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My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Olofin2(m): 9:08pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging. I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her. Is it the childbirth that caused this? 67 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Casemiro(m): 9:09pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
![]() It is either childbirth made her treat you so... or, or someone else is shining that place for her... Just pray it's childbirth and she isn't seeing someone else secretly ![]() 185 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Tallesty1(m): 9:11pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Olofin2:Yes. 303 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Ningen(m): 9:16pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Give her space. She's probably insecure about her body. Olofin2: Says someone who begged to put the tip ![]() [img]https://media1./images/cd1a01f5ab42f724274ffaa114b2a663/tenor.gif?itemid=4972350[/img] 815 Likes 42 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Powerexpert: 9:18pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:19pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
since she stopped way before the child was born then obviously, the "childbirth" is not the issue... why dont you sit down and communicate with your wife to know exactly what the problem is (and possibly find a solution)? so instead of begging for sex, why dont you beg for a sit down and open heart discussion... 262 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by scrolldown88: 9:20pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Women! I would have said talk to her, but since this has been going on for months I'm going to go ahead and assume you've already done that. So ignore her for now. If my calculations are right, she should come crawling back when she notice that you've ignored her. Let me tell y'all a secret. It doesn't matter if you are married to her or not, when they want, women will always use sex as a bargaining chip. This is highly manipulative to say the least and it works everytime. Call it Powe play, call it whatever. She is using sex to manipulate you. Now she already has you begging. My advice: don't beg her anymore. Give her the space she seem to crave so much. Ignore her even. That's the only way to swing the balance. But let's pray she's not seeing someone else, because if she is, then there's little chance that whatever you do will change anything. Then again I'm not married, so, what do I know? 560 Likes 32 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Powerexpert: 9:22pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Hope you've been supportive all through the process. Communication is key though. It also depends on who is in charge? Hope you also meet her expectation in the other room? 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Oluneutral: 9:28pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
How come nobody is seeing......... 1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child. 2. She delivered through CS. 3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant. Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end. Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife. She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her. I pray for wisdom for you. 776 Likes 61 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Olofin2(m): 9:30pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Powerexpert: Talking of being supportive, her people think I'm from a different planet because of the length I went in suppoting her. In the other room, no one does that better than I do, I think. 32 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Takotsubo: 9:31pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
She probably doesn't enjoy whatever it is you're doing. If you worship her body and she clim axes strongly each time you have sex,why would she be refusing? What woman will let tiredness come between her and a mind bending org asm filled sex session? I know you'll say now that you can sex for Africa so I'll counter immediately by saying may be she is really really really exhausted from looking after the baby. Sorry sah 46 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by doitforyou(f): 9:31pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
She is nursing a three month old and a CS scar, so obviously she’s had big changes. Sometimes the way to a woman is not just by words but by actions, if you offer to take care of the baby for just a day or even give her the weekend off it will make a difference. You come across as selfish in your post, I wonder if your wife thinks so too. Olofin2:It’s great that you’re bonding with your baby but do you also bath the baby? Feed? change the diaper? Are you awake at 2.00am to feed the baby? Do you get to sleep for only 3 hours a day? Have your hormones being put through the ringer for a year? If she’s a first time mother then you’ve to be patient she had a CS and your child is just 3 months. Also, you need to stop looking at your marital sex from a perspective of its only your right to enjoy. Sex should be enjoyed by both of you and if there’s a problem why one of you isn’t then it’s your problem too. If your wife’s happiness is your priority and not just your libido then give her a day, a weekend off, or however long her CS scar will heal. Tell her to take time off to take care of herself, let her take a break and she will come back to you fully recharged. Ideally, you shouldn’t even be thinking about sex, she had a CS just three months ago!!! 302 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by THUNDER4real(m): 9:33pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Seduce her by constantly walking around the house naked with erected ding-dong...She will be begging you to do her..... 154 Likes 14 Shares
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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:33pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Oluneutral: what has the above got to do with refusing sex with your husband AND/OR giving husband no reason or explanation whatsoever?! 30 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by CAPSLOCKED: 9:34pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
BUT IF YOU TIDY SOAPY FOR THE NEXT 2-6 MONTHS YOU WON'T DIE. THE CS WOMAN NEEDS A BREAK, AND THE BEST YOU CAN DO IS TO UNDERSTAND, TOLERATE, AND ENDURE. 107 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:37pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: no man can "understand/tolerate/endure" while no excuse nor explanations is given to him... 62 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by CAPSLOCKED: 9:40pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: LOL, WHO NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND, TOLERATE, AND ENDURE IN THE REAL SENSE OF THINGS WHEN YOU CAN EASILY SEND HER PACKING, AND START TO PATRONIZE CODEDRUNS AND CO. 63 Likes 6 Shares
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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Olofin2(m): 9:42pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
doitforyou: I don't keep friends. So I'm always at home. Our baby understands me more than anyone because if she's crying and refuses to be soothed by her mother, she would stop crying once her mother angrily dumps her on me. It's only breastfeeding that our baby can't get from me. I know so much about medical things and wife would consult me first before applying anything on the baby. Financially, it can be said that I'm the one working for the salary she's receiving monthly (you can't understand this aspect) and we only spend my own salary. So, does she wants me to get intimacy from somewhere else? 21 Likes |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Powerexpert: 9:44pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Olofin2:If finance is not a point of discord and responsibility is in place. Sit her down and talk to her. Pregnancy changes women. Some experience pre or post partum depression. To carry baby for 9 months no be beans but discuss with her and Express yourself. That she stopped at seven month could be that she was scared for the baby or otherwise. Only communication will sort this anyway. She might also be scared of another pregnancy at the moment. In all be a good father to your baby. Over time you get tired of sex. 52 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Olofin2(m): 9:47pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: Yes, not giving excuse is the major problem. I was 100 percent involved in her healing. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Sixfeetbelle: 9:48pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
scrolldown88: Exactly. Your advice will create a divide in this marriage. Marriage issues are to be handled with care and compromise not with logic. Ignoring her will drift him away from her and if she doesn't sense the problem on time, the marriage will crash. Heart to heart talk would help a lot here. I heard pregnancy wanes sexual appetite for some women. Maybe she got fat during the pregnancy and doesn't feel attractive anymore. Maybe breastfeeding the baby tires her out coupled with maybe pains from the CS. It's just 3 months, Oga can wait. 45 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by crackkhaus: 9:50pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
The very first day you begged her before she had sex with you, was the day your problem began. Shit-test score = F9 You must either quit begging, or simply continue begging. The choice is yours and it ain't that complicated. 55 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by silibaba: 9:55pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:56pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: thats the last option on the table...but before he gets there, he should give her all the benefits of the doubt, and let her give him a sound intelligent explanation as to whats going on. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Jullima(f): 9:57pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
talk to her, extramarital affairs will not help you. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Sixfeetbelle: 9:59pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Olofin2: I won't lie. You're really trying but because I can tell you're a good man, I'd implore you to exercise patience. She's not refusing you on purpose but I can see CS scars and pains, tiredness after breastfeeding and decreased sexual drive post partum as some of the culprits in this case. Talk with her, and talk to her. Relay your worries, try to understand hers and then collectively reach a compromise. That place you mentioned about ignoring her due to sex will not work in marriage. That little seed of selfish will grow into something vile that may tear this marriage apart. Marriage works by understanding. Apply it. You're a good man and you have a wonderful family: a loving wife and a beautiful daughter. Don't let selfish ruin that. 112 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by BecaciaBarbie(f): 10:00pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Breezzy(m): 10:03pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
If assurance dey, guy beg ooo 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Angelinastto(f): 10:03pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Later they'll complain of loosing their marriages to side chicks.... Wives need to watch it abeg! Poster please try talking to her or her mom about it to fulfil all righteousness. 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Samnewspaper01: 10:03pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
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