emmysolo2001:
Good evening everyone,
Well today I don't know exactly how I'm feeling but I'd love to go straight to the point..
My boyfriend and I are going 2ru stuffs now he say I don't respect him and I accept that fact cuz I always walk out on our arguments,quarrels and so on but I'd never walk out on a normal day I walk away because I don't want to say what I'll end up regretting,I know myself and if I talk back at him I would speak out of line that's why I always walk away.....

This is probably the only bad character I have and accept I have
So recently I started chatting on WhatsApp because of school stuff so I could know wen we have lectures and so on and he hates social media but I asked him if I could and he agreed but now because my ex school mates added me to a school group and while posting pictures on the group the posted a picture of my ex and now he is upset I'm seeing my ex and that I'm chatting with guys and so on.

I have never cheated on this guy,for 3yrs I have loved,played and ignored my self just so he could be happy and when we have issues he goes out till night before returning home and when we fight he's the first to talk and apologize but I'm seeing a new side I don't understand.....I'm confused does he still feel the same way I do

stevmatt15:


Do you live with him? If yes
For how long?
Is he your boyfriend or fiance?

emmysolo2001:
Good evening everyone,
Well today I don't know exactly how I'm feeling but I'd love to go straight to the point..
My boyfriend and I are going 2ru stuffs now he say I don't respect him and I accept that fact cuz I always walk out on our arguments,quarrels and so on but I'd never walk out on a normal day I walk away because I don't want to say what I'll end up regretting,I know myself and if I talk back at him I would speak out of line that's why I always walk away.....

This is probably the only bad character I have and accept I have
So recently I started chatting on WhatsApp because of school stuff so I could know wen we have lectures and so on and he hates social media but I asked him if I could and he agreed but now because my ex school mates added me to a school group and while posting pictures on the group the posted a picture of my ex and now he is upset I'm seeing my ex and that I'm chatting with guys and so on.

I have never cheated on this guy,for 3yrs I have loved,played and ignored my self just so he could be happy and when we have issues he goes out till night before returning home and when we fight he's the first to talk and apologize but I'm seeing a new side I don't understand.....I'm confused does he still feel the same way I do

emmysolo2001:

Fiance

ibkayee:

I thought you were talking about your dad for a moment

Your boyfriend/fiance sounds like he has control issues

stevmatt15:


Do you live with him? If yes
For how long?
Is he your boyfriend or fiance?

Sundrus:
but she don state am 4 the post say na her boyfriend na.


OP, e be like say u dey live with the guy. If u dey live with the guy, time don reach make u pack ur load comot there oo... Relationship dey lose value when unmarried lovers dey cohabit.

Try work on urself, give urself respect; cuz if u fit respect urself u go fit respect am.

stevmatt15:

Serious one I must say
What is wrong with chatting?

emmysolo2001:
Good evening everyone,
Well today I don't know exactly how I'm feeling but I'd love to go straight to the point..
My boyfriend and I are going 2ru stuffs now he say I don't respect him and I accept that fact cuz I always walk out on our arguments,quarrels and so on but I'd never walk out on a normal day I walk away because I don't want to say what I'll end up regretting,I know myself and if I talk back at him I would speak out of line that's why I always walk away.....This is probably the only bad character I have and accept I have

So recently I started chatting on WhatsApp because of school stuff so I could know wen we have lectures and so on and he hates social media but I asked him if I could and he agreed but now because my ex school mates added me to a school group and while posting pictures on the group the posted a picture of my ex and now he is upset I'm seeing my ex and that I'm chatting with guys and so on.

I have never cheated on this guy,for 3yrs I have loved,played and ignored my self just so he could be happy and when we have issues he goes out till night before returning home and when we fight he's the first to talk and apologize but I'm seeing a new side I don't understand.....I'm confused does he still feel the same way I do

stevmatt15:


No bro, the guy wasn't her boyfriend, she said it is her fiance, read the comments above yours

emmysolo2001:
Good evening everyone,
Well today I don't know exactly how I'm feeling but I'd love to go straight to the point..
My boyfriend and I are going 2ru stuffs now he say I don't respect him and I accept that fact cuz I always walk out on our arguments,quarrels and so on but I'd never walk out on a normal day I walk away because I don't want to say what I'll end up regretting,I know myself and if I talk back at him I would speak out of line that's why I always walk away.....

This is probably the only bad character I have and accept I have
So recently I started chatting on WhatsApp because of school stuff so I could know wen we have lectures and so on and he hates social media but I asked him if I could and he agreed but now because my ex school mates added me to a school group and while posting pictures on the group the posted a picture of my ex and now he is upset I'm seeing my ex and that I'm chatting with guys and so on.

I have never cheated on this guy,for 3yrs I have loved,played and ignored my self just so he could be happy and when we have issues he goes out till night before returning home and when we fight he's the first to talk and apologize but I'm seeing a new side I don't understand.....I'm confused does he still feel the same way I do

XhosaNostra:



From what you have shared, you strike me as a people-pleaser who often puts her own feelings aside just to keep the peace. It's not necessarily a bad thing because a wise person chooses what battles to fight & what to let slide. However, this can prove to be problematic if & when your avoidance of conflict is chronic to the point where you never say how you truly feel. This can make people get used to having the upper hand & last say, thus you can unwittingly create "monsters" so to speak. Bottomline, your BF is controlling imo & it's completely your fault because you run instead having a transparent conversation about the things that bother you in the relationship. Speak up otherwise you'll grow to resent him because of all those things that were left unsaid & suppressed. It's not healthy for you & for your relationship if this is someone you see a future with. You should be able to be transparent & to vent out your frustrations with your partner, not this shrinking violent alternative you have adopted because you're afraid to muddy the waters.

Anyway, the bolded got me...

XhosaNostra:



From what you have shared, you strike me as a people-pleaser who often puts her own feelings aside just to keep the peace. It's not necessarily a bad thing because a wise person chooses what battles to fight & what to let slide. However, this can prove to be problematic if & when your avoidance of conflict is chronic to the point where you never say how you truly feel. This can make people get used to having the upper hand & last say, thus you can be unwittingly creating "monsters" in your wake, so to speak. Bottomline, your BF is controlling imo & it's completely your fault because you run instead of having a transparent conversation about the things that bother you in the relationship. Speak up otherwise you'll grow to resent him because of all those things that were left unsaid & suppressed. It's not healthy for you & for your relationship if this is someone you see a future with. You should be able to be transparent & to vent out your frustrations with your partner, not this shrinking violent alternative you have adopted because you're afraid to muddy the waters.

Anyway, the bolded got me...

Ricchcream:
I disagree with you. She is only being sensible cautioning herself from spitting fire when she knows it would blow things out of proportion. She is not a doormat, as it is the guy that apologises first, after their frequent scuffles (see last paragraph). The real issue here is insecurity on the guy's part. She has to reassure him nothing is coming in between them. They would be alright. Don't teach her stubbornness

XhosaNostra:



Disagree all you want, but avoiding confrontation or sweeping things under the rug is not how you nurture a relationship. Eventually, there will be a build up which may lead to an even bigger blow up. Communication is very important, sorry (not really sorry). He's like that because of the way she is. Full stop.

Ricchcream:
She did not say they are having communication issues. They often fight (disagree). So, either side is making his/her position known to the other frequently, and they often make up.

The real issue here once again is that the guy is acting up because he feels threatened (ex issues). The lady has to look him straight in the face and let him know he can trust her. It has nothing to do with tension or anything like that jarey.

XhosaNostra:



She doesn't have to say it, I'm saying it because that's my own observation on the matter. There're many bothersome things on the little she have shared & since I can't address them all, I cherry picked the one that grates me the most. After all, it's little seemingly unrelated things that make up a bigger whole. You're allowed to coach her on the rest or what you deem "most important".

Ricchcream:
Ok.

XhosaNostra:


Over to you then, uncle. What is that you were saying she should be doing, again? The "entrée"

Ricchcream:
Look at you, all patronizing?

XhosaNostra:



How dare you interrupt my Dr Ruth moment?

Ricchcream:

XhosaNostra:

emmysolo2001:
Good evening everyone,
Well today I don't know exactly how I'm feeling but I'd love to go straight to the point..
My boyfriend and I are going 2ru stuffs now he say I don't respect him and I accept that fact cuz I always walk out on our arguments,quarrels and so on but I'd never walk out on a normal day I walk away because I don't want to say what I'll end up regretting,I know myself and if I talk back at him I would speak out of line that's why I always walk away.....

This is probably the only bad character I have and accept I have
So recently I started chatting on WhatsApp because of school stuff so I could know wen we have lectures and so on and he hates social media but I asked him if I could and he agreed but now because my ex school mates added me to a school group and while posting pictures on the group the posted a picture of my ex and now he is upset I'm seeing my ex and that I'm chatting with guys and so on.

I have never cheated on this guy,for 3yrs I have loved,played and ignored my self just so he could be happy and when we have issues he goes out till night before returning home and when we fight he's the first to talk and apologize but I'm seeing a new side I don't understand.....I'm confused does he still feel the same way I do

ibkayee:

Lol there are just certain things, certain people do not have authority to be questioning

I disagree with you. She is only being sensible cautioning herself from spitting fire when she knows it would blow things out of proportion. She is not a doormat, as it is the guy that apologises first, after their frequent scuffles (see last paragraph). The real issue here is insecurity on the guy's part. She has to reassure him nothing is coming in between them. They would be alright. Don't teach her stubbornness

emmysolo2001:
Good evening everyone,
Well today I don't know exactly how I'm feeling but I'd love to go straight to the point..
My boyfriend and I are going 2ru stuffs now he say I don't respect him and I accept that fact cuz I always walk out on our arguments,quarrels and so on but I'd never walk out on a normal day I walk away because I don't want to say what I'll end up regretting,I know myself and if I talk back at him I would speak out of line that's why I always walk away.....

This is probably the only bad character I have and accept I have
So recently I started chatting on WhatsApp because of school stuff so I could know wen we have lectures and so on and he hates social media but I asked him if I could and he agreed but now because my ex school mates added me to a school group and while posting pictures on the group the posted a picture of my ex and now he is upset I'm seeing my ex and that I'm chatting with guys and so on.

I have never cheated on this guy,for 3yrs I have loved,played and ignored my self just so he could be happy and when we have issues he goes out till night before returning home and when we fight he's the first to talk and apologize but I'm seeing a new side I don't understand.....I'm confused does he still feel the same way I do