sterlingD:

The thing is how to understand the hidden secrets

I have given you a clue you can research more on sexual energy using Google. You will discover it for yourself.

irunoko:
errmmm uncle you seem not to be paying attention to a significant issue here which is very obvious.the husband in question here is a N*Y*M*P*H*OM*A*N*I*A*C.a nympho is like a kleptomaniac.he can never be satisfied.if she likes make she do cow girl,66, missionary,doggy and every sex style and position in this world he can never be satisfied.

are you claiming that sex once a day is considered too much for this newlywed couple of 2 yrs?! if you believe so then no wonder men and women dont understand each other.
BTW nymphomania for men is called SATYRIASIS/SATYROMANIA

What do they call a person that likes sex too much,no be nympho? It is a compulsive disorder that needs to be fixed.sex will not fix it.more like giving a junky more and more drugs thinking he will ever get satisfied.you don see where drug addict dey say no to drugs before? So continuous sex can never solve nymphomaniacs problem.if he likes sef make he marry 50 of Beyonce, another 50 of Kim Kardashian,he can never get satisfied.the problem is a psychological/ mental health one.that should be resolved first

see the problem here is that you believe that A) if a man likes sex more than you do, he is automatically suffering from Satyriasis and can never be satisfied... but the most important part is B) if you think thats who he is then the solution is to LEAVE this man, not try to fix him... BUT, if any man/woman foolishly think they can fix a Nympho, then until they are "cured" she/he needs to fukc that man as often as possible.

Meanwhile there's another myth that needs to be cleared out the fact that you are married doesn't mean you have to be satisfying your husband's raging testerosone everytime.which Kain life be that one? Na every month she go dey get belle o

1st of all, if it isnt you who will satisfy your partner, then who will?! the neighbor? the maid? satisfying your partner's sexual needs is your marital duty!
2nd of all, belle every month?! is condom and contraception illegal where you live?

But in all everything done in excess becomes a bore or tiring that includes sex.if it's too much it becomes bothersome.even Yorubas say eni hmmnnn,Ola hmmnnn Ara lonfabosi.

again, i would understand if a 10yr wifey think in such a way... but certainly not a newly wedded couple of 2years. that man still desire his wife, still enjoys her sexual company, what else do you guys want (especially when so many women are a turn off completely as soon as they have a few babies)?!!?

Sex is meant to be enjoyed moderately not abused through excessive sex

whats good for Jide cannot be enforced on Taiwo....so let them sit down and discuss the issue...if they cant see eye to eye on this issue AND this is too much for wifey, then can either divorce OR let husband get a 2nd wife (if he can afford it) OR let hubby find other women to satisfy him (with wifey's blessing, since she cant fulfill her marital duties).

MrBrownJay1:


are you claiming that sex once a day is considered too much for this newlywed couple of 2 yrs?! if you believe so then no wonder men and women dont understand each other.
BTW nymphomania for men is called SATYRIASIS/SATYROMANIA



see the problem here is that you believe that A) if a man likes sex more than you do, he is automatically suffering from Satyriasis and can never be satisfied... but the most important part is B) if you think thats who he is then the solution is to LEAVE this man, not try to fix him... BUT, if any man/woman foolishly think they can fix a Nympho, then until they are "cured" she/he needs to fukc that man as often as possible.



1st of all, if it isnt you who will satisfy your partner, then who will?! the neighbor? the maid? satisfying your partner's sexual needs is your marital duty!
2nd of all, belle every month?! is condom and contraception illegal where you live?



again, i would understand if a 10yr wifey think in such a way... but certainly not a newly wedded couple of 2years. that man still desire his wife, still enjoys her sexual company, what else do you guys want (especially when so many women are a turn off completely as soon as they have a few babies)?!!?



whats good for Jide cannot be enforced on Taiwo....so let them sit down and discuss the issue...if they cant see eye to eye on this issue AND this is too much for wifey, then can either divorce OR let husband get a 2nd wife (if he can afford it) OR let hubby find other women to satisfy him (with wifey's blessing, since she cant fulfill her marital duties).

I'm not saying she should leave the man.lets Clear that first and the excuse that they're just newly weds as justification for excessive sex is wrong.ok so because you just bought a car na him be say you just dey drive am non stop because it's New? Fine nothing wrong in being sexually attracted to your wife but know when to know you have had enough so that it will not weary her.then to the issue of contraceptives,long use of contraceptives has negative effects on the woman's health.one of the side effects is excessive weight gain which will make her fat,slobby and unattractive.moreover there's no drug that doesn't come with its side effects hence MODERATION in everything we do is important

isthatso:


No need for all this story. I was only pointing out that “norm”is a relative term not absolute. One man’s norm is another man‘s strange. The same people that brought the concept of one man one wife to your forefathers are now trying to sensitize your generation to same sex marriages and gender neutrality.

Be careful when you talk about what is normal and what is a product of social conditioning

Irrespective of that, adopting monogamy isn't a bad thing @ all.

And who decides what is the norm? Should those norms established favour one to another? abeg if you're going to reply in a caustic manner kindly ignore biko I completely detest insults especially if it's unwarranted.

chccho:

So u want to make me a super man

Haha...had to laugh at the way you put it Only with your cooperation, of course. It has to be a change YOU are willing to make.
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Same principle applies to the general topic. Sex is a very powerful force in marriage - indeed a force for material success, but the couple needs to ALIGN to fully harness it. That's what the OP and her husband are missing.

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Fantasma

Madam carry your cross
The only advice I have for you is, go and buy lubricant so that your virgina will stop panning you.

irunoko:
I'm not saying she should leave the man.lets Clear that first and the excuse that they're just newly weds as justification for excessive sex is wrong.ok so because you just bought a car na him be say you just dey drive am non stop because it's New?

if you buy a new car then YES you will drive/flaunt it every time you desire to DRIVE

Fine nothing wrong in being sexually attracted to your wife but know when to know you have had enough so that it will not weary her.

the above comes down to COMMUNICATION... but if wifey says nothing, then no wonder hubby will keep mounting her daily.

then to the issue of contraceptives,long use of contraceptives has negative effects on the woman's health.one of the side effects is excessive weight gain which will make her fat,slobby and unattractive.moreover there's no drug that doesn't come with its side effects hence MODERATION in everything we do is important

the reality is that whether they have sex ONCE a month or daily, "belle" could happen regardless... so MODERATION is in the eye of the beholder.

here are the important questions here:
- does hubby knows that wifey is turned off by sex?
- does hubby knows what turns wifey on?
- does wifey really want to have a sexually frustrated man leave the house every morning?
- if wifey cant handle such a "sexually powerful man", shouldnt they find a sexual assistant (aka 2nd wife) instead of trying to tame such man?
- how can they find happiness if either is unhappy? if they cant see eye to eye on this issue, ultimately they should just divorce

Davash222:
Advice him to get a second wife, so you can be relieved of your DUTY!!

GBAM!

My sister am married o but my case is not as serious as urz. My hubby likes sex too but respects my body once I tell him am tired down there...but in other to satisfy him when am tired down there,I do initiate a fore-play,itz cool n he loves it much. Y don't u try that or better still u can frame sick or faint..hahaha! sounds funny but itz not! #goodluck

MrBrownJay1:


if you buy a new car then YES you will drive/flaunt it every time you desire to DRIVE



the above comes down to COMMUNICATION... but if wifey says nothing, then no wonder hubby will keep mounting her daily.



the reality is that whether they have sex ONCE a month or daily, "belle" could happen regardless... so MODERATION is in the eye of the beholder.

here are the important questions here:
- does hubby knows that wifey is turned off by sex?
- does hubby knows what turns wifey on?
- does wifey really want to have a sexually frustrated man leave the house every morning?
- if wifey cant handle such a "sexually powerful man", shouldnt they find a sexual assistant (aka 2nd wife) instead of trying to tame such man?
- how can they find happiness if either is unhappy? if they cant see eye to eye on this issue, ultimately they should just divorce

lol...Mr man all that glitters isn't gold o.ok so if all modes of communication has failed the last resort is to bring 2nd wife.do you know what baggages that one too is bringing? If her sex game is A1 am she's giving you other drama you think the sex will continue.oga there's no perfect man or woman out there.every one is just putting up with the spouse he has.if he brings in 2nd wife do you think she won't come with her own problems too?

MrBrownJay1:
you cant have your cake and eat it too... this man does not cheat and instead likes to get his groove on with his wife. you should be happy and find ways to reward him for his fidelity (as we all know many men out there cheat). actually, you should be undressed and ready to "receive" as soon as he comes home, as a thank you gesture for being a good man.... unless you would prefer he goes out sexually frustrated because his wife cant cope with sex daily?

SOLUTION: why dont you instead try to make this sex enjoyable for the both of you? open up to him, tell him what you like, tell him what you fantasize about, let him do the things that YOU like too.

"You can't have your cake and eat it " is wrong. Of course ,you can have your cake and then eat it .
The correct Idiom is "You can't eat your cake and have it".
Think about it,once you eat the cake ,can you have it again?.

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

Please can we allow only the married women to advise this woman? Thank you.

irunoko:
lol...Mr man all that glitters isn't gold o.ok so if all modes of communication has failed the last resort is to bring 2nd wife.

yes bringing someone that can take over the marital duties that this above wifey cannot fulfill... as we all know that expecting a man to have LESS sex is a waste of time. we (men) wake up with a tiger between our legs and every morning that tiger uncontrollably is raging... and if you think that any man with such raging tiger in his pant WITH a sexy wife sleeping next to him, should just go take a cold shower, then you are clearly missing the point.

do you know what baggages that one too is bringing?If her sex game is A1 am she's giving you other drama you think the sex will continue.oga there's no perfect man or woman out there.every one is just putting up with the spouse he has.if he brings in 2nd wife do you think she won't come with her own problems too?

i cannot assume/speculate on other issues that aint related to this discussion... that would be the same as me telling you that other men beat their wives therefore this woman should be quiet and be happy. makes no sense, right?!
so lets stay on the subject and understand that a 2nd will solve the issue at hand... which is: wifey cannot satisfy the sexual demands of her husband.

Odunolumide:
"You can't have your cake and eat it " is wrong. Of course ,you can have your cake and then eat it .
The correct Idiom is "You can't eat your cake and have it".
Think about it,once you eat the cake ,can you have it again?.

EDUCATE yourself so i dont have to do it for you...the correct meaning IS: "you cant have your cake and eat it too"

DICTIONARY DEFINITION
You can't have your cake and eat it (too) is a popular English idiomatic proverb or figure of speech. The proverb literally means "you cannot simultaneously retain your cake and eat it". ... The proverb's meaning is similar to the phrases "you can't have it both ways" and "you can't have the best of both worlds."

thank me later

You should be grateful that he wants only your pussy, not like other men who has options

This one is serious oo

As much as you can, try to meet his needs. Don't deny him except it is absolutely necessary. Pray for your desire to match up too.

U guys should have discuss b4 marriage just let him understand then u guys she resolve to understanding yourself. Your man has high sexual urge while u have low one make to understand

MrBrownJay1:


yes bringing someone that can take over the marital duties that this above wifey cannot fulfill... as we all know that expecting a man to have LESS sex is a waste of time. we (men) wake up with a tiger between our legs and every morning that tiger uncontrollably is raging... and if you think that any man with such raging tiger in his pant WITH a sexy wife sleeping next to him, should just go take a cold shower, then you are clearly missing the point.



i cannot assume/speculate on other issues that aint related to this discussion... that would be the same as me telling you that other men beat their wives therefore this woman should be quiet and be happy. makes no sense, right?!
so lets stay on the subject and understand that a 2nd will solve the issue at hand... which is: wifey cannot satisfy the sexual demands of her husband.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

Lady I have sex with my wife everyday too it simply means he isnot cheating but talk to him about it and explore different ways so it can be enjoyable for you too

Madam i will never agree with you on this, you woman lied a lot what is the definition of your EVERYDAY,every woman would say everyday to explain any unpleasant event in their home to gain people sympathy. I am a married man with 5 years in marriage, same my wife make complaint that everyday, among her everyday i travelled for work, she menstruates,we to vigil and many more.
The fact is that you woman complain a lot. No one can manage your home for you except you. Go back and fixed your home and if you like you make him impotent,if you have no husband you will be crying, if your husband cheat you cause problem, if he ignore you complain,now he demand for sex you say everyday. can you withstand 730day sex non stop as you claimed ? or you don't know what you are saying ?

This is what happens when couples do not discuss sexual compatibility before marriage or talk about sexual education. Many end up with issues such as this. Another problem is that Nigerians refuse to learn the art of pre-intimacy before sex due to religious and cultural inclinations. Not everything is about thrusting. Sex is meant to be enjoyed and not just some formality that is essential in marriage.

Encourage him to get a second wife and you will be fine.

Wendybrown:




Irrespective of that, adopting monogamy isn't a bad thing @ all.

And who decides what is the norm? Should those norms established favour one to another? abeg if you're going to reply in a caustic manner kindly ignore biko I completely detest insults especially if it's unwarranted.

I don’t have a problem with monogamy or polygamy. Whatever works for you.

However I hope you know that monogamy is a major reason for the increase in side chicks and unmarried mothers. Monogamy favours men, we can eat our cake and have it without responsibilities. Most single women over a certain age will be side chicks to married men because at that age most of the good men are married.
Men will get the benefit of polygamy and monogamy without the responsibilities of polygamy because although even decent woman need companionship, most decent women will not want it known in public or have a child for the married man.


So when you preach monogamy, understand it’s women who pay the price. If I were a woman I would be preaching polygamy except I already have a husband. Most men are polygamists in practice, whether is legal wives, official mistresses like in France, side chicks or prostitutes/ escorts....most men don’t stay with 1 woman.

Honestly if he doesn't agree to a vasectomy, I will move out of the house. May God not let us see bad thing.

Tajbol4splend:





This is marriage we're talking about, not some fvcking trivial relationship

They are not compatible as such every should find his level.

Kunilefo:



Lady I have sex with my wife everyday too it simply means he isnot cheating but talk to him about it and explore different ways so it can be enjoyable for you too

Nawao I'm sure she commits abortion often too because we know family planning isn't 100% safe. Why not go for a vasectomy to make things easy for her so that she doesn't need to worry about unwanted pregnancy as you don't allow her to rest

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

Good talk my dear. Truth may b bitter, but it must b told! The man should control his libido., not the other way round Abel....

From the kind of stuff written here as advice by women, I'm convinced as ever that women are evil. I'm very rich and comfortable, but I will never use my money to marry any woman. Men should be wise and defensive and stop marring women. Men should be mean and fvck women and make them baby mamas without committing to them. Men should know that by our native law and custom, getting a child out of wedlock is legal and acceptable. Don't marry any woman because the marriage is a woman's gain, and you gain nothing. Just fvck them for fun and for babies if you want. Don't marry them! Don't commit to them! Women are so evil!