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Help! My Pussy Is Hurting Me / My Emotions Is Hurting Me And I Don't Know What To Do, I Need Advice Please Nl / "Sub Delivery Man Asked For Sex As I Visited Him I Refused, He Treated Me Badly" (2) (3) (4)
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by emkz: 8:10am On May 02, 2020 |
Tillatalk: It is not. Sha don't marry someone who sees you as a doormat or someone wey eye no dey one place. Avoid person with plenty body counts who is still showing traits of sluttiness. The guys uselessing such women would not put them in their houses or invest in them financially, they are only useful for booty calls. So why should you be the investor? A public property cannot be monopolized when you are not Dangote. Avoid someone who lies about simple matters and someone who is ultra-defensive especially in matters as simple as her past relationships. Avoid someone who cannot justify certain actions. Avoid someone who asks you for Brazilian hair to protect her Togolese brain when she has no sensible means of income. Avoid those who add no value to your life and are milking you of your sanity. Most importantly, avoid those who had a thing for married men (you'd never be enough) and they'd always go back to their vomit when they have the opportunity. Avoid those who rush you into marriage (they have an agendum) or blackmail you into what you are uncomfortable doing. Finally, avoid those who do not respect you and are hooked to one or more ex. In marriage, your peace of mind is not something you want to trade. Find someone that reasons with you in the same frequency (i.e., someone within your class), someone that values you and the relationship, someone that co-operates with you to make a relationship work, someone that appreciates you. Someone you'd think very well before cheating on. And for gawd's "bleeping" sake, date very well and understand the person you are with. Many people get married to an image of someone they believe is true, whereas the reality hurts them, so they live in self-denial. Don't get married to someone you feel pity for, or someone you want to use to do pepper-them or you are afraid of (Oluwo of Iwo comes to mind). Post-corona, many marriages would either become stronger as many couples would realize the value of their relationship or others would pack up because many people would realize their marriages are illusory. Don't be a statistic for the latter. PS: There are many good women (and men), very well brought up out there who are well educated and respectful. Many are also on this forum, they don't comment on every thread and stay away from controversy because they don't feed from unnecessary popularity. Do not let the foolishness of a useless few cause you to make lifetime decisions. Best bro. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by mattfeuter(m): 8:22am On May 02, 2020 |
ladkud: Keep spending Sho lo stupid ni |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by instinct57vm(m): 8:39am On May 02, 2020 |
Bros did you catch her red handed to be sure she’s really having an affair. Be sure this is not a speculation nor hearsay.. Innocent until proven guilty. I have comments to make if only you can expatiate on how you caught her red handed. When and where OR what are your evidences |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by terrezo2002(m): 8:43am On May 02, 2020 |
ladkud:Learn to love again that's how you can be happy. For better for worse..You signed for it bro. Let God deal with her if she is not fulfilling her part of covenant. Lastly, pray for her and then your peace and joy will come. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by wiseone28: 8:44am On May 02, 2020 |
Offpoint:True o |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by walex2(m): 9:11am On May 02, 2020 |
gaius01:all of you always shout DNA do you even have an idea the cost of doing DNA? so even after rhe DNA if he later find out the baby is not his, who is the loser? the best bet is to call the wife and have on on one discussion with her and if she is not yielding report her to her parents and family members. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Arsenate(m): 9:14am On May 02, 2020 |
terrezo2002:Straight out from the bluepill text book. Learn to love who in particular? The lady who is shamelessly in love with another married man...you are saying he should learn to love her more so he can set himself up for further heartbreaks? Clap for yourself. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by adexpa(m): 9:35am On May 02, 2020 |
You saw this coming but you ignored, maybe she is beautiful to you and you want your guys n relatives sees you married a pretty lady. You still got into the marriage and she continues the trash yet your low self-esteem did not allow you deal with the issue. You only need God if you can not deal with the issue straight by addressing it through proper engagement of words. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Tango123: 9:53am On May 02, 2020 |
walex2: So what if u sit her down and she lies to your face? What if you report her to her family with evidence, and she promises to change and never changes? What price can you put on peace of mind? For me, peace of mind is priceless. If i was the one, even if i sot her down and we have a good discussion, even if i report her to her family and we have a meeting, so far as there is doubt already, i will do a dna test. If i am to raise another person's child, i need to know and do it willingly. Well, that is my opinion. You are entitled to yours sir |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Sadsoulnow: 9:54am On May 02, 2020 |
Offpoint:Mehn non be small thing o..when I see news like this to remain single go just dey hungry me.. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by terrezo2002(m): 10:03am On May 02, 2020 |
Arsenate: If you are a Christian you will understand God's kind of love for us. Inspite of our unfaithfulness, He is ever faithful to us. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by YorubaPrince: 10:33am On May 02, 2020 |
Ejom: Nah. You don't have to be condescending but, be firm with her abt things. #3 of Man law... Don't ever respect a lady that disrespects you. Let her know you doubt your responsibility of her pregnancy and, she's free to move out whenever she secures another accommodation. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Nobody: 11:56am On May 02, 2020 |
There must be signs which you just chose to ignore. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by walex2(m): 12:13pm On May 02, 2020 |
Tango123:so if you can afford it, what if he cant afford the 600k plus of doing DNA? you gather all the evidence and the profile of the man that she is going out with to her family members and you insist the next time she is caught, that would be the end of the marriage, so if all these doesnt instill fear in her and still go ahead dating the man, then you can call off the marriage, if truly you are the father of the child, she will confess it later on |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by ehmmy11(m): 12:43pm On May 02, 2020 |
Another attention seeking thread where is the brain dead Op?? He should respond on his thread and not run away.. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Playstation1: 4:28pm On May 02, 2020 |
lapazi: Amen... Sumbori shout hayayayaya |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Digmygold: 3:55am On May 03, 2020 |
Martinez39s: Thee.same redpill the choked you into abysmal poverty? Ogun kill you and your redpill.poo. Ex convict. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Nobody: 8:05am On May 03, 2020 |
terrezo2002:Bro leave that gist.. even God give go-ahead to divorce if the wife na slut. That ur advice is fuckedup man. Why u go do like that 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by terrezo2002(m): 10:05am On May 03, 2020 |
dairykidd:Hmmm. Thank God men are not Gods. In God's eyes I am sure you have done worse than the woman. We can't tolerate our fellow human beings and yet we want God to tolerate us. Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy. The universal unbroken law. And if you don't forgive men their trespases so shall you not be forgiven. It is your choice. Treat people the you wish to be treated if you were in their shoes. God bless. Cheers |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Nobody: 10:49am On May 03, 2020 |
terrezo2002:Bro u go like story well well oo.. Divorcing her doesn't mean i haven't forgiven her. In fact the divorce is because i have forgiven her and want her to be happy with whomever she wants to than to be sneaking and slithering like a snake when I'm not looking to steal moments of happiness while causing me pain. Nobody likes to suffer or feel pains. Except ur a sick sadistic twisted person would u want to remain where ur always hurt. I treat people the way they want to be treated. So if a wife starts playing the role of a single loose hoe then she will be treated as such. Give her what she wants.. Freedom or die young. Its still the golden rule of doing unto others as u want to be done to u. If i fuckup too she should treat it accordingly. Marriage is not by force. If u can't swim don't jump in the water. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Newbielearner(m): 11:00am On May 03, 2020 |
ladkud: Oh my God! Five months old marriage. No offence. But this is your fault. You have laid your own bed and now have to lie on it. How did you lay your bed? 1. You spent a lot of resources, not calculated resources on an entity you do not or cannot own (as every human being has a free will as compared to tangible assets). 2. You ignored warning signals. This is common with simps (I'm not implying that you are a simp). Deep down you had the hounch that she loves someone else. Except if she just developed the love as you described, which is very rare of a newly wedded bride. You must have thought that you could change her. 3. You must have seen things not adding up in her statements, calls, chats, push, etc. Except if you were a cheat yourself. 4. You never read about things to know before getting married especially to a contemporary Nigerain woman (no offence to them as this refers to their ideologies). Maybe you're the type that sees threads like redpills, ubunja miseducations, Dating drills, reading of books like men are from Mars women from Venus, the perfect match, etc as a waste of time because you think you should only focus on your career forgetting that you need to get acquainted with rules of love, rules of parenting, courtship journey, etc. How to lie on it: 1. Luckily for you, you're not in a country you'll need her permission to conduct a DNA test. You have to do that test. You can't rely on her words. 2. I wanted to ask how you knew she was cheating. But you know that yourself. Make sure she feels comfortable. Show her more love (which shouldn't be difficult since you bought your way through). You need to keep seeing her as your bride. 3. After the result of the DNA which means you might have to live with her for about a year, be composed. If the child is yours good. Then decide whether to keep them both or separate on cordial terms. If the child is not yours, life just taught you another lesson. You might decide to divorce. (I guess a man like you wouldn't even have prenuptial agreements before.) The DNA would be enough proof. If you choose to keep living with her, you might live for another 5years more or less. Inevitably, your life can never remain the same if the child turns out not to be yours. You would have to ignore the "what would people say syndrome" and put her away quickly. And if the child I yours, you become a single father. I don't usually type this long. I just feel pained for this kind of ditch you have found yourself just 5months in your marriage. Note, my suggestions and assertions might not be the best way out. But you're surely in a big mess and you have to fill this grave you dug with sand and not your own body (your future). |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Newbielearner(m): 11:21am On May 03, 2020 |
walex2: The next time she is caught? Sir, if this were to be you, is this what you would have done? |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Nobody: 11:33am On May 03, 2020 |
How do you guys even end up with someone who doesn't love you? I hope everyone will understand the true meaning of love which goes beyond the feeling of lust being paraded everywhere before going into marriage. Most marriages today are being consummated on lust; reason it doesn't last. She's done lusting over you. It's now the turn of a married man. Just wait for the child to be born then go for a DNA test if you can afford it. Otherwise use your eyes to DNA the baby. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Hollasmall: 2:37pm On May 03, 2020 |
Eulalia: Babalawo DNA should be cheaper nao |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by Nobody: 2:38pm On May 03, 2020 |
Hollasmall: Lol... No. Not reliable. |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by frozen70(f): 6:49pm On May 03, 2020 |
ladkud: Control your spending or you go broke and no one to help you out Be caml until the birth of the child and go for paternity and the results will determine your next line of action Meanwhile report her promiscuous life to her family and let them be aware so that when you start, they will not blame you |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by walex2(m): 8:13pm On May 03, 2020 |
Newbielearner:yes i will defiinitely do that, there is a room for second chance she might give an exucuse for the first time expecially if i dont have a concrete evidence |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by AmancalledGod: 9:43am On May 16, 2020 |
padi94:mofos always asking stupid questions can't u read where he said the wife has confessed cheating on him with another man |
Re: My Wife Is Hurting Me Badly by dom80: 10:26am On May 16, 2020 |
Sirvingeo: you will now think you are not hitting her well when goes outside to f.uck. it will make you think you are not doing the right thing. the truth is... it is not your fault but her choice to cheat behind your back. no matter how you provide for your girlfriend/fiancée/wife, if she wants to cheat she will. no matter how you gave her 100% care, attention, love etc. she will still cheat on you if she wants to. no matter how you f.uck the hell out of her, she will still cheat. my wife to be cheated behind my back despite all the loves , attention, care etc that I show to her. I f.uck the hell out of her to the point that she always to beg me to stop because she is so tired and she felt like squirting. imagine she fan her p.ssy most time when i f.uck her yet she cheated on me. she knows money isn't the problem and she knows that I'm not a thousandnaire but she still cheated. it makes me get more confuse about women and what they really want. its hard to find loyal girl. even the girl you nurture for 3-5yrs will surely cheat because she just want to do what other girls are doing. I just don't know. |
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