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Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by privaldo: 8:32pm On May 05, 2020
Hello Nairalanders,

I have a little issue that I feel the house can address. I am 27 and I don't really get the joy people get in being married as I don't get along with females easily.

I have got a well paying job and my career life is great but I still feel I need to have at least a child. I have considered the option of adopting or better still get a lady and pay her off after the child has been born.

My parents seem to be against this plan that it will damage the growth of the child in the future but my siblings are motivating me to go ahead.

Should I stop the plan based on my parents advise or just continue with it?

PS: This is my first time seeking advise on this platform since I joined, I would like matured advise.

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by XD57: 8:34pm On May 05, 2020
Do you know it was people who spoke to January Nwankwos wife on his wife? Why don't you look for someone like a clergy to on behalf make arrangements with a lady and you both take it slow and cultivate the relationship? I recommend this
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Cuddlebugie(f): 8:39pm On May 05, 2020
Child rearing can be tasking under any circumstances and without a significant other, the stakes are higher.

Can you raise a child on your own?
Can you deal with the pressure, stress and fatigue?

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by HarunaWest(m): 8:39pm On May 05, 2020
privaldo:
Hello Nairalanders,

I have a little issue that I feel the house can address. I am 27 and I don't really get the joy people get in being married as I don't get along with females easily.

I have got a well paying job and my career life is great but I still feel I need to have at least a child. I have considered the option of adopting or better still get a lady and pay her off after the child has been born.

My parents seem to be against this plan that it will damage the growth of the child in the future but my siblings are motivating me to go ahead.

Should I stop the plan based on my parents advise or just continue with it?

PS: This is my first time seeking advise on this platform since I joined, I would like matured advise.
SO YOUR LAST TWO TOPICS WERE BASED ON ADVICE BA..YOU ARE NOT A SERIOUS PERSON. WHETHER IF IN FUTURE YOUR YOUR DAUGHTER TELLS YOU THAT SHE WAN BE BABY MAMA YOU GO GREE..What is good for the Ugandans is good for Uganda

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Airforce1(m): 8:42pm On May 05, 2020
Yes you can

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by psucc(m): 8:43pm On May 05, 2020
So if you can't get along with female, how den do you intend to impregnate her or abi yöu go pray make she conceived?
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Franzinni: 8:44pm On May 05, 2020
if you can't stand the stress of marriage bros. bachelor life is the wayyyyyy

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Cuddlebugie(f): 8:45pm On May 05, 2020
HarunaWest:

What is good for the Ugandans is good for Uganda
Da heck! cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Xristars(m): 8:48pm On May 05, 2020
my brother. First I thought you were a female oo. But my Guy haba! Please forget anything concern baby papa, it will cost you dearly in future. Children are for the married.
Maintain a low profile and try to attract girls and build a relationship. You will surely find your missing rib.
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Nobody: 8:50pm On May 05, 2020
How do you mean 'I don't get along with females'?

Well, I'll humbly hand you over to airforce1 for proper advice.

Goodluck.

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Tozic: 8:56pm On May 05, 2020
Cuddlebugie:
Child rearing can be tasking under any circumstances and without a significant other, the stakes are higher.

Can you raise a child on your own?
Can you deal with the pressure, stress and fatigue?

angrygrin
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by zyzxx(m): 8:58pm On May 05, 2020
privaldo:
Hello Nairalanders,

I have a little issue that I feel the house can address. I am 27 and I don't really get the joy people get in being married as I don't get along with females easily.

I have got a well paying job and my career life is great but I still feel I need to have at least a child. I have considered the option of adopting or better still get a lady and pay her off after the child has been born.

My parents seem to be against this plan that it will damage the growth of the child in the future but my siblings are motivating me to go ahead.

Should I stop the plan based on my parents advise or just continue with it?

PS: This is my first time seeking advise on this platform since I joined, I would like matured advise.
if you want to walk fast, walk alone, if you want to walk far, walk with somebody... Look for a good wife. You have move fast to have s better carrier, now move far by having a sweet home, raise a family, get a good woman

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by MOnkeyBabe(f): 9:03pm On May 05, 2020
Airforce1:
Yes you can

hm airforce AIRFORCE I HAILO
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Kobicove(m): 9:03pm On May 05, 2020
privaldo:
Hello Nairalanders,

I have a little issue that I feel the house can address. I am 27 and I don't...
PS: This is my first time seeking advise on this platform since I joined, I would like matured advise.

Yes you can but at just 27 years of age I honestly do not think you're mature enough to wilfully decide you want to have children without getting married
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by MOnkeyBabe(f): 9:04pm On May 05, 2020
Xristars:
my brother. First I thought you were a female oo. But my Guy haba! Please forget anything concern baby papa, it will cost you dearly in future. Children are for the married.
Maintain a low profile and try to attract girls and build a relationship. You will surely find your missing rib.
ADAMU
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by RamessesIV(m): 9:04pm On May 05, 2020
I advice if you have no interest in marriage you look for a woman who is ready to have a child and get her pregnant,note that you must be financial stable and supportive to provide for the child and mother.
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by obembet(f): 9:09pm On May 05, 2020
That's the best now... Be enslaved under a man doesn't worth it... And many of.them don't even value the wife after 2-3yrs in marriage.

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by RamessesIV(m): 9:13pm On May 05, 2020
Honestly you can't believe this right
obembet:
That's the best now... Be enslaved under a man doesn't worth it... And many of.them don't even value the wife after 2-3yrs in marriage.

Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by FGonline: 9:31pm On May 05, 2020
obembet:
That's the best now... Be enslaved under a man doesn't worth it... And many of.them don't even value the wife after 2-3yrs in marriage.

wen we don expand d tin
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Airforce1(m): 2:18pm On May 06, 2020
MOnkeyBabe:
hm airforce AIRFORCE I HAILO

How far with you na
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Nobody: 3:41pm On May 06, 2020
privaldo:
Hello Nairalanders,

I have a little issue that I feel the house can address. I am 27 and I don't really get the joy people get in being married as I don't get along with females easily.

I have got a well paying job and my career life is great but I still feel I need to have at least a child. I have considered the option of adopting or better still get a lady and pay her off after the child has been born.

My parents seem to be against this plan that it will damage the growth of the child in the future but my siblings are motivating me to go ahead.

Should I stop the plan based on my parents advise or just continue with it?

PS: This is my first time seeking advise on this platform since I joined, I would like matured advise.
Ask airforce1, you get the same ideology.
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Airforce1(m): 3:42pm On May 06, 2020
bamidelee:

Ask airforce1, you get the same ideology.

If I talk like a gentleman to you now, you go still abuse me
So make I lock up
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Nobody: 3:44pm On May 06, 2020
HarunaWest:

SO YOUR LAST TWO TOPICS WERE BASED ON ADVICE BA..YOU ARE NOT A SERIOUS PERSON. WHETHER IF IN FUTURE YOUR YOUR DAUGHTER TELLS YOU THAT SHE WAN BE BABY MAMA YOU GO GREE..What is good for the Ugandans is good for Uganda
But you don't need to be shouting before you pass a comment. Be civil bro.
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Nobody: 3:47pm On May 06, 2020
Airforce1:


If I talk like a gentleman to you now, you go still abuse me
So make I lock up
Is it a crime to refer someone of your school of thought to you?
Grow up boi.
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Airforce1(m): 3:48pm On May 06, 2020
bamidelee:

Is it a crime to refer someone of your school of thought to you?
Grow up boi.

Lol
Smh and walks out of thread .
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Lordfranklin(m): 3:58pm On May 06, 2020
Listen to your parents' advice. Raising a child without the support of the other half is detrimental to the child. You won't see the dangers now until later on.
It is never a noble thing to say you don't get along well with ladies. If you don't work on that part of you, you will hardly even find a wife.
I was raised by my mum. I lost my dad at a very young age and my mum raised me the best way she could but then, I feel I was raised the same way she raised my sister. A son needs his father; a daughter needs her mother. They all need both parents but if you don't want to make a simp out your son, don't leave his life to be decided solely by your supposed 'baby mama' or surrogate wife. In the same vein your daughter also needs her mother as much as your son needs you.
Get married.
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by femmyapson(m): 4:07pm On May 06, 2020
Airforce1:
Yes you can
guy how fa .where you go since all dz year. .

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Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by HarunaWest(m): 5:09pm On May 06, 2020
bamidelee:

But you don't need to be shouting before you pass a comment. Be civil bro.
Not a Civilian
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Nobody: 6:16pm On May 06, 2020
HarunaWest:
Not a Civilian
Officer Haruna
Tuale.
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by citytv(f): 6:30pm On May 06, 2020
I think I like this idea, i love my privacy biko
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by Toluwashe778: 6:48pm On May 06, 2020
lolz
the child u want to raise without a mother .....lolz
hope the child ( if she is a girl) will she not turn to be the kind girls u were running from now

my advise to you.
if u have not started praying, u are still young, u can start seeking the face of God for a good woman. a lot of man are really happy that they are married. God can help u too.

Don't rush. seek God
The good ones still exist

And please work towards being a good husband and a good father . u can only attract what u look like .
I wish u well
Re: Can I Have A Child Without Getting Married? by damesilver(m): 7:45pm On May 06, 2020
The idea to have a child without the mother seems modern, fascinating but rather self-serving. Such ideas do not spring from true love. We usually habour so many crazy ideas while we are young many of which look laughable when we grow older. We are to strive after the ideal, to be examplary bofore our fellow men, to be of desirable attributes.

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