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Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Shinny1: 7:44am On May 13, 2020 |
Please apologize to her and promise her and yourself never to raise your hand on her again...make sure you don't tell her your total income again.. maybe divide it by 3 and tell her one part cos must times we might earn high but after all expenses and saves,you realize that the money is not as big as we think... Tell her how you want her to cut away from her friends so as to face her marriage...cos they are impacting on her negatively... 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Mystery9(m): 7:45am On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:That is it sir. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 7:59am On May 13, 2020 |
Shinny1:Thought I could go in the way of my parents, they were so open in their finances and it is still working for them for 47years now in marriage .......I guess I have to disclose certain percentage of my total income , thanks so much for this 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Amb1045(m): 8:39am On May 13, 2020 |
op my advice to you, since you paid her bride price and she's turning to something else, just manage to impregnant her again after she born and start to misbehave again give her divorce letter to go and enjoy her life holing around to make money. After all we Africans married for kids not love 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Mariangeles(f): 8:44am On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid: That will just add to your problem. Your income is barely enough for your family... Why do men find it hard to take a break and BE ON THEIR OWN? Must you be with a woman? You say your woman is a problem, yet the solution to that problem is another woman? Most times, you men are the cause of your own problem. First of all, you don't take caution to carefully choose someone you're compatible with, then add to that a mistress? You'll just ruin your life by yourself. 26 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by sanesta: 8:57am On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:You earn above 100k monthly and yet she complains instead of encouraging you. she's very ungrateful and there's nothing like love in that marriage.. 19 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 8:58am On May 13, 2020 |
Mariangeles:Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by emmaodet: 9:07am On May 13, 2020 |
Mariangeles:Hmmmmmmmm Even though you are right, the society really frown against a man separating from a woman apart from the excuse of infidelity. They will mock you that you are not man 3enough and not in charge of your home. That is the major reason most men stay in toxic marriages. And just like most women, instead of them quitting an abusive marriage, they will start flirting with their bestie or a man on line and sleep with them. I guess it is a human thing. Ever heard of a popular saying about women - A shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride on 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Omar09(m): 9:30am On May 13, 2020 |
meetme01: Mr man, you lied. So women gets to push men to the limit and it's OK, but when that sane does react, it becomes degrading. Back to the main issue. Your wife needs your unreserved apology. You need remorseful which is through your attitude. Let her know you are deeply sorry. He does not need to apologize to his wife for any reason. Assuming he hit her for no reason, then he has to apologize for being a mad man. One thing I hate about most NL folks here is that they feel controlling anger is very easy. So as a woman she is excused when she says things to provoke her man, insensitive things at that because she's a woman but when the man reacts, he's called an animal? This is stupidity at it's level. You know, men are the sponsors of Gynocentrism and feminism. To her, is she not working? Why have you refused to set her up in a biz? One problem I have realized in today's marriage is, finance. It's really creating a lot of issues in most marriage. As a man, if you earn from three sources, declare only two. Let her know how the money is spent to the last kobo. That was the initial problem, you need to fix that part asap OP didn't state whether or not she's not working. She could be working but op decided to finance his home as the man. But if @op didn't set up a business or a job for his wife, it's quite appalling. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Raalsalghul: 9:35am On May 13, 2020 |
jesmond3945: If you know, you know. It's only a matter of time before the wife starts sleeping with other men to satisfy her financial cravings. 6 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Omar09(m): 9:37am On May 13, 2020 |
Mariangeles: Once there's a competition, one gets the most out of it. It's simple. If Glo was the only network in Nigeria, do you think we as the citizens will enjoy it? Competition is healthy. The second woman will know that if she fůcks up she will be changed since the first is alive. As per your last paragraph, being compatible with your partner is one thing, having same life goal is another. So it's not enough to be compatible, same goal orientation should be considered. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Raalsalghul: 9:41am On May 13, 2020 |
KanwuliaExtra: Nne, what is your stance on this issue sef? You just dey speak in parables. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Prenonjebose: 10:10am On May 13, 2020 |
My guy, apologize for smacking her and let that be the end of it. Don't waste your energy trying to make it up with her. As for her attitude, maintain your stand on living within your honest means of livelihood. Don't go out of your way to get involved in illegal stuff to meet her demands, it doesn't end well. 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by KanwuliaExtra: 10:20am On May 13, 2020 |
Raalsalghul: I say dudes dey suffer marriage wahala too, but na mostly women dey cry on and offline. My stance is that it is good to know that MEN ALSO CRY in marriages and relationships. Make dem see as e be. . . . especially on this awa NL! 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by chii8(f): 10:44am On May 13, 2020 |
KanwuliaExtra: Lol.... 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ouchbabe(f): 11:04am On May 13, 2020 |
njelrapheal:Truth! Reminds me of this Nigerian movie "Discontent " 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by seanwilliam(m): 11:27am On May 13, 2020 |
Exc2000:imagine somebody you dey feed, cloth, house, sponsor and practically responsible to every of her demands..and yet she still get the audacity to follow you talk anyhow... as I dey read the op post, I just dey put myself in such position, and dey imagine what I'll do to her that she will forever and ever and ever regret in her life.. imagine spending the largest part of the salary you toiled 30 days for on a woman and she is indirectly telling you " what have you done for me"... 30 days of insult you get from your boss, co worker, you denying yourself some life luxuries, u risk your life to go work everyday etc and person still get mouth to tell you say you no try Hahahahahah . I trust the almighty God, he no go give me that kind wife. Cos I dont even want to think of what I'll do for her. .. . This is the solution if I were you ... 1. Start taking overdose of red pills 2. Start reverse psychology on her 3. Spend more on your kiddo 4. Start investing 5. Comot mind for her matter ( if you dont, you go get hypertension) 6. Whenever she picks argument with you, walk out and go lodge outside. 7. Do like you dont care 8. Ignore her antics 9. Never make the mistake of having heart to heart talk with her.cos when a lady starts misbehaving, den no dey hear word.. 10. Let her realise her mistakes and come to apologise herself. 11. Make she go out go find work by herself.. cos if you establish her, she no go appreciate.. Most painful words to me this life is make person tell me " what have you done for me " ( saying it directly or indirectly)after I hussle day and night for me and you..and you have the guts to tell me that word?? Even my mama no fit tell me that kind word make I gree , cos she know say I be agbero 35 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by seyigiggle: 12:14pm On May 13, 2020 |
Iyalaya apology. As a man, be firm even if you are wrong. You created this yourself. NEVER tell her to hussle ooo. That would create room for more challenges including infidelity. Go out more, make yourself less available to her with impression of hussling. Declare 50% of your hussle income. Spring surprises with purchase of asset or valuables Create an atmosphere of unpredictability. Women would live in the dreams and fantasy you create for them. Get closer to her friends, wish same life for her. Do all these if you love her.otherwise jappa the marriage ademidedavid: 6 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Prymestrr(m): 1:20pm On May 13, 2020 |
meetme01:Hmmmmm... I really hope the person behind this moniker is speaking from a place of experience and not still a mummy's boy like I suspect. Please for all teenagers and the uninitiated on NL kindly stay off marriage topics please and please. No be boyfriend and girlfriend matter them deh discuss for that kind threads abeg. Na ppl life so try make you no comment on wetin you never fit understand. 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Prymestrr(m): 1:37pm On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:This has external influence written all over it. A friend of hers have probably been blabbing to her chagrin about how her husband if spoiling her silly or worse which is that she's been getting amorous attention from another man which also involves money and gifts and promises of all the immoral things that money can buy. If this is the case then she's angry that such attention is not coming from the man she loves and is committed to. Bottom line is your wife is being enticed by what is not real and she's really confused at this point. Sit her down and talk to her if you can please. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Meteng: 2:36pm On May 13, 2020 |
Believe me, some other guy is flashing money at her. She's looking for excuses to enter the guy 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by TheKingIsHere: 4:14pm On May 13, 2020 |
Aplaudez: How are they not enjoying themselves? They have been happy until all of a sudden she wants extravagant life. Her friends are influencing her 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 5:35pm On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:Op, nothing do you bro. Abeg watch this interview Emeka Ike gave about his ex-wife. https://www.nairaland.com/5854214/emeka-ike-blasts-suzanne-emma To paraphrase that yoruba proverb "dog wey wan lost no dey hear the hunter's whistle " As someone here rightly pointed out, these are the kind of women we have today. There is absolutely nothing you can do. 6 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 5:54pm On May 13, 2020 |
ModelX:Thanks so much, I appreciate.....if we are facing such then what does the future hold for our kids? 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 5:58pm On May 13, 2020 |
Prenonjebose:Thanks so much, well noted |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 6:00pm On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:Bro what can the righteous do? We live in wicked times. That Emeka Ike ex-wife abandoned 4(four) little children including a baby. Four! My brother, wo, I have nothing to add. God save us. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 6:49pm On May 13, 2020 |
ModelX:Thanks a lot bro, I appreciate and cherish your contribution.....may God bless you 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 7:07pm On May 13, 2020 |
Poorboy:Thanks bro, the elder sis is unmarried yet and not from a that wealthy home though she graduate from a private uni...... |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 7:13pm On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:she graduated from a private University. Then she is from a well to do home, so step up your game. Look for a federal government job for her, even if it requires you paying money. It will help I am also a Federal Government Staff on 8/4 earning about what you're earning. So I understand how you feel it's not easy. I base in Abuja 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 7:16pm On May 13, 2020 |
Poorboy:Well understood but how do you get a federal job when there is no opening yet and she doesnt even like my kind of job .. Also on level 8 step 2 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 7:36pm On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:Why does she not like your job? It's a job with security, what you need is strategy to grow, think of what can give you money in your environment. Save money and start it. You know how you got your Federal Government job, so that is how you will do to get one for her. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 8:01pm On May 13, 2020 |
Poorboy:Its not bro but a lecturing job.....I have been trying all means to do so but she just doesn't like the job. .. |
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