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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Nobody: 11:13pm On Apr 16, 2020
Fhemmmy:


Not at all because we need to learn to be sensitive about others
If he starts fornicating now, you'll blame him. Let him enjoy his life. My friend marry one more wife, don't listen to all this small boys
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by fatherdfd: 11:14pm On Apr 16, 2020
Op you are a selfish n egoistic someone just 3months u are already talking of not asking her again. So u can't give her time to heal mentally n physically.dont u know that giving birth can demoralize a woman, so try and help her get her confidence.
Btw may she is scared not to take in so soon

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by mrdipye(m): 11:14pm On Apr 16, 2020
Shey d baby is just 3 months

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Fhemmmy: 11:16pm On Apr 16, 2020
bamidelee:

If he starts fornicating now, you'll blame him. Let him enjoy his life. My friend marry one more wife, don't listen to all this small boys

Lol @ Small boys . . . Let him marry another wife and he will soon be back to tell us to advice him before marrying the 3rd wife because grass that looks greener on the other side is a mirage

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by foleskay(m): 11:17pm On Apr 16, 2020
Is that how she behaves during courtship?? Did she refuse sex often when you were courting? If yes, you should have understand, but if no, then maybe the site if operation under her belly is yet to heal, may still be painful to her.

Or better still has she been complaining about your dick size?? Maybe sex btw u and her is painful. Try figure out these points I raised.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by xdunamis(m): 11:21pm On Apr 16, 2020
The truth is bitter.

My brother sorry, you have been trapped. Only 2 reasons why she will deny u sex without explanation. 1, there is another man in her life, probably one of her exes or a newly found playboy (how can you be working for your wife to keep the salary and you are still completely in charge of all the expenditures? In a short time, she will feel entitled, see u as her slave and feel too good for ur type. Na so all naija women b. Once it gets to this stage, she starts seeking for other men who can tame her) The moment u "enthrone" a naija girl, she will immediately start ruling over u. Sex with u will become boring to her because she is already feeling like "u no reach her type"

2, she needs complete control over ur entire life. Nowadays, most women don't change after marriage anymore. They bring out their real self after giving birth. Especially if you are doing well in life. Her next move right now is to separate u from all your relatives including ur mother (if she is still alive) Funny enough, u may not even know what is happening until she is done with u. Women can't take control of a man who is connected to his roots, if u know u know. This is the beginning of the end. But when there is a child between d both of u, it becomes a dilemma. She will start stepping on ur last nerves intentionally and indirectly telling u that there is nothing u can do about it because of ur child. The beginning of your problems bro, take heart. Talk to anybody and she will tag u as a baby that is always complaining.

When a woman starts denying u sex, she will never stop. The matter will only keep getting worse. The worst thing that can happen to a man is sex denial from ur wife at home. Las las bro, ur marriage na 21st century scam. U don marry 5G girl.

I understand that she gave birth recently, but with what u explained this has nothing to do with the pregnancy. Nothing.

She is 100% in d mood, but her selfish plan is worth more to her. What next, she will start contacting all her exes and sending signals to other guys to get laid. If she even allows u for some time, the sex will be one of your worst. Don't have sex with an unhappy/nagging woman, it is very bad for u in every aspect. I pity ur condition sha, yet another trapped lion. It is now a matter of how long u can endure the pain that many married men in Nigeria are enduring within.

I can only wish u all the best, but the crack is already visible. When a woman's heart is up to something, her brain becomes useless. I hope u man up and make the right decisions for ur own good.


Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by bubbaGambino: 11:21pm On Apr 16, 2020
Baba be sensitive na. she just had a baby three months ago via CS. it takes about three months or more for her to heal. coupled with the birth of a new baby, she's breastfeeding, not having enough sleep, still tidying up the home.
After all these, sex should be the last thing on her mind. give her time abeg. its not easy.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by peacefulhome(f): 11:22pm On Apr 16, 2020
Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?


CS is not a child play. For the fact that Mrs A had hers going smoothly does not mean your wife body to act same way.
How have you been helping out to make her stress free?
I wish I could go into details of certain things, but no need.
Please be more patient with her , am sure with time her body will come normal just the way she had been before pregnancy.
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by AreaFada2: 11:22pm On Apr 16, 2020
Angelinastto:
Later they'll complain of loosing their marriages to side chicks.... Wives need to watch it abeg!
Poster please try talking to her or her mom about it to fulfil all righteousness.
Thing is many women have a poor perception of motherhood and sex.

A pregnant lady, unless there's a medical reason not to, should be banging away until the very minute to deliver. It's very good towards preparing for labour even.

Antenatal classes should cover this thing too.

A man should be understanding though. But sometimes sex life deteriorates permanently after childbirth. Then anything can happen.
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by richmindx: 11:24pm On Apr 16, 2020
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Oluneutral:
How come nobody is seeing.........
1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child.

2. She delivered through CS.

3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant.



Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end.

Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife.

She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her.

I pray for wisdom for you.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by foleskay(m): 11:30pm On Apr 16, 2020
abike12:
You are an evil man and I'm very sure you're unattractive. Do you know that a c section is a major surgery? You're coming to report a new mother to a forum full of strangers because of three months of no sex after a c section. You're a vile and disgusting excuse for a human being and I hope she leaves you and finds a better husband.
Smh, so if it happened to you, you would have left your husband simply because he ask you for sex after delivery?? See how she talk as if divorce is that easy. Wise up pls
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by mechanics(m): 11:34pm On Apr 16, 2020
Just allow her to rest for some time, body no be wood o, you can even adjust yourself, sex is not everything in marriage.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by nanauju(f): 11:34pm On Apr 16, 2020
Are you sure this ur current issue with your wife is not related to that your previous post u made about her not being in support of ur calling to church??

Baba seems you guys have not really ironed out some of ur previous marital issues, and maybe she's just displaying this attitude to get ur attention. This is the best time for you both to iron out previous issue, she's obviously not happy. U need a good talk. But then again, I'm not married, so my opinion is just a contribution.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Tony142: 11:34pm On Apr 16, 2020
Dr. iLegendd what is the likely cause of his wife refused for sex? And what are the medication or prescription for the Ops? grin
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by ginaolo(m): 11:34pm On Apr 16, 2020
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Oluneutral:
How come nobody is seeing.........
1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child.

2. She delivered through CS.

3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant.



Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end.

Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife.

She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her.

I pray for wisdom for you.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by afribabe: 11:34pm On Apr 16, 2020
Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

is it the childbirth that caused this?
I think so.
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Shuku: 11:35pm On Apr 16, 2020
Angelinastto:
Later they'll complain of loosing their marriages to side chicks.... Wives need to watch it abeg!
Poster please try talking to her or her mom about it to fulfil all righteousness.

It looks like you're one of those side chicks.

From the look of things, here are my thoughts:
1. The wife is one of those who get turned off by sex ( and even the thought of it) in their last trimester.

2. The wife had medical issues in pregnancy towards the end of pregnancy and was advised to avoid sex till after safe delivery. Maybe these medical issues were not properly explained to herself and her husband. Or maybe they were but she didn't/couldn't properly inform her husband. If this is the case, then effective 'Communication' is the problem.

3. As for after delivery. CS is very tough on a woman's body especially if it was an emergency intervention after hours of labour. It often leads to postpartum depression in the mothers.

Postpartum depression is not really well-diagnosed in Nigeria.
A woman is expected to go from being pregnant, to delivery of baby, to being a super mom and wife consecutively. This notion is wrong. New mothers need all the help they can get.

The pains from recovery, the pressure of breast feeding immediately and correctly, sleepless nights and so on. Let me tell you, even changing a diaper becomes a chore after a while.

The woman's got a brand new, little human, that can't talk, to take care of properly. It's a lot to take in for some women, especially first time moms.

OP, hang in there. Talk with her. Ask her about her feelings. Be patient with her. It's going to be alright.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by ehmmy11(m): 11:36pm On Apr 16, 2020
Nobody bothered to suggest blowjobs/handjobs tongue grin
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by annsrealms(f): 11:36pm On Apr 16, 2020
Liftedhands:
Have you thought of postpartum depression? Look into it before it ets out of hand. You say she angrily drops baby on you? That's a red flag for a depressed woman. Seek help for her asap and not sex.

This is quite sensible. My friend went through it. Op, is too early for sex. Find out the changes she is dealing with due to pregnancy and CS.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by eyinjuege: 11:36pm On Apr 16, 2020
Ningen:
Give her space.
She's probably insecure about her body.




Says someone who begged to put the tip grin

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cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:37pm On Apr 16, 2020
foleskay:
I hate reading such words like sit her down for discussion. Sit her down to dscuss bfore he sex his own wife, he paid dowry for?? Don't be unfortunate pls.

let me guess: he shouldnt talk and just rape the woman, abi?!

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by OgaRico(m): 11:39pm On Apr 16, 2020
Ningen:
Give her space.
She's probably insecure about her body.




Says someone who begged to put the tip grin
But you sef know say once the tip enter,the begging table dey turn.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by idrezee(m): 11:42pm On Apr 16, 2020
Get a sidechic.
Make sure she does her work well to the extent that you won't even the power to be sexually aroused by the wife.

While doing this watch her closely, monitor her movements to be very sure she is not cheating, but you need a sidechic to keep a clear head.
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by 9ja083: 11:42pm On Apr 16, 2020
It's childbirth. Her uterus haven't healed completely. It takes 6 months for her body to be fully healed yet she's expect to start having another baby after 1yr and 3months.
At 7 months pregnant, some women do have pressure pain. This pain affects mostly their pelvic floor muscles which in turn affects the vagina area. It makes sex unbearable for for some. So I think that might be why she wasn't in the mood for sex.
She's not seeing anyone like ppl here are wrongly telling u.
She might be afraid of getting pregnant again. Especially if she passed through the eye of a needle during this.
Talk to her. And hear her out.
Take her to see a family planning service to help out.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by shekhaz(f): 11:44pm On Apr 16, 2020
Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?
I was in this shoe when I had my first child. Later found out it was depression from pregnancy and child birth. Body change, responsibility of birthing a life and all. It can be overwhelming. Your wife does not want you to beg for sex,she wants you to understand and be patient. I get why you would think like this. My husband did same. He called me selfish cos I can't feel his pain. I tried to make him understand my fears but you men's ego won't let him bulge. It took me 6 months to even allow him near my cookie jar. I had my baby through natural birth but had to be stitched cos he was a big baby. The first time we tried to do it after delivery was worse than my first time. He let go of everything after that
You men always think because we don't have same libido as you that we don't care. I am very sure if you are patient and loving towards her, she will bounce back.
Pregnancy is not same for all women. Some climb back on it immediately after, others take longer. Please don't use this as an opportunity to cheat, you will regret it.
Don't rush her
Continue to be your playful self even if she won't let you (she is only scared you might use that chance to have your way)
Watch romantic movies together
Take her back memory lane of things you did together to enjoy sex
Don't let her perceive sex frustration from you.
Let her know you are in no hurry even though you are.
I hope all this helps
You guys are not alone. I went through this and when I overcame we have some amazing sexapades honestly

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by realemaediong(m): 11:47pm On Apr 16, 2020
that woman owe her husband an explanation for that. sometimes women are very hard to understand.
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by lifeguard(m): 11:48pm On Apr 16, 2020
That's a symptom of postpartum depression. She'll be back for you. Encourage and follow her with caution because her body hasn't fully recovered yet.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by BrutusOj(m): 11:48pm On Apr 16, 2020
Casemiro:
shocked




It is either childbirth made her treat you so... or,




or someone else is shining that place for her...


Just pray it's childbirth and she isn't seeing someone else secretly


shocked
Small thing you guys will start shouting someone is shinning it for her. Have you been cut by a razor blade before? Three months is small for the wound to heal totally from inside. How do you enjoy the sex when she is in pain? If any complication arise now, same you will start running Helter skelter. Las Las he won't even do any meaningful thing out but want to endanger the lady. Calm down let the woman heal and get strong.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by SpeciallyUnique(m): 11:50pm On Apr 16, 2020
If Alhaji suddenly brings in another wife you’ll say he’s wicked and uncivilized!!
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by biggy26: 11:50pm On Apr 16, 2020
Olofin2:


I don't keep friends. So I'm always at home. Our baby understands me more than anyone because if she's crying and refuses to be soothed by her mother, she would stop crying once her mother angrily dumps her on me. It's only breastfeeding that our baby can't get from me. I know so much about medical things and wife would consult me first before applying anything on the baby. Financially, it can be said that I'm the one working for the salary she's receiving monthly (you can't understand this aspect) and we only spend my own salary.

So, does she wants me to get intimacy from somewhere else?
I feel you bro, somethings are just too difficult to understand especially with women.
Don't get bitter, just give her some time. But keep going back from time to time so she doesn't get used to it, and you don't too.
A man that loves his wife will always desire her. You will get through this.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Prechy08(m): 11:51pm On Apr 16, 2020
haba, guy .. she just delivered, and through CS.
bro's she will come around, trust me that thing no easy, some people Wait for 6 months after birth.
give her some time bros.
nobody is shining her, it's just emotional, passing through all that especially it's her 1st.
Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Luckysbab: 11:53pm On Apr 16, 2020
Olofin2:


I don't keep friends. So I'm always at home. Our baby understands me more than anyone because if she's crying and refuses to be soothed by her mother, she would stop crying once her mother angrily dumps her on me. It's only breastfeeding that our baby can't get from me. I know so much about medical things and wife would consult me first before applying anything on the baby. Financially, it can be said that I'm the one working for the salary she's receiving monthly (you can't understand this aspect) and we only spend my own salary.

So, does she wants me to get intimacy from somewhere else?

Islam recommends more than one wife.
It is a good way to have peace of mind

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