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Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by panmunium(m): 1:42pm On May 01, 2020 |
To be frank, the lady didn't try at all, she disclosed her status 7months into the relationship which makes her not trustworthy, I advice you should leave her as soon as possible before you contract the virus..I bet you if she was still slaying and negative, she wouldn't have glanced at you. But for the baby, it can be breast fed for 3- 6months when viral load is low 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by ezegenigbonine: 1:45pm On May 01, 2020 |
Truely you are really a crazeman. But I really admire your courage even as you are a Nigerian breed. If you really love her and know that she will not make mistake one day, you can carry on with her ok but try and be very careful. May God be with you. 6 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Femeto: 3:21pm On May 01, 2020 |
Don't tell your mother realtionship done scatter be that.Let are put to bed first then let the doctors write a report for you why she cant breast feed. 12 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Crazeman03: 4:26pm On May 01, 2020 |
Femeto: Thank you very much. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by akpunda86: 4:31pm On May 01, 2020 |
Crazeman03: Why all this misconcept.My cousin is poz so the wife and their four kids all breastfeed. So ur mum or her mum can still cum for omugwo . 7 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 5:07pm On May 01, 2020 |
To the OP-practically speaking, a viral load of 20 or less is not the same thing as non detectable levels. I feel i should let you know. This story would have a more revealing context/background if was a true one. And I refer to quality and not quantity. Her character, your personal circumstances and how this dating came to be would be laid out better for example. I think this is one of the traffic-calling posts everywhere on Nairaland now. Besides if your babe is pregnant, once she tells her doctors they automatically refer her to the PMTCT section of the treatment programme. That you don’t know this only makes my conviction that this story is false stronger. I just don’t feel this one. On the off-chance that the OP is true though? I apologize for doubting first of all. Then let your girlfriend tell her doctors that she is pregnant. This is for them to appropriately refer her for proper management (with regards to drug change, tests and preventing the child from being HIV positive during the pregnancy and in the birth period that follows it). You should attend clinics with her too. Do so once at least, and be educated about the very important and not to be played with viral load, and also learn the place and use of condoms in cases like this. I have either seen, or heard of people who got jilted by the people they were dating (most times men dropping women) because of reasons like mother’s disease, being hypertensive, having fibroids or cysts as the case may be, asthma too. So this scenario is relatively unusual and quite refreshing. I have seen cases like it too, offline(in clinics). However I doubt this particular one. 14 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Angelacruz: 5:57pm On May 01, 2020 |
Jst tell ur fam members dat she cant breastfeed because she does not wat her breast to sag.Is beta if u bth kip it to urself.Congrats Crazeman03: |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 5:58pm On May 01, 2020 |
Village people have different ways of operation 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Angelacruz: 5:59pm On May 01, 2020 |
Very very true YoungPerson: |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Angelacruz: 6:02pm On May 01, 2020 |
Jst playfully tell ur mum she cant breastfeed because u dnt wat her breast t sag.Dnt tell ur mum oo,else... Crazeman03: |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by fireback: 8:42pm On May 01, 2020 |
I think it's too late to disclose her status to your family now that she's pregnant for you. and mind you as long she keep taking her drugs, the child she's carrying will be negative. no family will support their son to go on with such marriage especially knowing that you are not positive. as for the breast feeding, you guys should find a suitable story to tell anyone who inquire to know why she's not breast feeding her baby, cos people must surely ask. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Fafesot: 9:02pm On May 01, 2020 |
Crazeman03:In the first place,I don't see any reason why you would date an HIV+ lady. You don't know women ,OK..If you were to be in her own shoe ,would she have accepted to date you?. definitely NO. My brother ,you think it's easy to manage such a viral disease?..wake up to the fact that there is nothing like unconditional love. She has sold herself up and down, now she has brought the spoilt body back to you. what is even love... face the fact bro 25 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Okoroawusa: 9:03pm On May 01, 2020 |
Congratulations |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Ogilinsaka: 9:14pm On May 01, 2020 |
Wonders shall never end. Your naivety is unrivaled. What on earth were you thinking? Having unprotected sex with an HIV woman? Are you mad? You said love? What love? Well... I'm trying so hard not to believe your story Whatever you see, you take. Foolish man 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Dangrace01: 9:29pm On May 01, 2020 |
Goddys: Guy I no even blame the girl d lady did the right thing. You can't just start telling everyone that comes your way you are HIV + . She knew the guy started developing feeling and she told him My problem na d guy So guy konji hold you to the extent you went to start sleeping with HIV patient your sense don come back you are looking for excuse to leave the relationship Telling your family members ( even nursery 1 knows it's a bad idea) Breastfeeding d baby other baby food no dey market abi If you leave that girl thunder will fire you idiot 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 9:41pm On May 01, 2020 |
Crazeman03: Is it possible Sir |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by cinderellashoes(f): 10:10pm On May 01, 2020 |
Crazeman03:Don't tell any member of your family about it or a friend.. Instead, seek the help of a counselor. Follow your gf to a general hospital and you can get free counseling there. When she gives birth, tell whoever asked that the doctor advised against it because she has hepatitis, of course that's a lie. . 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:16pm On May 01, 2020 |
if u love her marry her biko.u dont need to take anyone"s consent.and please dont go announcing to ur friends that ur wife is hiv positive cos you are casting her if u do so.no sensible husband would do such anyway. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Karemarealty288(m): 10:38pm On May 01, 2020 |
Don't disclose her statues to anyone. Love and care for her. God will bless you beyond bounds for this. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Catchfirez: 4:57pm On May 02, 2020 |
lefulefu: Great advice.. op that is the best you can do |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by dahrey01: 5:44pm On May 02, 2020 |
I'm even dumbfounded, but lemme just say that God has just rewarded your being faithful and your unconditional love, brother, please keep it because you deserve a standing ovation and a thumbs up �. Having said that, please, try to keep it a secrete, you may be wrongly advised, besides, who knows whether the lady in question is your destined wife. Go for checkups regularly together with your wife and always ensure that she takes her medication at all times, perhaps some drugs were prescribed for you, please, take them regularly and may God helps you. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by mechanics(m): 4:40pm On May 03, 2020 |
Just tell your family members before the relationship will go far o. |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Dpharisee: 5:21pm On May 03, 2020 |
YoungPerson: I.like this suggestion too, keep your matter private and build your family, consult experts about healthy living and how to handle the pregnancy and childbirth. Build trust in her. God bless you bro, it takes courage to do this. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by frozen70(f): 5:50pm On May 03, 2020 |
Crazeman03: I appreciate your bravery If you want to marry her, inform keep it away from your family, don tell your mum Just go ahead Make sure you she takes her drugs, follow her to the hospital where she gets her drugs, they will advise you on how to watch yourself After birth she will breast feed for three months then stop. If your family ask why she stopped breast feeding, tell them you don't want the breast to slack that the baby can survive on infant formula |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Chidonc(m): 5:55pm On May 03, 2020 |
Crazeman03:Is she all you need in a woman, if so, marry her brother, life is too short to stress yourself. Besides she can breast feed for the first 6 month, consult your doctor |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 6:03pm On May 03, 2020 |
Crazeman03: You must be a strong man who is well educated and learned when it comes to the virus. It's just a Virus that can be managed and trust me nobody ever see it coming. Last week a girl a girl asked me Why me when she was tested positive. They were just unfortunate nothing more.. Extend the love and make sure u observe safety for yourself and your unborn child. At least let the virus die with the host and shouldn't be transmitted. You doing well man 7 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Chidonc(m): 6:13pm On May 03, 2020 |
panmunium:But you didn't read the path she told him before they started having sex. So she should start discussing her HIV status to any divk and Harry she dates for two days so one idiot will make fun of her. She never took advantage of him, she observed his seriousness before telling him. They never had sex till she told him. Don't poison his mind. 29 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by eterisan(m): 6:38pm On May 03, 2020 |
Crazeman03:Seek medical advice please. There is no where, were it is written that a positive mother cannot breastfeed her baby. Ideally the baby will be on drugs for 6 weeks after birth and will be monitored till 2 years of age. Google is your friend. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Toks2008(m): 6:59pm On May 03, 2020 |
Crazeman03:Go ahead and marry her. Encourage her to take her meds so that the viral load can remain insignificant. But if you feel compelled to leave her, just let her know that you will always be there for her and the baby but things might get very complicated if you leave her at this point to marry another lady. |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 7:07pm On May 03, 2020 |
You'll soon know what you're doing to yourself. That lust that is making you not to reason well will soon disappear and then reality will strike you.. Continue. 9 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 7:54pm On May 03, 2020 |
Eulalia: Silly remark, do you think she brought this affliction upon herself. Some off us are just been lucky while she wasn't. It might be of surprise she have a very low body count compared to some negative people... Before casting people, try and wear their shoes. And always remember if u scale it ,will ur children do,will ur grand kids do... Nah just prayer. 11 Likes |
Re: I'm Dating HIV Positive Lady & She Is Pregnant. Advice Needed by Nobody: 7:59pm On May 03, 2020 |
stinflame: I wasn't referring to the lady but the guy who didn't do the right thing by first performing the marriage rites on her before impregnating her. Now hes in a dilemma and wants people who are not in his shoes to help him figure out what to do. Just go easy on me. And you have no right mentioning my generation. Ok? 2 Likes |
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