| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by LaJoe2: 4:06pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Don't lend him money, dash him
(Note: Give the amount you know you can forfeit)
But for you to post about this, relationship wise, I'm more worried for him, than for you.
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| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Vivikema: 4:06pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price  the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borrowers Please 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by WiseStarr(m): 4:07pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borrowers First female comment, i knew this would be different..... Ladies ehn only God fit epp D reason we dey suffer na because eve(female) ate the forbidden fruit yet you blamed us for it. 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by EM123: 4:10pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Trailblazer93:
Hmm, even if you give her money not will not stop her from fucking som1 dat is not given her nada... When I dy skul e dis babe wey I dy Bleep steady and I no dy give her shishi, she get guy wey dy gv her everything yet babe dy cum crash for my place. Na she dy mostly call me sef (maybe cuz I hottt sha  . So my guy no be wetin you gv her naim go mak her stay. I no say mak no dy greedy oo but mak sure say the babe no dy finger ur brain Bro no mater how much u give girl she go still Bleep another person, talking about the babe u use to Bleep in school i must say that u are lucky and she like u , girl no dey like guy because he handsome or cute , if she like u she no go demand anything from u , even olosho when like u no go collect anything from u . |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Candoit: 4:11pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
First of all, hope you're parents and siblings are not in need themselves. Charity begins at home they say
Next, I think you have created an impression to him that you are financially rich enough to borrow and even dash him. So, he seeks you as first choice when he has brothers or friends. Don't get me wrong, its not bad but it's not good either.
I would advise you correct that impression gradually. As for the 40k he needs now, it's not compulsory u give him the full money. You can give him 30.
Both parties should not turn the other to ATM machine in any relationship |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Niffy1960: 4:12pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borrowers �typical talk from a girl that doesn’t understand life 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by frozen70(f): 4:13pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,
I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.
In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.
When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.
Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him? As a fellow woman like you, I will advise you give him pls, these are my reasons He has been a darling from the day you have been dating He loves you and his love has kept you guys going This lockdown has reduced some men to begging and the decent ones doesn't even like it but they don't have options Am glad you have more than enough to give, pls give him any amount you don't hope to collect back, just because of this pandemic period, that is your own contribution If he is hard working and not the gold digger type or someone that expects you to be spending for him Then he is a good person to be with Once more give him but don't tell him it's a dash, whenever he returns it to you, tell him to keep it yet and don't talk about it again When next he ask from you, of which I hope he doesn't, tell him to use that reserve 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by kalvoken(m): 4:16pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Margy:
Give him 20k or even 15k. He will not die!
Babe... irrespective you need to save!... don't be like Melinda of the movie Acrimony But Melinda's case is different. She always had a problem with being patience, always angry. Dude never lied to her but woman will always be a woman. |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
bamidelee:
It's her money, why are you abusing her? You can't do it as well stop been an hypocrite Yes, it's her money. But the moment she brought her relationship affair here on social media, she should take any response that comes her way. As for me being a hypocrite, no need to argue this. You don't know me. But be rest assured that if my babe ask me for money because she has no foodstuff (because her source of income has been stopped due to the lockdown), I will give her the amount without coming to ask first on Nairaland. Coupled with the fact that what she asked for is "chicken change" to me and I have enough! |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by DanDeeBoss(m): 4:20pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Since you have much, at least lend him some Na...... 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by maya007: 4:21pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Dont borrow him just dash him somtin u can dash him on a normal day,or better still go n get him d food stuff but wat will happen wen that set finishes? How wil he restock? |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by luluosas(m): 4:21pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Lend? You will be making the gravest mistake of your life.
Go and marry and stop sleeping around in the name of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Fornication is a deadly sin. Repent now, Jesus Christ loves you.
As for the money, in case you don't know how to invest, kindly lend me the money with 5% interest per annum. You won't believe how much you will made from the money without extra sweat.
Think about it.
God bless you 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by DanDeeBoss(m): 4:26pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
luluosas:
Lend? You will be making the gravest mistake of your life.
Go and marry and stop sleeping around in the name of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Fornication is a deadly sin. Repent now, Jesus Christ loves you.
As for the money, in case you don't know how to invest, kindly lend me the money with 5% interest per annum. You won't believe how much you will made from the money without extra sweat.
Think about it.
God bless you Making a grave mistake by helping someone in need??
Well-done @the second bold...... You're an unserious person, to think he even used Jesus Christ in his post 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 4:26pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
grandstar:
If I was dating you, I would dump you. You're not doing him a favor giving him money. It's what expected of you.
You should consider it a privilege for you to help him out when he's down. You don't need to come here to ask. He's ticked all the right boxes already so what do you want?
My senior brother told me he was a pauper when he married his Turkish wife. He said Nigerian girls were always sizing him. They are now comfortable.
My younger brother as well. They are okay now, living in a middle class part of London.
Many Nigerian guys have a fetish for white girls and it's this kind of behavior that causes it. They don't see a relationship as one sided where the man is the one always dropping money. They don't even ask for money!
Obviously if you're married and things are tough for him, your assistance to him will be limited. You're both one my friend. If he's down, you're down and vice versa. Investing in your marriage and husband is the best investment you can ever make. Lol. Why so pained? |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Lovexme(m): 4:27pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
luluosas:
Lend? You will be making the gravest mistake of your life.
Go and marry and stop sleeping around in the name of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Fornication is a deadly sin. Repent now, Jesus Christ loves you.
As for the money, in case you don't know how to invest, kindly lend me the money with 5% interest per annum. You won't believe how much you will made from the money without extra sweat.
Think about it.
God bless you You're just talking off point. Financial adviser. |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Xmen149(m): 4:28pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borrowers your last statement though..I wonder the kind of people you surround your self with.. |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Lovexme(m): 4:29pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
You guys are just wasting efforts advising her. If a guy opens a thread and typed all that, he'd be tagged a stingy man.  2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by KanuSE: 4:30pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Candoit:
First of all, hope you're parents and siblings are not in need themselves. Charity begins at home they say
Next, I think you have created an impression to him that you are financially rich enough to borrow and even dash him. So, he seeks you as first choice when he has brothers or friends. Don't get me wrong, its not bad but it's not good either.
I would advise you correct that impression gradually. As for the 40k he needs now, it's not compulsory u give him the full money. You can give him 30.
Both parties should not turn the other to ATM machine in any relationship
30k?  That's a month salary for some u know. Op should be checking to see if bf has exhausted all options b4 coming to her, if not, she needs to put a break on the freebies... IMO |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Candoit: 4:34pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
KanuSE:
30k? That's a month salary for some u know.
Op should be checking to see if bf has exhausted all options b4 coming to her, if not, she needs to put a break on the freebies... IMO True. Exactly my point. Let him try asking his friends, colleagues or siblings before turning to her. 30k is much abi? Should we make it 15k?. |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 4:34pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,
I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.
In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.
When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.
Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him? Where is his family? Where are his friends? Why do men want to burden their women. Women have problems too. Advice for you- only give money you don’t intend to get back. It’s scary you have dated for so long and he can’t sustain himself.. what if you got pregnant and needed him to man up... is this the man you want to get married to? Please shine your eye and read my story 2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Xmen149(m): 4:34pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,
I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.
In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.
When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.
Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him? aunty leave relationship aside ,.this is a time to stay alive. give him money for food stuff,.if you can accompany him too or take from your house to him if you cannot afford the money it's the smallest of things like this in this kind of period that makes one know whom should actually be seen around them for any reason |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by femi4: 4:35pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,
I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.
In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.
When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.
Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him? Are you one of the "all men are the same" crew? Always judge and deal with individuals based who they are and not on based on bad bitter experience |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by churchee: 4:35pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
I want to understand, so your boyfriend, the one you showered all those narratives of good quality on asked you to lend him money. You doubted him, because you thought he was lying, because you don't want him to be dependent or comfortable asking you for money, until you went to his house and confirmed that his food stuffs are finished or reduced to bearable minimum. Yet you did not give him, you came instead to Nairaland to ask strangers who are not part of the relationship to encourage you to give first, to be aware that you wish to help your boyfriend but wish not, to decide for or against what you think of your disfavoured boyfriend in a condition that perhaps caught him unawares.
I pity the young man because he would fight me if I tell him that you are not fit to be his life partner, he will believe nobody if he was told that you are almost wicked. I have nothing for you but may I nor my brothers nor my enemies never find your type as life partner. Tueh! |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by dondo83(m): 4:39pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Margy:
If it's chicken change.. then give him
I wonder how much you call chicken change!
If not..do not give him. Don't give him large money and expect him to pay back.. it's impossible.
Modified
Infact give him half of the chicken change so you don't be like Melinda of the movie Acrimony... you need to save... save for the rainy day!! Everything Melinda lost she got back in 2folds .. so what is your point exactly? Btw that movie thought us to be patient with our loved ones .. (never right off anyone ) cos things can change in a split second .. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Judybash93(m): 4:43pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
If y'all looking for a girlfriend, please stay away from people like this |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 4:44pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub:
Where is his family? Where are his friends? Why do men want to burden their women. Women have problems too. Advice for you- only give money you don’t intend to get back. It’s scary you have dated for so long and he can’t sustain himself.. what if you got pregnant and needed him to man up... is this the man you want to get married to? Please shine your eye and read my story thanks |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Lexusgs430: 4:45pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,
I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.
In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.
When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.
Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him? If you want to, make him sign an undertaking....... |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Phyde: 4:45pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
I don't know why ladies like this are not coming my way, only broke ass ladies that will depend on you for everything  |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by KanuSE: 4:46pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Candoit:
True. Exactly my point. Let him try asking his friends, colleagues or siblings before turning to her.
30k is much abi? Should we make it 15k?. We will have to beg Op on this one. Enúgbe...! 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 4:47pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
bamidelee:
It's her money, why are you abusing her? You can't do it as well stop been an hypocrite thank you o. See him sounding as if he kept money with me |
| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by KanuSE: 4:48pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Lexusgs430:
If you want to, make him sign an undertaking.......
Sign say wetin happen? 
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| Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Juliearth(f): 4:49pm On Apr 22, 2020 |
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,
I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.
In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.
When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.
Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him? Why punish this fellow over the sin of his predecessor? If you are truly in love, certain sacrifices (such as this one) would come off naturally. |
