeding, I had little left. I left the building at roofing level. My Anty didn't refund my money, I plead, make trouble, involved police,she refused to give me back my money. This is the third time my family has dealt with me financially. I make up my mind not to have anything to do with my family members.
Now here is the real story.
In one of my business deal, I met a girl. Natural skin, flesh in right places, very smart and intelligent. The more I get to know her the more I desire her then for the first time in my 30 years,I fall in love. We both want the same thing, we have the same dream. She visit me in a neutral place, I emptied my account to part pay for the place we will be staying, I even help her to acquire one of her document.
We instantly connect.I make love to her skin to skin ( my very time of doing that),did other things I won't dare with any girl. She is so real and sincere,she is truly amazing and an angel. For three days we stayed together we never had a dull moment. I saw in her a future,to a point that I call her my mum name. I told her everything about me.we make a lot of financial plan because she give me two years to get married to her or she walk.
She is already a graduate but she accepted to marry me while I complete my studies then we move to Europe,or Australia.
She make some sacrifice, give me some fund to add and start a business,but the lock down affect our plans.
Here is the problem
She has started acting up. We video chat for hours every day but since two days ago she wants her space.
Now I need advice: 1: Can I stay with her and we continue planning our life together or I should let her go and concentrate with my studies? Note she doesn't affect my ability to study negatively.
The most important question now
2:If I should allow her to wait for me,how is it possible that I will achieve my dream and make a family with her? I don't want to frustrate her, I care about her to a point I can let her go and hurt my self.
Please anyone who has gone through this before can share his or her story. I will share it with her freely and we take a decision. Also anyone with useful advise PL drop.
Please note, I am not obsess with her. I am truly in love with her.

It is clear you LOVE each other, but sadly you both have STRONG HEAD for each other.


You both need to meet a counselor that will talk and guide both of you. And as for you Mr Royal Christian background....pls be PRAYERFUL O.... I hope you know that your father didnt become so very old before he died, it may have been a spiritual attack. You have to really take GOD serious.

You will make it in life and NO WOMAN can stop you. Just that, you should not always get angry easily or read danger to every little sign, you already know how women can do drama, so be very patient and turn it to joke with her, draw her close before you correct her.

As for the Lockdown, don't worry it will soon be over then you can move on. Pls I strongly suggest you MARRY HER... your royal blood has mixed with her already so she is now partially a royal person through you. Na real man you be, so things can NEVER be hard for you, just be more understanding with her and patient.

I celebrate you

First of all, thumb up bro, you always want to better yourself which is a good thing. Nothing is too late in life

From your description of the said lady, she seems like a good catch. As for her acting up, there is nothing communication cannot do, talk to her in a sincere manner and she will open up on her recent behaviors.

Marry her when your instincts is telling so. good women are scarce, when you see a good one make sure you hold her tight..

Above all, commit all your ways unto God, for directions.
I'm wishing you all the best on your future decisions.

U ended up confusing us the more. U need to learn how to orgainise

tripplephi:


It is clear you LOVE each other, but sadly you both have STRONG HEAD for each other.


You both need to meet a counselor that will talk and guide both of you. And as for you Mr Royal Christian background....pls be PRAYERFUL O.... I hope you know that your father didnt become so very old before he died, it may have been a spiritual attack. You have to really take GOD serious.

You will make it in life and NO WOMAN can stop you. Just that, you should not always get angry easily or read danger to every little sign, you already know how women can do drama, so be very patient and turn it to joke with her, draw her close before you correct her.

As for the Lockdown, don't worry it will soon be over then you can move on. Pls I strongly suggest you MARRY HER... your royal blood has mixed with her already so she is now partially a royal person through you. Na real man you be, so things can NEVER be hard for you, just be more understanding with her and patient.

I celebrate you

. My dad die at old age. Only my mum die Young.
I will never break my vow with her but I don't want to frustrate her. I am willing to take any possible step (legitimately) to make her mine. She love me from her heart but I guess there is a lot of pressure on her, not from her parents (both want her to build her career).

roseb1:
U ended up confusing us the more. U need to learn how to orgainise

. I am sorry try and read through then give me useful advise as if I am your brother, thanks

tripplephi:


It is clear you LOVE each other, but sadly you both have STRONG HEAD for each other.


You both need to meet a counselor that will talk and guide both of you. And as for you Mr Royal Christian background....pls be PRAYERFUL O.... I hope you know that your father didnt become so very old before he died, it may have been a spiritual attack. You have to really take GOD serious.

You will make it in life and NO WOMAN can stop you. Just that, you should not always get angry easily or read danger to every little sign, you already know how women can do drama, so be very patient and turn it to joke with her, draw her close before you correct her.

As for the Lockdown, don't worry it will soon be over then you can move on. Pls I strongly suggest you MARRY HER... your royal blood has mixed with her already so she is now partially a royal person through you. Na real man you be, so things can NEVER be hard for you, just be more understanding with her and patient.

I celebrate you

God bless you, I take your advice.

factormatt6:
My story is going to be lengthy, because I need you to understand my situation and offer useful advise. Please pardon any Grammatical error. Help me with advice.
I lost my dad when I was 11, mum take care of me and my education in all possible ways. She die immediately I finished my waec. I have grown up sisters and brothers.
I am from a humble Christian background. My dad denounced an idols practices and even make effort for church to be planted in my village.So basically, I never lack love.After my mum's death, everyone chart his or her part in life. I went with my uncle, struggling to gain admission but was fruitless.
I started hustling by myself and by 23 I had my first car, get a plot of land and start building. I lived in one of the Nigeria oil city so girls wasn't a big deal.
One of my mentor advice me against falling in love. I live with this principle, one girl for one day. No matter how beautiful you are, the moment we have sex, I will lose interest.
Been from a royal root, I strongly believe that a prince should not sleep alone at night, so I always have girls around me but never get to love them, we have fun and it ends there.my Anty taught me how to use a condom (she is a nurse) so I never for once sleep with a girl without condom because I don't want a commoner to exchange blood with me unless I am to marry her.
I always wanted the best for myself. After seeking admission for quite a while, a friend introduce me to a consultation who gave me admission in one of the West African university. Something happened and I had to go to my embassy which I was strongly advise to visit Nigeria. I did, only to be told by ministry of education that NUC doesn't recognize my school and the course I am into. So I lost all, become depressed. Start drinking, traveling to places, have a lot of fun, I just wanted to end it all.My late mum talk to me in a dream and from that day I stop everything fun, I start dreaming again.
After some year I make up my mind to start afresh. I wrote waec, used my ND gain admission this year. I have a dream to go into space science or oil exploration. So basically I'm am living my dream. I make up my mind that no girl will be in the picture, having traveling to five countries in Africa, I don't want to live in Nigeria, Can't raise my kids here, it a very toxic place.
I got engaged in a business, I make some good money. My family member requested for an help in her building project. I discarded her plan, instruct the building planner to draw another plan. I start the project for her, money got finished, she ask for my help. I told her,I can only help her with my capital, she beg and I release 400k to her. After paying for my admission process, school fee and my feeding, I had little left. I left the building at roofing level. My Anty didn't refund my money, I plead, make trouble, involved police,she refused to give me back my money. This is the third time my family has dealt with me financially. I make up my mind not to have anything to do with my family members.
Now here is the real story.
In one of my business deal, I met a girl. Natural skin, flesh in right places, very smart and intelligent. The more I get to know her the more I desire her then for the first time in my 30 years,I fall in love. We both want the same thing, we have the same dream. She visit me in a neutral place, I emptied my account to part pay for the place we will be staying, I even help her to acquire one of her document.
We instantly connect.I make love to her skin to skin ( my very time of doing that),did other things I won't dare with any girl. She is so real and sincere,she is truly amazing and an angel. For three days we stayed together we never had a dull moment. I saw in her a future,to a point that I call her my mum name. I told her everything about me.we make a lot of financial plan because she give me two years to get married to her or she walk.
She is already a graduate but she accepted to marry me while I complete my studies then we move to Europe,or Australia.
She make some sacrifice, give me some fund to add and start a business,but the lock down affect our plans.
Here is the problem
She has started acting up. We video chat for hours every day but since two days ago she wants her space.
Now I need advice: 1: Can I stay with her and we continue planning our life together or I should let her go and concentrate with my studies? Note she doesn't affect my ability to study negatively.
The most important question now
2:If I should allow her to wait for me,how is it possible that I will achieve my dream and make a family with her? I don't want to frustrate her, I care about her to a point I can let her go and hurt my self.
Please anyone who has gone through this before can share his or her story. I will share it with her freely and we take a decision. Also anyone with useful advise PL drop.
Please note, I am not obsess with her. I am truly in love with her.

. Another very important point,Am I taking advantage of her love for me by asking her to wait for me? I want to be free with my conscience.

I will ignore the first part of your post.
Not necessary.

The said lady is already 30 yrs and if I were her, I will be worried.
She is aging, fact is she is not sure u will tie the knot with her in the next 2 yrs or more, the other part of her brain is telling her u will ditch her later( don't ever try exonerating yourself here, most guys that did so swore by their dead parents graves) and her chances of starting afresh is slimmer.

Of course she will tell u her parents want her to develop her career but will never tell you that side talk she always have with her mum in the middle of the night.

In Nigeria we have court marriage. U can plan and do that to calm her mind down and u two will continue with whatever u are doing.
She is naturally reacting to circumstances around her of which u are at the middle of it all.
Or,
It could be that a better guy is making a serious move and she want to shake u to know if u are really serious or not.
Still, the 2 instances need open and honest communication backed with doing something tangible for everybody to know she is yours.
Right now, she isn't and is 100% free to make another choice.
So are u.
Goodluck

sassysure:
I will ignore the first part of your post.
Not necessary.

The said lady is already 30 yrs and if I were her, I will be worried.
She is aging, fact is she is not sure u will tie the knot with her in the next 2 yrs or more, the other part of her brain is telling her u will ditch her later( don't ever try exonerating yourself here, most guys that did so swore by their dead parents graves) and her chances of starting afresh is slimmer.

Of course she will tell u her parents want her to develop her career but will never tell you that side talk she always have with her mum in the middle of the night.

In Nigeria we have court marriage. U can plan and do that to calm her mind down and u two will continue with whatever u are doing.
She is naturally reacting to circumstances around her of which u are at the middle of it all.
Or,
It could be that a better guy is making a serious move and she want to shake u to know if u are really serious or not.
Still, the 2 instances need open and honest communication backed with doing something tangible for everybody to know she is yours.
Right now, she isn't and is 100% free to make another choice.
So are u.
Goodluck

. I will gladly discuss the court marriage with her, but I don't want to take advantage of her. Secondly she is 25 yrs old

You can solve the puzzle if you can identify the reason(s) why she wanted her space. From there every thing will be clear to u like 7UP.

You can even figure out if she can wait for u or not...

Richy4:
You can solve the puzzle if you can identify the reason(s) why she wanted her space. From there every thing will be clear to u like 7UP.

You can even figure out if she can wait for u or not...

. Allow her to make her decision

All the irrelevant details

Been from a royal root, I strongly believe that a prince should not sleep alone at night, so I always have girls around me but never get to love them, we have fun and it ends there.my Anty taught me how to use a condom (she is a nurse) so I never for once sleep with a girl without condom because I don't want a commoner to exchange blood with me unless I am to marry her.

Richy4:
You can solve the puzzle if you can identify the reason(s) why she wanted her space. From there every thing will be clear to u like 7UP.

You can even figure out if she can wait for u or not...

. She doesn't say she wants her space, but her actions. Her mum is also engaging her on house chores since yesterday. She accepted waiting for me but she is the type that need result in anything she is doing. I want to take a decision I won't be regretting. I don't want love or relationship to mess me up.

cococandy:
All the irrelevant details

. Oh I am so sorry. I need a solution to my trouble

factormatt6:
. She doesn't say she wants her space, but her actions. Her mum is also engaging her on house chores since yesterday. She accepted waiting for me but she is the type that need result in anything she is doing. I want to take a decision I won't be regretting. I don't want love or relationship to mess me up.

Sounds like she’s too good for you.
She knows what she wants but you’re afraid of being responsible and committed.

factormatt6:
. Oh I am so sorry. I need a solution to my trouble

Open your commitment mind.

You’ll notice a change of attitude in her as soon as she can decode that you’re in it for the long haul.

cococandy:


Sounds like she’s too good for you.
She knows what she wants but you’re afraid of being responsible and committed.

. Nope. I am fully committed to our relationship. I have had female friend who offer to help with money to boost my business in exchange for sex, I declined because of her. How do I know I will be able to give her a family she deserves and a good life is what is disturbing me.

sassysure:
I will ignore the first part of your post.
Not necessary.

The said lady is already 30 yrs and if I were her, I will be worried.
She is aging, fact is she is not sure u will tie the knot with her in the next 2 yrs or more, the other part of her brain is telling her u will ditch her later( don't ever try exonerating yourself here, most guys that did so swore by their dead parents graves) and her chances of starting afresh is slimmer.

Of course she will tell u her parents want her to develop her career but will never tell you that side talk she always have with her mum in the middle of the night.

In Nigeria we have court marriage. U can plan and do that to calm her mind down and u two will continue with whatever u are doing.
She is naturally reacting to circumstances around her of which u are at the middle of it all.
Or,
It could be that a better guy is making a serious move and she want to shake u to know if u are really serious or not.
Still, the 2 instances need open and honest communication backed with doing something tangible for everybody to know she is yours.
Right now, she isn't and is 100% free to make another choice.
So are u.
Goodluck

Lmao...you dey try

I got 99problems but a bi*** ain't one... - Jay Z
This should be the credo stamped on the forehead of every sensible man when to comes to women they are not married to.
It's probably part of what helped him become the most successful rapper of his time.

Girl problems are just not worth it.

If she wants to walk, she should walk. The last person who gave me a deadline to marry her learnt regrettably that there are some men you just don't give ultimatums to.

factormatt6:
. She doesn't say she wants her space, but her actions. Her mum is also engaging her on house chores since yesterday. She accepted waiting for me but she is the type that need result in anything she is doing. I want to take a decision I won't be regretting. I don't want love or relationship to mess me up.

My brother, if she doesn't say that she wanted her space but implied it through action, what is the difference? Potato potahto....

Find out the reason why she was acting like that or maybe someone is by the side beating the drums that she was dancing.. communications Bro. Talk to her.. u might get some hints

crackland:

Lmao...you dey try

I got 99problems but a bi*** ain't one... - Jay Z
This should be the credo stamped on the forehead of every sensible man when to comes to women they are not married to.
It's probably part of what helped him become the most successful rapper of his time.

Girl problems are just not worth it.

If she wants to walk, she should walk. The last person who gave me a deadline to marry her learnt regrettably that there are some men you just don't give ultimatums to.

I don't think it ultimatum, you know when there is no aim, abuse is inevitable. She doesn't want to joke with her youthful age. She is not desperate though.

factormatt6:
. Nope. I am fully committed to our relationship. I have had female friend who offer to help with money to boost my business in exchange for sex, I declined because of her. How do I know I will be able to give her a family she deserves and a good life is what is disturbing me.

It was hard to know what your point was at first.
But If the bold is what the problem is and then I’m sure you can do it.There’s no way to know the future for sure.

Besides a good life and good family is a joint effort. So if she wants the same thing, I don’t see what the problem is.
Sit down and outline your goals, the timeline at which you’d love for each goal to be reached and work to support each other. Start small. No one makes it big overnight.

Small wedding, Try not to have kids right away or if you do, space them to avoid too much responsibilities that will weigh you guys down while you’re still trying to find your footing. If she’s committed too, your resources will grow. surely.

cococandy:


If that’s what you want, then I’m sure you can do it.
There’s no way to know the future for sure.

Besides a good life and good family is a joint effort. So if she wants the same thing, I don’t see what the problem is.
Sit down and outline your goals, the timeline at which you’d love for each goal to be reached and work to support each other. Start small. No one makes it big overnight.

Small wedding, Try not to have kids right away or if you do, space them to avoid too much responsibilities that will weigh you guys down while you’re still trying to find your footing. If she’s committed too, your resources will grow. surely.

. We talk about kid. We intend waiting for the right time. We planning relocating to western country before raising kid. I don't if I am to continue buying and selling stuff or go into IT. I need an advice on this also.

factormatt6:
. We talk about kid. We intend waiting for the right time. We planning relocating to western country before raising kid. I don't if I am to continue buying and selling stuff or go into IT. I need an advice on this also.

Sounds like you need a life coach and/or a mentor.

Very beneficial

factormatt6:
. I will gladly discuss the court marriage with her, but I don't want to take advantage of her. Secondly she is 25 yrs old

Dude, you should not be forced or given a timeline by a woman regarding commitment and then go on to start getting a headache because of it.

Yes I have been in your situation, and yes I loved her. But I'm built in such a way that when it comes to emotional/relationship matters, I like to pace myself...you may be different from me and I'm not saying you must act the way I did.

When I was given my deadline, I didn't react or start an argument - I just told her okay and smiled, but deep in my mind I already knew she had jinxed herself and I was just going to play the long game by allowing the deadline pass gracefully, then watch her do whatever it is she wanted to do.

You can do different though, but do you want to start a marriage on a foundation of your partner using threats and deadlines to get what she wants?

factormatt6:
I don't think it ultimatum, you know when there is no aim, abuse is inevitable. She doesn't want to joke with her youthful age. She is not desperate though.

Giving you two years to get married to her or she walks, is an ultimatum and a threat bruv.

cococandy:


Sounds like you need a life coach and/or a mentor.

Very beneficial

. My mentor never support our relationship. He feel it will affect my academic but when I make a strong point,he agreed with me.i also read good books . BTW I don't have friends anymore due to my past life. I don't want to go back to what I left behind. Any good advice here will be useful thanks.

crackland:

Giving you two years to get married to her or she walks, is an ultimatum and a threat bruv.

. Funny I did tell her that but my love for her, I over look it. I have history with a lot of ladies, I never believe I could fall in love but with this girl the world can come to a stand still.

crackland:

Lmao...you dey try

I got 99problems but a bi*** ain't one... - Jay Z
This should be the credo stamped on the forehead of every sensible man when to comes to women they are not married to.
It's probably part of what helped him become the most successful rapper of his time.

Girl problems are just not worth it.

If she wants to walk, she should walk. The last person who gave me a deadline to marry her learnt regrettably that there are some men you just don't give ultimatums to.

See, sometimes it's good to place yourselves in a woman's shoe.
U are just being nairaland stubborn head.
Hian!

She is yet to give deadline
Where u see that one, crackhaus?
Have u eaten today?
Go and eat first, u are hungry

But,I will never advice a lady to wait on a guy.
It normally don't favour us.
Me,I will never enter fully siddon for house like the owner o. Mistakes ladies make. I love u o, no doubt about it but if I see say, na only talk and no action, time is against me, I will stylishly drop one leg outside, by the time u know it, I don disappear. N.a. common sense o
Call me anything u like,swear
I hear u
No time. Love should wait,I dey come
ABI u want me to join the line in Shiloh?

factormatt6:
My story is going to be lengthy, because I need you to understand my situation and offer useful advise. Please pardon any Grammatical error. Help me with advice.
I lost my dad when I was 11, mum take care of me and my education in all possible ways. She die immediately I finished my waec. I have grown up sisters and brothers.
I am from a humble Christian background. My dad denounced an idols practices and even make effort for church to be planted in my village.So basically, I never lack love.After my mum's death, everyone chart his or her part in life. I went with my uncle, struggling to gain admission but was fruitless.
I started hustling by myself and by 23 I had my first car, get a plot of land and start building. I lived in one of the Nigeria oil city so girls wasn't a big deal.
One of my mentor advice me against falling in love. I live with this principle, one girl for one day. No matter how beautiful you are, the moment we have sex, I will lose interest.
Been from a royal root, I strongly believe that a prince should not sleep alone at night, so I always have girls around me but never get to love them, we have fun and it ends there.my Anty taught me how to use a condom (she is a nurse) so I never for once sleep with a girl without condom because I don't want a commoner to exchange blood with me unless I am to marry her.
I always wanted the best for myself. After seeking admission for quite a while, a friend introduce me to a consultation who gave me admission in one of the West African university. Something happened and I had to go to my embassy which I was strongly advise to visit Nigeria. I did, only to be told by ministry of education that NUC doesn't recognize my school and the course I am into. So I lost all, become depressed. Start drinking, traveling to places, have a lot of fun, I just wanted to end it all.My late mum talk to me in a dream and from that day I stop everything fun, I start dreaming again.
After some year I make up my mind to start afresh. I wrote waec, used my ND gain admission this year. I have a dream to go into space science or oil exploration. So basically I'm am living my dream. I make up my mind that no girl will be in the picture, having traveling to five countries in Africa, I don't want to live in Nigeria, Can't raise my kids here, it a very toxic place.
I got engaged in a business, I make some good money. My family member requested for an help in her building project. I discarded her plan, instruct the building planner to draw another plan. I start the project for her, money got finished, she ask for my help. I told her,I can only help her with my capital, she beg and I release 400k to her. After paying for my admission process, school fee and my feeding, I had little left. I left the building at roofing level. My Anty didn't refund my money, I plead, make trouble, involved police,she refused to give me back my money. This is the third time my family has dealt with me financially. I make up my mind not to have anything to do with my family members.
Now here is the real story.
In one of my business deal, I met a girl. Natural skin, flesh in right places, very smart and intelligent. The more I get to know her the more I desire her then for the first time in my 30 years,I fall in love. We both want the same thing, we have the same dream. She visit me in a neutral place, I emptied my account to part pay for the place we will be staying, I even help her to acquire one of her document.
We instantly connect.I make love to her skin to skin ( my very time of doing that),did other things I won't dare with any girl. She is so real and sincere,she is truly amazing and an angel. For three days we stayed together we never had a dull moment. I saw in her a future,to a point that I call her my mum name. I told her everything about me.we make a lot of financial plan because she give me two years to get married to her or she walk.
She is already a graduate but she accepted to marry me while I complete my studies then we move to Europe,or Australia.
She make some sacrifice, give me some fund to add and start a business,but the lock down affect our plans.
Here is the problem
She has started acting up. We video chat for hours every day but since two days ago she wants her space.
Now I need advice: 1: Can I stay with her and we continue planning our life together or I should let her go and concentrate with my studies? Note she doesn't affect my ability to study negatively.
The most important question now
2:If I should allow her to wait for me,how is it possible that I will achieve my dream and make a family with her? I don't want to frustrate her, I care about her to a point I can let her go and hurt my self.
Please anyone who has gone through this before can share his or her story. I will share it with her freely and we take a decision. Also anyone with useful advise PL drop.
Please note, I am not obsess with her. I am truly in love with her.

. I tell you a bitter true. She is afraid of tomorrow because investing her time and maybe finance may not yield good result. You can let her go and build your life because I figured you are a determined person. Much better ladies await you. If you must be with her, don't let her drive the relationship take charge as a man.