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Childfree In Nigeria? by Nobody: 9:42am On Apr 06, 2020 |
What’s the worst thing you can think of to announce to a Nigerian mom or dad? “I’m pregnant!” No, that’s not it but that could land you a one way ticket to homelessness or at the chemist for injuries sustained from being whipped. You have one more chance. “I lost my virginity to…” I imagine your voice trailing off as you lose consciousness from whatever landed on your head. No, no, no. There’s something else most people wouldn’t dream of telling their parents and that’s their decision or choice to never have children. Your blank stare confirms this. The idea of a fertile young man or woman voluntarily choosing to be childfree is as unlikely as me waking up in the morning to find a billion naira beside me with a note saying this is for you. Why is this so? Click on the link for the full article. https://cfnaijagirl./2020/03/20/childfree-in-nigeria/ 2 Likes |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by bukatyne(f): 2:19pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
From little experience I have read and seen, one person always get burnt when two healthy able to have kids adults decide to have a no-kid marriage. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by crackkhaus: 4:57pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
There used to be one female here who was always talking about how she never wants to have kids. I've always wondered if people who make that choice actually have the ability to make kids but are just using the excuse of never wanting kids to cover it up. It's surreal to imagine how a perfectly healthy individual would choose not to have a child. 3 Likes |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Apr 08, 2020 |
part 2 Well, aside from the fact that I don't know anyone that rich...ok sorry. Let me focus. I'm going to explain it to you even though, I feel like you ought to know unless you're a foreigner...or you are an alien disguised as a human and trying to learn how to fit in. If the latter is the case, then welcome. People marry for love, economic advantage, social acceptance and a myriad of other reasons. Regardless of what the reasons are, it's been the norm and expectation that children will be produced in all marriages. The only exception being infertility. Traditionally bearing a child outside wedlock was a taboo but there are societies and certain exceptions that will welcome the child as a blessing. Families have been broken due to the absence of babies. People have lost their wealth trying to treat an infertility issue and bear a child. Children are the bedrock of a traditional African marriage. And now, times are changing. Recently, there's been an increase in the number of young people who are second guessing the need to have children of their own. Recent events have contributed to their decisions as well. It's getting harder and harder to convince well educated young people in developed countries to have kids. But this is also surfacing in Nigeria. The educated Nigerian who is up to date with the goings on in the world realises that there's a big problem. It's always been hard to get by for him or her but as the global economy worsens, there's doubt as to how one will manage in a few years. It's expensive to raise a child. From conception to delivery, you'll need to prepare for the financial cost. Then from birth to the time they're adults able to manage on their own, you'll spend an unimaginable amount. For one struggling to get by and determined that their family will not be in the same financial situation they were raised in, this is a cause for concern. Climate change is not news to us. Whether we acknowledge the problem now or later, we will still feel the effects down here in Nigeria. The idea that some places will lose the ability to grow food thereby forcing people to migrate in massive numbers is one of the expected consequences. This is not new and has happened throughout history. The difference is in the scale in which this will occur. As more and more people struggle for the reduced resources left, it is imperative to think about the effect on the next generation. Some people go childfree because they want to give those who are already here a better chance. Naturally, more people will be born everyday. This is good. The species need to survive. Yet, as many people chose to go childfree, they're ultimately making sacrifices that ensure the survival of the species and a better quality of life for the next generation. "Some people hate children and that's the reason", you retort. "Okay", I respond. Maybe this is a good reason. If one is self aware enough to realize that they hate children, can't stand them and decides to be childfree, then isn't the person making the right choice? Remember that children are helpless at the beginning of their lives. As babies, they need great care and attention. They rely on a caregiver for everything. It would be better for such an individual to avoid caring for a baby since they have an apathy for them than to be forced to, thereby putting the little one at risk. Whatever one's reasons are for being childfree, the person is essentially making a decision that will follow them for life. If an individual makes that decision based on their research and conviction, we should make room for them to be heard too. Nigeria actually needs more childfree individuals. If you are reading this and you are childfree, what inspired you to make that decision? 1 Like |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Coolabbie: 12:53am On Apr 09, 2020 |
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Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by moviemaker: 6:17pm On Apr 13, 2020 |
bukatyne:It's possible, but this is not the case at all times. There are CF couples in their old age. [quote author=Coolabbie post=88241980][/quote] I can relate with this. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Nobody: 11:50pm On Apr 13, 2020 |
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Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by cococandy(f): 12:35am On Apr 14, 2020 |
Some of us Nigerians can’t think beyond our own small minds. That’s why the issue of an adult couple choosing to have no kids or have one/few kids is always making them debate among themselves. There must be something wrong if you make that choice right? 15 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by ibkayee(f): 1:00am On Apr 14, 2020 |
I don't see the big deal in not wanting kids, there doesn't always have to be a deep rooted problem. Plus there can be just as many advantages to not having them as there are to having them, it's a personal decision *shrug* 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 7:11am On Apr 14, 2020 |
Squillaci:Just like you are doing now? |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 7:12am On Apr 14, 2020 |
cococandy:Hanty, so you too did n’t think beyond your small mind before having your kid? |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 7:14am On Apr 14, 2020 |
ibkayee:No smoke without fire Nne |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Jullima(f): 7:28am On Apr 14, 2020 |
crackkhaus:I used to think like you, but then you see some women that are not maternal at all and shouldn’t bring children to this world. When some women bravely decide they don’t want kids we should listen to them, not all women are cut out to be mothers. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by crackland: 9:38am On Apr 14, 2020 |
Jullima:Again like I said earlier, it's surreal to imagine that a perfectly healthy person would decide not to have kids in their life. It doesn't mean that I have anything against them personally. The same way they can decide/choose not to have kids, is the same way I can decide/choose to think something might be wrong with them. No one's decision/choice is more important than the next person. That's what being pro-choice is really about, it goes both ways... 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by ibkayee(f): 1:01pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
Hangulsaram:What does this mean as it pertains to the topic? |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 2:28pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
ibkayee:Yes, it means there must be a reason for a normal human to make such decision. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hathor5(f): 12:41pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Hangulsaram: more money no sleepless nights less headache/worries and responsibility fewer sacrifices no boring children activities instead you do what you like doing in your free time more freedom and more time to focus on other things no pregnancies and the pain that comes with them you do not contribute to overpopulation 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 2:35pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Hathor5:I see, are you implying that your parents made a mistake or they did n’t think before giving birth to you? At the bolded, “no pain no gain” Anyway I think it’s horrible people that reason this way you are reasoning. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hathor5(f): 3:15pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Hangulsaram: What's horrible about them? 1 Like |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 4:13pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Hathor5:read your previous post again and see ur reasons if it’s not horrible to that issues with children. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:18pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Why would any couple make such a decision |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by bukatyne2: 4:38pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Hangulsaram: |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by bukatyne2: 4:40pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
moviemaker: I never said there are no childfree couples; I said someone usually gets burnt when two healthy person decide to be childfree especially when neither of them previously had kids. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by moviemaker: 4:52pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
bukatyne2: Your statement reeks of certainty. And to put it more clear to you, you're wrong. It's not in every case someone gets burnt when two healthy persons decide to be childfree whether they have kids from past unions or not. We have examples of them living fine even in their old age. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by bukatyne2: 4:58pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
moviemaker: Nigerian? |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by bayobabe(f): 5:07pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
People have the right to their own opinions. I personally do not think it is so wise to have kids in this Country if it can be helped. But realistically just have one. But if I have someone close who decides to tow that path or even decided to not marry and born kids, I would support such person. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hathor5(f): 5:10pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Hangulsaram: I read it. What's horrible about it? Try to articulate yourself. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 12:27am On Apr 16, 2020 |
bukatyne2:Lol! Sister reason am naa. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 12:29am On Apr 16, 2020 |
Hathor5:After all your articulations, you came out with that rubbish reasoning. |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hathor5(f): 7:49am On Apr 16, 2020 |
Hangulsaram: Look, I would curse you and your future generations but you seem to have been cursed already so get the fvck out of my way if you are unable to express a simple thought before I curse what is left of your destiny. And remember not to populate the earth with little cretins like yourself. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by Hangulsaram: 8:10am On Apr 16, 2020 |
Hathor5:Blessing came before curse, I’m blessed already so you are nobody to lay a curse on me. @the bolded, you mean little cretins like you? Just asking oo |
Re: Childfree In Nigeria? by bukatyne2: 8:47am On Apr 16, 2020 |
Hangulsaram: Toor! |
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