Look at the demented fool trying to play "victim",who came under my post with insults,you don't understand something instead of you to clarify you want to form savage,you were even corrected but no stupidity is deep in your blood

As i said keep the insults coming is what you were born to do or are you scared!!! IDIOT

Ejusni:



I was going to insult you, but I realized you need help. You keep backing away from my claims with insults(expected).

Lol oh now is about written english

Stop trying to gaslight,do what you were born to do I thought you knew how to be stupid you know want to form engagement lol

Ejusni:


How did you pass waec English? Lack of punctuation, total disregard for the basic rules of English. I shouldn't be engaging you in an argument it's evident you're very ignorant.

RamessesIV:
Lol oh now is about written english

Stop trying to gaslight,do what you were born to do I thought you knew how to be stupid you know want to form engagement lol

At this point I take my leave.
You aren't worth my insults. Keep that in mind.

We die here!!!!


But..dis one ain't spicy has the previous thread Abi nah because female has upper hand in USA??


Tis even better laidis..

TIS NOT EVERYTIME WE WILL BE..
BASHING..
CASTIGATION OUR LADIES
E.T.C


FEMALE NAIRALANDERS..cum and bash us too!!!!

pDudd:
First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.

If you're the kind of man that will sit on the sofa and be watching UEFA champions league and be telling a woman that she should go and cook, serve you, bring you water to drink and wash hand, you are in for a rude shock. Nigerian women in US have opened eye now o. They are not going to serve you like master and servant while your stretch your legs on sofa and be watching football.

If your mother did that for your father, please go and marry your mother so she too can come and be serving you like a king. Nigerian women ain't doing that for you.

Before you leave Nigeria, better learn how to cook, clean house, do laundry, go to buy groceries, take care of kids, and learn humility.

Learning humility is of utmost importance because the day you step your feet into America, you are now second to every woman. The American society favors women over men. They placea lot of value over men. So if you didn't respect women in Nigeria, you may need to reconsider that stance. And if you can't see yourself having a woman above you or respecting women, then better stay in Nigeria.

It's obvious that your submission isn't from an aristocratic POV regarding serving/setting food. A wife/woman - and vice versa, subject to schedule of the man - serving/setting food for her husband/man and tidying the table when he finishes eating, directly or indirectly, has neither been a sign of slavery nor a Nigerian/African thing alone. It's a simple act of selflessness, part of the little things that matter in a healthy marriage/relationship - it has always been done voluntarily and cheerfully. It has always been obtainable within the aristocratic families in the Western world, North America inclusive and the whole world. The command aspect of it you talked about is what I don't know, maybe that's what's obtainable among small-minded people, since altruism isn't their forte.

In fact, it's only the small-minded people who think that jettisoning acts of selflessness and humility as couples when they arrive in the Western world that make them belong. Wannabes. A woman who jettisons acts of selflessness and humility just because she wants to belong, is like a man who won't allow his wife to drive his vehicle at will, or spend his money at will, or save her from doing masculine and stressful things, all because of wokeness and equality. Wokeness and equality don't nullify selflessness and humility as attributes and reciprocation of them between a sane couple - too clever by half attitude doesn't denote wokeness, just as selflessness doesn't denote inequality or slavery.

Love is the greatest refreshment in life, it isn't an illusion - well, it's something only two conscientious people who have altruistic interest towards each can experience.

Sorry I have been quite busy with work and wasn't able to continue with this post. I will try to update as often as I can with my schedule.

Now for me to discuss about Nigerian relationships abroad, the Dynamics are wider and more complex.

There is a huge difference in the kinds of relationships Nigerian couples have with each other and in each one, there are several factors which come into play and cause such dynamism.

Age is one factor, financial status is another, who was abroad first and who filed for the other person to come abroad is a huge determinant.

Most of the time, it is often the man who is abroad first and then files for a younger Nigerian lady to come over and join him. I'm majority of cases, these are the types of relationships that have problems and sometimes the man ends up killing the woman for revenge. So with that being said, I am going to delve into the Nigerian woman abroad relationship Dynamics and advice accordingly.

Another beautiful exposé. Good job, OP.

Would have been sad finding myself in America without knowing all these.

pDudd:
Sorry I have been quite busy with work and wasn't able to continue with this post. I will try to update as often as I can with my schedule.

Now for me to discuss about Nigerian relationships abroad, the Dynamics are wider and more complex.

There is a huge difference in the kinds of relationships Nigerian couples have with each other and in each one, there are several factors which come into play and cause such dynamism.

Age is one factor, financial status is another, who was abroad first and who filed for the other person to come abroad is a huge determinant.

Most of the time, it is often the man who is abroad first and then files for a younger Nigerian lady to come over and join him. I'm majority of cases, these are the types of relationships that have problems and sometimes the man ends up killing the woman for revenge. So with that being said, I am going to delve into the Nigerian woman abroad relationship Dynamics and advice accordingly.

those yankee based naija guys who go back to naija to get younger wives such marriages always end in a sad note.Once she steps her foot in the US she grows wings instanta .after the guy trains her in school in most cases in medical school she will divorce him collect his house,car and other properties..prevent him from seeing his kids and get a younger lover for herself that will be smashing her in the house bought by her ex husband

lefulefu:
those yankee based naija guys who go back to naija to get younger wives such marriages always end in a sad note. Once she steps her foot in the US she grows wings instanta .after the guy trains her in school in most cases in medical school she will divorce him collect his house,car and other properties..prevent him from seeing his kids and get a younger lover for herself that will be smashing her in the house bought by her ex husband

Hahahahaha. Lefool Lefool, you sabi the runz die

You too sabi this Yankee things o. Those guys dey always Bleep up. Instead make Dem dey marry their mates, them go dey marry fresh fish wey still wan rock life before she reach 40. Or instead of him to marry a girl that has already opened eye. Because an open eye girl will not suddenly realize herself. She don realize herself tey tey so na just settle she wan settle cos she don already chop life.

All these small small girls will eventually open eye and ruin the man's life. I will talk about all that one.

pDudd:


Hahahahaha. Lefool Lefool, you sabi the runz die

You too sabi this Yankee things o. Those guys dey always Bleep up. Instead make Dem dey marry their mates, them go dey marry fresh fish wey still wan rock life before she reach 40. Or instead of him to marry a girl that has already opened eye. Because an open eye girl will not suddenly realize herself. She don realize herself tey tey so na just settle she wan settle cos she don already chop life.

All these small small girls will eventually open eye and ruin the man's life. I will talk about all that one.

no they will say the small small girls back in naija they want to marry are humble and submissive .na wen dem carry them come yankee the humble girl go show them the tiger that she is and ruin the man completely .but seriously speaking i dont understand why some of these guys back in the US and UK their siblings back home no dey even do anything to prevent them marrying bad women back home and carrying them abroad.if i had an elder uncle back in US interested in going back to naija to marry a young girl omo i will discourage that uncle ooo and yarn him the truth.except maybe me and dat uncle no dey agree then i can keep silent .

In your honest opinion,what do you think is the best option for marriage in america,a usa raised Nigerian??,other africans or just go white

pDudd:


Hahahahaha. Lefool Lefool, you sabi the runz die

You too sabi this Yankee things o. Those guys dey always Bleep up. Instead make Dem dey marry their mates, them go dey marry fresh fish wey still wan rock life before she reach 40. Or instead of him to marry a girl that has already opened eye. Because an open eye girl will not suddenly realize herself. She don realize herself tey tey so na just settle she wan settle cos she don already chop life.

All these small small girls will eventually open eye and ruin the man's life. I will talk about all that one.

LordKO:



It's obvious that your submission isn't from an aristocratic POV regarding serving/setting food. A wife/woman - and vice versa, subject to schedule of the man - serving/setting food for her husband/man and tidying the table when he finishes eating, directly or indirectly, has neither been a sign of slavery nor a Nigerian/African thing alone. It's a simple act of selflessness, part of the little things that matter in a healthy marriage/relationship - it has always been done volitionally and cheerfully. It has always been obtainable within the aristocratic families in the Western world, North America inclusive, and the whole world. The command aspect of it you talked about is what I don't know, maybe that's what's obtainable among small-minded people since altruism isn't their forte.

In fact, it's only the small-minded people who think that jettisoning acts of selflessness and humility as couples when they arrive in the Western world that make them belong. Wannabes. A woman who jettisons acts of selflessness and humility just because she wants to belong, is like a man who won't allow his wife to drive his vehicle at will, or spend his money at will, or save her from doing masculine and stressful things, all because of wokeness and equality. Wokeness and equality don't nullify selflessness and humility as attributes and exchange of them between a sane couple - too clever by half attitude doesn't denote wokeness, just as selflessness doesn't denote inequality or slavery.

Love is the greatest refreshment in life, it isn't an illusion - well, it's something only two conscientious people who have altruistic interest towards each can experience. 

Beautifully written.

AfroKnight:
See, marriage is a lose-lose situation for any straight manly man in the US.

Two ways to be happily married as a man.
1. Be lucky to find a good wife. ( Good luck finding one)

2. Learn how to be happy with (and for) yourself regardless of good or bad energy from your wife. Derive your joy from your everyday small wins.

There’s one last option but it involves being a foôl
3. Be a simp.


Women have arm twisted that society to hand them the keys of the kingdom. Being masculine puts you at a disadvantage. You must take shît or they’ll grind your àss. It’s so bad that raising your own son to be a man is deemed toxic. But you’d see them applauding you if your little boy grew up to be a woman.

Hierarchy of importance in the American home:
1. Your children
2. Wife
3. Pets
4. Furniture
5. And finally You, the man.

I think its wife before children, otherwise, your post is on point.

ednut1:
you see stupidity. They later come home to marry one amaka or lolade. Who will come over and taste freedom and the favorable laws there. Den he begins to lament

Are you saying our laws enslave our women? is there any part of the law that enslaves women? why are we quick to demonize our country? is there anything nigerian men are doing that the women dont have access to? Most times we talk, open threads on how to travel to abroad etc, some even do thanksgiving in church for getting a visa and somehow look at others as unfortunate for been in nigeria and i wonder where are we getting this mentality from? who told these guys people in nigeria are suffering while the ones in abroad are the fortunate ones?
And that is how some of my friends will come home and be sneaking/hiding from people as if we way they here dey hungry, even with your coming home i will still flex you and host you so what the fvck?
Like what the op said in his first statement that - ''leave that your native brain'' to HELL with him if he thinks he is better off than some here because he thinks like a native fowl too. Leave your yeye bride and bigboyism too etc
I dont know his family or background but i believe he his part of the people who scream ''moti bo - Am free'' when he got his visa at walter carrington in VI

lefulefu:
no they will say the small small girls back in naija they want to marry are humble and submissive .na wen dem carry them come yankee the humble girl go show them the tiger that she is and ruin the man completely .but seriously speaking i dont understand why some of these guys back in the US and UK their siblings back home no dey even do anything to prevent them marrying bad women back home and carrying them abroad.if i had an elder uncle back in US interested in going back to naija to marry a young girl omo i will discourage that uncle ooo and yarn him the truth.except maybe me and dat uncle no dey agree then i can keep silent .

Common broda, are you saying the ladies at home are small small girls who neva open eye? why do we think by default anybody at home is unexposed and local? things are not like before you know? some industries back at home opened up people like oil and gas, maritime, IT, a lot of places you can work and earn decent incomes that will warrant you to live a good life and take vacations.
A lot of people are doing fine at home bro. I think it is kind of unfair to think by been abroad you are automatically more exposed than the people in nigeria.
okay, what about guys going to that abroad for vacations, courses and then come back home. Can we categorise them as still unexposed?
Have travelled to so many countries through company and personally yet am at home and someone in abroad cant boast they are more exposed than me, i wont agree with them. On my own, have been to Napoli in italy, UAE and india while with company many more.

emmaodet:


Are you saying our laws enslave our women? is there any part of the law that enslaves women? why are we quick to demonize our country? is there anything nigerian men are doing that the women dont have access to? Most times we talk, open threads on how to travel to abroad etc, some even do thanksgiving in church for getting a visa and somehow look at others as unfortunate for been in nigeria and i wonder where are we getting this mentality from? who told these guys people in nigeria are suffering while the ones in abroad are the fortunate ones?
And that is how some of my friends will come home and be sneaking/hiding from people as if we way they here dey hungry, even with your coming home i will still flex you and host you so what the fvck?
Like what the op said in his first statement that - ''leave that your native brain'' to HELL with him if he thinks he is better off than some here because he thinks like a native fowl too. Leave your yeye bride and bigboyism too etc
I dont know his family or background but i believe he his part of the people who scream ''moti bo - Am free'' when he got his visa at walter carrington in VI

in Nigeria a man together with his family can chase out his wife without any consequences, courts are a waste of time as it is 5k to 10m a month they would award the women. Incase the man dies the family can chase the wife ( tho getting rare). Women over here endure so many craps. But abroad if a man cheats, beats or do any crap. She can. Easily divorce him. He will be sent out of his house. Pay alimony and child support. Which has ruined many guys. A case of power has changed hands. In canada i know about 5 Nigerians who just went there that have divorced or having serious issues. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2016/10/horror-nigerian-men-go-rampage-us-kill-wives-divorce-alimony/amp/

ednut1:
in Nigeria a man together with his family can chase out his wife without any consequences, courts are a waste of time as it is 5k to 10m a month they would award the women. Incase the man dies the family can chase the wife ( tho getting rare). Women over here endure so many craps. But abroad if a man cheats, beats or do any crap. She can. Easily divorce him. He will be sent out of his house. Pay alimony and child support. Which has ruined many guys. A case of power has changed hands. In canada i know about 5 Nigerians who just went there that have divorced or having serious issues. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2016/10/horror-nigerian-men-go-rampage-us-kill-wives-divorce-alimony/amp/

Bro i understand you clearly and let us look at it this way -
If we say the african culture or setting is backward simply because a man has the ability to chase out the woman if she commits then same can be said about the western culture which is the opposite of african culture that it is a backward society that encourages and empower women to chase out men when they commit or Even when they didn't commit.
Atleast, you will agree with me that a woman can just pick up a phone and call the police, inform them that the hubby wants to kill her or molesting her and they will kick his ass out.
Please tell me, is there any difference between a man that can call his family to kick his wife out in nigeria and a wife that can call the police to kick her hubby out abroad? Am just flipping the scenario, same story but different players.
So if you agree nigerian culture is backward because the law is tilted towards men then you need to agree that the western culture is Backward and Archaic for tilting towards women, children and animals before men.
We shouldn't let the hate we have for nigeria becloud us.

emmaodet:


Bro i understand you clearly and let us look at it this way -
If we say the african culture or setting is backward simply because a man has the ability to chase out the woman if she commits then same can be said about the western culture which is the opposite of african culture that it is a backward society that encourages and empower women to chase out men when they commit or Even when they didn't commit.
Atleast, you will agree with me that a woman can just pick up a phone and call the police, inform them that the hubby wants to kill her or molesting her and they will kick his ass out.
Please tell me, is there any difference between a man that can call his family to kick his wife out in nigeria and a wife that can call the police to kick her hubby out abroad? Am just flipping the scenario, same story but different players.
So if you agree nigerian culture is backward because the law is tilted towards men then you need to agree that the western culture is Backward and Archaic for tilting towards women, children and animals before men.
We shouldn't let the hate we have for nigeria becloud us.

yes both are backward. But over there many have turned to baby mama or singleness. Over here many ladies are still desperate for that same marriage. The matter tire person

pansophist:


Beautifully written.

Thanks. It is my earnest wish for you and your loved ones to stay safe from the coronavirus pandemic, and it's also my earnest wish for the entire world to overcome it soonest.

ednut1:
yes both are backward. But over there many have turned to baby mama or singleness. Over here many ladies are still desperate for that same marriage. The matter tire person

Hahahaha
It's well ooo

ednut1:
in Nigeria a man together with his family can chase out his wife without any consequences, courts are a waste of time as it is 5k to 10m a month they would award the women. Incase the man dies the family can chase the wife ( tho getting rare). Women over here endure so many craps. But abroad if a man cheats, beats or do any crap. She can. Easily divorce him. He will be sent out of his house. Pay alimony and child support. Which has ruined many guys. A case of power has changed hands. In canada i know about 5 Nigerians who just went there that have divorced or having serious issues. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2016/10/horror-nigerian-men-go-rampage-us-kill-wives-divorce-alimony/amp/

The richer spouse is the one who pays alimony.

lefulefu:
those yankee based naija guys who go back to naija to get younger wives such marriages always end in a sad note.Once she steps her foot in the US she grows wings instanta .after the guy trains her in school in most cases in medical school she will divorce him collect his house,car and other properties..prevent him from seeing his kids and get a younger lover for herself that will be smashing her in the house bought by her ex husband

Hahahahaha, I'm literally laughing my ass out �

emmaodet:


Common broda, are you saying the ladies at home are small small girls who neva open eye? why do we think by default anybody at home is unexposed and local? things are not like before you know? some industries back at home opened up people like oil and gas, maritime, IT, a lot of places you can work and earn decent incomes that will warrant you to live a good life and take vacations.
A lot of people are doing fine at home bro. I think it is kind of unfair to think by been abroad you are automatically more exposed than the people in nigeria.
okay, what about guys going to that abroad for vacations, courses and then come back home. Can we categorise them as still unexposed?
Have travelled to so many countries through company and personally yet am at home and someone in abroad cant boast they are more exposed than me, i wont agree with them. On my own, have been to Napoli in italy, UAE and india while with company many more.

Bro it's not about local or exposure, I mean he was wrong using that analogy for the home-based women and abroad women. But the thing is, as a man who is based abroad, marrying a Nigerian who lives or have lived in Nigeria for the most part of her life is very dangerous to the wellbeing of that man.

LordKO:



Thanks. It is my earnest wish for you and your loved ones to stay safe from the coronavirus pandemic, and it's also my earnest wish for the entire world to overcome it soonest.

Amen. Thank you for your wishes.

And I wish you the same.

we are here again. oya,fun wa je ni rush rush.(give it to us back to back). keep up the good work,Pdudd.

I'm here, I Don land. I never read all the pages for the other thread, I still dey like page 25..

I go fit finish am today or tomorrow.
PDudd, lefulefu, fire on

Omar09:


Bro it's not about local or exposure, I mean he was wrong using that analogy for the home-based women and abroad women. But the thing is, as a man who is based abroad, marrying a Nigerian who lives or have lived in Nigeria for the most part of her life is very dangerous to the wellbeing of that man.

Of course that i agree of and have always been saying that.
May God direct our foot paths

Space booked, oya now pdudd, kee ife na eme nwanne, we the wait oh

emmaodet:


Common broda, are you saying the ladies at home are small small girls who neva open eye? why do we think by default anybody at home is unexposed and local? things are not like before you know? some industries back at home opened up people like oil and gas, maritime, IT, a lot of places you can work and earn decent incomes that will warrant you to live a good life and take vacations.
A lot of people are doing fine at home bro. I think it is kind of unfair to think by been abroad you are automatically more exposed than the people in nigeria.
okay, what about guys going to that abroad for vacations, courses and then come back home. Can we categorise them as still unexposed?
Have travelled to so many countries through company and personally yet am at home and someone in abroad cant boast they are more exposed than me, i wont agree with them. On my own, have been to Napoli in italy, UAE and india while with company many more.

no no no u seem not to get what i am saying .i am saying the guys overseas tend to have this believe that girls back home are naive,submissive and unexposed but of course that is far from the truth .some of these ladies of course do play along to fool these guys until when they step their foot overseas then they show these men their true colours

lefulefu:
no no no u seem not to get what i am saying .i am saying the guys overseas tend to have this believe that girls back home are naive,submissive and unexposed but of course that is far from the truth .some of these ladies of course do play along to fool these guys until when they step their foot overseas then they show these men their true colours

Lol.
Ok i get you now.
I also believe they are getting wiser now not to come home and pick a woman.
There was a time people in Lagos too do go back to their villages or hometown to pick women with the excuse that cities girls are bad but now such is no more again

emmaodet:


Lol.
Ok i get you now.
I also believe they are getting wiser now not to come home and pick a woman.
There was a time people in Lagos too do go back to their villages or hometown to pick women with the excuse that cities girls are bad but now such is no more again

Don't say such is no more but not too common.

emmaodet:


Lol.
Ok i get you now.
I also believe they are getting wiser now not to come home and pick a woman.
There was a time people in Lagos too do go back to their villages or hometown to pick women with the excuse that cities girls are bad but now such is no more again

a story is told of a man who wanted to marry, I will never marry any of this city girls, they are too wayward he would say.he contacted his mother who quickly found him a bride. Bride price was paid all marriage arrangements concluded. The new bride moved to Lagos to live with her husband. Night came and the husband was expecting to unveil his virgin bride. pre-intimacy started, the husband casually touch his pubic hair, he noticed a large growth,why not think of shaving it one of this days ask the husband. No no no I will not touch it , that's why I am called afro baby by all the village boys