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Re: . by andyanders: 7:53pm On May 03, 2020
nnamdibig:
You said you are setting up your business and upgrading yourself.
In that case, if you are truly looking for love, don't put your child in of the conditions for someone to love you(to avoid stories of he hates his step child or the real father has been disturbing my marriage).
Take care of your child through your business and if he loves the child along the line fine if not fine too. Look for love for yourself alone and let the lover know you have a child and not with condition to love your child also.

na waa 4 uooo. How can u want her not to carry her 6 yr old daughter along? She was open to anyone that is ready to be part of her and that explains that she is a straight person. You are the type that hate kids.

op, I wish u the best.

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Re: . by Ishilove: 8:03pm On May 03, 2020
nnamdibig:
You said you are setting up your business and upgrading yourself.
In that case, if you are truly looking for love, don't put your child in of the conditions for someone to love you(to avoid stories of he hates his step child or the real father has been disturbing my marriage).
Take care of your child through your business and if he loves the child along the line fine if not fine too. Look for love for yourself alone and let the lover know you have a child and not with condition to love your child also.
Op kindly disregard this comment.

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Re: . by izzou(m): 8:14pm On May 03, 2020
Ishilove:

Op kindly disregard this comment.

grin grin grin grin
Re: . by Richy4(m): 8:19pm On May 03, 2020
summerset:

Nothing wrong about this platform,found the love of my life here, but on a neutral ground sha,contacted each other based on a situation and the rest they say is history.

Ohhhh!!!!! Congratulations... That's a positive feedback..
Re: . by frozen70(f): 8:21pm On May 03, 2020
nnamdibig:
You said you are setting up your business and upgrading yourself.
In that case, if you are truly looking for love, don't put your child in of the conditions for someone to love you(to avoid stories of he hates his step child or the real father has been disturbing my marriage).
Take care of your child through your business and if he loves the child along the line fine if not fine too. Look for love for yourself alone and let the lover know you have a child and not with condition to love your child also.

You are right, she shouldn't make the love she wants the man to give her child be a condition

She should take care of her child with her resources

And allow love to take care of she and the man if she finds one

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Re: . by Dainy1(m): 9:19pm On May 03, 2020
@op. I like you. I don't really know why. But I do.
All the best. I pray geniue love locate you.

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Re: . by Dainy1(m): 9:22pm On May 03, 2020
frozen70:


You are right, she shouldn't make the love she wants the man to give her child be a condition

She should take care of her child with her resources

And allow love to take care of she and the man if she finds one

Must you comment if you don't know what you're saying/supporting?

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Re: . by Iwin101: 9:24pm On May 03, 2020
lovecode248:
It's really time to move on. I'm a single mother of one. 29years,
Never been married, setting up my own business and developing myself.

If you're matured, you also want to try to love again, you're ready for something serious, you're a Christian and you're sure you can have extra love to extend to my 6years old child without any sentiment, . Then, let's give it a try.
If you have a kid as well, it's fine.

Please, married men, guys looking for sugar mummy stay away.
Thanks

Op, do you mind sharing what happened to your daughter's father?

Kindly state your location, I know someone who might be interested in you

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Re: . by Nobody: 9:35pm On May 03, 2020
Iwin101:


Op, do you mind sharing what happened to your daughter's father?

Kindly state your location, I know someone who might be interested in you
No I don't want that discussion in the direction you're looking for. Sorry about that.

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Re: . by Nobody: 9:38pm On May 03, 2020
ifko:

This is a bold step, i wish you best of luck.......Fraudster step aside u are not needed here shocked
Thanks so much
Re: . by Ishilove: 9:43pm On May 03, 2020
izzou:


grin grin grin grin
The child is part of the package. He either loves the whole package or take a hike. It's as simple as that.

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Re: . by Nobody: 9:45pm On May 03, 2020
murphyrichy:
This man is making sense, infact these are the challenges one faces when he is in love with a single mum, it takes a genuine Love that comes from the heart to love both the Mum and her child. I wish OP, best of luck
He's not. There are too many negative stories everywhere causing more harm than good already. It's time to take a fresh breath and believe in the positive. Because everything is going to be alright.
I don't want this post in that dramatic path you're going. Thanks
Re: . by Iwin101: 9:51pm On May 03, 2020
lovecode248:
No I don't want that discussion in the direction you're looking for. Sorry about that.



It is okay, but where are you? North or south. You know proximity might play a big role here.
Re: . by frozen70(f): 9:58pm On May 03, 2020
Dainy1:
Must you comment if you don't know what you're saying/supporting?

You can go for her
Re: . by izzou(m): 10:03pm On May 03, 2020
Ishilove:

The child is part of the package. He either loves the whole package or take a hike. It's as simple as that.

I read his comment like four times

I couldn't figure out if he was typing nonsense, or if my eyes were deceiving me

And then I saw your comment. That's why I laughed grin

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Re: . by Sanchez01: 10:32pm On May 03, 2020
nnamdibig:
You said you are setting up your business and upgrading yourself.
In that case, if you are truly looking for love, don't put your child in of the conditions for someone to love you(to avoid stories of he hates his step child or the real father has been disturbing my marriage).
Take care of your child through your business and if he loves the child along the line fine if not fine too. Look for love for yourself alone and let the lover know you have a child and not with condition to love your child also.
The emboldened ruined your submission. There's no way any sane woman will put a man over her child. OP deserves happiness like any woman out there and it is not too much to ask that a man worthy of just doing that will love her child.

Of what benefit is looking for love when the said love is not extended to yours?

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Re: . by Happychildlove(f): 10:40pm On May 03, 2020
Shine your eyes

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Re: . by baybie3(f): 10:56pm On May 03, 2020
I love your courage op and do wish you the best in your search.

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Re: . by DateMynd44(m): 1:19am On May 04, 2020
lovecode248:
He's not. There are too many negative stories everywhere causing more harm than good already. It's time to take a fresh breath and believe in the positive. Because everything is going to be alright.
I don't want this post in that dramatic path you're going. Thanks
kindly drop your number lemme call you.
Re: . by Dainy1(m): 5:31am On May 04, 2020
frozen70:


You can go for her
I'm married already
Re: . by Nobody: 1:09pm On May 04, 2020
Iwin101:

It is okay, but where are you? North or south. You know proximity might play a big role here.
North Central
Re: . by SweetCunt97(f): 1:26pm On May 04, 2020
Asholami:




Please can I have your pics?
Wetin u wan use the picture do? You haven't even started any conversation with d lady and your first request is picture? Na so fine face dey put una inside trouble.
Re: . by SweetCunt97(f): 1:29pm On May 04, 2020
frozen70:


You are right, she shouldn't make the love she wants the man to give her child be a condition

She should take care of her child with her resources

And allow love to take care of she and the man if she finds one

Did she say anything about d man taking care of her child with his resources? Or love now translates to money to you people? A man loving her kid now translates to him caring for d child with his resources?

She's a package deal, if you ain't cool with that, bounce.

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Re: . by Nobody: 1:34pm On May 04, 2020
Richy4:
Wrong platform smiley.. By the time kids from romance section flood on your thread, u will be asking Y you opened it in the first place..
lol.
Romance section mad o.
Re: . by Nobody: 9:53pm On May 04, 2020
All the best. But be careful please. Many guys here are not to be trusted. You can go through their comments before responding to their pm.
Good luck

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Re: . by mcdokwe(m): 4:02pm On May 05, 2020
Op, it is not like I'm judging you o,

Instead of looking for love in a package, why not reunite the child with her dad, that's with the assumption he would love her and take care of her, then go and search for your love. As much as we pretend to be liberal, Nigerian men as still very much traditional and conservative. Eight in ten men who welcome single mothers' children in their new relationships are mostly those in search of children or too old to get other young girls they may want to marry, it is only the other too who connect to the beautiful souls of those mothers, I pray you have such a soul and your mate connects you.

Forget all that I wrote up there, my main concern is with the child and her having a relationship with her dad.

Because,
Just like you, the mother of my child held on to her, denying me a place in her life.

Just like you, she is 29.
Just like your child, my daughter is six.
And here I am, wanting to love and care for my child, and maybe she's out there hoping for someone who would love my own child, the love I am not even allowed to give her and I am wondering who would love my child as much as I do.

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Re: . by nifton(m): 4:37pm On May 05, 2020
mcdokwe:
Op, it is not like I'm judging you o,

Instead of looking for love in a package, why not reunite the child with her dad, that's with the assumption he would love her and take care of her, then go and search for your love. As much as we pretend to be liberal, Nigerian men as still very much traditional and conservative. Eight in ten men who welcome single mothers' children in their new relationships are mostly those in search of children or too old to get other young girls they may want to marry, it is only the other too who connect to the beautiful souls of those mothers, I pray you have such a soul and your mate connects you.

Forget all that I wrote up there, my main concern is with the child and her having a relationship with her dad.

Because,
Just like you, the mother of my child held on to her, denying me a place in her life.

Just like you, she is 29.
Just like your child, my daughter is six.
And here I am, wanting to love and care for my child, and maybe she's out there hoping for someone who would love my own child, the love I am not even allowed to give her and I am wondering who would love my child as much as I do.
Hey, you look familiar. Have you by any chance resided in 042?
Re: . by mcdokwe(m): 4:52pm On May 05, 2020
nifton:

Hey, you look familiar. Have you by any chance resided in 042?
Yes sir
Re: . by Fabuloski(m): 10:43pm On May 05, 2020
I think you all should stop blackmailing people with this complete package and true love bullshit.
I am not in the mood to judge the op or anything, however I just want to tell that blackmailed guy once again that it's okay not to want a single mom with a her 'complete package'

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Re: . by veave(f): 11:09pm On May 05, 2020
nnamdibig:


I understand you. The reason I said so is to avoid being blackmailed with it later in life.
To avoid stories like "I am not the biological father", "My own biological children comes first", "it's you that I love not your child", "take the child to her biological father".

like I said, if he loves the child naturally, fine. if he choose not to fine too but you won't be bordered because you are already taking care of the child with your business.

Nnamdi which kain advice be this?
Re: . by Codec(m): 11:17pm On May 05, 2020
lovecode248:
It's really time to move on. I'm a single mother of one. 29years,
Never been married, setting up my own business and developing myself.

If you're matured, you also want to try to love again, you're ready for something serious, you're a Christian and you're sure you can have extra love to extend to my 6years old child without any sentiment, . Then, let's give it a try.
If you have a kid as well, it's fine.

Please, married men, guys looking for sugar mummy stay away.
Thanks

This comment is like stepping on the tail of redpillers

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Re: . by Graxie(f): 6:49pm On May 06, 2020
Fabuloski:
I think you all should stop blackmailing people with this complete package and true love bullshit.
I am not in the mood to judge the op or anything, however I just want to tell that blackmailed guy once again that it's okay not to want a single mom with a her 'complete package'
It's called choice, those who are interested will reach out to her. There is nothing like blackmailing, she wasn't even looking for advice but for a soul mate when some people came in with their advice.

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