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I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 12:47pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
I ave cut ties with all my family , I feel so lonely and bored but it is the best thing I ever had to do. Am 28 years old a single mother of 2 children by 2 different fathers ,uneducated, jobless , broke , 28 years old but I looked like a 98 years old. Every churches I goes to for deliverance they keep telling me my mum is the course of all my problems. She is using my destiny to be rich which is very true , my mum is rich , she has houses and all her extended family depends on her. None her siblings are rich they are all after her money. My dad on the other side is very arrogant, he is been treating me and my kids especially my second daughter like a piece of shit . Last time we had an arguments he called me fat cow , all am doing is getting fat and not marriage , got angry and insult him back. He kicked me and my kids out of the house. Luckily I Ave manage to get myself a place to stay with my kids , we are managing okay. As for my siblings , for my sister nothing good on her side too , she is also a single mother still living with parents , I don’t have a good bond with my sister because she has always insulted me and my kids calling them bastards or whatever , luckily she is also got pregnant and got dumped by her baby daddy now she is felt the pain I have been through y, she is trying as much as to get close to me but I keep rejecting her , I don’t want her , she was never good with me , now because she is in the same shoes as me , that’s why she is trying to be nice to me but I don’t need her. I love my younger so much , he is the best brother and uncle to my kids , he never treated them bad and is still at school studying computer science he is only 20 I strongly believe he will make us proud one day. I ave cut ties with all of them for one month now , I missed my brother a lot but I had to do it for my own sanity. I don’t need toxic parents or sister . Sometimes I cries but I don’t regret cutting ties with all of them. I don’t really know why I am writing this but I just felt like to speak up and get this out of my mind 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Harllaby: 12:49pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Hmm. This your story is very complicated o. So many questions that need answers. But no matter how bad it might be you will always need to call on someone. What about the baby daddies? Do you have a close friend? How has your relationship between you and your parent be before this occurance happened? Hard times don't last hopefully you will get past it. But I will strongly advice to overlook what any church priest says about your mummy using your destiny they will only complicate issue and can even destroy family relationship. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by DanseMacabre(m): 12:51pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
You need to cut ties with bad grammar too. ![]() All those quoting me, calm down na. OP's use of terrible grammar is deliberate and I'm calling him/her out for it. Make una advise am free mah comment na. Shuo! 10 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by naijaloan: 12:52pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
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Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by naijaloan: 12:52pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
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Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by TrollPolice001: 12:56pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
It is well, people dey find molebi some dey reject theirs. Who get head no get cap 4 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by catwalq(f): 12:56pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
I don't know your story but I always believed we should run towards family, not away from them. I pray you find peace. 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by donbachi(m): 12:57pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
DanseMacabre:e get who grammar do giveaway for dis period? with all the grammar una govt dey speak,no palliatives? 14 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by donbachi(m): 12:58pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Follow them with prayers..no be gra gra. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Sundrus: 1:00pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Funny thing be say u go think say na ur problem worse pass, but if u start to hear other people own, u go know say ur matter no too bad. My advice for u na say make u take really good care of those kids cuz them no plan to come this horrible world. Na the mistake way u make na e bring them come this life. So, abeg make sure say their well being na ur utmost priority. 9 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Belafonte(m): 1:02pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
TrollPolice001: A child with no parents has a better advantage in life than the one raised in a toxic environment 12 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by TrollPolice001: 1:04pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Belafonte:Like I said, it's well! |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by SweetCunt97(f): 1:06pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
In the end, it's your happiness that really matters. As for someone tapping your glory, no one can unless you give them the go ahead to do that. People will easily blame the rich man to b responsible for d predicament of d poor one. 3 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Ningen(m): 1:09pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
You made a wrong decision. Why do you have to be socially distant from common sense?? From your post, you don't have anyone. You don't have a man or a family to run too. If something bad happens to you, who are you going to entrust your kids too?? — Nobody. ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Nobody: 1:18pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Nothing is just right about OP 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by jikins(m): 1:30pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx: Modified, E be things. Just be prayerful and trust God. Things will only get better. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by tyup(m): 1:35pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
DanseMacabre: Shut up....im pretty sure lotta ur family members can't even speak half of how she does 7 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 1:36pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Harllaby:My baby daddies are married now , I don’t have any contacts with them but I still see them on Facebook . When I had my first daughter in 2010 her father and family wanted to come and do introduction but my parents refused. My dad said he did not want to see him near his house. We broke up because of my parents. Second child I got pregnant just 2 months into the relationship, baby daddy wasn’t ready. We broke up too. My parents had never care to know about my second baby daddy because for them is good I keep having kids without father. I remembered my mum asking me to go and have a third child luckily it will be a boy this time around , when she is knows that am single no man but she don’t mind me keep getting pregnant , I find it very strange even told my aunty her sister , she was shocked and told me to pray hard. One thing about me every time I join a church by the time I start getting serious praying , something will happens to make me hate the church and run away. I have been changing churches like underwear, I can’t stay in one church and I ave been to more than 20 churches is always mum they are telling me she is the course of my problem. I don’t have a close friend , I only have my children and God , my prayer to God is to keep protecting me so I will be there for my children |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by tyup(m): 1:38pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: 97% of world's Rich people exploit the poor to become rich n gather wealth cuz that is the easiest way 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 1:40pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
I ave been maturbating and watching porn since I was 8-9 years old still doing now , I am addictive to it , in a day I can do it about 3-4 times , deliverances don’t help my life because I keep going to the same lifestyles over and over again. Why would my own mother do this to me just because of money? 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by tyup(m): 1:41pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Sundrus: Hmmm this is seriously serious that ion even know what to tell you but Vickiyxx I suggest this guy's advice is the best advice me to can give you atm |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by SweetCunt97(f): 1:49pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
tyup:True. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by SweetCunt97(f): 1:51pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx:It's good you've cut ties with them. Follow it up with spiritual cutting of ties too. When u have a suitor, simply go for court wedding to avoid stories. 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by babythug(f): 1:51pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
It is what it is! At this point the only place left to go is “up”. Your sharing your story here is part of your recovery process and I wish you the very best henceforth. The allegations against your mum may or may not be true but don’t let it hold you down be determined to rise from the complexities/complications that have happened to you so far. You are not a victim but a conqueror. Be prayerful and determined to be successful no matter what. Focus and be diligent at your source of income . Manage your resources to the best of your ability and just be determined to succeed henceforth. Let your children drive you and be your motivation. You will not be the first nor last to have these kind of challenges but make up your mind to be different by succeeding against all odds. I wish you well P.S- what skills do you have that can be used as a source of income? Someone may be able to assist you in that area. 7 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by SweetCunt97(f): 1:53pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Ningen:What wrong decision? Must we tolerate nonsense from parents just because they are parents? Nothing will happen to her pls.. Stop being negative. There are friends better than family. Suffering and smiling gang. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Yustash001(m): 1:58pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Chai...... It's complicated.. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Osobi32(m): 2:04pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
DanseMacabre:easy pls...... She made it clear that she's not educated. I think her grammar is OK compare to some slay queens 3 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by DanseMacabre(m): 2:12pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
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Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by moonberry: 2:18pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
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Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Richy4(m): 2:19pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
DanseMacabre: I think u are on the wrong section. The Romance Section is just between crime and job/vacancy sections.. There, u will find your age mates 2 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Harllaby: 2:38pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx:Hmm. Don't continue dwelling in your past. You are not the first certainly. Your future now is your kids. From your write-up, your first child should be around age 8 to 10. Definitely needs a good parental upbringing especially as she grow into teen hood. Right now, you need to work on yourself, find something doing like situable work you can engage in. Build and create a good relationship with people around you. It's until you're empowered mature and responsible men will look your way. By the way, you keep mentioning your mum as is the cause of your dialema. Do you think her wealth bring you this dialema you're facing? |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by nana228(f): 2:47pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
I might sound harsh but at this point, you need to tell yourself the truth. Take responsibility for your actions and take charge of your life because of your children. I don't believe it is your mother's doing that you are in this position, this is my view. Everything you are going through, you have attributed it to every other person but you. You have shared blames between your mom, dad and sister and you are even somewhat happy that your sister is in your position and strangely none is your fault. I'm afraid if you continue like this, there will be no change. I think your problem is your mind, you need to abandon some line of thoughts. You should have learnt your lesson after your first child and started insisting on condoms before you slept with anyone, please start doing this for your sake and that of your children. Secondly, the solution to your problem does not lie in a church, you are an adult and this pandemic should have shown you that miracles are rare. How many pastors have healed a Coronavirus patient? Most churches are communities where you share and worship. Stop running from church to church, look for one you are comfortable with and stick with it, no church is perfect. Stop looking for people to "see" and pray you out of what you are going through now. Thirdly, I believe there are terrible families and sometimes it is OK to cut ties. If you are doing this, you also need to have a strong support system, with the state of your mind you will need someone to talk to and unburden your heart but be weary of people that are wolves in sheep's clothing. Finally, you need to get something doing. You have 2 children and they need to go to school and be taken care of. Are your baby daddies able to help financially to take care of their children? If they are, accept it and also look for ways you can get something to support yourself. Edit: accept that what has happened has happened, what your focus should be is the way forward and how to be a role model for the girls you are raising. I wish you good luck. 13 Likes 1 Share |
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