Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by topsquino(m): 4:33am On May 08, 2020 |
![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) What a thread |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 4:35am On May 08, 2020 |
You all should read the last commentor of this Facebook post. And you will see how very stupid some Nigerian men can be. They feel when you marry a woman , she must be there to be your slave. They don't appreciate woman at all. Left to me , any man that face marriage problem both in Yankee and Nigeria has issue himself. Not just the woman. 4 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Thenorth(m): 4:38am On May 08, 2020 |
I just like this guy... |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by EgunMogaji2: 4:44am On May 08, 2020 |
I've advised this before, I got some folks triggered. I expect the same now too. The first advice first is not to get married. There's no benefit to getting married in this day and age. Getting children out of wedlock is no longer a taboo. You can get a "Domestic Coordinator" to do most of the functions that a "Wife" will do. One of the "Side Chicks" can take care of the other room. Build your life and business/career. Travel the world, learn new cultures. Don't turn yourself into an educator/financier of someones Daughter. Second advice is NOT to take a Nigerian girl from here to the USA. Best advice is to provide for her here. This is what got the Nazi Feministas triggered last time. As for me I'm running away from this thread because they'll come for their father as usual, awon omo alaileko gbogbo ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 11 Likes
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Eniolakiite(f): 4:55am On May 08, 2020 |
“A wife is a domestic coordinator” ![cry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif) EgunMogaji2: I've advised this before, I got some folks triggered. I expect the same now too.
The first advice first is not to get married. There's no benefit to getting married in this day and age. Getting children out of wedlock is no longer a taboo. You can get a "Domestic Coordinator" to do the same functions that a "Wife" will do. One of the "Side Chicks" can take care of the other room. Build your life and business/career. Travel the world, learn new cultures. Don't turn yourself into an educator/financier of someones Daughter.
Second advice is NOT to take a Nigerian girl from here to the USA. Best advice is to provide for her here. This is what got the Nazi Feministas triggered last time.
As for me I'm running away from this thread because they'll come for their father as usual ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 1 Like |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by larryking540: 4:56am On May 08, 2020 |
ednut1: you see stupidity. They later come home to marry one amaka or lolade. Who will come over and taste freedom and the favorable laws there. Den he begins to lament I tell guys outside 9ja ,bring ur wife over to live with you in oversee is a waste of time ,if she don first day into Money before atleast u already know the type of person she is because like the general saying ,na when man get money u go know their Tru character , . The money u will spend while over see ,y don't they invest it home and the woman watches over the investment and can meet the husband every 4 months for a visit ,,,,u can even bring the kids along ,they have the better chance of attending the best school in 9ja , money day ,,, The success of a man after marriage depends on the type of woman he marry o......... Who sex don help when money no day ,,, 4 Likes |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by larryking540: 4:59am On May 08, 2020 |
EgunMogaji2: I've advised this before, I got some folks triggered. I expect the same now too.
The first advice first is not to get married. There's no benefit to getting married in this day and age. Getting children out of wedlock is no longer a taboo. You can get a "Domestic Coordinator" to do the same functions that a "Wife" will do. One of the "Side Chicks" can take care of the other room. Build your life and business/career. Travel the world, learn new cultures. Don't turn yourself into an educator/financier of someones Daughter.
Second advice is NOT to take a Nigerian girl from here to the USA. Best advice is to provide for her here. This is what got the Nazi Feministas triggered last time.
As for me I'm running away from this thread because they'll come for their father as usual ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) My brother u don talk am finish o ... The money u will waste sponsoring her over sea use am invest make she day watch the business with ur kids around her,,,she can come over to over see ,for a visit but to stay ,u go trigger expenses 2 Likes |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by jaxxy(m): 5:01am On May 08, 2020 |
lefulefu: lol its better yu just marry the devil u know than to be going back to naija looking for a bride.many yankee based naija guys who went home looking for homebase wife to bring to US have sorry tales to tell.if u still insist on marrying homebase just marry her and keep her in nigeria and be sending monthly upkeep then visit her during easter and christmas....but there chances she will codedly have a lover while u over there cos she go need man to warm her bed during the cold lonely nights. Lefulefu on the beat. I think ive learnt how to pronounce ur moniker now. Making sense all day. Men shud learn how to detect gals prone to easily changing with environment and circumstances. They are not worth investing in bt then a wife shudnt be made to be a financial investment either, working for u like sm bondage or modern day slavery. It shud be a free will thing of appreciation as with any other humanbeing. When a person has always been broke u can't easily know their real character, it takes a special skill and experience to know, even the broke person smtimes doesn't know his or her own real character either bt it usually swings the wrong way. When u see sm1 with a good level of exposure and still well mannered. Those kind of people are Gold. Solid Gold! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by scoundrel(f): 5:02am On May 08, 2020 |
This is the problem with threads hitting front page in the forum. In the other one it was straight to the point: OP dishing advice and receiving only one or two criticisms before dropping more jewels. It was a rule-to-rule guide on understanding the subject matter. Here as usual it is noise upon noise of people dropping stupid opinions before OP’s new rule comes three pages down the line. I’ll skip this thread completely. At least the other one was very entertaining. At the time of this comment the other thread devolved to noise on the twenty fourth page. I since unfollowed it. |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by armyofone(m): 5:19am On May 08, 2020 |
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Genfaculty(m): 5:25am On May 08, 2020 |
pDudd: Some people have been asking me to balance this equation because it seems like I am bashing Akata women and leaving my Nigerian sisters who reside in America. This thread is to state what to encounter if you are going into any kind of relationship with Nigerian women in America. I don't know about Nigerian women in UK, or anywhere else so I can't talk about that one.
This thread is not to bash Nigerian women in any way. So if you feel offended at any point in reading this, I'm sorry well in advance.
But I must tell the truth.
Hateful replies are welcome. I nor send anybody ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) First of all, bros abeg which one come be akata women again? |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by armyofone(m): 5:28am On May 08, 2020 |
Hmmmm Not the right thing to do. Life is a game of chance. Bring her over, let her get the education and enlightenment that will help her hustle. Let your kids grow up with mom and dad. If the marriage turns sour, accept it as "life happens " But don't just give up - humble yourself and do wip. TIP: Teamwork and humility. larryking540:
My brother u don talk am finish o ...
The money u will waste sponsoring her over sea use am invest make she day watch the business with ur kids around her,,,she can come over to over see ,for a visit but to stay ,u go trigger expenses |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Sarang(f): 5:30am On May 08, 2020 |
pDudd: First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.
If you're the kind of man that will sit on the sofa and be watching UEFA champions league and be telling a woman that she should go and cook, serve you, bring you water to drink and wash hand, you are in for a rude shock. Nigerian women in US have opened eye now o. They are not going to serve you like master and servant while your stretch your legs on sofa and be watching football.
If your mother did that for your father, please go and marry your mother so she too can come and be serving you like a king. Nigerian women ain't doing that for you.
Before you leave Nigeria, better learn how to cook, clean house, do laundry, go to buy groceries, take care of kids, and learn humility.
Learning humility is of utmost importance because the day you step your feet into America, you are now second to every woman. The American society favors women over men. They placea lot of value over men. So if you didn't respect women in Nigeria, you may need to reconsider that stance. And if you can't see yourself having a woman above you or respecting women, then better stay in Nigeria.
Next tip: All you old men that have spent 20 years following Akata and are now looking for unmarriedd younger girls in Nigeria who you want to turn into RNs and use her as your ATM, believing that she is a "good girl" and that she will be a good obedient wife, who will be at your beck and call.
You guys are looking for to go to an early grave and lose everything you have worked for since the 20 years you've been in Yankee. I implore you, please stop doing that nonsense.
There is nothing like a humble Nigerian girl. The ones that appear humble are just broke. The day money enters her hand is the day you will know her true colors. Now in US, you will find an elderly guy in his late 40s or 50s. They came to US in their 20s and hustled Akata for paper, and thereafter became legal. Instead of going to school, gain an education, and improve their standard of living, they take up security guard jobs, CNA jobs, and taxi driver jobs. They spend gruelling years doing these low paying jobs and saving pennies to eventually go to Nigeria and do big wedding and marry a small naive village girl, thinking that they are investing in her so that she will yield fruits and serve him in his old age.
Notice that Nigerian men are always looking for women to serve them cheesy
Well, these small naive girls come to US, go to nursing school, become LVNs or RNs. They then begin to make lots of money and they will begin to open eye grin
Lefulefu come and back me up here.
Those small, naive, village girls suddenly begin making about $3500 or more every 2 weeks. Back in Nigeria, they weren't even making 3500 naira every month. This kind of money blows their minds and they don't even know how to spend it anymore. The man who is her husband and invested in her now wants to control the money and keep her in a subservient position.
At that point in time, that is when the girls father in the village knows that he wants to receive chieftaincy title. Also that is the time the mother knows that she wants to become Lolo of NdiOhia. . That is also when the girls brother wants to open spare parts shop in Alaba. That is the time when the girls sister wants to get married. The entire family of the girl begins to pester her for money. Also at this same time, the girls husband wants to start to build block of flats in Nnewi. Also he feels that he is old enough to receive chieftaincy title in his village as well. All these things costs lots of money.
The pressure on the poor girls starts mounting. She has one or two kids at this point but she starts to work extra hours and overtime at work. Putting in a lot of exhausting energy into trying to fulfil the dreams of everyone. Instead of the husband to understand, he is not sympathetic to her. After all she is his investment and she better yield fruits. She begins to burn out slowly but surely. She needs support at home but the husband expects her to work for 12 to 13 hours, come home, prepare eba and ogbono soup for him, take care of the kids, and then open toto for him to Bleep cheesy. Tomorrow again it is back to the same routine up to 7 days a week.
One day all the pressure gets too much and then the bubble pops. The woman, under intense financial pressure from her extended family coupled with her unsupportive husband and work-family life, crumbles under it all. And what usually kicks it off? Money of course. Or the lack thereof.
The man, wanting to control the finances of the woman, starts a quarrel about how much he invested to bring her to America. Because of all the stress upon the woman and women being very emotional creatures, she snaps. She insults the husband with the greatest insult of his life. She neglects all he has done and acts on emotion. The man too, unable to stomach the insult, verbally and physically attacks the woman.
Now it always ends in 2 ways. If the woman is still alive after the physical attack, she calls the police and they arrest him for domestic violence. She files a restraining order against him and he cannot return back to the house he bought and the home he built.
The second way it ends is that the man attacks his wife and kills her with his security guard job service pistol or he strangles or stabs her to death with a kitchen knife.
In both cases, the police arrive and arrest the man. And then the family breaks up and most times can not be rebuilt anymore. It becomes a broken home with shatters dreams. Nothing but the truth! 2 Likes |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by abbey621(m): 5:39am On May 08, 2020 |
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by armyofone(m): 5:40am On May 08, 2020 |
![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Alpha in $$$ too Money gets you anything. dangoteinlaw: then look at the ones that married whites lot of them are living happily eg Dr DRe, even snoopdogg never married at all but had kids with black ladies, that further confirms the op ascension that black ladies are toxic. These rappers above where alpha males who knew their way around women and at the end got a better deal. Although some whites weren't that lucky eg Jeff benzos 1 Like |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by KenModi(m): 5:41am On May 08, 2020 |
Skmoda360: Japa things.....I no fit dey yankee make I leave whitey dey follow naija women make dem koba my life....
I will work my ass out and date a white girl capiche. I sure you neva date dem before. No worry by the time white girls finish with you, you would be thankful if you can even restart your life in Lagos. 1 Like |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Kobojunkie: 5:44am On May 08, 2020 |
KenModi:
I sure you neva date dem before. No worry by the time white girls finish with you, you would be thankful if you can even restart your life in Lagos.
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Eniolakiite(f): 5:47am On May 08, 2020 |
Hot tears ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) KenModi:
I sure you neva date dem before. No worry by the time white girls finish with you, you would be thankful if you can even restart your life in Lagos.
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 5:50am On May 08, 2020 |
lefulefu: lol its better yu just marry the devil u know than to be going back to naija looking for a bride.many yankee based naija guys who went home looking for homebase wife to bring to US have sorry tales to tell.if u still insist on marrying homebase just marry her and keep her in nigeria and be sending monthly upkeep then visit her during easter and christmas....but there chances she will codedly have a lover while u over there cos she go need man to warm her bed during the cold lonely nights. There is always a solution to every problem.
If you are legal here in united states and a single Male, whenever you want to marry just get every party sign a prenup and that solves the whole future drama of taking advantage of the US legal system especially the lady's in other to make a man miserable.
Any lady not willing to sign a prenup especially the one here in America can move on while you move on as well and if you are going back to Nigeria to pick a spouse, get them to sign a prenup since most of them are just desperate to leave the shores of Nigeria and are ready to sign any damn paper you present before them to sign even without knowing what they are signing for.
Once you have a prenup, then be rest assured that your wife will be on her best behavior except if you are just an ass of which she has every right to walk away from you because she deserves better.
Some men with prenups have also taken advantage of that to become grossly irresponsible.
Humility from both side's is the key. 4 Likes |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Eniolakiite(f): 5:53am On May 08, 2020 |
Yes. Both sides take advantage. Thanks for that honesty. Marriage has become transaction and competition for most people. No love, affection, compassion or trust. Maybe most people are better off being single. byrron:
There is always a solution to every problem.
If you are legal here in united states and a single Male, whenever you want to marry just get every party sign a prenup and that solves the whole future drama of taking advantage of the US legal system especially the lady's in other to make a man miserable.
Any lady not willing to sign a prenup especially the one here in America can move on while you move on as well and if you are going back to Nigeria to pick a spouse, get them to sign a prenup since most of them are just desperate to leave the shores of Nigeria and are ready to sign any damn paper you present before them to sign even without knowing what they are signing for.
Once you have a prenup, then be rest assured that your wife will be on her best behavior except if you are just an ass of which she has every right to walk away from you because she deserves better.
Some men with prenups have also taken advantage of that to become grossly irresponsible.
Humility from both side's is the key. 1 Like |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 6:02am On May 08, 2020 |
Eniolakiite: Yes. Both sides take advantage.
Thanks for that honesty.
Marriage has become transaction and competition for most people.
No love, affection, compassion or trust.
Maybe most people are better off being single.
That's why marriage means nothing in America which is why the baby daddy and baby mama thing has become the norm and has replaced the marriage institution.
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Eniolakiite(f): 6:04am On May 08, 2020 |
Yea right.. Still it works out well for some tho. byrron:
That's why marriage means nothing in America which is why the baby daddy and baby mama thing has become the norm and has replaced the marriage institution.
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 6:05am On May 08, 2020 |
AfroKnight: See, marriage is a lose-lose situation for any straight manly man in the US.
Two ways to be happily married as a man. 1. Be lucky to find a good wife. ( Good luck finding one)
2. Learn how to be happy with (and for) yourself regardless of good or bad energy from your wife. Derive your joy from your everyday small wins.
There’s one last option but it involves being a foôl 3. Be a simp.
Women have arm twisted that society to hand them the keys of the kingdom. Being masculine puts you at a disadvantage. You must take shît or they’ll grind your àss. It’s so bad that raising your own son to be a man is deemed toxic. But you’d see them applauding you if your little boy grew up to be a woman.
Hierarchy of importance in the American home: 1. Your children 2. Wife 3. Pets 4. Furniture 5. And finally You, the man. Seems funny but sadly true |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 6:08am On May 08, 2020 |
tiptoe1: Let me chip In a little. If you successfully get your papers and decide that you want to pick a girl from home, please and please you need to open your eyes and be careful cause it's also as deadly as getting married to an akata.
The western law have made husbands completely infim. You don't expect her to stay the same way and knowing laws in the Western world lets her own the house, the children and majority of the things you have. Many Nigerian wives realize their potentials once they get to tge US. Some of them do worse thing to their husband just to prove a point to their husband that they aren't in Nigeria where husbands has upper hands. So once their eyes tear, they over do it and torment their husbands with it.
Yes because Nigerian men always want to eat their cake and have it. It the case was reversed over there as it is here a lot of women would suffer walahi! Women have suffered enough. Please dont go to the UK and be forming good Nigerian wife. Enjoy your life. 2 Likes |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 6:09am On May 08, 2020 |
wiseone28: Hmm i see why almost 70% of people in America have been in a previous marriage or so..
At the end of the day na them dey sing love song pass In America, you will see a man or a woman proudly telling you that this is their 4th marriage and you start wondering why are they even getting married again after failing twice?
To most people, Marriage is just a relationship that has an expiration date. 5 Likes |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 6:11am On May 08, 2020 |
Eniolakiite: Yea right..
Still it works out well for some tho.
Absolutely |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Kobojunkie: 6:13am On May 08, 2020 |
byrron:
There is always a solution to every problem.
If you are legal here in united states and a single Male, whenever you want to marry just get every party sign a prenup and that solves the whole future drama of taking advantage of the US legal system especially the lady's in other to make a man miserable.
Any lady not willing to sign a prenup especially the one here in America can move on while you move on as well and if you are going back to Nigeria to pick a spouse, get them to sign a prenup since most of them are just desperate to leave the shores of Nigeria and are ready to sign any damn paper you present before them to sign even without knowing what they are signing for.
Once you have a prenup, then be rest assured that your wife will be on her best behavior except if you are just an ass of which she has every right to walk away from you because she deserves better. Some men with prenups have also taken advantage of that to become grossly irresponsible. Humility from both side's is the key. Prenups are not as ironclad as you think...not anymore. 1 Like |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Kobojunkie: 6:15am On May 08, 2020 |
byrron:
That's why marriage means nothing in America which is why the baby daddy and baby mama thing has become the norm and has replaced the marriage institution.
You will find the same is true in Nigeria as well. More than half of my friends grew up in broken homes right there in Nigeria..... Mostly fathers abandoning their families to pursue other women....while the woman is left to raise the kids alone without so much as a copy from the departed spouse who they are still married to on paper. Essentially, the women become nothing more than "BABYMAMAS with marriage certificate". Sad to say the situation has worsened even today. That is reality for a lot of marriages right there in Nigeria as well. |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Skmoda360(m): 6:15am On May 08, 2020 |
Jaqenhghar:
Its Oga I am not holding you orcaskibg you to agree. Just pointing out some flaws in that opinion No wahala |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by larryking540: 6:17am On May 08, 2020 |
armyofone: Hmmmm Not the right thing to do. Life is a game of chance. Bring her over, let her get the education and enlightenment that will help her hustle. Let your kids grow up with mom and dad. If the marriage turns sour, accept it as "life happens " But don't just give up - humble yourself and do wip.
TIP: Teamwork and humility.
My dear if as u take write am na so life be ,e for good ,I don see Watin 60%of 9ja married ladies don use woman power take send their husband packing from hux way he buy with e money ,,,,snake doesn't sting a man twice in a life time o,,,, Make she day 9ja ,,,na there teamwork day pass ,and for the humility,it's still better when she is base in 9ja ,,,, She can get the best education here and the kids can also get the best education also , visit is a sure matter to come see me ,,,, Let me as you a simple question,what do women really want ,, 2 Likes |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Eniolakiite(f): 6:18am On May 08, 2020 |
Yes Many Nigerians are embracing the baby daddy and mama thing more If anyone has observed, Nigerians tend to copy whatever America is doing in most things. Kobojunkie:
You will find the same is true in Nigeria as well. |
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by larryking540: 6:21am On May 08, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:
You will find the same is true in Nigeria as well. Depending on who you go marry , I just tell guys camp woman for hux make she born ,if it will take u 8 years before una do marriage ,do am like dat ,women way stay with guy even for am before they con finally go church go do marriage,I noticed say na them they humble pass .........yes they have invested their time ,along with years of courtship with the guy ,even when the guy day mess up ,day go talk am out and many go even day beg u like say na them wrong the guy 2 Likes |