Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by OriOko88(m): 11:42pm On May 02, 2020 |
stuffs4me:
Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.
Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.
The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks We will see who you go marry 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Baffupdrizz(m): 11:42pm On May 02, 2020 |
Get a new Girl or Get yourself a BSc.
You're welcome! 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Ajixegun: 11:42pm On May 02, 2020 |
Kekereekun123: Money is the issue. You enter bus come their house. How can ya 40k salary raise a family How did you know he collects 40k as a salary? NL mo gbe idi fun e 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by elefind(m): 11:44pm On May 02, 2020 |
bluebay: Re you sure? Or you rejected coz you don’t have money? you are a fool, you don't understand English as a language. a graduate can be at any level of education, high school, college, polytechnic, university. please learn. fool |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by sketcherJ(m): 11:44pm On May 02, 2020 |
safarigirl: You are clearly looking at the world with rose-colored glasses.
Life is not a Nollywood movie, where Michael, a hustling Polytechnic graduate will meet wealthy Chelsea, by chance, at NYSC, then after a few protests, her wealthy parents will eventually accept him and welcome him to the family, then offer him some high-paying job with which he can care for their daughter
You are clearly starstruck by this girl, who must be an embodiment of the kind of girl you should have never stood a chance with.
You don't have a uniting factor, aside this love you think you share. The babe probably likes you because you have her time and treat her better than Lagos boys. Lagos boys don't worship her because there are a ton of her in Lagos, however, there aren't a ton of her in Osun, so, you are understandably smitten
It will end in tears
Even if you both, somehow, armtwist her parents to agree to your union, one day, your wife will meet her ideal guy in that big company she works at. He will be a graduate of Babcock or Covenant or one University in the abroad, he will be suave and smooth, he will wine and dine her with all the money you don't make as a factory supervisor.
That is when you will know how much you FVCKED YOURSELF OVER, but it may be too late for you
Better save yourself while you can. lol new story coming? 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Alaganature(m): 11:44pm On May 02, 2020 |
landmark86: I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree. She also graduated from Babcock University.
We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.
It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.
After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.
After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.
Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.
12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.
He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house. I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern. Should I call it quit?
Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
O.P all those advise say make you do masters no make sense oooo.. ain't saying it's bad to get More Qualifications but what if the money is not there to proceed? Just call your girlfriend and explain things to her and let her know she's in right position to gain her parents heart to get married to you if truly she loves you.. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by babayaro7: 11:45pm On May 02, 2020 |
humilitypays: The reason the man rejected you is not that you are a HND holder, it is how you presented yourself plus how you sold yourself to her father when he asked about your parents and job.
Everybody in Nigeria is scared of poverty, including President Buhari that was why he hurriedly married his daughters out to sons of billionaires cos even as a President he was scared of the future of his kids lol
I can boldly tell you that most of my close friends are HND holders and they earn far more than most master degree holders, most have built their own houses, some building second houses for rent and driving their dream cars and married to ladies with far greater profile than your girlfriend.
For those screaming Masters Degree, what is a masters degree in present day Nigeria and the world when there are no jobs She's only lucky she has a connected father that helped her get a job after her Msc if not, her Msc cert would have expired in her clothing box like thousands of people in Nigeria and even outside Nigeria.
In the US for instance, if you like have 2 Msc in all those yeye courses they study in Nigeria like Marketing, Accounting, Microbiology, Biochemistry, Geology, Business Administration, Public Administration, etc, people with ordinary certificate in Nursing, and other STEM courses will earn far more than you and even get employed before you will ever get a job, so what's the fuss about![](/faces/huh.png)
Most IOCS and top FMCGs employ mostly HND graduates; especially the engineering guys and they grow faster than most other graduates and fields.
Dangote Refinery, Fertiliser, P&G, Oil Test, Shell, Mobil, NLNG, NBC, etc employ mostly Engineering graduates with HND and most of them earn far more than Bsc and Msc graduates, so op don't let the man's action push you to depression, it is not about your HND certificate, it is about what you are currently earning, about your financial status now; probably you went to the man's house on a taxi, and dressed like an Oshogbo man, just upgrade yourself because the whole world is afraid of poverty that is why everybody is running away from poor people, not that poor people are poisonous.
Repackage yourself, there are far better ladies ahead to meet, the girl profile is not even that high to warrant the father talking nonsense, ordinary Babcock and Covenant university, what will he say about those that trained their daughters in ivy League schools in UK, US, etc He couldn't even afford to send her abroad to study where she would have met sons and daughters of Queens and Kings yet he is discriminating, life sha Bros I'm fully agreed with what you have said, more especially the yeye course that you mentioned. And I wish the guy will take the piece of advice that you gave him. 6 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by OriOko88(m): 11:47pm On May 02, 2020 |
duduade: Be shouting you truly love her upandan
Gold digger oshi... Third mainland bridge is in Lagos... Whey you will come to Lagos and jump inside
Don't go and look for someone or your status
So that no one/inlaw will be looking down on you Shut up you effing. I hate ppl with bad energy like you. Enemy of progress. Poverty has warped your reasoning into mediocrity. Why attack d poster asif he has snatched your babe before. Bad mouth 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Unrated900(m): 11:47pm On May 02, 2020 |
Ningen: Are you implying he rather gives his blessings to a poor and jobless degree holder than to a rich and successful school dropout?
You are totally naive to believe it's all about your educational background, its your Bank Account!
Your options —
1. She can find her voice and convince her dad that you are success and marriage material.
2. You can go back to school for a degree. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
3. Elope together without his blessing.
4. Get rich quick, google 'Robbin Banks' for tips.
5. Quit and move on. ( Preferred option!!)
What if before he comes back The lady has been taken by a yahoo boy Mompha’s crew 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Jamesrock(m): 11:49pm On May 02, 2020 |
Guy, you’re dense! I swear!!!
I won’t blame her dad , what have you been doing that you didn’t up ur game! You want to eat in the circle of the rich and your thinking is like that if a freaking poor man...
Up your thinking bro 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 11:49pm On May 02, 2020 |
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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by stevups(m): 11:50pm On May 02, 2020 |
You supposed to have cried earlier, today is not a day to think you have lost her. When she was going for her Msc, why didn't you go for your PGD? Let me tell you, in marriage people consider economy first even before God. Don't be deceived. Their child is their future, you are a future of your parents. Go and find your level! |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by elefind(m): 11:50pm On May 02, 2020 |
highbee02: Pls, correct the title. The word GRADUATE is strictly for University. The title should reads " Her parents rejected me because I finished from a polytechnic." you are a fool, you don't understand English as a language. a graduate can be at any level of education, high school, college, polytechnic, university. please learn. fool 4 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by OriOko88(m): 11:50pm On May 02, 2020 |
chubinwa: This is purely a social class rift. considering the circumstances around poly graduates, it is certain that the man will not accept you. the only thing that can suit his pride now is money. make more money. I don't mean saving your little salary to accumulate it. I mean make money on bases, this is the only solution. You could have tought him how to make the fast money now 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by afecgivers: 11:52pm On May 02, 2020 |
landmark86: I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree. She also graduated from Babcock University.
We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.
It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.
After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.
After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.
Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.
12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.
He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house. I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern. Should I call it quit?
Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
My wife graduated from Madonna University and she did her Master in the UK while I graduated From ATBU without a master degree and we are happy together. Note! Not all fathers are in a good mental state. If the man is normal, he should know that men are very difficult to get this day. Most of the young successful men in Nigeria prefer to go with baby mama. I will advice you keep the fire burning, don't give up easily because the man might be testing you. Study your girl's attitude, check if there is any change in her communication... It might be a planned work between she and her family...a technical way to tell you good bye. I knew a friend that experience the same issue. 12 Likes |
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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Olarewaju89: 11:52pm On May 02, 2020 |
I have read comments and am having headache. At last something most happen whether good or bad. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by openmine(m): 11:53pm On May 02, 2020 |
afecgivers:
My wife graduated from Madonna University and she did her Master in the UK while I graduated From ATBU without a master degree and we are happy together. Note! Not all fathers are in a good mental state. If the man is normal, he should know that men are very difficult to get this day. Most of the young successful men in Nigeria prefer to go with baby mama.
I will advice you keep the fire burning, don't give up easily because the man might be testing you. Study your girls attitude, check if there is any change in her communication... It might be a planned work between she and her family...a technical way to tell you good buy. I knew a friend that experience the same issue. Exactly ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 11:53pm On May 02, 2020 |
But let's be realistic here. Why do African parents treat their kids like properties?
Your kids are human beings with emotions, mind and conscience too. Always try to be empathic.
I have seen kids commit suicide for reasons like this.
Let your kids be. God created you as an individual same way he created them. Some of these parents didn't have imposing parents when they were younger.
Fine, y'all can talk about class and wealth etc but life doesn't last forever. At most 150 years its all over. Allow people to love whom they want.
This is one thing I dislike about African parents. 7 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 11:54pm On May 02, 2020 |
stuffs4me:
Keep deceiving yourself.. The Op even failed to defend himself in front of the girl's dad.
The hypocrite and lazy OP should find his level and look for a fellow diploma lady like him to go and marry.
Masters no be beans.. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by stevups(m): 11:54pm On May 02, 2020 |
meetme01: Op, to be sincere, if you don't upgrade before you get married to that lady if eventually things is sorted. You would have issues in your home.
See, it's not a curse. Married folks can attest to this.
Her standard is much higher academically, financially etc than yours. You have been seen as a gold digger. She would want to reside in Lagos due to her job. Not mainland Lagos but on the island. Can you afford accommodation in Lekki or or VI.? She would have much say in the home because her income is much higher and her parents would be supportive. If you're not careful, your home would be dictated by her parents. Before you know, you would turn to their houseboy. At the long run, a hit or foul language on the lady will end the marriage.
Please, yoruba would say, ile ola niyonu. Another says, iyawo burku se fe, ano buruku o se ni (You can mange a bad wife but the in-law should not be harboured).
If you like yourself, make her your best friend and remain best of friends. She would love it that way and any request for support or assistance, she would be glad.
Marriage is not only about love o. You nailed it! You are a realist. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Frezhkid10(m): 11:55pm On May 02, 2020 |
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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 11:55pm On May 02, 2020 |
duduade: Be shouting you truly love her upandan
Gold digger oshi... Third mainland bridge is in Lagos... Whey you will come to Lagos and jump inside
Don't go and look for someone or your status
So that no one/inlaw will be looking down on you ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by waldigit: 11:56pm On May 02, 2020 |
landmark86: I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree. She also graduated from Babcock University.
We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.
It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.
After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.
After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.
Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.
12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.
He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house. I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern. Should I call it quit?
Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
But when Fayose became governor with HND, the father didn't complained to Abuja o. Let tell you the man is suffering from acute poverty mentality just like .many of his type Nigeria. MSC Otta, HND Ire which is which? ewo lewo 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by ahiboilandgas: 11:57pm On May 02, 2020 |
landmark86: I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree. She also graduated from Babcock University.
We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.
It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.
After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.
After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.
Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.
12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.
He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house. I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern. Should I call it quit?
Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
register for pgd then do msc ...degree na degree 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by stevups(m): 11:58pm On May 02, 2020 |
Kobicove:
OP, answer this question honestly...
If you marry this lady will you be able to provide her with the level of comfort she is already used to since she was born?
Love alone is not enough to sustain a marriage these days, money is the main ingredient required! Love is for the young boys, responsibility is for the adults. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by tuzle(m): 11:58pm On May 02, 2020 |
flexyrule: [s][/s]Abegiii. People are looking for money, you're talking about masters. Do you know the number of Masters holders roaming the streets looking for jobs? dont mind dem, I know a PhD student in funaab who begs me money for transportation any time we see and I don't even have Bsc yet 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by senitorspeaker(m): 11:59pm On May 02, 2020 |
Go and get Money...... Your girl will be competing with others.
She will need to work hard cos pple u roll with have no Certificate but Money. 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by OriOko88(m): 12:00am On May 03, 2020 |
BadLuckonmyGame: your writing skill is so poor. I'm sure your spoken English is the same. I don't blame the parents. Your types are the ones giving OND and HND graduates problems. Shut up ode. Is your written or spoken English better than the native speakers, the British. Write a 450 words essay and let see if errors wouldn't be abound. Coming online to hide under your filty keypads to attack people's personality. Oponu 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by humilitypays(m): 12:02am On May 03, 2020 |
jaxxy:
Bro leave all this format, I know dropouts who employ MSC and PhD bt that doesn't mean every dropout will or can do that. That is why I said prospects.
Sm1 cant just come talk anyhow and u eat it up. That is stupidity. U have to ready to show u can walk the talk. what nonsense prospect are u talking about ![](/faces/huh.png) The op is far more better and have better prospect than that girl, ask me how ![](/faces/huh.png) The guy was able to secure a job as a factory supervisor with his HND certificate on his own without anybody's help, but the girl with her Bsc and Msc couldn't secure a job on her own without her Father's help, what becomes of her future if her father dies suddenly, can she also grow to the top on her own without relying on Nigerian mago-mago ![](/faces/huh.png) Nigeria is a shithole nation all thanks to that man and people like him with stupid mentality that fill the ruling class ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) 5 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by noble2faith(m): 12:03am On May 03, 2020 |
Jokerman:
Lol... See the OP
Madman. ROTFL |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Odion2016(m): 12:04am On May 03, 2020 |
Pity the Dad too...He has invested so much in his daughter.. 1 Like |