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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Graxie(f): 7:51pm On May 06, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:My dear, I thank God say you self see am. Madam want marry by fire by force, she forget say uncle needs forever banging body. I even sure say both the breast and where pikin comot from go tire uncle because wear and tear don happen. His best solution is to look for hot baby oku, dem full for naija. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 8:00pm On May 06, 2020 |
Is it that these ladies do not understand the effect of pregnancy, childbirth or breastfeeding on a woman's body or they are just being sarcastic. Slim ladies had weight after childbirth, you can't fault a lady for what something as natural as pregnancy does to her. You can only fault her lack of will to keep fit like she had when she wanted to marry the guy. Who knows, if she had had a visual revelation of what she would become after childbirth or the effort needed to kit fit, she may not have married the DOCTOR. I think all she needs is to find her zeal to stay in shape again. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Graxie(f): 8:44pm On May 06, 2020 |
Ariza:Thank God you are understanding us, marrying this doctor that expects Kim Kardashian kind of body from the wife would have been avoided if only the wife took her time to get the message earlier. There is nothing depressing as being under pressure to loose weight. But then, he can still meet his Kim. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by infotainment(m): 8:58pm On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:Mr Man u made ur wife what she is, u rendered her docile. Now she is useless to u. U better face ur warrant squarely. ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 9:04pm On May 06, 2020 |
Graxie:On the contrary, I applaud her courage for taking up the challenge, one with lots of benefits for that matter. It's really nice and healthy to keep fit, she understood her man's desire and worked towards it, however like I stated earlier she shouldn't have stopped because she's now MARRIED. Moreover staying in shape will keep her healthy too. |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Graxie(f): 9:17pm On May 06, 2020 |
Ariza:We all know, staying in shape keeps one healthy especially when you have good support system. Trying to loose weight under pressure leads to depression. She would have understood her man before marriage, any man that hates fat would have been a no go area. There is difference between tolerating and hating, the man hates it. From his story, she is still watching what she is eating and also observing portion control, how else does he expect a breastfeeding mom to watch weight? Just 10months after delivery, haba!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 9:38pm On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:A curse you say? Man you are heartless.... Truth is you never loved her 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 9:48pm On May 06, 2020 |
Mariangeles:Exactly....no atom of compassion at all.... |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by trendyprettygir: 10:00pm On May 06, 2020 |
Anybody advising this op is wasting his/her time. This op never truly was attracted to his wife. He married her for reason and he has not told us what it is. I can bet that he has someone else in sight he already uses to compare with his wife.. and then being a doctor makes this pretty easy... all he is simply looking for is an excuse.. or a reason to explore his imagination. I am sorry for your wife right now... this is why a woman should NEVER, I repeat never be a housewife... rather ensure you are always busy and have a life.. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Ishilove: 10:40pm On May 06, 2020 |
May God save women from immature boys with husband sized preeks. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by foreveryoung1515(f): 10:51pm On May 06, 2020 |
femi4:don't mind him, and he has not even been vocal about the thing, just whining and nagging around on nairaland. |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by foreveryoung1515(f): 10:58pm On May 06, 2020 |
Sepsis:You mean you now see your wife as a curse! cuz she's now overweight, you're definitely sick. Replace her now cuz you already said to replace her is just a matter of decision, olodo! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by BrutusOj(m): 12:01am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis:You are not serious at all. Was she that extremely slim when you married her? Did you see her mother or her sister(s) before you married her? I thought you said you are a doctor? Most of the physiques we see in our celebrities on Instagram and other social media are not by mere exercise at home or diet. Most went for surgery and others refused to marry to keep their banging bodies which will still blow someday. You have to accept the reality, she can never be like before. And if you are already eyeing one single lady who is seducing you with her slim body tell us.. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Mariangeles(f): 12:44am On May 07, 2020 |
Graxie: You do know that Kim Kardashian got very fat during both her pregnancy right? Especially the second time.... She came back better than she ever was before she got pregnant. It's all about determination, discipline and self love. It is not about the amount of weight you gain, just make sure to lose it. There's no excuse to let go and eat everything in sight just because you had a baby. No excuse! Young wives should step up. They need not be told these things. It's inexcusable! My only problem with the guy is how he went about it. Other than that, he's within his rights. Ladies should stop making excuses for staying fat. It's not even healthy. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:03am On May 07, 2020 |
Graxie: There is no pressure. I’ve stated that severally but you guys seem to conveniently avoid it. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:07am On May 07, 2020 |
BrutusOj: It is okay to have a type. You women have a type of men you are attracted to and you are usually so vocal about it. We are socially conditioned to be acceptable of the type of men women find attractive - but heck not the man. Men should take any type of woman that comes his way and he should not have a preference as to what is his attractive specification. This here is hypocrisy. If you are castigating me for having a type of woman I prefer, then you might as well castigate me for preferring eba to fufu. After all they are all swallow and they do the same thing. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:11am On May 07, 2020 |
foreveryoung1515: I’m sure you know how expressions work. I’m also sure you know about how ambiguation works with words. If I say I’m stuck with a curse, it means I’m stuck with a situation that’s refusing to get better. I didn’t say my wife was a curse. You guys read to react and respond and not to understand and it’s so unfortunate. I can’t be battling my issues and helping random people on the internet with comprehension of everything I say. It’s a lot of work. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:13am On May 07, 2020 |
Ishilove: This is totally beneath you. I know it because I’ve been a member of this forum since 2008. This is not my usual moniker. I know you can do better than this but if this is what you have truly become, then it is really sad. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:25am On May 07, 2020 |
trendyprettygir: Everything you’ve typed here is a conjecture. No facts just assumptions. You want these assumptions to be so true because you want to give me a bad name. My wife has a life. She is not a designated housewife. She’s probably has more assets than most of you who are talking about her choice to stay home temporarily but that’s not why we are here today. A lot of you have sidestepped the issue totally in order to sympathize with a woman who hardly needs your emotions. You need to invest that attention in something that would actually be beneficial to you. You women hate it when a man finds you dispensable. It is okay to love someone and not find them indispensable. Because the truth is, nobody really is indispensable. So would you rather I live a lie? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:29am On May 07, 2020 |
missdee384: I’ve addressed this prior so I’d just paste what I said earlier. I’m sure you know how expressions work. I’m also sure you know about how ambiguation works with words. If I say I’m stuck with a curse, it means I’m stuck with a situation that’s refusing to get better. I didn’t say my wife was a curse. I’m referring to the problem not the person. You guys read to react and respond and not to understand and it’s so unfortunate. I can’t be battling my issues and helping random people on the internet with comprehension of everything I say. It’s a lot of work. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:43am On May 07, 2020 |
infotainment: Lol. Dunno why a lot of you are trying to get on my nerves. Do you actually think something like this would get to me? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:45am On May 07, 2020 |
Graxie: You don’t have to be condescending you know that? Like it’s totally unnecessary. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 2:53am On May 07, 2020 |
Ariza: This is a conjecture. A very wild one at that. Can we stick to the facts? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by MMotimo: 3:59am On May 07, 2020 |
It’s good to see that you’re not allowing yourself to be guilt tripped, thumbs up! Weight is a very touchy topic for women the world over but somehow, perhaps because a lot of brothers prefer thick; black women are able to sing “I’m sexy and I know it” no matter how big they get as long as the makeup, clothes, hair and nails are taken care of. While the continued confidence despite expanding size is great, it often comes with self denial and an inability to accept responsibility for the continued increase in size. We just keep buying larger clothes which in itself is a big problem. This all works fine unless you are married to a man who does not like “fat sex.” I’m a black woman too so I’m not knocking anybody and I would find it very difficult to tolerate a fat or pot bellied husband. I have been pregnant and I have kids so I know all about what happens to the body however that experience does not condemn you to a life of fat. Staying in shape takes time, sacrifice and commitment. It is not a walk in the park. If it were easy, everyone would do it. I hope you and your wife find a workable solution, don’t give up on her. Hopefully, she has the right support around her and she’s not listening to anyone telling her to “rock her fat” because she birthed a child. Some people like fat sex, some don’t. Like you said, some like eba and some like fufu. Sepsis: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Ouchbabe(f): 4:12am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis:Slow down Mr Doctor. You are yet to understand what love really is. Just few years of marriage and the love is dead already. Don't ask me how I know, it's so obvious from the tone of your post. Please don't body shame her, show her love and help her in whatever way you can e. g registering her in a gym. It could be the other way round, God forbid but what if you are involved in a ghastly motor accident and confined in a wheelchair? I'm sure you would want her stay by your side. Oga please the beauty of a woman goes beyond a slim and banging body. Take it easy before you destroy your marriage for no good reason. Love conquers all things |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Ouchbabe(f): 4:25am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis:And you are complaining already. Please give the woman a space joor. Breastfeeding makes some women fat and you claim to be a doctor. Let her stop breastfeeding first |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Ouchbabe(f): 4:37am On May 07, 2020 |
Mariangeles:You are using Kim as a yardstick. I hope the Op has the kind of money that can afford Kim's kinds of weight reduction surgery? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 4:51am On May 07, 2020 |
Ouchbabe: I’m sure you can make your point without the ad hominem. Why is there an assumption that she is currently breastfeeding? There is no where on this thread that I mentioned it. |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 4:52am On May 07, 2020 |
Ouchbabe: Unnecessary. |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by frozen70(f): 4:55am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis: Pregnancy and after child birth makes a woman to be fat especially when she throws caution to the wind As she is still breast feeding, she will have to eat enough so that she can lactate very well Since she knows your type of woman, she has to work towards it because she will still add more weight for every child birth Get a weight measuring scale for her Seat her down and let her know that it's ment for her to do workout and reduce her weight so that she can fit into what shape you did want her to be and let her know how serious you are about it and she should start cutting down on her meals Then the issue of seeing fat ladies as lazy people, you are already laying a foundation for her She doesn't go to market, you cook most of the times. Do what does she do, watching over her child ❓ You are praising her that she takes care of your child, it's her duty to do that so there is no special applause for that You have made yourself virtually the house help at home, pls that is not love, you are creating more problems Let her start doing those things while you look after the child She will burn energy doing so Don't come here and complain that she left everything for you and she is too lazy Take caution now, let her do those things, more kids are coming She is yet to know her duties at home |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 4:56am On May 07, 2020 |
Ouchbabe: I’m rather surprised that the concept of attraction has a whole different approach when a man is involved. Women are allowed to have tastes in a mate and be vocal about it. Definitely not men. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 5:00am On May 07, 2020 |
MMotimo: I’m down with this. Already started making moves in this direction. Thank you. 1 Like |
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