Juell:

Some of them have something else bothering them, all they need is someone who they can really trust and believe in. Others it's best to avoid them, like my neighbor, I sometimes think she's weird. When you greet her to answer na problem, she just disappeared b4 the lockdown without informing us.

Do we share same neighbor? Mine disappeared just before the lockdown and till now we haven't seen her. I just hope she's fine wherever she is.

MariamAlheri:


Do we share same neighbor? Mine disappeared just before the lockdown and till now we haven't seen her. I just hope she's fine wherever she is.

OBoy! Which kind disappearance be that

Tundexi:


OBoy! Which kind disappearance be that

Are you sure you aren't my neighbor too? My neighbor's name is Tunde o.

MariamAlheri:


Are you sure you aren't my neighbor too? My neighbor's name is Tunde o.

Hahaha.. I no dey disappear ooo

Saatah:

�I remember being asked this same questions then in my 100level�. Interestingly hilarious though. Thank God I'm not the only one. For me, they'll complain about me having this 'resting bitch face' but I smile more now esp when I'm looking at someone so they don't get it twisted, it's just hard..
What about staring? Have people complained about you staring too much at them?

About staring? No, I stare o but make conscious efforts to avoid them catching me staring at them.

These days too, I make conscious efforts to relax my face and smile often. My nickname growing up was "strongface"

And once someone annoys me, it shows on my face immediately and my face can remain like that for the rest of the day. I'm learning how not to transfer aggression these days.

Swtbabyvee:
Anxiety is only an indicator of underlying disease when feelings become excessive, all-consuming and interfere with daily living.

Self-esteem is an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth.

Depression is a group of conditions associated with the elevation or lowering of a person's mood, such as depression or bipolar disorder

Note: extrovert ain’t super humans , they just make a conscious efforts , they can choose to lay in their beds in self pity but they hv decided not to. there r challenges everyday and we have no choice but to defeat them n move on with our happy lives.

I don’t agree that all introverts are this way , depressed, anxious and hv low self esteem, I hv met a few , some introverts r even better fighting life challenges better than I do , some even get me over a sad mood cause I am an over thinker. Most are just overly very shy n don’t speak up much .

Lastly babe no matter what u hv gone through isn’t worth holding on to forever , and darling u are too beautiful to even have self esteem issue and u seem intelligent also. Depression is a very serious situation try ur possible best to over come it and get some fresh breeze of freedom . If u believe u don’t need to , then that’s the development that guy is talking about .

Sis, I’m talking about chronic anxiety that can be debilitating and lead to irrational thoughts like suicide and fears all the time that interferes with your life everyday. It’s not your regular anxiety of giving a presentation or worrying about when you can pay the next bills. I’m talking about the one that leads to self harm, ghosting people for weeks. LOL extroverts can’t go a week being depressed, they can get over it within two days because they can’t be alone for two long in isolation. Everyone is different quite frankly, but I think that Most introverts find it hard to express themselves or rather what they are feeling at the moment, that’s why introverts have small circle of people they can talk to that understand them or sometimes be in our inner world and figure it out, but Extroverts will always get feedback from everybody.

Also the self-esteem part is really part of that inner thought that comes during the depression, it won’t go away, especially if one has been through some experiences that has to do with body image, it’s hard to fight it too. All these is a process and most people still go through this but they try to hide it or deal with it.

Also, lol don’t make this about me, I’m just sharing my opinion based on my own part and other people in general. I’m not depressed anymore like I used to be . Thanks tho.

Tundexi:



Hahaha.. I no dey disappear ooo

You sound like a disappearing person sha...

My fellow introverts, please has any of you used the app Bambooks? What's your experience like biko? It's a reading app like Anybooks.

I need to read o, but Anybooks is now paid for and the app is misbehaving these days after one makes payment. Please help...

purplecoco:
Sis, I’m talking about chronic anxiety that can be debilitating and lead to irrational thoughts like suicide and fears all the time that interferes with your life everyday. It’s not your regular anxiety of giving a presentation or worrying about when you can pay the next bills. I’m talking about the one that leads to self harm, ghosting people for weeks. LOL extroverts can’t go a week being depressed, they can get over it within two days because they can’t be alone for two long in isolation. Everyone is different quite frankly, but I think that Most introverts find it hard to express themselves or rather what they are feeling at the moment, that’s why introverts have small circle of people they can talk to that understand them or sometimes be in our inner world and figure it out, but Extroverts will always get feedback from everybody.

Also the self-esteem part is really part of that inner thought that comes during the depression, it won’t go away, especially if one has been through some experiences that has to do with body image, it’s hard to fight it too. All these is a process and most people still go through this but they try to hide it or deal with it.

Also, lol don’t make this about me, I’m just sharing my opinion based on my own part and other people in general. I’m not depressed anymore like I used to be . Thanks tho.

when I was in primary school people use to call me fat, make fun of me , I was really a sad little girl back then ,, took me years to overcome it , I totally got over it when I realized men were into me. Started loving myself , got into Instagram and had likes . That really boosted my self esteem.

MariamAlheri:


About staring? No, I stare o but make conscious efforts to avoid them catching me staring at them.

These days too, I make conscious efforts to relax my face and smile often. My nickname growing up was "strongface"

And once someone annoys me, it shows on my face immediately and my face can remain like that for the rest of the day. I'm learning how not to transfer aggression these days.

Great

Liliantalks:
when I was in primary school people use to call me fat, make fun of me , I was really a sad little girl back then ,, took me years to overcome it , I totally got over it when I realized men were into me. Started loving myself , got into Instagram and had likes . That’s really boosted my self esteem.

Same here, I was bullied in primary for the same reason, I only had my brains and ability to colour to my rescue which
alot of them would come back to me for. Got over it when I got my first sincere compliment from a dude then..but as times went on my body naturally took its figure8 shape and funny enough those who teased me then look like something else now..I was a sad child..
Bullies cause alot more harm than they know!

MariamAlheri:


I wear a mean face too most times but with very close friends, I can relax and be jovial.

Being an introvert isn't easy at all. This lockdown is almost turning me into a recluse.

HI, how're you doing today?

I just realized I hate being forced to stay indoors even if I love it a lot .

I am fine and well , how about you ?

Theundertaker:
I just realized I hate being forced to stay indoors even if I love it a lot .

I am fine and well , how about you ?

What I hate is people crowding my space or forcing me to talk.

I'm doing great.

MariamAlheri:


What I hate is people crowding my space or forcing me to talk.

I'm doing great.

no one has the guts to cross that boundary, they just leave me alone... only my close friends hv the guts to cm close n I am always comfortable with them , is not like I drive them away , they just don’t like me much lol

Liliantalks:
when I was in primary school people use to call me fat, make fun of me , I was really a sad little girl back then ,, took me years to overcome it , I totally got over it when I realized men were into me. Started loving myself , got into Instagram and had likes . That really boosted my self esteem.

That’s awesome . I had the same similar experience, I was called ugly by some girl and she went ahead and spread a bad rumor, that let a hole in me, all throughout high school but I got over it. Now I know that I’m a very beautiful girl then and now. She can’t tell me s.hit now. Lol

Theundertaker:
no one has the guts to cross that boundary, they just leave me alone... only my close friends hv the guts to cm close n I am always comfortable with them , is not like I drive them away , they just don’t like me much lol

Funnily enough people, especially kids, like me naturally. Lol.

It is well.

Theundertaker:
seriously , I am not as mean as I look, I am actually a funny person . Only my few friends know that. Especially when I am high .

I can relate

MariamAlheri:


I get that a lot too, "madam, you don't smile at all, why?"

HI, how're you doing?

Yeah

I find it very hard making new friends... I currently don't have friends around where I live... The only friends I've got (a few from school days/siblings) are the ones who were patient enough to understand my personality, some of whom we've been friends for years...

And by the way, I'm very fine, thank you and I hope you aren't doing bad either

XRJP:


Yeah

I find it very hard making new friends... I currently don't have friends around where I live... The only friends I've got (a few from school days/siblings) are the ones who were patient enough to understand my personality, some of whom we've been friends for years...

And by the way, I'm very fine, thank you and I hope you aren't doing bad either

I'm doing great too.

Being an introvert is quite interesting enough for me. Although it has its good days and bad days.
Many ladies tend to hang around me even though I find it odd. They all say and I quote, "We like your introvertedness".
Some other people (most especially the guys) think I'm weak, non challant and even womanly (no offence to the feminists)..
But the striking thing for me is, most of the friends I have now have been there from day one. And also the friendship groups I left behind (especially from secondary school), they all keep saying that I was the bond that held us together

Jezking:
Being an introvert is quite interesting enough for me. Although it has its good days and bad days.
Many ladies tend to hang around me even though I find it odd. They all say and I quote, "We like your introvertedness".
Some other people (most especially the guys) think I'm weak, non challant and even womanly (no offence to the feminists)..
But the striking thing for me is, most of the friends I have now have been there from day one. And also the friendship groups I left behind (especially from secondary school), they all keep saying that I was the bond that held us together

me too all my real friends r my secondary school friend, I got normal acquaintances, hi hello people but My secondary school friends r the only people that get me , I went to a boarding school , imagine how much we know each other. I can relate to that bond part totally , u hardly hv issues with any of them , and u are listening ear to everybody, who they know u won’t judge or hv the energy to gossip

How have I not seen this thread since. Well my own case is almost extreme cos it affects my relationship with family. I just basically don't want anybody to talk to me except i talk to you first. I think I've been this way since I was a kid even though mine was coupled with low self esteem cos I could remember my dad will tell me of an incident that happened one day he took me to crunchies for a
Kid he opened the door and entered as a kid that is supposed to be excited and run in with him, i stayed back timidly at the door till he came back to grab me by the hand. Primary school also had it's toll on me as I had an accident that gave me a very scattered dentition. I was nicknamed Dracula. I hated going to school even tho I always came first or second. Growing up and entering the university, I made a deliberate attempt to boost my self esteem. It hasn't been easy but I've made very huge progress. I told myself hei boy look you are not bad looking, you are intelligent, you are skillful ( I was one of the best keyboardist in my school) so you have no reason to be timid. A milestone achievement was when people asked me to run for the post of the departmental president. In my mind I was like Lol me? E be like una no know d Kain person I be. People just generally liked me. I rejected the offer even tho they promised to buy form for me and take care of the campaigning. But the thought didn't leave my mind. And something kept on telling me, nigga you can do this. I wasn't scared of losing the election I was just timid to declare my intentions to run. I finally made up my mind a day to the election and hence no publicity was made. I prepared a lit manifesto but timidly presented it. But all the same I won by a wide margin. I couldn't believe this. Now even tho o never got to use the office because all students unionism was banned a week after due to a protest. So I don't know how I would av performed as a Dept president cos I know I no fit shout upon the greatest gba gba. Lolx... But I always feel proud about it. I'm still introverted to the core but have gradually overcome low self-esteem. I hope this inspires someone.

urchcoded:
How have I not seen this thread since. Well my own case is almost extreme cos it affects my relationship with family. I just basically don't want anybody to talk to me except i talk to you first. I think I've been this way since I was a kid even though mine was coupled with low self esteem cos I could remember my dad will tell me of an incident that happened one day he took me to crunchies for a
Kid he opened the door and entered as a kid that is supposed to be excited and run in with him, i stayed back timidly at the door till he came back to grab me by the hand. Primary school also had it's toll on me as I had an accident that gave me a very scattered dentition. I was nicknamed Dracula. I hated going to school even tho I always came first or second. Growing up and entering the university, I made a deliberate attempt to boost my self esteem. It hasn't been easy but I've made very huge progress. I told myself hei boy look you are not bad looking, you are intelligent, you are skillful ( I was one of the best keyboardist in my school) so you have no reason to be timid. A milestone achievement was when people asked me to run for the post of the departmental president. In my mind I was like Lol me? E be like una no know d Kain person I be. People just generally liked me. I rejected the offer even tho they promised to buy form for me and take care of the campaigning. But the thought didn't leave my mind. And something kept on telling me, nigga you can do this. I wasn't scared of losing the election I was just timid to declare my intentions to run. I finally made up my mind a day to the election and hence no publicity was made. I prepared a lit manifesto but timidly presented it. But all the same I won by a wide margin. I couldn't believe this. Now even tho o never got to use the office because all students unionism was banned a week after due to a protest. So I don't know how I would av performed as a Dept president cos I know I no fit shout upon the greatest gba gba. Lolx... But I always feel proud about it. I'm still introverted to the core but have gradually overcome low self-esteem. I hope this inspires someone.

Bravo..
I'm proud of your achievement!! Keep doing it! You can't be stopped! You're a star with just the right lighting

Saatah:


Bravo..
I'm proud of your achievement!! Keep doing it! You can't be stopped! You're a star with just the right lighting

thanks, I appreciate

urchcoded:
How have I not seen this thread since. Well my own case is almost extreme cos it affects my relationship with family. I just basically don't want anybody to talk to me except i talk to you first. I think I've been this way since I was a kid even though mine was coupled with low self esteem cos I could remember my dad will tell me of an incident that happened one day he took me to crunchies for a
Kid he opened the door and entered as a kid that is supposed to be excited and run in with him, i stayed back timidly at the door till he came back to grab me by the hand. Primary school also had it's toll on me as I had an accident that gave me a very scattered dentition. I was nicknamed Dracula. I hated going to school even tho I always came first or second. Growing up and entering the university, I made a deliberate attempt to boost my self esteem. It hasn't been easy but I've made very huge progress. I told myself hei boy look you are not bad looking, you are intelligent, you are skillful ( I was one of the best keyboardist in my school) so you have no reason to be timid. A milestone achievement was when people asked me to run for the post of the departmental president. In my mind I was like Lol me? E be like una no know d Kain person I be. People just generally liked me. I rejected the offer even tho they promised to buy form for me and take care of the campaigning. But the thought didn't leave my mind. And something kept on telling me, nigga you can do this. I wasn't scared of losing the election I was just timid to declare my intentions to run. I finally made up my mind a day to the election and hence no publicity was made. I prepared a lit manifesto but timidly presented it. But all the same I won by a wide margin. I couldn't believe this. Now even tho o never got to use the office because all students unionism was banned a week after due to a protest. So I don't know how I would av performed as a Dept president cos I know I no fit shout upon the greatest gba gba. Lolx... But I always feel proud about it. I'm still introverted to the core but have gradually overcome low self-esteem. I hope this inspires someone.

Inspiring! You're an alumnus of the University of Lagos, I guess.

purplecoco:
That’s awesome . I had the same similar experience, I was called ugly by some girl and she went ahead and spread a bad rumor, that let a hole in me, all throughout high school but I got over it. Now I know that I’m a very beautiful girl then and now. She can’t tell me s.hit now. Lol

Lol same here. A few years ago; when i was in Jss3, I played a prank on the girl i had a crush on via 2go .. Told her i met a girl at the beach and asked the "girl" out but she refused.
I asked her to guess why. And the girl i had a crush on said its because I'm fat. Since then I've never thought of even looking at any girl because i have that mentality.
And being an introvert doesn't help with it because i find it hard to express my feelings.. I'm still 20 though, so i might get over it

Kceefresh19:


Lol same here. A few years ago; when i was in Jss3, I played a prank on the girl i had a crush on via 2go .. Told her i met a girl at the beach and asked the "girl" out but she refused.
I asked her to guess why. And the girl i had a crush on said its because I'm fat. Since then I've never thought of even looking at any girl because i have that mentality.
And being an introvert doesn't help with it because i find it hard to express my feelings.. I'm still 20 though, so i might get over it

you will if you try meeting other women , till u get a woman who value you, for a lady, she doesn’t need to make much effort , but for a guy , if u don’t supress ur inferiority complex, and go out there , u will never get a woman. And women acceptance is very important for Everyman ,

back then, my dad use to give money to give girls , I will be so down and depressed and he would ask my problem, when I tell him, he would encourage me not to give up, give me money , buy me card to call the girl , and guess what I had my first girl friend at ur age n he was so proud . until u get a woman u never really feel like a man , don’t give up

Kceefresh19:


Lol same here. A few years ago; when i was in Jss3, I played a prank on the girl i had a crush on via 2go .. Told her i met a girl at the beach and asked the "girl" out but she refused.
I asked her to guess why. And the girl i had a crush on said its because I'm fat. Since then I've never thought of even looking at any girl because i have that mentality.
And being an introvert doesn't help with it because i find it hard to express my feelings.. I'm still 20 though, so i might get over it

Awww, I’m sorry you felt that way, but you can’t let what one girl told you to determine anything, you are still young and got time to talk to other Girls. You will get over it, just try to put yourself out there.

Gleez:


Inspiring! You're an alumnus of the University of Lagos, I guess.

nope I schooled in the south, Niger Delta university

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Theundertaker:
you will if you try meeting other women , till u get a woman who value you, for a lady, she doesn’t need to make much effort , but for a guy , if u don’t supress ur inferiority complex, and go out there , u never get a woman. And women acceptance is very important for Everyman ,

back then, my dad use to give money to give girls , I will be so down and depressed and he would ask my problem, when I tell him, he would encourage me not to give up, give me money , but me card to call the girl , and guess what I had my first girl friend at ur age n he was so proud . until u get a woman u never really feel like a man , don’t give up

Wow! You have one of the best dads in the world.