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Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Jullima(f): 4:07pm On May 02, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: ![]() ![]() 16 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 4:07pm On May 02, 2020 |
Nwodosis: What an unkind post! 83 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by budaatum: 4:10pm On May 02, 2020 |
Alawaxbimbex:You need to open your eyes too. Op shut her's and fell for "I want to be a pastor" instead of seeing what he actually was. Other blinding things some fall for are "he fine", "he get good job, money, car, etc". Some hardly focus on character and manner until he's baked buns in your oven and it is too late. 63 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by budaatum: 4:11pm On May 02, 2020 |
Nwodosis:You were not asked to judge but for advice. 43 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by nnamdibig(m): 4:22pm On May 02, 2020 |
You are the man dear marrying him as your wife. sorry about that. But one thing I will assure you is that if you don't leave this man, you will most likely die before your time. 22 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Ishilove: 4:26pm On May 02, 2020 |
Your husband sounds like my ex. If not that he is married to you, I would have sworn that he is the same person. Nasty creature. I dealt with the situation by simply exing him, but your case is not so simple. My advice will be to endure until you can endure no more. When you get pushed to the wall, you will fight back. The outcome of that fight is what I don't know. 63 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by crackkhaus: 4:30pm On May 02, 2020 |
Ishilove:Who told you it's not simple? It's really very simple... All is she needs is to save money, and she'll be gone. 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Ishilove: 4:41pm On May 02, 2020 |
crackkhaus:It isn't very simple my dear. This is marriage, kids are involved, families are involved and a whole lot of ramifications as well. 67 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by nahzyla: 4:42pm On May 02, 2020 |
Iffffffy: It's like we are many in this WhatsApp group. 94 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by eyinjuege: 4:44pm On May 02, 2020 |
budaatum: Some are born pretenders. It is in their DNA. It is their sole reason for existing. It is their work. To pretend for years in order to deceive others until they feel they have what they want and there is nobody they respect enough to put them back in line 36 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 4:45pm On May 02, 2020 |
Ishilove:it's seems you still missed these ex of yours, my sister that life try and move on. Such a lucky man. 7 Likes
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Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by crackkhaus: 4:46pm On May 02, 2020 |
Ishilove:In 2020, it's very easy please. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Ishilove: 4:49pm On May 02, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Are you married? ![]() 28 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by holocron: 4:50pm On May 02, 2020 |
Dear OP, Please Do this: WRITE DOWN EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE POSTED HERE, WORD FOR WORD, AS A LETTER TO YOUR HUSBAND, AND HAND IT TO HIM TO READ. He will weep and beg for your forgiveness. Forgive him and together discuss and chart a new course for yourselves. Thank me later. 37 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Saintmary(f): 4:52pm On May 02, 2020 |
nahzyla:Reading your post, other similar posts on this thread, and MizJaY's previous posts, my head is reconfiguring and recallibrating about marriage. Ego without money is just bullshit. Thank you for sharing your experience. 39 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by budaatum: 4:53pm On May 02, 2020 |
eyinjuege:The hunter, they say, has learnt to shoot without missing, so the birds must learn to fly without perching or they'll be here writing long stories of lamentations or be shot! 10 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 4:55pm On May 02, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:TROLL oshi... 46 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by crackkhaus: 4:56pm On May 02, 2020 |
Wow, so many stories of unhappy women in their marriages. What must be responsible for this ![]() Is it that the men involved have always been like that, but as expected, they are very good at gaming these women with love and excellent sex... OR is it that the women never really paid attention, got carried away easily, and were quite easy to deceive? It really has to be one or the other, because I don't believe an adult already set in his/her ways can suddenly change. They may pretend, adapt, or be able to project a false personality but to change? NEVER. 23 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 4:56pm On May 02, 2020 |
Stop apologizing for what u didn't do. It will erode your self esteem more until u become a shadow. U guys can cut down on the expenses so u can save. He too should cut down on th expenses. Seems ur family lives above their means that's why u hardly have anything by the end of the month. U should sit him down to proper home finance management. Draw a table that's workable with few % left at the end of the month as savings and emergency. If he don't agree with you and continues spending as he want, go ahead and cut your own part. The main problem u have in your marriage is finance. Might be that u are obviously a means to an end that obviously never happened hence the lashing out. Also start expressing yourself very well. When HBP kill you, he won't wait up to 6 months to hook up with another. A nagging woman can also be the quiet type. Most quiet people are dangerous with their mouth. A word and the house will shake. Your husband isn't here to tell if you are the type that skin a man alive with your mouth even though u hardly talk. So check yourself. And stop living according to society standard. 26 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by crackkhaus: 4:56pm On May 02, 2020 |
Ishilove:Yes. You that is asking, are you married? ![]() The woman herself has admitted that it's money that's holding her back from leaving, and you're still preaching your own. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Drizzy5001(m): 4:57pm On May 02, 2020 |
My mum went through all this things too, my dad turned her to a punching bag, when I was still a little boy , but I'm over 20 now , Dem no born am to beat my mum... Rather he will just be shouting that's all. My mum on there other hand dey try her best to avoid his wahala ... marriage is for better for worst. 46 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 5:00pm On May 02, 2020 |
Another one again.let me come and be going |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 5:01pm On May 02, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Most people change when they didn't meet their expectations. 5 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 5:03pm On May 02, 2020 |
crackkhaus:She obviously don't want to leave. It's frustration that's speaking so don't hold on to that but advice her as you will advise your sister. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:04pm On May 02, 2020 |
![]() Drizzy5001: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 5:05pm On May 02, 2020 |
Na wa o, maybe everybody should just carry his or her cross and continue praying to God for divine solution cos the opposite is my own case. She doesn't even work and now that she works and am jobless, the matter come tie wrapper. I do the begging everytime cos of the kids cos they will always bear the brunt. This life Sha. 22 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 5:14pm On May 02, 2020 |
Wahala, wahala here and there. Nawa! Ladies, marry who know road, come get sense on top. You fit date douchebag o, f*ck am join sef, no quanta, but no make mistake to marry man wey no get sense like this one wey them explain here. E get why! Men of these days have lost their sense of worth. Na kanda full ground now. Na only God go save we 'good' women. Madam, if you can, saaaaaave radically, however you wan rugged am, rugged am! Save o! E get why! That man fit maim you one day, even fit kee you sef. I no wan lose you too early. I still love you. ![]() E go be. ![]() 39 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by veave(f): 5:16pm On May 02, 2020 |
Ishilove: Ewo. I didn't know you married twice o. I go like hear this jist. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by DanseMacabre(m): 5:16pm On May 02, 2020 |
nnamdibig: OP listen to this man. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Richy4(m): 5:18pm On May 02, 2020 |
I just wanna approach this issue here based on financial angle.. Assuming the financial aspects of the family was planned very well, including the kids the family required, every other issues would have worked itself out... Try and start up a family budget.. Something that is reasonable and reliable but can be executed and followed each month .. Just see how that goes... Cut unnecessary expenditures if u can.. As for u and your husband's problems , every marriage got their own version of issues.. find a common ground to resolve it if u can.. but if u can't, take a walk... Some people are responsible for peace in their home.. Some couples who can't take either that kinda responsibilities or that couldn't take or endure it goes to igando customary court(my nairaland favourite court because of the weird cases there ) But if u wanna try, as in u want a fresh start after the lock down, start with financial responsibilities.. Both of u should sit as a team and decide who manages fund/money better. FYI, this got nothing to do with gender.. if he managed better than u, give him 88% of your salary and save up the rest. Apart from his ego problem, he is trying for the family in terms of paying rent and the children's school fees. That to me is a plus. We can't rule that off as if it was not an effort.. So if he asked you to contribute your own quota for food, I don't think that he was wrong. Besides, it's a union between a man and wife not one sided.. sit and financially plan your family.. 28 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 5:18pm On May 02, 2020 |
Men with these sexist, I'm-always-right-you're-always-wrong, my-way-or-the-high-way characteristics are usually like that before marriage. You probably saw some of the signs before you got married and thought he would change. Or you were too caught up by him portraying himself as a so-called man of God that you didn't pay attention to the things you should have and walked away then. Also, I checked your threads. In September 2018 you were seeking financial assistance here and you mentioned being a mother of 3. In another thread in November 2018 you mentioned having a 3-month old. In this thread, you mention being a family of 6, so between last yr and this year you just had another child. Idk why you keep having more kids when you're struggling financially? 78 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by akinade28(f): 5:21pm On May 02, 2020 |
Stories like this makes the issue of marriage very scary for people like me 4 Likes |
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