bigpriik:
All I can say is Bleep love it doesn't exist material things comes first before it.

chubinwa:
This is purely a social class rift. considering the circumstances around poly graduates, it is certain that the man will not accept you. the only thing that can suit his pride now is money. make more money. I don't mean saving your little salary to accumulate it. I mean make money on bases, this is the only solution.

stuffs4me:


Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

Ningen:
Are you implying he rather gives his blessings to a poor and jobless degree holder than to a rich and successful school dropout?

You are totally naive to believe it's all about your educational background, its your Bank Account!



Your options —

1. She can find her voice and convince her dad that you are success and marriage material.

2. You can go back to school for a degree.

3. Elope together without his blessing.

4. Get rich quick, google 'Robbin Banks' for tips.

5. Quit and move on. ( Preferred option!!)

tidalstorm:
I can see where her parents are coming from. Every parent wants a better life for his/her kid. The expenses they spent on school sef no go be small money.
With your qualifications, you will might be good enough for there daughter. Just leave the girl, work harder and try to further your education to avoid family wahala.
I think it is a social class problem, them dey feel say you no reach their class based on money.

deewhydoski:
Op, I can see that some people are saying you should go and make money to impress your babe family, like say money is easy to make especially in this Niger. Op dont go and do pass yourself
Leave the girl, it is obvious that her father don't want you. Upgrade yourself and look for someone else.
Ladies full for town

yungz:
he's looking for a suitor that will worth the money he spent on his girl's head and op you are certainly not the person.

At op assume say na range or benz you pull up with for in house the man no go fit talk that rubbish wey in tell you.

Seems like the man has measured you already and it happens to b u came with only leggedis benz na why in throw you format.

Op i will advise you to hustle hard, make money and visit the man again, i'm sure this time around he will accept you as his son-inlaw before you even propose marriage.

vibbb:
The lady in question is the determinant, if she rilli loves you no one can stop her. Though her parents may influence her decision but then she has the final say.
Be confident and be a man, don't allow anyone to make you feel less a man.

#Goodluck.

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic,Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.
We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA.
She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she beautiful. I mean so beautiful.
It all started with friendship which later leads to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future hold.
After our NYSC we both went back to our various base. She based in Lagos while I reside in Osun.
Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor.
But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.
After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.
Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.
12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living.
I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow daughter to marry an HND holder.
He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

meetme01:
Op, to be sincere, if you don't upgrade before you get married to that lady if eventually things is sorted. You would have issues in your home.

See, it's not a curse. Married folks can attest to this.

Her standard is much higher academically, financially etc than yours. You have been seen as a gold digger. She would want to reside in Lagos due to her job. Not mainland Lagos but on the island. Can you afford accommodation in Lekki or or VI.? She would have much say in the home because her income is much higher and her parents would be supportive. If you're not careful, your home would be dictated by her parents. Before you know, you would turn to their houseboy. At the long run, a hit or foul language on the lady will end the marriage.

Please, yoruba would say, ile ola niyonu. Another says, iyawo burku se fe, ano buruku o se ni (You can mange a bad wife but the in-law should not be harboured).

If you like yourself, make her your best friend and remain best of friends. She would love it that way and any request for support or assistance, she would be glad.

Marriage is not only about love o.

stuffs4me:
OP. even you have discriminated against polytechnics people because I'm very sure you have met countless poly girls but chose to go for a university graduate with masters sef.

No poly guy or girl wants to marry a polytechnic leaver yet you guys are the first people who complain about discrimination. Same discrimination you poly leavers are guilty of

My advice to the OP is to look for a fellow polytechnic girl and date as that girl he is chasing is way beyond his level in all ramifications.

chilet4cici:
My little advice don’t marry a girl if at least one of the parent is not in support of the marriage... Thank me later

silento:
Wetin happen to ur dick give her belle and relax they will call u to sort out things

Alberta123:
Stop trying to paint your in law bad.

I am also a polytechnic graduate and my fiancee studied abroad(UK).

I'm a software Developer in a top company in lagos and her parent liked me the moment they saw me.


The problem is not that you went to polytechnic.

The problem is you work as a factory worker.


The dad is right be worried. Can you give her the kind of life she's used to.

duduade:
Be shouting you truly love her upandan


Gold digger oshi... Third mainland bridge is in Lagos... Whey you will come to Lagos and jump inside

Don't go and look for someone or your status

So that no one/inlaw will be looking down on you

gaius01:


Some parents sef Na Ogun go locate them, leave him to marry her Na, but Sir you caught your coat beyond your size, a girl with MSc, you must admit she has class, and her parents will be ready to see some one above thier daughter. Well I will advice, if her dad really meant what he said tell her it her dad that is making you leave her
As for me I can't and will never marry a lady above me, in school, I can't kawai

stuffs4me:


Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

Omoboricash:

Complex. Why would u say u can't marry a lady that's above u academucally . If I may ask, can u marry a lady that her salary far better than urs..?
Most important thing in marriage is
Love
Respect
Understanding

Submission and above all fear of God