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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Alabyte: 10:12pm On May 02, 2020
Will the father say same to Mark Zuckerberg who is also an Harvard's dropout?

Even if you have to fail in life, chose an expensive failure... E get why

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by AtikuNetwork: 10:13pm On May 02, 2020
Landmark86, just hustle and stay focused so that you will make a lot of money. Ever heard the saying 'Money stop nonsense'? Well, it is very true. When you are very OK and doing very well financially, no one will care about that HND. They will all be eating out of the palm of your ur hands. Guy, fashi the babe and go and hustle if they family is giving you too much trouble.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by aspirebig: 10:13pm On May 02, 2020
Look for another girl. There are many other girls out there.It may not be easy,initially. Don't marry her by force o.

But come to think of it, is the man's preference for her daughter.

The babe already has M.Sc , not just B.Sc or BA, the guy with HND .The issue is a case of M.sc vs HND.,not B.sc.

Though, that doesn't determine the future o.

The guy still need to do PGD before going for M.Sc.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by ghettochild4u(m): 10:13pm On May 02, 2020
White people no get time for this nonsense o

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 10:14pm On May 02, 2020
Ningen:
Are you implying he rather gives his blessings to a poor and jobless degree holder than to a rich and successful school dropout?

You are totally naive to believe it's all about your educational background, its your Bank Account!



Your options —

1. She can find her voice and convince her dad that you are success and marriage material.

2. You can go back to school for a degree. grin

3. Elope together without his blessing.

4. Get rich quick, google 'Robbin Banks' for tips.

5. Quit and move on. ( Preferred option!!)


May God forgive you. If you don't have any reasonable contribution, why can't you keep quite.
Does been wealthy guarantee happiness in marriage? I pray you don't continue like this.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by yesloaded: 10:15pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
Her dad funny die

What matter most is what you have upstairs & pocket, higher academic qualifications is just a plus

BTW, her father sees you as someone who can't have fat pocket in nearest future whereas he's not 100% right

Goodluck bro

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Asour: 10:15pm On May 02, 2020
tidalstorm:
I can see where her parents are coming from. Every parent wants a better life for his/her kid. The expenses they spent on school sef no go be small money.
With your qualifications, you might never be good enough for there daughter. Just leave the girl, work harder and try to further your education to avoid family wahala.
I think it is a social class problem, them dey feel say you no reach their class based on money.

Probably. Thought so too.

I have always said that Racism (though terrible ) is a scapegoat. Other forms of Prejudices are rife in our world today.

All with a smirk of the "You aren't up to my level" ideology.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by chatinent: 10:15pm On May 02, 2020
Parents wey mumu.
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Bevmo: 10:17pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
Forget about her and move on! Don't deceive yourself she must have been losing interest in you already cuz the moment you stepped out of their doors, her dad must have give her a good reason not to marry a man with that level of qualification. If you marry her, you will surely have a problem. And I want you to know that it is not about qualification it is about what you are doing for a living with the HND certificate you are caring about, the chances of getting a good job with it is very slim. If you were to be a successful business man, her dad wouldn't have rejected you. Forget about her, move on. When you were in NYSC camp, don't you notice the discrimination between University and HND graduates? You sure must have noticed it man. See! All in all, forget about her, move on.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by saajus: 10:17pm On May 02, 2020
She has to convince her parents. If not, don't waste your time. I don't know some parents are still shortsighted to that extent in 2020. There are a lot of PhD holders that will box their daughter to stupor at home. I am not HND has automatically made you responsible, but you are the one she loves.
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by mickykhe(m): 10:17pm On May 02, 2020
Guy, its not because of HND. U forget the golden rule, I mean my golden rule. Never be honest with ur in laws cos it will shot u in the face.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 10:17pm On May 02, 2020
Money is the issue. You enter bus come their house. How can ya 40k salary raise a family

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Topmaike007(m): 10:18pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
ogbeni go and make money... My mum brother that dropped out from school way much than my dad bro that graduated from OAU with 2.1 from faculty of law if the both sit down you self go know say levels dey because my mum brother control the environment..

That's to tell you that money can even buy you degree without seeing the forewall of school

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by flexyrule(m): 10:18pm On May 02, 2020
Dear OP. It's not your HND. It's your pocket.
Diploma holder who is a full staff of Exxon Mobil or Chevron would comfortably walk into your girl's family house and get her dad's blessings.

Forget the girl and double your Hustle!

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by ignis: 10:18pm On May 02, 2020
Op, please hussle and make more money.
The problem is not with the HND but your pocket.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Succes4real: 10:18pm On May 02, 2020
benzion72:

They are two siblings, bros such family are always overprotective of their few children. leave everything open, but have a plan B. But dont let it be said that you are the one that let her down. You must also use the snag to succeed in life

Best advice , I was in such similar shoe before .
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by tweakdude1: 10:18pm On May 02, 2020
My guy, if all her parents is not in agreement then don't go near her. If you don't want to regret later.

You too further in your education.
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by grandstar(m): 10:19pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86

Oga, you need to upgrade your income. From the look of things, you're still managing.

I would have told you to ditch the girl but you both have mutual love for each other.

I believe you can still both marry if you're determined.

Call the girl and be frank with her. Tell her that since her dad is against the idea, what's your best move? That does she see any future?

Try and work out a plan, preferably a 5 year plan. During that 5 year period, you work out how to upgrade your income (maybe you go into business), upgrade your education (maybe attend open or online university) and also get married.

You need to understand her father's fears. There are only 2 of them and obviously loves them dearly. To now invest so much in his daughter and she now chose to marry someone whose financial future is shaky is a non-starter.

Also, he'll like someone that will match his daughter at least equally. He might want to get you a job for instance but your qualification stands in the way.

You'll have to brush up your English. Sorry to say that. It's important to people like this. Start reading literature. Mix with well educated people, if possible live with them. 9ice English was awful in the past but not any more.

Yours isn't awful but some upgrade is necessary. Your future father=in=law will want someone he can present to his friends and family. He's put in too much into his daughter and wants to see it bear bountiful fruit.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Peace081: 10:19pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
Pls this is not a period of weather her parents reject you or not, we have a critical issue on ground already, pls save us this headache
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by LoudlyMouthed: 10:19pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University..

I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!!
Tell him: "Education is not anointing"

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 10:20pm On May 02, 2020
saajus:
She has to convince her parents. If not, don't waste your time. I don't know some parents are still shortsighted to that extent in 2020.
i have a friend who has a low paying job with illegal side runs. The babes father did not accept him. He intensified his illegal runs so as to be able to prove to the man he is capable. He has impregnated the gals sha. And is forming rich man now. One day burble go burst

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by paul100(m): 10:20pm On May 02, 2020
I am sorry to say this but her father is looking for a man that is very rich like you said she went to covenant and Babcock university.Those schools are for big men children,School fees are in millions.
For example,a rich man will like his daughter to get marry to maybe a politician child,a rich business man or an oil worker.That is what the father want,but if you are able to work up to the standard her father wants,he will accept you with his whole heart even with a HND degree.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by wman(m): 10:21pm On May 02, 2020
LordIsaac:
Everyone in this nation always seeks to be politically correct. It means love doesn't exist. Nigerians has its head buried deep in hypocrisy. Who shall deliver us?

It's the same thing abroad too. Most of them marry within their social class and their race. You hardly see white girls from rich homes marry black men unless they are well-to-do.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by rayobaba(m): 10:21pm On May 02, 2020
Mmhmm, some people say give her belle. Still may not work and l don't support that. Some parent wl stl force their daughter to abort the pregnancy which is automatic the end of the relationship. I think the dad not after your HND, he has weighed it and felt you below her daughter educationally and that maybe you not rich.
If you are so rich with your HND, papa may not think of HND.
Continue with the relationship, be a man, don't be timid or weak, don't feel inferior, be caring and understanding to the girl, and lastly chase the cheque and continue to work hard and smart legally.
Time will tell.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by femi4: 10:21pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
love is not enough, go and look for your hnd mate

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by NaijadrivaCars: 10:21pm On May 02, 2020
Just imagine. Some parents sha.
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by RedBororo(m): 10:22pm On May 02, 2020
My brother is just a pity but one thing I would tell you is hustle big time, I was in your shoes some years back, my case was my lecturer daughter we did ND together, She went for direct entry while men I came back for HND. I graduated before her and the father told me to my face, I must have a Master before I can Marry her daughter, Bros’s that gave a challenge, Bros I hustle and made it big,today am married over ten years now am married to a medical daughter with the HND,
Nothing is new bro HUSTLE OH, Make dem no use your children art witch for school

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 10:22pm On May 02, 2020
landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

Mr brother, don't stress yourself. Her parents are not God and your education is good enough. Just let the girl know that you love her, but if she can't take a stand you won't wait forever. There are PhD holders looking for any man available to marry. Her father is a narcissist... I know their type, eventually the girl may end up being unhappy for the rest of her life.

Buhari doesn't have a degree or HND, he is the president today... Don't let anyone downgrade your star. Shine on bro... God dey behind you.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by adexontop(m): 10:22pm On May 02, 2020
Guy let me tell you from experience don't kill yourself because of love.That she love you is not enough. Marriage is not between you and her but also the family. Please look for any University obtain PGD form with your little saving from your work continue don't stop until you get a PhD.Let this be sudden decision in your see if she really love you she will convince her father.Prove to him that you have stuff and not saw dust pack in your brain.Iam a product of Polytechnic but today iam doing my PhD program with many professional qualifications including IPAN.Bros upgrade yourself.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by CaptainFM1: 10:23pm On May 02, 2020
You have a serious work to do to convince the parents. But not that difficult if the lady truly loves you.

First, don't portray yourself cheap anymore to them. Sit your woman down and find a way she can help you convince her parents. Often times, its a simple threat most parents put forward to see how you will handle it.

Let her find a voice that her parents harken to. Seek their assistance. But they also will require strong conviction. You will need to put your best foot forward if necessary.

If you survive the hurdle and could make them to approve you, trust me it would be the best thing that would ever happen to you.

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Adegunle4(m): 10:23pm On May 02, 2020
Eeyh! ...my brother jus Forward March !
1, 2!! grin

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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by flexyrule(m): 10:23pm On May 02, 2020
[s]
stuffs4me:



Masters no be beans..
[/s]Abegiii. People are looking for money, you're talking about masters.
Do you know the number of Masters holders roaming the streets looking for jobs?

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