Eberechi24:

True sha. The guy no want to be friend zoned, the lady should understand that. I don't know what you all have against male bestie.

What is it? Tell me, wanna know

n0thing wr0ng abt male bestie. What's wr0ng is when the guy doesn't want to just be friends. Or when a guy is attractd sexually to a gal, u d0n't expect the guy to stay around the gal just to keep fantasizing over what he can't have. M0st guys that are besties with gals, d0n't find said gal sexually attractive to them.

udemzyudex:


Lol every Muslim girl will tell you that they can't convert, it's normal but when better prick handle her, believe me she will convert.

There are some Muslim girls that have converted to Christian because they married a Christian.

Lol. Wò me I am not interested sef.

One is still trying to figure out the christian ones not to talk of adding a muslim coming from a different background, philosophy to that list.

lefulefu:
i like this joe dude.he is a wise dude.he cut off from u as soon as he knew u were dating someone.thats what a reasonable man does.u should also cut off from him and quit bothering him.no be by force to do bestie .

Bestie indeed.

Sorry Are u a Virgin? And How Old are you?

Call him and give him the thing chop even if na only to use the cap of him thing rub your own. Half bread is better than none

J111333:
For wanting to friendzone that innocent but smart dude, you probably won't make heaven.

read what millenniumlady put up there you'll know she's a badder

Bros na the guy Fup, he suppose don straff this gal.. Its clear she isn’t fit for a gf and he would have seen it, instead he kept gisting like mumu.
Some boys no jus dey street smart. I trust myself when I dey street lols no wonder I don lose count��
PS: He will still straff this gal if he wishes to, no need to vex make he jus dey straff the idiot! Since she no get sense ���

othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

Lmao stop teaching people this dangerous things o abeg. Make one girl no go come light candle for my dear big head o

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

Ode broke girl like you go and work for your money

Lamanii22:
You broke his heart... He has no reason to continue the friendship... Having you in his life is like having a chicken, the chicken he was suppose to eat and now somebody else has eaten it....

Lol! And he's probably still eating it till when it gets to only legs and feathers she will now bring it to the guy say she's sorry! Some girls are just wicked!

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

I hail thee...you're pure evil.

He's a gentle man he did the right thing a gentleman would do.. You don't expect him to still be around you knowing you already have someone else, you are endangering his emotions.

That's my niggar, he did the right thing.


OP you nor try at all o, why you break my guy heart.

lefulefu:
i like this joe dude.he is a wise dude.he cut off from u as soon as he knew u were dating someone.thats what a reasonable man does.u should also cut off from him and quit bothering him.no be by force to do bestie .

Joe must be a Nairalander because Nairaland guys seems to be the wisest guys on earth when it comes to women matter and romance, any lady that succeeds in chopping a Nairaland guy mugu or friendzoning a nairaland guy deserves an award, kai

othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

OP you're very wicked ooo. This advise is very very strong and devilish

lefulefu:
thats not a bestie.thats just an ordinary male colleague

Baba d baba

instinct57vm:
Bros na the guy Fup, he suppose don straff this gal.. Its clear she isn’t fit for a gf and he would have seen it, instead he kept gisting like mumu.
Some boys no jus dey street smart. I trust myself when I dey street lols no wonder I don lose count��
PS: He will still straff this gal if he wishes to, no need to vex make he jus dey straff the idiot! Since she no get sense ���

lolz

Hi. Did you see this thread? NekkyCee

othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

Pls don't kill me with laughter o..People around me think I am crazy with my roaring laughter in the Train.Pls Pls go away joor ..Lol

My eyes are filled tears from laughing �������

othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

lagbaja

mattfeuter:
Ah! Let’s unpack this!

You have a boyfriend/in a relationship (who you clearly said has been treating you right) that’s not enough ,

You have another guy who is a “friend” according to you but you find him attractive and have deep intimate conversations with.

You told the second guy about your boyfriend and bad man japa, now this is where it gets really interesting! So it bothered you that much that the new guy isn’t talking to you again that you had to open a thread on NL ( all these while having a whole boyfriend).


You even have the nerve to want to friend zone the other guy lol (couldn’t be me tho)

You know you’re cheating right

Please take a crate of cold drinks on me tonight

Eberechi24:

True sha. The guy no want to be friend zoned, the lady should understand that. I don't know what you all have against male bestie.

What is it? Tell me, wanna know

Before a guy agrees to be your bestie without making any move to bed you, it means he does not find u attractive, he sees u as a guy or a tomboy.


Some guys that agree to be bestie are there waiting for an opportunity to strike and flee or strike and take over lol

You, self.. Wetin you dey find? You don sign contract with Chelsea, you wan cum Dey do training with Manu.

You had better face your contract.



PS: And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about.

No, it’s not weird. Girls loves bad boys. Nah reality. [Nice one!]

Sincerely speaking, i can see that you love both the guy and your b.f but you are not willing to lose any.

For me, the guy is just ignoring you to let go his feelings for u.

Although, e no easy o. (ladies can play person heart sha)

wickedness...... May god grant us the wisdom to deal with ladies so that we no go get hurt again......

@OP you want to eat your cake and still have it.. does that make any sense?

Joe has refused to be friendzoned so fvck off from his life and face your boyfriend.

lefulefu:
male bestie is the same thing as fukmate or wat u call friend of benefit

That's not true, not every opposite friendship result into sex or friends with benefits. Joe simply left so he doesnt get tempted to smash someone else's girl. Which is the best move, im sure he feel used or disappointed. I would advise you kill your own likeness for joe and focus on your boyfriend. Having too many male friends is a distraction to a female student.

othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

Dis one na hate speech, I go report una for elrufai.

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

heheheheheeeeee... You cannot keep goat and yam together.. Neither do you expect a dog to ignore a bone that is nearby..hahahahaaaaa... OP you should have been smart enough to inform him that you are in relationship the moment you agreed to the other guy... Joe is not bad in his response to that scenario... It is expected.. Infact he was very diplomat for not showing he is sad or angry.. But the best he can do is what you are seeing.... Friendzone mood.... Funny enough, Joe will end up.......

ModestGal:

I wish to be friends with Joe, people like him are really rare
1. He knows what he wants
2. He's matured
3. He has a focus
4. He's a good man.
As for you, flirting when you have a boyfriend is extremely bad, you seem not to know what you want, and you want to have your cake and bread same time. If Joe was a bad guy, you would have ended up cheating on your boyfriend.
I do not entertain silly friendships between make and females, my friends should only discuss important issues, and not dating/sexual stuff, if a friend try that with me, that would be the end to our friendship because I don't forgive such things . I love my boyfriend so much that I won't even cheat him emotionally

This is how a responsible, reasonable lady should be.

What do you need male bestie for when you have a boyfriend Why must ladies want to eat their cake and still have it back

Bestie is for teenage girls trying to have too many boyfriends to boost their ego that they are cute and loved by many boys.


But my only fear is that you ladies do the opposite of what you say you will do, so I doubt u can do what u typed

He did right

Kingsteve:
There's a thin line between being the 'nice guy' and being the 'nice-bad guy'!
Joe isn't a 'nice-bad' guy.
He let his emotions get the better of him.

Back in the day, I was once in Joe's shoes.
I liked her so much with all my heart, but she was already in a relationship.
It hurt...yea!
But instead of losing out completely, I bid my time like a predator waiting to pounce on its prey in the dark.

And in the dark it happened!
She came around like a thief in the night, and like a predator in the dark... I pounced!


Joe for chop instead of losing out completely!
He'll learn from this though.

Another lesson to be learned: if you're a guy, and have a girl as a friend, once you notice some greenlight, act fast!
There's always another sharper guy waiting to pounce!

Mehn.....U guys talk as if sex credits men's account. It's high time we guys stopped holding mere sex to high esteem. Sex nor dey add anything meaningful to man body nw......... I bleeped Amara, Joy, Cynthai, Clara, how would the Bleep upgrade/benefit ur life in any form??

You're wicked girl. See question you're asking. You led him on believing you're single. If he wants to throw his net somewhere else and the girl sees both of you being jovial, what do you expect him to say.
You just have to choose what you want. You can kill someone and then come to blame the devil tomorrow.