Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by SweetCunt97(f): 6:30pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:30pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
NL guys can wail.... ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Anything to get online sympathy ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Funny enough, these guys will never see their own actions as big deals but will hate and criticize the woman's reactions. So pitiable! 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by PURITYAUTOZ: 6:31pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Gracealone: The main issue that may make your wife disrespect you is your lack of money. If you are the breadwinner, it cannot be this bad. MY BROTHER IT DOESN’T WORK OUT THAT WAY AGAIN.. I HAVE SEEN HOUSE WIFE THAT THE HUSBAND PROVIDES 99.9% OF EVERYTHING AND YET THE WOMAN HAS NO IOTA OF RESPECT FOR THE MAN... 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by brownemmanuel43(m): 6:32pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Most of this kind of shit are caised by men. I believe that before u got married to her, there are some signs she must hv displayed, but guys will always like to ignore hoping dat u will change her. U CANT CHANGE AN ADULT. See baba, go out and enjoy yourself jare before u go join ur ancestors all bcs of wife. Baba u are young to die 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by HundredWays(m): 6:33pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Endtime Husband ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by miltonchux(m): 6:34pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
hollah123: like seriously I never read this part b4 I made my first comment....u cheated ,yea she might not see it as a big deal after u begged but u have a boy from that(evidence of cheating).Do u know how heartbroken she was when she heard that after everything I both went through n what u work towards
She can never forget n she knows irrespective of whatever she laboured together with u a strange woman will b a part of it someday cos u will give d boy something n d boy will give his mother.Bro at this stage of your life, all u need for yourself is a soft landing cos the children are old enough to see everything.
Pray to God,change your ways n convince them alot that u are truly a changed man
All d best It happens, I have a lady her man got another woman pregnant why she has not had a baby yet. They are both living happily and she later had hers. Why is all the unforgiveness and bitterness and to even resort to brainwash the kids to disrespect there dad. Whoever support such act is evil. My parents never quarrel in our present or make us know they have misunderstand. That is maturity. The man should leave the home for her, let's see how she will cope. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by NiCurious: 6:34pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
yeyeosoronga: While you were too busy with your concubines, fire was burning under your roof. You weren't there for your older children when they probably needed you the most as you were busy spending your time and money with your opekes. You better don't make the same mistake with the younger ones. The older ones seem to have given up on you. and have learnt how not to rely on you because you've probably let them down in the past with your absence. They didnt even care you were away dead or alive for 3 whole days. Anyway, my advice for you is to work on your children one on one. Let them get to know you individually. Start taking your eldest child with you when you go out, and ask him/her to escort you so you get to spend individual time together. Do same for the others, and don't spend time with them all together but individually till you are able to earn their trust again before you start spending time all together. It's a long journey, which you can still redeem yourself before your children. Don't let them see a father that abandons his children for 3 days because he is angry at their mother, don't let them see a father that comes home drunk, don't let them see a father that puts his concubines needs above theirs. Ask them to come directly to you if they need anything, give them pocket money weekly (yes, the older ones will have some minor needs. It doesn't have to be a lot. Even if it is 500naira for data) Beating the older ones at this stage will only further alienate them from you, as that ship has long sailed. Good luck as you make amends with your children. At least give it your best shot. Unfortunately, your marriage is dead. I'm not sure if you have the energy to revive it, but if you have wronged your wife apologise and ask her what she wants. A divorce to end the misery for both of you or another go at the marriage. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by DanseMacabre(m): 6:35pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
silifx: sorry, brother.
for me, I prefer to make enough money and then a full-time housewife. when a woman is dependent on you, they take instruction from you.
never never never let your wife share your responsibilities with you, the whole world will hear about it
Bros for this time and age ![](/faces/huh.png) Like say you wan old quick quick o. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by dominique(f): 6:35pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Timileyin1234: If you have your money, get another woman pregnant and leave them. She is a bitter woman. That was why our fore-fathers pluralized women Somebody whey don born 5pikin expecting me to be faithful. I can’t take my wife inciting my children against me, if I couldn’t beat senses into her, I would marry another wife @bolded, why can't you be faithful to your wife after 5 kids? |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Luper123(m): 6:36pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
If you did controlled your anger like you wrote,and have never raised your hand against your wife,i want to commend you, you're a strong man,real strength lies in our ability to control ourselves under provocation.My advice is:CONQUER BAD WITH THE GOOD.Your wife is not bad,but what is happening is bad,try to win back your family with good deeds.There's a lot of meaning to this advice,and it will surely work.Over time your wife will change and open up to you.Feel free to pm me for substantial points. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:36pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: Good evening ladies and gents...
My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.
Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.
The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.
I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.
I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.
I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...
Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough... Lol, you should rot in pains. You deserve every bit of what you are going through. When you cheated on your wife, you don't know the pains she went through, she's even still in the same house with you. Anyway, that's my prayer for all evil people, and I'm glad you are going through such pains because my prayers is being answered. For the sake of humanity, I will advise that you continue to persevere, and after 3years of persevering, begging your wife and doing the right things, you will be forgiven naturally by your wife and children. Truth is that, I would do worse for anyone that dare hurt my mother. You broke the heart of your children, they are too young for that, you didn't care about their feelings, the trauma would be with them forever,and would damage a lot of things in your children psychic as an adult. Even if I'm your neighbour, I would not greet you for hurting those beautiful children. That's how much I hate cheaters, and people who break trusts and promises without a second thought. If you can't endure for 3years and keep pacifying your family, then you still don't know the gravity of what you have done. Emotional pains hurt more than physical pains, it takes time for the wound you have created to heal, and wound don't just heal unless you prevent tetanus from entering, and care for the wound. So you have to wait for the wounds to heal since you didn't care before you wounded your wife. If you hurt her again, be waiting for a heavier consequence, because I daily pray for Karma and thousands of people does, so you won't escape it. Serves you right 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Positivepoint(m): 6:37pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: Good evening ladies and gents...
My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.
Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.
The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.
I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.
I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.
I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...
Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough... Add another wife build another family. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by bhest(m): 6:37pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
deco22: Did you skip past the part where he cheated three times and got one of them pregnant? So because she cheated on the wife that should be a moral justification for turning the children against there father? Haba! Did u take ur time to think about the long time effects of her behavior on the children cause its just a matter of time before they start rebelling against her, and nobody I repeat nobody will be able to help them again as they head towards their collective doom. So bringing children into the fight is never an option. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:38pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
dominique:
@bolded, why can't you be faithful to your wife after 5 kids? Why are you asking a fool question? What answer are you expecting from a fool |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her,
You're the architect of your own undoing..... Nonsense 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Timileyin1234(m): 6:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
dominique:
@bolded, why can't you be faithful to your wife after 5 kids? Madam dominique. maybe I was tired of eating the same soup for too long 1 Like
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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Bola146(f): 6:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Kenneth10110:
Shut up if you can't type with brain because your a woman?.
Covid has entered your brain, Pele. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
miltonchux:
It happens, I have a lady her man got another woman pregnant why she has not had a baby yet. They are both living happily and she later had hers. Why is all the unforgiveness and bitterness and to even resort to brainwash the kids to disrespect there dad. Whoever support such act is evil. My parents never quarrel in our present or make us know they have misunderstand. That is maturity. The man should leave the home for her, let's see how she will cope. You will end up in hell trust me. So women should be happy and swallow pains? Men should continue to hurt women intentionally and you expect the woman to forgive and forget? It will not be better for anyone that wants women to suffer emotionally and physically because of a useless he goat 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by egbetokuns(m): 6:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
You never convinced your wife about your repentance.she totally lost trust in you. You really had a good wife. It's good that she reported you to your kids. You need to stand and face everything at this stage. Pray about it and give your life to Christ. Serve God and commit your family into it as well. God can heal her wound .. your really cause trouble by your indiscipline. Stand up for your right Now 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Bola146(f): 6:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Tsolutionifede: u think u dey make sense, continue begging, for what, common ignore those children and focus ur resources on the ones that love u, las las they will come back to appreciate u. See one irresponsible boy ![lipsrsealed](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/lipsrsealed.png) 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Letoma(m): 6:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
I am really happy for Mr Paul,you can not get a Godly advice better than what wonderful Nairalanders have given you here, I say thanks to everyone that has contributed positively, you guys are the best. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by deavicky(m): 6:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Remove her teeth with blow. I mean ur wife. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Timileyin1234: Madam dominique. maybe I was tired of eating the same soup for too long Guess she decided to spice things up for you..... Nonsense |
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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Bola146(f): 6:42pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
bhest:
Here is a typical replica of ur wife. I pity the unlucky man that will this one and perhaps ur unlucky children. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) God forbid irresponsible and useless men like you, monkey! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Ladycewhy(f): 6:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:
Yes I have hurt my wife a lot in the past ... I have cheated on her so many times with 3 different women.... I impregnated one of them ... my son is 6 years old... I sincerely apologised to her and promised that I will never cheats on her again... she has forgiven me ... that was 6 years ago and I haven’t cheated don her since. All these misunderstandings we are having has nothing to do with me cheating.... my main problem is the way she has turned the kids against me ... anytime we are having some issues ... she keep malice with me and will tell the kids to do the same thing... and when things get back to normal again... she will tell them to start talking with me... your karma is being served to you oga cheater eat am make e belle full you,nonsense! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by KingZaddy(m): 6:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
cococandy: The deliberate bad grammar gives away the fakeness of the story do you people just read through things and conclude its fake? or you want to find a way of siding the lady |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by obowunmi(m): 6:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Gracealone: The main issue that may make your wife disrespect you is your lack of money. If you are the breadwinner, it cannot be this bad. Facts. Too many LAZY men everywhere. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by hope4nigeria(m): 6:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: Good evening ladies and gents...
My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.
Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.
The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.
I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.
I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.
I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...
Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough... is the house your house or your wife house? If you own/rent the house with your money? Send your wife and her 3elder kids away, then keep the two loyal once, when their brain reset , they craw back begging you, if they are adamant, note that they are not your family members and move on else they will eliminate you. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Olunmercy56:
Thank you! Even if his wife is wicked, his children can't be so foolish to listen or follow their father's instructions. Something is fishy he wasn't close to his kids. Children are not fools. They know who really loves and pits in extra effort for them. He'll truly hath no fury like a scorned woman I also want to hear the wife's side of the story 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Timileyin1234(m): 6:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
ibinaboonline: Ha. This kind wife him dey talk, the moment him travel na so wife go replace am sharp sharp and the children go already dey call the new man 'daddy.' This advice no be better one o Then u know nothing about what blood means |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ImaIma1(f): 6:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Timileyin1234:
Women will always have upper hand on children when it comes to parenting. Wake up jare if u are sleeping while typing this You are the one that needs to wake up. Parenting is not only for the mother. Men have learnt because they don't want to be left out. Instead of conveniently leaving the task of caring for the kids to the woman, it's better to get involved and get acquainted with them. Out of the Op's 5 children, all of them take the mother's side. That says a lot. 3 Likes |