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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by SKhanmi: 7:59am On May 06, 2020 |
Find or do something that will bring out the motivation in her. I've trained women before. They shocked me with their wills & determination to lose weight despite the wicked exercises I gave them. If she doesn't want it, you'll simply be wasting your time 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by vincentus16: 8:48am On May 06, 2020 |
u need to put her under stress a bit to help reduce her weight. allow her to run errands herself. let her go to the market. and do some chores. as she walks around, it's an exercise. and it's helping in her weight reduction. and then advice her to reduce the rate of her eating all these junks. that's a major factor. all this soft drinks and snacks. and if she's yet to find work u need to help her get a job or establish a business for her because this issue of growing fat happens to mostly house wife. because the more u stay at home the more u r hungry and always looking for something to eat. keeping her busy will make a difference 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Richy4(m): 9:08am On May 06, 2020 |
Bro, I'm happy you knew what you wanted before you went into that union.. I'm glad too that your wife knows your stance on certain kind of body shape that u don't like... No matter how you present the issue here, some people will fault u.. due to the fact that it is a sensitive issue to them or to their loved ones. If u are looking for a way to approach the subject, After she must have finished feeding the baby one beautiful day, tell her that she's the most wonderful mother in town.. Bring an old pictures of both of u. Tell her that you are looking for this lady, can she help you locate her? She will understand Encourage her, both of u should do it together.. Don't leave her to a solitary exercise/ fitness, it's boring for anyone who wants to remain on her comfort zone... Show that you are completely in support of her health and fitness wellbeing 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Gloriagee(f): 9:26am On May 06, 2020 |
If she was picky about her eating during pregnancy, I think you should cut her some slack cos there is evidence she tried. I was truly overwhelmed by the whole after birth experience - the lack of sleep, exclusively breastfeeding amongst others. For some, it could be postpartum depression. I couldn't even understand why I was always hungry n adding weight when breastfeeding when others claim they lose weight when breastfeeding. Cheating is the easiest response to an issue like this but I bet you the repercussions are unwelcome. Kindly work with her to adopt a weight reduction strategy - intermittent fasting, going to the gym, meal planning or whatever works for her. You will be fine. Sepsis: 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Gloriagee(f): 9:28am On May 06, 2020 |
Waoh....just waoh Sepsis: 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Faithful4real(m): 9:45am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis: Bro use change of diet. Use keto diet, where you eat alot of fat and small or non amount of carbohydrates. Her body will enter the state of ketosis and the liver will start producing ketone from the fat in her bodyand the body will start using it to serve a fuel instead of glycogen. If you think i am lying google about it. I rest my case. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 9:50am On May 06, 2020 |
Gloriagee: I don’t exactly mean that. But I hate to be threatened with a woman leaving a relationship due to infidelity. Heavens won’t fall 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by faithfull18(f): 9:57am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:Hmmn. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Lolo24: 10:04am On May 06, 2020 |
You're very insensitive. Your replies are just wow. I mean wow 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 10:14am On May 06, 2020 |
Lolo24: Because I don’t try to sugar coat it? 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Destined10(f): 10:32am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:Go on facebook and search for Nsikak Effiong. She sells food plans, ask her for postpartum weight loss food plan, then encourage your life to follow up the food plan religiously. You can peruse through her wall to see picture proofs of the efficacy of her food plans 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 10:37am On May 06, 2020 |
don't be surprised this is a pot bellied man complaining about his wife weight here. Help her out by engaging her in some exercises to kip fit and attain the desired body you want and crave for rather than doing nothing but complain. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Judybash93(m): 10:37am On May 06, 2020 |
She's your wife, if you want her to lose weight, work together with her and don't body shame her because she's added some weight. Pregnancy has a lot effects on women and they handle it differently. She needs you more than ever before and this is not because she's added weight but because y'all need to stay healthy. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 10:42am On May 06, 2020 |
LordKO do you have anything to say? ![]() |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by yvelchstores(f): 10:49am On May 06, 2020 |
OP, it's usually not just pregnancy that makes women fat but breastfeeding also. I remember adding more weight as I breast fed my baby and not during pregnancy. She is your garden, so tend her as you will prefer. Make out time to exercise with her, help her with better meal choices.... Help the situation as complaining will make you more frustrated. Also, if you both can get a hang of it now, better for you as the weight may get worse as more kids are born so establish a routine that works for her so after baby no 2 same principle can apply. All the best. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by yvelchstores(f): 10:55am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:I don't know how to explain this... When I was breastfeeding, the hunger was so violent that sometimes I will have dizzy spells and almost fall down. You can't understand until you experience this yourself... The hunger that comes is like mercury is boiling in your stomach and then you eat only to get hungry again.... It's real bro. Your wife is not to blame! Help her. 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Mariangeles(f): 11:02am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis: Here, you made it clear that you do not love your wife. I dare to put it to you that you're irritated by her... Sepsis: Here you are, claiming to love the wife you dared to say nasty things about. What a liar! Do you know what love is? How do you think she'd feel if she read those words knowing they came from her husband? You are not a good husband. A man that cannot protect his wife is not a strong man. You're weak and a coward! What you should've discussed with your wife confidentially, you brought here for anyone to say whatever they want about her without her knowledge. That is not fair. As you have done to your wife, millions will discuss your matter without your knowledge. 15 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Mariangeles(f): 11:04am On May 06, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by BetWinners(m): 11:17am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:Stop wasting your time & energy discussing the issue with your wife.She won't listen to you because many women believe deep within their hearts,"They are amazing just the way they are" like that Bruno Mars song. Instead Introduce Competition from other women. Take 4 or 5 photos together with your female work colleagues or IT students who possess the body type you find attractive. Make sure your wife sees the photos & if she asks questions about them,casually respond to her. In 2-3days,you'll start seeing changes in your wife's attitude to her weight ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Zombiekiller010: 11:23am On May 06, 2020 |
Pele oh |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by crackkhaus: 11:26am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:That's a good one. ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by crackkhaus: 11:28am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:Yeah...you should know women prefer to hear sweet nothings. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 11:29am On May 06, 2020 |
Mariangeles:what is love If I may ask you, Why do people crave this nauseating feeling of been indispensable ??. Truth is i love people genuinely but just dont go around thinking I won't live without you, like you're assuming an over bloated feeling of self importance in my life. 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 11:30am On May 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus:bro i just tire for these girls oo. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by crackkhaus: 11:35am On May 06, 2020 |
DeckXavier:Tell a woman who weighs 170lbs that she is the sexiest woman you've been lucky enough to come across in your life, she will believe you and make herself believe it too. I honestly don't know how they do it. 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nephilim: 11:39am On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:stop whimping like a simp! When someone stops working but keeps eating what do you think they will turn to, of course a fatty! Enough of she's taking care of the baby, you both should get to workout, use the gym but if you can't, you can always do simple exercise at home from watching YouTube.. You are the man tell her what you want, enough of the "man is good" attitude, be straight with her. She also knows she's getting fat, but she's too lazy to fix herself and since you're not complaining, she doesn't mind to keep indulging herself, kick her ass up boy. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Mariangeles(f): 11:40am On May 06, 2020 |
DeckXavier: Love is... Protective Nurturing Supportive Trusting Faithful Compassionate Tender Patient Understanding ..... None of which the op is 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 11:42am On May 06, 2020 |
BetWinners:What useless competition is he introducing? This is a very unhealthy advice for a newly married couple. Besides, your advice could end up being counterproductive because she may believe he's cheating; she gets depressed and starts eating more. I'm sure the vows they took didn't include toying with each other's emotions. There are better ways to approach this without having to go that route and one that could create more problems for them. 13 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 11:45am On May 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus:And the worse part is that they want you to swallow any bullshit that comes your way and any slight complaint is viewed as " you dont love me" . I just hope the Op's wife gets to her best shape as soon as possible. All these marriage ish don tire me bruv. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by crackkhaus: 11:59am On May 06, 2020 |
DeckXavier:I believe that behaviour comes as a default factory setting in women. Once you know how to handle them though, you will have very little problems - just tell them what you know they want to hear, but think the opposite in your mind to avoid too much wahala. I even fear that if the OP pushes his wife too hard, she will start accusing him of comparing her with other women and not loving/appreciating her enough after all the stress she went through giving birth to his baby - emotional manipulation has set in. Na brain dem take dey follow these people... 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Vloml222(f): 12:02pm On May 06, 2020 |
@sepsis! You don't need to bother too much , this is your first kid , you should educate urself more on it and dont complain.some women get fat after delivery and with time she will go back to shape , when she stops breastfeeding ,and also the opposite. Her appetite increased due to her breastfeeding to keep healthy .if she doesn't eat enough and your baby sucks alot she might end up pale and sick.anyways she getting fat isnt a big issue, Just be patient , when your kid starts taking solid and not much on breastmilk, you can encourage her with love to work on her weight , and keep fit...OP! Never you compare your wife or marriage with another.every marriage or spouse has what rocks their boat!. And note this! As long your wife has started giving birth her hormones wont be the same.it happens to all women giving birth. You should be lucky if she just change in body size , that can be easily amended. If she lack interest in sex..you are finished ooo. Nothing can redeem that oo.. So encourage her with love , and dont nag or complain. Is not easy on her too. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 12:07pm On May 06, 2020 |
Mariangeles: This is a faceless forum and this section is notorious for maturity from probably experienced folks. I’ve never been married before. I don’t have the experience to deal with something like this. I just needed perspective on how to go about it without being overbearing. There’s no point resorting to blackmail. Doesn’t do much to help. I’m just a ordinary man trying to do better in life. 6 Likes |
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