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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by chaloskyx: 9:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Are you kidding me you are worrying over a woman do you know how many girls are out there? also you should know that its obvious your babe isnt ready to marry you because shes got her eyes for someone who is already made. so right now finish med school do your masters and be successful also do not reveal your travel plans to her if not all you would marry would be a gold digger who would suck you dry and make you miserable. what you need is someone who believes in your future and is willing to grow with you. |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Lexusgs430: 9:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Giwoni: What would it profit a man, that wants to forcefully marry a woman, that does not want to marry him.......... Lifetime of heartaches........ 1 Like |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 9:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
But Anambra can collect and chop Ebonyi money or ego. The kind thunder that will fire her. Broz, Kindly look for a serious and committed partner. Wetin Ebonyi people do other igbo self. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by brightalo1010: 9:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Spaceclenzy1:oga once an Anambra babe open her mouth and say her mother advised her not to marry from Ebonyi state, Abia or Imo state,just forget it. In this case the girl is already on her mother's side which means the op don't stand any chance unless he's son of current Ebonyi state governor. Op just clean yourself up and move on. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Happyguy201: 9:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
oga you could have just killed her. and use her for money ritual shes more than EVIL. tufiakwa . |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by osaro6: 9:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
so sad, bro take hrt..my advice to you is to wait for the person cus dat one nor be your own and dis time never use money so that you care the most.. Real guys pretends to be stingy at the first time,when dey re looking for the love of their life;mind you i didn't mean Girlfriend Buh what i mean is when looking for a girl that will be the mother of your children. So bro in conclusion ,take hrt the right person will come in ease form without money |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by tasceige(m): 9:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Dude just move on. I'm dead sure you have other girls trying to get your attention. Set it staright with her, the relationship is over sinking she ain't interested anymore, but you gotta be diplomatic and patient about it.She would come back but be prepared for it. |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Liliantalks: 9:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Samakus:okay sir |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Johnadeniyi: 9:45pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Bro,am not here to add to ur injuries but the truth is u never had a gf in d beginning...she's only using u to survive in school n now that the coast is clear.... she's jumping off.like most commenters rightly said,brace up n forget abt her already,there r lot of fishes in d water bro. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by manuelreports: 9:45pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
That point and kill part cracked me up My guy you even dey calculate that one join. Next time don't spend a dime on a girl you have not married. women are like bleeze, it can blow to anywhere at any time |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Samuelenus2: 9:45pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
T3ndrils:my brother. Women are not meant to be maltreated. It's just that he found the wrong lady that is just the simple thing. Relationship is just a complex thing in which when you jam the wrong person, you taught all are the same |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by squad03: 9:46pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
This is a sad one. That's a whole investment ,gone just like that.But these things happen,people make bad business deals,cargoes sink, properties get lost in fires.Treat it as a bad business deal,sulk a bit but be intentional about moving on by putting an expiry date on counting your loss,then pick yourself up. She will come back,but in whatever form she advertises herself,don't be available to find out how to move along from where you left off. Resist the temptation to find out how she's doing,that's someone else's business now. Don't make excuses for her, she's an adult and she has made her decision. It won't be easy but you'll be fine. Whatever you do,don't snooze on your hustle so that whenever karma brings her back your way, she'll meet you right at the top. 1 Like |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Sarah20A(f): 9:46pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Johntitus:he is not the problem. As a woman I once shouldered a man's responsibilities for the fact that the guy was an asshole doesn't mean I should take the bitterness to my recent relationship. If we truly love someone, automatically their problems become ours so the OP wasn't foolish or stupid for helping the woman he loves. My advice for the OP is for him to move on ,it might be hard at first but is the best thing to do.just move on don't think about it too much, do things that we make you happy and try to forget about her 1 Like |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 9:47pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Giwoni:Do you want to die for someone who has shown early signs of a traitor? Go and rejoice. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Arewa1408: 9:47pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Firstly, were you guys in a relationship? I mean you guys were doing the do and all? Even if she promised to marry you, and now she changed her mind, why all the anger? Cos of small money you spent on her? If she were a male friend that was in need trust me you most probably will spend money on him too so dont look at it as money wasted. She came out clean and said her mum says NO, and she cannot go against her mum, That says one thing, she is not interested in marrying you, period. Its not her fault, dont blame her, maybe youre not her type. Just wish her well, forget the small change and move on. All that money spent in 5 years, you will make it in two weeks pay in the USA, so how much is it sef? Now, this is where you will become a big mumu, this lady will most probably come back if someone else breaks her heart and she will expect you to take her back and blame it on devil or the mum, or Medical school stress etc, Now, if you take her back, for any reason, then you need to become a pure water seller because you dont have brains to actually treat people. All the best. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by giftylyn(f): 9:48pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Giwoni,have read through this and I know you love her buh lemme surprise you..what is yours will always be yours...uv spent alot and sacrificed your time for her...God sees what's ahead that you haven't seen, marriage is no man's joke or a child's play,u don't know what u would have faced on the long run of ur union with her,God is actually preparing a special package for you,a better and a sweeter wife.heartbreak is always depressing buh if you look unto God and wait on him he will give you someone that will shower you with love double of what you gave her..leave it God,he really cares and loves you.. please stay safe, GODBLESS YOU 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by ume1000: 9:48pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Any girl that ask for her parents permission to marry a guy she has been dating for five years is DATING MULTIPLE GUYS AT THE SAME TIME 5 Likes |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by valnd: 9:48pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Well truth be told, Anambra people doesn't regard Ebonyi people as anything. In fact in Anambra they refer to Ebonyi people as Nwa Aba. If it's opposite side, the marriage will work. I will advice you to leave the girl for now She is under the influence of her parents, friends etc. Move on with your life, strive to be successful, it will be part of story you will tell. Wish you all the best in life. 2 Likes |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Viking007(m): 9:49pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
danduchi:Giwoni, Please listen to this advice. Block her number, cut her off completely. Engage in activities that'll keep you very busy. I know it's not easy (I've been there) but trust me, it's the ONLY solution. 2 Likes |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Pickieox(m): 9:49pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Man, I can't really say this is the whole story you've captured simply because I've not heard from the other party. Well, all thing being said and done. First thing you need to do is to work on your mind to forget her. She is not the right woman for you. You should have sensed some contour signs in your relationship-you've been the only one there for her, and has she been there for you? That's a question you need to ask yourself. Bro, let her go like Passenger's Let Her Go. She is not tied to your future. Henceforth, keep looking to yourself and love yourself, work more on yourself and your mind and believe me, you will attract the right queen. Watch and listen to Passenger's music with lyric titled, Let Her Go and use it to tame your spirit, trust me you're going to be fine... 1 Like |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by AnanseK(m): 9:49pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Life is like that, young man; 1 Like
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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Mccullum: 9:49pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
You have learn your lesson in hard way, just be bold to manage the emotional pains that you'll pass through okay, try to quickly summon your courage by looking for new young ladies as that will systematically erase her in your mind, I'm no asking to your rush in to serious relationship - I meant use another girl as an antidote to emotional pains and move on gradually for brighter and rewarding future, please never beg her because there is no compulsion in love, the true love will never lie; only if you observe very well, you will understand more. |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Finemanas(m): 9:49pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Permit me to say, and am sorry to say This girl Neva love u from the beginning She's just using u as a maga If truly she loves u she can go beyond her mum we've seen people do that Love knows no bounds Am sorry bro The girl is gone and am sure she's gone for good After all you've done for her out of love, it's normal to feel emotionally drained Don't let it weigh u down We have a lot of beautiful decent, and well manared career girls out there but until u forget about her u won't see one Good luck bro Wish u speedy recovery |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Isaacmacdon(m): 9:49pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Guys, even though you have the money, never use it as a means to attract a girl. You'll only Attract hungry ones. It could also mean you're the gentle, calm type, but you're a gentleman who doesn't mind spending on the one you Love. At the end, it's better to take a break. Chill out a bit. You need a break. She's only in for what she's going to gain. Call her "Opportunist" if you wish. You'll do better. I can assure you that. |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by tomju(m): 9:50pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
I really did not want to comment on this topic but that will be unfair to the OP. I had a similar experience. My own case was slightly different. I didn't sponsor the girl in it's entirety through medical school but as soon as we started dating in her year 2. I started spending and supporting her financially through university/ medical school. Clothes, shoes, cash etc. Her parents did too . There are some things her parents could not provide, I did. We got engaged in her final year. As soon as she came back from youth service, story changed. Her mum wanted her to marry a doctor too! Not an engineer. He dad wants this, that. Long story short she called it off. 7 years of love, relationship turned sour. Even after giving up on marrying a white girl that was really pestering me, but came back to naija for this girl! So much money spent. Anyway, one advice for you. Move on. It's safer to land someone who loves you for real, than force yourself on someone who's heart and interest is outside. One thing the girls don't understand is that you can't choose wealth over happiness. You must use your head. Your parents will not live with the husband. You will. Go with a man with potentials and the rest will be fine. So move on and forget her. You deserve better. 11 Likes |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by SavageBoy: 9:50pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
MARX77: My guy you killed it... Let's give this commenter a standing ovation 1 Like |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Joefat: 9:51pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
I think the problem we have right here is just that, this guy in question seems like a get inside guy to me.. He doesn't seems exposed.. Trust my Lagos guys, at SS1.. They can't fall a victim like this guy do. But here is the thing.. There's is a family rules, but love above all rules.. If this gal really love you, all she will have in her mind, is Bleep rules.. And mind you.. Do you made your research very well that, all this lady was saying about her mom say this, mom say that was directly from her mom?. Or maybe she has feed up of the relationship which she doesn't know how to tell it to your face or break up with you. Maybe that's the reason why she's hiding under her mom shadow.. But my advice for you, you have a long way to go. And I expect you to take this as a lesson. Move on... |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Olude193: 9:51pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Owo ti Jo Naa Move on She had this plan right from onset |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by here: 9:51pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
You were in love and you supported her that’s fine. She has told you she can’t go against her mother so move on and let her be be a man and tell her you reasoned it and want her to follow her mum advice. She might come back but pls don’t accept. You are a medical student for f sake behave like one seriously not seen a potential Mbbs being this childish over mls. You need to focus on that remaining yr and pass your course and focus on training under the best housemanship rather than this ur mentality. You’re there complaining she listens to her mother when you are planing marriage not because you are ready but because your elder brother told you to. How did you pass your medical exams really? You’re in a relationship and a girl is even given u ultimatum if you don’t pass no show what kind of childish relationship? How can patients be left in your care when your this childish in opinions of life? As I said before move on and you need to work on yourself you have personal esteem issues pls |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by IkeJAH(m): 9:52pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
My brother, your story is quite pathetic, and full of emotions. From experience, it will be very difficult for you to marry her.Even if you do,the marriage may cut your life early.As I said earlier,love is all about a special feeling,but marriage is practically about commitment, from a man and a woman that love each other DEEPLY. Your acclaimed girl friend does not have any form of commitment to marry you(though,from your narration). Sadly too,from onset,you presented yourself as an ATM ,which she manipulates at her own will. Lastly, and most important bro, for your health and future, brace up and move on with your studies. She would always attach herself to you even after the breakup bc of the financial benefit she enjoys from you. Search for a woman that loves you for who you are (including your ethnicity, et al) and not what you can offer her. My best wishes. |
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by zyzxx(m): 9:52pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Giwoni:bro, I feel your pain, is it the years we should talk about? Is it the love that you closed your mind that she will be the only one you will spend your life with, etc But bro if you look closely, you will see that God is saving you... A lady you practically served for 5 years, without any guilt or conscience, can face you that her mum said no, bro be thanking you head you didn't marry Her Bro let me tell you this, I don't no maybe you are a Christian o, there is something about God, it is called restoration, man cannot restore time, but God can Let her go, lock yourself inside play Christan song, dance away your sorrow and praise God and come and see how God will give you what eyes have not seen, what ears have not heard, what hasn't come to the mind of man A wife That one up there is not a wife, she is a gf And Pls note this, some people came into your life in the first place so that they can leave So why bitter about such person Pls send this text to her "the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the name of that lord" wish her well 1 Like |
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