Lol, I finally made my way to USA, I will now be looking for Nigerian girls to date? For what?

Simp men and the women. God made the man the head, but America said no, the man must be the last. That’s satanic.

wiseone28:
Who made these stupid laws..

Men or women?

Generally speaking, women are socially inclined. They evolved to effectively adapt to their surrounding to advance their status. By design, women assimilate towards social consensus (lifestyle), while men lean towards creating that consensus.

Women do better than men in language learning, cultural understanding, are community-oriented, bond easily and strongly, less competitive, more agreeable, and have a lesser tendency for physical violence. All these are a perfect recipe that makes women easily integrate into any society than men.

Lots of diasporan Nigerian men who went back home to pick a wife back to western countries learned this lesson when the women changed and are exactly like the western women they are running away from. Like the old saying, men marry women hoping they do not change (but they change), meanwhile, women marry men hoping they can change him (but he doesn't change).

The female basically waits at the finish line to roll with the winners and will integrate seamlessly into the lifestyle, and live happily, ever after. Easily. There is no such thing as a tip to dating Nigerian women abroad, since her behaviors is predictable, based on the context of the society where she domicile.

wiseone28:
Hmm i see why almost 70% of people in America have been in a previous marriage or so..


At the end of the day na them dey sing love song pass

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Ejusni:

What do mean by "gave black rights" so blacks are subhumans that don't deserve human rights! such foolish statement!

very foolish statement

oshaosha2014:
You are stupid for telling a man to go and marry his mother. I see nothing wrong with the way Nigerian men were brought to be the man and be in control of their relationships. Real men don’t do that 50/50 shit. It is better for a man to just be on his own than deal with any useless lady who thinks she can’t serve a man. Your place as a woman is to serve your man.

Na wa oo, guys the provoke oo

Bros pdudd after years of this thread been in the wilderness it has finally reached the promise Land.Wetin concern me when I reach there.Na studio I go enter try become next Kanye west.Then when I blow I go marry or babymamazize anybody whether naija,oyinbo or mammy water.I cannot comman collect part 1 here then go and collect part 2 over there

emmaodet:


Lol.
Ok i get you now.
I also believe they are getting wiser now not to come home and pick a woman.
There was a time people in Lagos too do go back to their villages or hometown to pick women with the excuse that cities girls are bad but now such is no more again

Says who. It’s still happening bro. Men are usually very wise when it comes to finding what will give them a peace of mind.

He’s just an idiot. They have the worst environment in terms of morals.

emmaodet:


Are you saying our laws enslave our women? is there any part of the law that enslaves women? why are we quick to demonize our country? is there anything nigerian men are doing that the women dont have access to? Most times we talk, open threads on how to travel to abroad etc, some even do thanksgiving in church for getting a visa and somehow look at others as unfortunate for been in nigeria and i wonder where are we getting this mentality from? who told these guys people in nigeria are suffering while the ones in abroad are the fortunate ones?
And that is how some of my friends will come home and be sneaking/hiding from people as if we way they here dey hungry, even with your coming home i will still flex you and host you so what the fvck?
Like what the op said in his first statement that - ''leave that your native brain'' to HELL with him if he thinks he is better off than some here because he thinks like a native fowl too. Leave your yeye bride and bigboyism too etc
I dont know his family or background but i believe he his part of the people who scream ''moti bo - Am free'' when he got his visa at walter carrington in VI

Once you are out of Africa...most of the policies favor women..that’s true..

pDudd:
First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.

If you're the kind of man that will sit on the sofa and be watching UEFA champions league and be telling a woman that she should go and cook, serve you, bring you water to drink and wash hand, you are in for a rude shock. Nigerian women in US have opened eye now o. They are not going to serve you like master and servant while your stretch your legs on sofa and be watching football.

If your mother did that for your father, please go and marry your mother so she too can come and be serving you like a king. Nigerian women ain't doing that for you.

Before you leave Nigeria, better learn how to cook, clean house, do laundry, go to buy groceries, take care of kids, and learn humility.

Learning humility is of utmost importance because the day you step your feet into America, you are now second to every woman. The American society favors women over men. They placea lot of value over men. So if you didn't respect women in Nigeria, you may need to reconsider that stance. And if you can't see yourself having a woman above you or respecting women, then better stay in Nigeria.

TheManOfTheYear:
So who then should we marry?

Little wonder most men over there end up having baby mamas instead of wives, no one want to lose everything he's worked for to a woman in the name of divorce, or be paying alimony or child support

The western law favours women a lot. Women have messed up alot of hardworking men's life over there simply because of their one sided law

Ent3rpreneur:
I'm here, I Don land. I never read all the pages for the other thread, I still dey like page 25..

I go fit finish am today or tomorrow.
PDudd, lefulefu, fire on

Which other thread Fill me in bro

It may not be as dramatic as you painted it

Thank you jare. There are only two opposite ends here. If you want to enjoy your life as a married man, stay put in Nigeria and marry. If you want your wife to wake up one morning, because she’s tired of the marriage, call on the authorities to kick you out of your house, go abroad and marry. The only way you can hold on to your power as a man in the abroad is not the sign the marriage certificate. That’s the only way.

emmaodet:


Bro i understand you clearly and let us look at it this way -
If we say the african culture or setting is backward simply because a man has the ability to chase out the woman if she commits then same can be said about the western culture which is the opposite of african culture that it is a backward society that encourages and empower women to chase out men when they commit or Even when they didn't commit.
Atleast, you will agree with me that a woman can just pick up a phone and call the police, inform them that the hubby wants to kill her or molesting her and they will kick his ass out.
Please tell me, is there any difference between a man that can call his family to kick his wife out in nigeria and a wife that can call the police to kick her hubby out abroad? Am just flipping the scenario, same story but different players.
So if you agree nigerian culture is backward because the law is tilted towards men then you need to agree that the western culture is Backward and Archaic for tilting towards women, children and animals before men.
We shouldn't let the hate we have for nigeria becloud us.

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I wont say this thread is rubbish and nonsense

But what I'll say is that I dont agree with this


Dating/Engaging with women (Nigerian/otherwise) is very simple


Be a man
Be considerate
And dont be a jerk

Dasall


All these long story sha

Ahhhh may I dey prepare for war because I wanna marry girl for obodo yinbo.
Marriage these days na wahala oooo.If I know say nah ladis e go be,I for don come when men dey command respect ye ye.

emmaodet:


Are you saying our laws enslave our women? is there any part of the law that enslaves women? why are we quick to demonize our country? is there anything nigerian men are doing that the women dont have access to? Most times we talk, open threads on how to travel to abroad etc, some even do thanksgiving in church for getting a visa and somehow look at others as unfortunate for been in nigeria and i wonder where are we getting this mentality from? who told these guys people in nigeria are suffering while the ones in abroad are the fortunate ones?
And that is how some of my friends will come home and be sneaking/hiding from people as if we way they here dey hungry, even with your coming home i will still flex you and host you so what the fvck?
Like what the op said in his first statement that - ''leave that your native brain'' to HELL with him if he thinks he is better off than some here because he thinks like a native fowl too. Leave your yeye bride and bigboyism too etc
I dont know his family or background but i believe he his part of the people who scream ''moti bo - Am free'' when he got his visa at walter carrington in VI

Nigerians laws and cultures have women living as subhumans aka slaves.
Why do you think women continue to fight for equality in the eyes of the law ? Have you not been able tp put 2&2 together by now on that ?

Dating what

That is why you should never get married over there if you are a man of value.

2buffagain:


WTF is this? Then what is the point of marrying if you can't even get the benefits?
Overseas marriage is a benefit to the woman alone.

pDudd:
Some people have been asking me to balance this equation because it seems like I am bashing Akata women and leaving my Nigerian sisters who reside in America. This thread is to state what to encounter if you are going into any kind of relationship with Nigerian women in America.

Don't do it

you will thank me later

Tajbol4splend:
This sorta explains why most Nigerian men over there don't want to marry fellow country women. But why should change of environment change you that easily, people who change with change of environment are fake

Well said

Op, in as much as you made some valid points, I am sorry to say you are assuming a lot of things based on your personal experience and also making up things by exaggeration.


America is not as bad as you paint it for guys when it comes to dating women or getting married to American based Nigerian women or exported ones.

8 of my childhood friends who stay in my own house whenever they return back to Nigeria before traveling to their villages or destination in Nigeria are all living happily in the US with their wives whom they married from Nigeria; mostly their old girlfriends and some ladies they married after they relocated and none have any issue. In fact their wives still respect them and accord them the respect they deserve.

One is a nurse, his wife still serve him food even when they return too and she too is working as an insurance broker.


Another is a force guy and married to a nurse and she respect him just like a Nigerian wife in Nigeria respect her husband.

Then if I come to my family side, all the ones married and living in the US for years with their wives have no issue.


This thing is about the lady you married.


Even in Nigeria some ladies disrespect their husbands, we read hundreds of such stories here on Nairaland....so its not just about America that the ladies you are making reference with changed, they are bad ladies with bad upbringing and didn't cherish the men they married that much, maybe they married them for some hidden selfish reasons best known to the ladies alone.


America or UK or Canada does not change Nigerian ladies, bad Nigerian ladies who live pretentious life in Nigeria due to poverty, etc make it seem so when they leave Nigeria.


One of my friends I am talking about, the wife he married from Nigeria and took to the US don't wear trouser till date because she was a staunch Deeper Life girl born and raised by a strict parents and she is still a dedicated born again Christian over there no change.


The last time they came back, I was just smiling because of her, if you see her, a practicing medical doctor in the US, she looks like mgbeke that has no kobo but you need to see her achievements and investments and still she respects her hubby even in the US and they are living a wonderful life.



Please stop corrupting already corrupted Nigerian ladies and making them feel they can treat guys anyhow abroad, this your thread is a negative influence, it is nonsense.


And for guys taking care of their home, doing dishes, cooking etc, of course modern Nigerian guys in Nigeria do that.


I do my laundry, I cook my meals, sometimes I wash my cars myself when free and have the strength, I clean my house....only foolish guys today will marry and over labor their wife while watching football and allow your wife to overwork herself in the name of forming big boy.


My elder brother that works with a top IOC babysit his own kids....the last time his wife gave birth he is the one that babysit the baby, changes his diapers, wear him his rompers and more. He also helps his wife in several other ways like doing laundry all thanks to washing machines today. So stop painting Nigerian men in Nigeria as lazy men or archaic or as men that maltreat their wives its a lie because many men in Nigeria treat their wives like queens to the envy of their friends and relatives, it depends on the man you married and also on the lady you married. Not when you marry mami iwota Lady pretending to be human and she starts to misbehave you blame it on America or exposure to western life.


Yes some Nigerian ladies change on tasting western life and culture but it still boils down to the lady, marry a virtuous woman and you won't worry even if you take her to Queens palace.


All you wrote is your own individual experience and circle of friends don't generalise it okay

tiptoe1:


The western law favours women a lot. Women have messed up alot of hardworking men's life over there simply because of their one sided law

Na to just find one girl turn her to baby mama or common law partner (dunno how that works).

Marriage is a scam these days

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