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. by Didi965: 11:30am On May 09, 2020 |
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Re: . by Ezennwa(m): 11:32am On May 09, 2020 |
hmm! In every situation in life, someone always have the final say, he is JEHOVAH. 1 Like |
Re: . by gaby(m): 11:34am On May 09, 2020 |
Your mom, like most African mums, enjoy living in denial. They don't even want to imagine the possibility of such confessions, talk more about believing it. Their best defense mechanism is to turn the table against you and make you become the guilty party who deserves to shut up and remain silent in shame. To them, it is an abomination that shouldn't be spoken about. 3 Likes |
Re: . by OsuIgboIpob: 11:36am On May 09, 2020 |
Didi965:Where in your story did you say you were raped and traumatized? |
Re: . by Bola146(f): 11:36am On May 09, 2020 |
Seriously, i don't understand |
Re: . by Assurance001(f): 11:36am On May 09, 2020 |
No one feels your pain more than you. So sorry for what you passed through, what about your uncle? Can you try and engage him in a conversation while it's been recorded? Devise means to change your mom's mentality. As for those fake pastors let God be the judge. |
Re: . by Stephenomozzy(m): 11:40am On May 09, 2020 |
Oh dear, so sorry about how everyone seem to have treated you while you were growing up, not knowing or caring to find out the true reason other than blaming and accusing you of being evil. It's a good thing that you've been able to pull up all through these years, it shows you're a fighter, even when you became so low that you wanted to throw in the towel, you still kept pushing on. I'll advise that you do not let the stigmatization or disbelief your mum has about you to define the way your life moving forward. It will be unfair to say "what has past, has passed" because only you know the pain that you feel. However, as you have built up the courage to pour out some of the bottled up emotions (trauma and dejection), just let that courage help you leave all that pain behind. YOU'RE NOT DEFINED BY THE UNFORTUNATE EVENTS THAT HAPPENED TO YOU IN THE PAST, BUT RATHER BY THE FAVOURABLE DECISION AND PROMISE YOU MAKE TO YOURSELF TO BECOME FREE. If you're religious, pray and build a friend first in your God who knows the truth and will not judge you by your past. Do not be scared to open up to someone out of fear that they might judge you the way your mum did, just don't LET THE PAIN KILL YOUR SHINE. You will meet someone who will accept you as you are and always be rooting for you when the time comes. Be strong Sis |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:40am On May 09, 2020 |
You need to get someone that you can talk to. You really have to heal up. You moving forward may be tied to your recovery. |
Re: . by omoiyamayor(m): 11:43am On May 09, 2020 |
Very interesting,I watched a YouTube content that was just like this story of yours on Phrankleen platform, it was a story of a lady in the UK abuse by her uncle that took her to UK ,the abuse continued and she couldn't open up to anyone just because of fear of what her parents would say,the abuse went for years now shes grown and tell her story,you should check the video out you may find your closure in the content. We have to educate our parents or neighbors. |
Re: . by Didi965: 11:56am On May 09, 2020 |
gaby: Yes exactly she feels like it’s an abomination |
Re: . by Didi965: 11:57am On May 09, 2020 |
omoiyamayor: Thanks so much can you tell please tell me the title of the video or rather give me a link to it |
Re: . by Didi965: 12:00pm On May 09, 2020 |
Stephenomozzy: Thank you so much and God bless you, I joined a mental health group, and yes I’m close to God and I have really supportive friends that loves me. Just that the support from the family is lacking so sometimes I feel alone, but I just had to tell my self that it’s better I stick those that love me genuinely and wouldn’t judge me for anything.. thank you so much 1 Like |
Re: . by Didi965: 12:00pm On May 09, 2020 |
Gracealone: Thanks a lot |
Re: . by Didi965: 12:01pm On May 09, 2020 |
Assurance001: Haven’t seen him in years. So that will be impossible unless I could put a call through and record it, thanks a lot dear 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by omoiyamayor(m): 12:03pm On May 09, 2020 |
Didi965:I dont know how to share link here so go to YouTube, search for PHRANKLEEN and on his channel the video title is "shocking, why I refuse to take care of my parents" I'm sure it will heal your wound.peace my sister,you are not alone. 1 Like |
Re: . by Didi965: 12:07pm On May 09, 2020 |
omoiyamayor:. God bless you |
Re: . by Didi965: 12:08pm On May 09, 2020 |
Re: . by Didi965: 12:10pm On May 09, 2020 |
OsuIgboIpob: I made a lot of typos corrected it, I just need suggestions and advise that’s why I created this account |
Re: . by eyinjuege: 12:22pm On May 09, 2020 |
Sorry for your travails The earlier you realise you're on your own, the better. Cut off from everyone now, and get some counselling regarding the rape as a child. That is the most important step now. Also, start building a career and make something of your life. Concentrate on yourself for now. All the best |
Re: . by omoiyamayor(m): 12:35pm On May 09, 2020 |
Didi965:come back stronger sister. You can email him maybe your story can get on his platform too. |
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