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Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by worworbabe: 6:40pm On May 07, 2020 |
instinct57vm: You gave her the best advice. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by Finnese001: 6:46pm On May 07, 2020 |
Daddy46: that's how we roll bro ![]() |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by kenny160: 6:46pm On May 07, 2020 |
There is more to the story... Well family issue should be sort indoor and let me add this is like the person in question is a boy not a man.. Wetin i know self? |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by veave(f): 6:50pm On May 07, 2020 |
fashionale: I dey tell you. I'm sure she contributed more and bought almost everything in that house. This is a new marriage for crying out loud. Who goes for medical check up with her son, his girlfriend and another relative to a newly married couples home? Who does that oooooo. You see some hypocritic people in nairaland that can never say the truth even if you use it and customise contact lens for them, na ogun go faya all of them. Tueh!!! 4 Likes |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by 1Poposki1(m): 6:53pm On May 07, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: The same way your son won't be close to you... Yippee 1 Like |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by Nobody: 6:56pm On May 07, 2020 |
tonididdy: Alright bro. It's your house, your decision, your mum, your family, your money. Enjoy. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by megautche: 6:57pm On May 07, 2020 |
If she can, let her move on with her life. This is just the beginning of more trouble for her in the marriage, better she goes her way now or she would regret staying in that marriage. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by Silla007: 7:05pm On May 07, 2020 |
[quote author=instinct57vm post=89254089]I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely. Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state. Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice. My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway. These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep. The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room. As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos. Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool. The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks. One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering. Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere. PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother. PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls. What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you. Both parties have their faults. The Man: He didn't respect his wife's privacy. (B) He was wrong to allow his mother & a girlfriend (not even the wife) of his brother take over their matrimonial bed. I don't know what the relationship between his mother and his wife is. (Obviously, they are not in good terms from the story told) otherwise, it should have been his wife and his mother that will share the bedroom. (C) He should have sought his wife opinion regarding access to the kitchen and perhaps reason it out with his wife. (D) He foolishly allowed his mother to ruin his relationship with his wife. The Woman: The first thing I will like to ask the woman is; if it were the other way round, how would she handle it. Some women are so intolerant of their mother-in-laws. (B) After asking her husband twice with no response, she should have dropped the matter. She failed to understand that her husband was already under pressure with a difficult situation he was struggling to manage. The reason why he buckled up after his wife asked the third time. She should have applied wisdom. But obviously she was more concerned about getting them out than the struggles of her husband who didn't know how to handle the situation. By her actions she just played into her mother-in-law's hand and possibly validated the fact that she didn't love her or welcome her. (C) She didn't pray...some women would have used prayer power to send them away. Many may not subscribe to this ancient principle. I know it works especially if you do it in love, not praying for their destruction but that God will handle the situation and restore peace to her home. My thoughts: I pity both of them. they have allowed third parties to destroy their very young marriage. It is obvious they were not knowledgeable and allowed their emotions to get the best of them. They don't love themselves that much. If they do, both will conspire against the 'intruders'. Lovers have this way of overcoming everything and everyone to be together. "Dem nor send anybody". Finally, I just hope the so called girlfriend is not the new wife in a family conspiracy against the wife. I rest my case. May God help them. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by Silla007: 7:08pm On May 07, 2020 |
instinct57vm: Both parties have their faults. The Man: He didn't respect his wife's privacy. (B) He was wrong to allow his mother & a girlfriend (not even the wife) of his brother take over their matrimonial bed. I don't know what the relationship between his mother and his wife is. (Obviously, they are not in good terms from the story told) otherwise, it should have been his wife and his mother that will share the bedroom. (C) He should have sought his wife opinion regarding access to the kitchen and perhaps reason it out with his wife. (D) He foolishly allowed his mother to ruin his relationship with his wife. The Woman: The first thing I will like to ask the woman is; if it were the other way round, how would she handle it. Some women are so intolerant of their mother-in-laws. (B) After asking her husband twice with no response, she should have dropped the matter. She failed to understand that her husband was already under pressure with a difficult situation he was struggling to manage. The reason why he buckled up after his wife asked the third time. She should have applied wisdom. But obviously she was more concerned about getting them out than the struggles of her husband who didn't know how to handle the situation. By her actions she just played into her mother-in-law's hand and possibly validated the fact that she didn't love her or welcome her. (C) She didn't pray...some women would have used prayer power to send them away. Many may not subscribe to this ancient principle. I know it works especially if you do it in love, not praying for their destruction but that God will handle the situation and restore peace to her home. My thoughts: I pity both of them. they have allowed third parties to destroy their very young marriage. It is obvious they were not knowledgeable and allowed their emotions to get the best of them. They don't love themselves that much. If they do, both will conspire against the 'intruders'. Lovers have this way of overcoming everything and everyone to be together. "Dem nor send anybody". Finally, I just hope the so called girlfriend is not the new wife in a family conspiracy against the wife. I rest my case. May God help them. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by icestorm(m): 7:09pm On May 07, 2020 |
Bj5all:I beg tell her... So it's a bad thing if your son is close to you. Every woman will grow to become a mother some days. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by Nobody: 7:15pm On May 07, 2020 |
This is a hard nut to crack. Patience will be needed at this time. May God intervene. Amen. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by Actuarydeji(m): 7:25pm On May 07, 2020 |
What tone did she adoots while asking her hubby the questions? instinct57vm: |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by UncleJJ(m): 7:42pm On May 07, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: www.nairaland.com/attachments/11493181_cfp124w_jpega5a27a25c78c16fece858c418e87c49b Another plumber with vast experience in conduit wiring. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by sleemomymy: 7:52pm On May 07, 2020 |
As a man never take side in a fight between your mother and and your wife. Immediately you do, you are enslave to the party for life. Bitter truth from sleemomymy. What do I know self. Can get some like, my wedding was 14year yesterday. For me and my wife every day is just like the first day we meet. 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by halogate: 8:10pm On May 07, 2020 |
hmmm... ..As some b4 hv observed, i shall only judge the matter whn i read the man's sides of d story..there is no one sided coin. ..for those clamouring "wife is my new mother"..i laff in swahili. it is only possible if u marry a gud woman. ..may u not marry d type of my uncle's wife dt will hold u ransome by d nuts in d middle of night. ..if u happen to, i expect to read ur report here on nairaland |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by dagreat4(f): 8:11pm On May 07, 2020 |
its obvious the man is tired of the marriage.No need forcing herself on the man.f they had a court marriage n she tinks there are tins they got that she has interest in,let her sue n make claims.Thereafter she should build herself n move on.life is too short struggling for what is not.when man don't tire,e don't tire .If you like kill yourself he go say you no die well ,so no need.I know it hurt but that the best for her cos weds now or in the near future d man go jilt her.hope this is the complete story sha. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by folake4u(f): 8:13pm On May 07, 2020 |
yettymuse: "Barbara the builder" got me rolling in stitches ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
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Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by srclark: 8:14pm On May 07, 2020 |
LordShiva97:she can as well try elsewhere she go know say Ac no be fan .She should better swallow her little pride and resolve the issue ,so with the whole corona pandemic and restricted movements you will allow your mother travel miles when you stay close to where she receives treatment .Now put yourself in the husbands shoes how do you expect him to feel when his wife is out-rightly making it clear she is wishing his mother death (indirectly) .She should have advised on getting a bed for the other room and let them make use of it .Very simple issue,she has made a huge mistake and she should go beg her husband how can you ask such a question 3 times in a space of two weeks .Only God knows what that man must have gone through before it resulted to all these |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by emmnprince(m): 8:24pm On May 07, 2020 |
If this story is true, it is a family issue. Let them solve their family problem by themselves. There's more to this than we know. Both parties must be given fair hearing before one can help in resolving their problem. We only have a glimpse of the surface, but can't see underneath. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by chronique(m): 8:29pm On May 07, 2020 |
instinct57vm: All I can say is that your friend's husband is a goat and I'm wondering how or where your friend met him. Did she join him to go and eat yam somewhere, where they met themselves? |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by laivwire(m): 8:37pm On May 07, 2020 |
I wouldn't know but I'll say the wife had a verbal or physical spat with the mother in law. That is the only way a talk of reason can spiral out if control to full blown yelling and assault. Everyone is at fault here and they have to handle it in house. BTW Op, mind your business |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by GalaticHorde: 8:37pm On May 07, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:you'd have a son some day and feel differently, the man effed up, what he should have done was stay in the middle and act as a bridge between both and not take the side of either, matter of fact he should have created a scenario or situation where both parties would be united against him |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by instinct57vm(m): 8:45pm On May 07, 2020 |
Silla007: Silla I doff my cap to you. You addressed this issue without bias and with a sound mind, only matured people are able to pull of this kind of comments. Maturity isn’t shying away from social media like a lot of ppl thinks. Once again i doff my cap to you. #respect. Like u, I actually faulted her consistent approach and a few things coz it takes two to tangle really. However, when i heard this guy’s side of the story, likewise what u mentioned again, the hubby never loved her, even if love alone isn’t sufficient, it’s absolutely the prerequisite to anything we do in life. The guy wasn’t prepared for marriage and lack the basic skills to handle matters. Many Thanks for ur contribution. Well appreciated! 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by LordShiva97(m): 8:48pm On May 07, 2020 |
srclark: You're misyarning and you're doing it with the confidence of one who's intoxicated on an exotic strain of weed. Are you even sure we read the same post, you probably know more about this issue than the OP revealed to us? So confronting her husband on the continued stay of the husband's folks in her home which is clearly infuriating her means she's indirectly wishing her mother-in-law death, how? ![]() What's the logic behind this conclusion? :>( And what's wrong with her asking the same question thrice in two weeks, it's her home for Zeus's sake and she contributed in the rent, it's not as if it's the man's sef ![]() ![]() ![]() Asking a question thrice within the space of fourteen days in your own house is now a crime that deserves punishment? If the mother-in-law was only coming for treatment, what's up with bringing the brother and his girlfriend along? ![]() You're trying so hard to excuse the man's folly, but you're failing woefully at it. If you genuinely believe that the lady's is wrong and the man totally absolved of any blame then you have a serious problem. This is my last reply to you though. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by instinct57vm(m): 8:55pm On May 07, 2020 |
LordShiva97: Please stop arguing with ppl whose thoughts are myopic. He clearly didn’t read to understand but read to reply like his fellow foolish people. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by LordShiva97(m): 8:59pm On May 07, 2020 |
instinct57vm: I won't reply him again. I'm even regretting my last reply to him sef. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by adunnioladipupo: 9:03pm On May 07, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: Senseless creature. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by ayanbaba2(m): 9:03pm On May 07, 2020 |
Fairbanks: me too! na real gbege them be , I swear!
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Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by adunnioladipupo: 9:05pm On May 07, 2020 |
alasan007:. She represent her family. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by Bradiyung(m): 9:05pm On May 07, 2020 |
Some things don't add up in this story, why waste time and money marrying someone and chasing her out like that. Something has happened before, we need both sides of the story you are just a friend to the woman you won't get the full story. Probably the woman has been priding herself before because she contributes to the rent and possibly other finances too since the guy is self employed she might look down on him and she must have done something to the mother in law for her not to interfere when her son was chasing her out. Her matter don overdue na make the thing cast her. But let's hear the story from both sides
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Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by adunnioladipupo: 9:06pm On May 07, 2020 |
solmus: Amen. And I strongly believe that's how her mother does. |
Re: Wife Sent Packing For Questioning Husband Over Her Mother-in-law's Visit by chrizzyace: 9:09pm On May 07, 2020 |
instinct57vm: Obviously the mother in law has never wanted the marriage from onset. She has just been looking for a great opportunity like that. For me the hubby need serious mental check up. I hope he ends up marrying his mother and family members. Let the woman your friend let him be for now. Maybe he will come to his senses hopefully it won’t be too late for him. |
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