Hello everyone, I'm in a sort of huge mess right now. I met this girl years ago and I asked her out for a serious relationship after noticing I liked her, things were ok (mind you no sex) until I moved to Katsina for a handwork training, work was too much, food was little and communication between me and her was poor. I felt broke and useless to her and decided to call it quits just to ease her of the many bills I could not afford. She was kind, understanding and an angel but I knew I had to because I felt she deserved more, then slowly I just did not feel the deep love there anymore but I still really cared.

Now na where the wahala start be this, after I called her on phone and told her everything and why, she agreed. But then she started calling, texting and it became an obsession, I felt her pain and she would try her best to just get me to text her goodnight. I tried to stop communication to ease but it seems she breakup made her worse. Her family members were beginning to call me and I was lost at some point. I returned to Adamawa to get a better Job after perfecting my handwork and since then she calls and cries for me to see her. I go to visit her (still no sex) but no matter how I try I cant find or create that love anymore. She now cries and texts me always that no one loves her and I am scared she might hurt herself because she Is very emotional, I have handled her with care but the case gets worse everyday, I dont know what to do anymore. I want to move on with my life and make sure she's fine and moved on too.

jamesxay:
Hello everyone, I'm in a sort of huge mess right now. I met this girl years ago and I asked her out for a serious relationship after noticing I liked her, things were ok (mind you no sex) until I moved to Katsina for a handwork training, work was too much, food was little and communication between me and her was poor. I felt broke and useless to her and decided to call it quits just to ease her of the many bills I could not afford. She was kind, understanding and an angel but I knew I had to because I felt she deserved more, then slowly I just did not feel the deep love there anymore but I still really cared.

Now na where the wahala start be this, after I called her on phone and told her everything and why, she agreed. But then she started calling, texting and it became an obsession, I felt her pain and she would try her best to just get me to text her goodnight. I tried to stop communication to ease but it seems she breakup made her worse. Her family members were beginning to call me and I was lost at some point. I returned to Adamawa to get a better Job after perfecting my handwork and since then she calls and cries for me to see her. I go to visit her (still no sex) but no matter how I try I cant find or create that love anymore. She now cries and texts me always that no one loves her and I am scared she might hurt herself because she Is very emotional, I have handled her with care but the case gets worse everyday, I dont know what to do anymore. I want to move on with my life and make sure she's fine and moved on too.

I will advice you tomorrow. Na from my dream I de type this.

You break up, you move.

It's her responsibility as an adult to accept the situation and move on too. You are not allowed to feel sorry and neither is it your responsibility to help her move on. Your only job was to make it a clean break which you did. Now delete her contact. Time to end the emotional blackmail.

use a microphone and yell "LEAVE ME ALONE" at her face that will solve it

landmark86:
Op I gat no time to read all the b*llshit up there. But the simple trick is that tell her u are Covid-19 positive simple & come and thank me later .
But u be thief ooooo after chopping her u want to drop her right?

Thank you my brother. But where did you see that I wrote "I chop her"? What is your problem, Don't furious me like the other op from two weeks ago.

JAOS:
use a microphone and yell "LEAVE ME ALONE" at her face that will solve it

Thank you sir. Akanni the great Sound engineer.

jamesxay:


Thank you my brother. But where did you see that I wrote "I chop her"? What is your problem, Don't furious me like the other op from two weeks ago.

Oya swear u neva taste her

What do you foolish guys mean by "breaking up with her without her hurting herself "
Hurt herself for who? You guys keep deceiving yourself. Hurt herself ko cold herself ni.

mascot87:
What do you foolish guys mean by "breaking up with her without her hurting herself "
Hurt herself for who? You guys keep deceiving yourself. Hurt herself ko cold herself ni.

This is misleading, you better realize that different people have different take on breakup.

Ningen:
You break up, you move.

It's her responsibility as an adult to accept the situation and move on too. You are not allowed to feel sorry and neither is it your responsibility to help her move on. Your only job was to make it a clean break which you did. Now delete her contact. Time to end the emotional blackmail.

menh, u are heartless. Don't listen to this guy oo

I don't want to advice going before but after reading almost all the comments here, I knew all of them are misleading and most of them are still sucking there mum's breast
1. There is nothing
bad in seeking for self development in fact you made a right choice
2. Yes, developing yourself is good but that does not mean u should end a nice relationship just because of that. You still need some one to plan your future with
3. You are just too selfish. The fact that you were able to move on fast does not mean everyone is like You. Some people love with all there heart and it is not there fault but they just can't help it.

4. Continue with this lady and both of you should develop yourself, it is a win win situation
5. If you decide to leave, she will cry and wail but she will definitely move on and with time you will regret why you were stupid

stay safe

Op this one u keep emphasizing "no sex" upandan,u dey fear make we tell u say d race wey U pick no be here after U don chop clean mouth finish
Nobody ask u nah