Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

Hummmm use your number 6 sir, confront her! She is into something, wake up

It's hard to comment one's opinion o... This is a marriage. If it was a dating relationship now.. Men would have said something.

What you should do... Stop checking her phone for the time being so she's not overly on alert (deleting messages), put away your apprehension for a while and love her as your wife... Start showing her attention more than before that she will be so busy with you that she won't have time to be online to talk with figure 3.

Especially in this lockdown period.... Are you a boring person? She may not really be cheating (in the general sense of the word) but just having fun discussions with someone who makes her feel good..... Fill that void, engage her same way you engaged her before you both agreed that marriage was the next big step for your love.

She can't leave the house to go an "cheat" so wean her off from the guy before lockdown is called off!

Operation Win Your Wife!!!!


Everyone who has quoted me to talk BS.

If you know that everyone is entitled to their opinion, you would rather have shared your opinion to help op rather than countering mine.

All of you saying point blank that she is cheating....are you saying the Op should divorce her? Give her hell in the marriage? Cheat on her also?

One even went as far as saying na only women like my comment... One said his mother is a single mom. Lol... Who nairaland likes epp?

I just threw in my two cents. Op can do whatever he likes. Naim go say "I do"

Probably.

I smell a rat sha. The moment one starts deleting conversations and coding contacts, na there e take dey start.

Yep its called cheating, even though they may not have had sex yet, she is definitely enjoying the wrong type of attention (that is also classified as emotional cheating.)
Are you cheating on her? or making her feel less in any way? it could be from lack of attention, feeling invincible to your man, feeling like you are not on his priority list.......and so on

usually a woman will only do this if she nolonger feels secure in her relationship.

No oh, you are cheating ya self

xendra:
Yep its called cheating, even though they may not have had sex yet, she is definitely enjoying the wrong type of attention (that is also classified as emotional cheating.)
Are you cheating on her? or making her feel less in any way? it could be from lack of attention, feeling invincible to your man, feeling like you are not on his priority list.......and so on

usually a woman will only do this if she nolonger feels secure in her relationship.

Never cheated on her all years we have been together. I have always been a very responsible dad.

WhatsApp not Wassup or is there any new application named as such?



BTW, you need no oracle to tell you that your wife's attention is somewhere else and soon enough she will be sweating under someone's else.

Stephenomozzy:
It's hard to comment one's opinion o... This is a marriage. If it was a dating relationship now.. Men would have said something.

What you should do... Stop checking her phone for the time being so she's not overly on alert (deleting messages), put away your apprehension for a while and love her as your wife... Start showing her attention more than before that she will be so busy with you that she won't have time to be online to talk with figure 3.

Especially in this lockdown period.... Are you a boring person? She may not really be cheating (in the general sense of the word) but just having fun discussions with someone who makes her feel good..... Fill that void, engage her same way you engaged her before you both agreed that marriage was the next big step for your love.

She can't leave the house to go an "cheat" so wean her off from the guy before lockdown is called off!

Operation Win Your Wife!!!!

I don't understand.

If the husband is boring, is the wife not supposed to spice up things or show the husband what she wants?

Nelso2:

Never cheated on her all years we have been together. I have always been a very responsible dad.

don't tell her your findings yet...delete your contact from her phone also delete the man contact from her phone.save ur number with what she used to save the man number,Whatsapp her and confirm ur findings to really know what is going on between them.

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love. Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then
Recently, I search on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him,, she delete the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront. The man in question is almost 54 and I am I late 30s.

You wife is cheating on you at leat emotionally.

What do you want to do?

Sir..... I will advise you to trust your partner and stop being paranoid.......see ehh, what women go through to make sure they keep that love for their hubbies is too much....... you will hear a woman tell you 'Oga I'm married' and his response will be...'I'm married too, we can tango well'......... keep loving your woman and she will reciprocate.....no doubt, the man might be wooing her.... but she shouldn't be giving him green lights unless she just wanna be naughty and play a bit.....all the same, women reciprocate hubby's love ...a lot.

But if you wanna be free from mistrust, just quietly tell her to stop flirting with the man before it becomes something else.

Modified: You alone know what you want in your home, peace or problem of trust?
We won't be there......

Modified 2: Op, sorry ok..... your head go full and scatter, shebi you carry your marriage, no be boyfriend and girlfriend matter come here...... what were you thinking, huh?
Oya see comments read, since you didn't know what to do or who to privately confide in.....
Ntoorr!!!!

Nelso2:

Never cheated on her all years we have been together. I have always been a very responsible dad.

That's bad; let her know it's also cheating and it's disrespectful (some people don't know, they think as long as they are not having sex they are not cheating)

find out if it's some kind of insecurities she might have, she may not even notice enough to mention but if you can find out on your own, otherwise it may never stop and you 2 may have to part eventually

Don't say a word to her yet.. Just take up her phone and chat the same number up in a lady like form... You will know more... Bros. She is cheating very obvious.. She will always deny it.. as much you don't have a proof...

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love. Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then
Recently, I search on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him,, she delete the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront. The man in question is almost 54 and I am I late 30s.

relax bro..track her closely and don't make her suspicious.. U will caught her red handed ..dis is wat I called play along..I ve help my mummy to caught my dad with dis logic..it might take time..BT it worth it

Deleting chats is a big red flag, it's either she has started or about to.

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love. Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then
Recently, I search on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him,, she delete the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront. The man in question is almost 54 and I am I late 30s.

What is his number, I will help you to ask what he wants.

God save us from demons who calls themselves women

Romanoff:
I smell a rat sha. The moment one starts deleting conversations and coding contacts, na there e take dey start.

You are very correct.

It she doesn't have sinister plans or what is not appropriate going on, she wouldn't be deleting chats.

Biglittlelois:
Deleting chats is a big red flag, it's either she has started or about to.

Succinctly put!

Your wife is simply Cheating and having it raw with the man.

Biglittlelois:
Deleting chats is a big red flag, it's either she has started or about to.

It is obvious she might be cheating. Noticed too that she has been calling him through normal calls and wassup calls frequently. The man calls her too and they flow well. The call records are just too glaring.

I don’t know if she’s cheating but the sooner we learn to reserve endearments like “my love, dear, etc” to our partners, same sex people and family members, the better we’ll all be.

But what do I know sef, after all the only people outside that group that call me “dear” are my elderly dentist and an elderly family doctor.

MMotimo:
I don’t know if she’s cheating but the sooner we learn to reserve endearments like “my love, dear, etc” to our partners, same sex people and family members, the better we’ll all be.

But what do I know sef, after all the only people outside that group that call me “dear” are my elderly dentist and an elderly family doctor.

I address strangers as "dear" ooo, I hope it's not a problem?Op should exercise patience until he catches her red-handed and not based on mere assumptions.

bukatyne:


I don't understand.

If the husband is boring, is the wife not supposed to spice up things or show the husband what she wants?

Have you dated an introvert before? (I am dating one). Not very often will she loudly express that she's needing things to be spiced up, she'll just leave few clues here and there and believes you should pick the clue and work things out while she "does her own part". It becomes easier when you know your woman.

I'm in no way inferring that a boring partner should be cheated on Sis. And who knows op may just be paranoid.

But other than just speaking point-blank that OP's wife is cheating (that's a recipe to ruin their marriage), I've offered one way OP can try to make things better and read the situation in a more optimistic angle.

chii8:



I address strangers as "dear" ooo, I hope it's not a problem?Op should exercise patience until he catches her red-handed and not based on mere assumptions.

Opposite sex strangers? If it works for you, great!

MMotimo:


Opposite sex strangers? If it works for you, great!

My dear, I don't even care to know their sex, I'm not sure it's a problem for my husband.

xendra:
Yep its called cheating, even though they may not have had sex yet, she is definitely enjoying the wrong type of attention (that is also classified as emotional cheating.)
Are you cheating on her? or making her feel less in any way? it could be from lack of attention, feeling invincible to your man, feeling like you are not on his priority list.......and so on

usually a woman will only do this if she nolonger feels secure in her relationship.

Trash!!

Arent u ladies tired of the same line everytime?

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love. Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then
Recently, I search on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him,, she delete the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront. The man in question is almost 54 and I am I late 30s.

Sucre papito most likely. Could b harmless, who knows

Stephenomozzy:
It's hard to comment one's opinion o... This is a marriage. If it was a dating relationship now.. Men would have said something.

What you should do... Stop checking her phone for the time being so she's not overly on alert (deleting messages), put away your apprehension for a while and love her as your wife... Start showing her attention more than before that she will be so busy with you that she won't have time to be online to talk with figure 3.

Especially in this lockdown period.... Are you a boring person? She may not really be cheating (in the general sense of the word) but just having fun discussions with someone who makes her feel good..... Fill that void, engage her same way you engaged her before you both agreed that marriage was the next big step for your love.

She can't leave the house to go an "cheat" so wean her off from the guy before lockdown is called off!

Operation Win Your Wife!!!!

Yes, he is a boring person.

Every boring person deserves to be have someone unfaithful (emotionally or physically)

You will make a great counsellor walahi.

CsRockefeller:


Yes, he is a boring person.

Every boring person deserves to be have someone unfaithful (emotionally or physically)

You will make a great counsellor walahi.

You don't just quote people because nairaland has such features, take time to read the whole of my statement and response to someone who asked similar question as you.

Don't just pick out a line and start criticising my opinion.

You have not made any advice to op by your quick bites at me