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Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 10:16pm On May 12, 2020 |
@We4all change your moniker to @I'm4female. Because you ain't for all |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 10:21pm On May 12, 2020 |
gRESEARCHER:Imagine what would have happened in the case that you happened to have been born to american parents in the year 2000? gRESEARCHER:interesting .... gRESEARCHER:Wait a minute .... the one who denied you justice in this case was your own mum Why take it out on everyone else and try to belittle other people's pain because of that? At least confront your mum about these things now that you are able to, and let her answer you truthfully about her reasons for not believing you. It might help you in many ways that no one on here can. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by angelfallz(m): 10:34pm On May 12, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:Lol. Reading what real people go through on forums would open your eyes to a reality that CNN, Fox News, Aljazeera and BBC would never show you. You keep on referencing cases that law enforcement are made aware of, and I have said before that, that is not the issue, the issue is the lack of or little attention given to male victims of rape. By going to foreign forums you would see that the same thing is happening in the so called developed nations. You're just blinded by their movies, music and news channels. Patriarchy doesn't exist. It's an invention of feminists. Unfortunately I didn't bookmark the exact write up that totally debunks this so called patriarchy. I would give you another write up, but my fear is that you'd misunderstand it. The write up is below https://qr.ae/pNtftA |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 10:43pm On May 12, 2020 |
angelfallz:Here's a question for you. If law enforcement are not made aware of a crime that has supposedly taken place, how do you expect law enforcement to do anything about said crime? Do we magically deduce who the accused are and who the criminals are? Do we simply go around questioning everyone hoping that one person will trip up and admit the details of said crime? angelfallz:Here's a question for you at this point. What do you think the word PATRIARCHY means or refers to? Shall we import the dictionary definition of the word at this point to help this talk at this point? I am the very pit of understanding itself so do not be afraid of throwing whatever thoughts you have there my way. I have thoughts, and delusions of my own to booth. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 10:43pm On May 12, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:https://www.vanguardngr.com/2019/11/woman-who-impregnated-self-with-stolen-semen-from-billionaire-wins-child-support-battle/
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Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by angelfallz(m): 10:47pm On May 12, 2020 |
Kobojunkie: It's obvious you're hell bent in refusing to understand what I'm saying. It's not about law enforcement, it's about the attention. The attention on social media, on Twitter on Facebook on nairaland etc. As for the patriarchy I've given you something to read please read it. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 10:52pm On May 12, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:I told my mom, told my pastors, told my teachers told everybody I came across including my peers none gave me a listening ear. when I grew older I discovered that male rape isn't taken serious. I'm not after justice I'm after male victims being heard. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Martinez39s(m): 10:53pm On May 12, 2020 |
gRESEARCHER:I suspect a female. Some of them calm to be male. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 10:53pm On May 12, 2020 |
angelfallz:What reason(s) are there for rape victims to seek attention for a rape crime on social media? What does social media do for a rape case other than maybe helping gather up support that in some countries may be necessary to getting the crime prosecuted through the right channels? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 10:56pm On May 12, 2020 |
angelfallz:Kobojunkie here is my problem. the attention and not the justice |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Tboy1419: 11:00pm On May 12, 2020 |
GreatResearcher1:. I was raped too, when I was 23years old, but the babe Sha, na banker she be, and I enjoy the raped, we last up to one hour, how I wish the babe go dey raped me constantly, walie, I no go make noise, na sweet journey to everlasting satisfaction. . Make una no insult me oo, na raped issue we dey discuss, if e happen to you, table your matter for here, we get elders way go settled the case for us once and for all. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 11:01pm On May 12, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:You are talking about justice for victims of rape while I am talking of attention for victims of rape. Why do female victims get much attention and male victims get less or no attention? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 11:02pm On May 12, 2020 |
Martinez39s:Alright. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 11:07pm On May 12, 2020 |
gRESEARCHER:My bad! I thought the end of the attention is to obtain justice. But seems you are simply seeking attention for the sake of attention. If that is the case, then you still up against the cultural issue. But, I am puzzled as to why you are not aware, and accepting of this at this point, given your personal experience? It was not social media that cut you off but the cultural wall that basically blocked you from being heard. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 11:12pm On May 12, 2020 |
gRESEARCHER:Usually, when a crime is committed, victims want to be heard by the right people, not the wrong people , as there will always be those. Just as with any sort of attention, there is always good and bad, shouldn't the victim of a crime then want to only get that which benefits his case and cause, not just attention for attention sake? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 11:16pm On May 12, 2020 |
gRESEARCHER: [img]https://image.iol.co.za/image/1/process/650x366?source=https://inm-baobab-prod-eu-west-1.s3.amazonaws.com/public/inm/iol/media/image/2019/11/11/37018777/fakenews.jpg&operation=CROP&offset=0x74&resize=791x445[/img] [url="https://www.iol.co.za/lifestyle/family/baby/hotel-cleaner-who-stole-millionaires-used-condom-turns-out-to-be-fake-news-37018777"]Hotel cleaner who stole millionaire's used condom turns out to be fake news[/url] The case was an unusual one in the fact that the hotel cleaner, going by the name "Jane" and the unnamed millionaire, never even had sex. Picture: website screenshot I knew there was something insane about the story, and I am glad it was fake. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Tboy1419: 11:28pm On May 12, 2020 |
Trayceey:. Try to understand him, he was raped by a matured lady at a very tender age, must it be female before all the time, why not male victim. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 11:46pm On May 12, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:Who are the right people male rape victims should run to? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 11:48pm On May 12, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:alright |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by gRESEARCHER: 11:52pm On May 12, 2020 |
Tboy1419:even women enjoyed the rape. quote me anywhere |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 12:06am On May 13, 2020 |
gRESEARCHER:The authorities for one? Those who are open-minded enough to understand a crime has been committed. Who else would you run to in the case of a crime? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by callmeRichie(m): 10:15am On May 13, 2020 |
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/14-boys-raped-by-fake-pastor-
in-dr-congo-hospital.html what did y'all have to say on this? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by callmeRichie(m): 10:16am On May 13, 2020 |
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/14-boys-raped-by-fake-pastor-in-dr-congo-hospital.html what did y'all have to say on this? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Leezah(f): 10:29am On May 13, 2020 |
There are several social stereotypes, traditions, and ideals that contribute to the marginalization of male rape victims (especially male rape victims of female perpetrators, but also male rape victims in general) 1. Many people believe women are weak and men are--or should be--stronger than women, so a man raped by a woman is weak, not a real man, and therefore not deserving of support or sympathy 2. Many people believe sexual violence and rape is a male problem caused by male sexuality, male dominance, "inherent" male aggressiveness, etc. and therefore if males inherently and biologically are the cause of the problem they may not really get much sympathy as victims, or even be able to be seen as true victims not to mention, this theory pretty much negates the possibility of female on male rape because if rape is caused by toxic masculinity and male sexuality, then how could a female rape a male? How could an "oppressed" person rape an "oppressive" person? And in the off chance that it did happen, it would be seen as a strange anomaly and not worth considering as a social issue 3. Many people believe "rape" must involve the victim being penetrated, and in fact some definitions specifically say that it's for a man to force a woman into sex. In the first case, if a man is forced into sexual intercourse with a woman, he would not have been raped but have only experienced "unwanted sexual contact"--viewed as considerably less heinous--because he wasn't the one being penetrated And in the latter case, even if a man is forcibly penetrated, since he's not a woman he by default cannot be raped (because it must be a man forcing a woman into sex). Even though in modern times most definitions include a man being forcibly penetrated and some include an man being forced to penetrate as rape, many people still have the notion that rape is specifically a man forcing his penis into a woman, and that nothing else qualifies as "real rape" 4. Many people erroneously believe that a male getting an erection is a positive sign of consent. Therefore if a man is forced to have sexual intercourse with a woman, he must have had an erection so he must have consented so it must not have been rape 5. The cultural stereotype says that all males (often including boys at any age over 10 or 12) want sex all the time with every woman, so a woman raping a man/boy is just giving him what he wants anyway (hence the prevalence of "why would you complain?" and "where were these women when I was such-and-such?" remarks). Many people believe a man/boy would be grateful and unharmed by being raped by a woman. And that if he is harmed or does express displeasure, then he must be gay or a pussy or something because he should have "just enjoyed it and kept his mouth shut" 6. Some people believe talking about male rape victims is a red herring and that it distracts from the "real" issue of female victims. They may say things like "99% [or some other ridiculously high number] of rape is male on female" (which is in fact not true A rape epidemic — by women? Column and that we should focus the vast majority, if not all or our attention, on male on female rape, because talking about female on male rape--or male rape victims in general--may be "triggering" or offensive for women who were raped by men 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Nobody: 11:46am On May 13, 2020 |
Kobojunkie:It ´s not just about getting justice for the abused but about the male who was abused, will punishing his abuser help him heal? Basically you assume males who get raped don't need to recover or heal from anything unlike females who are claimed to go through alot of psychological, mental and emotional breakdown. Abused males go through these too, they need to receive as much attention as females receive bc they too need it. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Nobody: 11:50am On May 13, 2020 |
I’ll also point out that women used to ask questions like “what was she wearing” and “did she lead him on,” but most have learned that those are the wrong questions. We need to educate people that 1) tell a guy he got lucky, not raped is not helpful and 2) that male getting raped isn't funny or a sign of weakness 3) Same attention should be given to a male victim as it is to a female |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 6:32pm On May 13, 2020 |
GeeJack: I quite understand the possible emotional and psychological trauma that rape can inflict on the human mind. What I don't understand is the need for attention just for the sake of it. Victims of any kind of rape tend to value their privacy, so forgive me if I don't see the sense in a victim choosing to boast or broadcast his/her violation, if not for the sake of obtaining some closure to what happened. And even that has to be done in the right setting. Attention for the sake of attention ....makes little sense to me as far as dealing with psychological and emotional trauma. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Kobojunkie: 6:33pm On May 13, 2020 |
GeeJack:Now attention for the sake of educating people, now that I can understand. |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Nobody: 10:15am On May 14, 2020 |
angelfallz:now this is an ignorant question. Forensic evidence duh!! |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by angelfallz(m): 10:16am On May 14, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:So there is no forensic evidence in male rape abi? So there is no dna evidence in male rape abi? |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by Nobody: 10:19am On May 14, 2020 |
angelfallz:I doubt there is |
Re: Why Do We Ignore Male Rape Cases? by angelfallz(m): 10:22am On May 14, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: now you know why i first said that your comment is ignorant. |
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