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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by KevinDein: 12:19pm On May 13, 2020
poshestmina:
Please let the woman be.
There's no way you'd go to claim the child and not ruin her marriage.
Don't ruin her marriage,you already ruined her happiness several times.
The marriage was built on deceit, so he won't be ruining anything sacred or special here. It's a sham and the husband deserves to know the truth. Having him unknowingly raise someone else's child essentially implies he is living a lie. No one deserves that.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by crackkhaus: 12:37pm On May 13, 2020
KevinDein:

The marriage was built on deceit, so he won't be ruining anything sacred or special here. It's a sham and the husband deserves to know the truth. Having him unknowingly raise someone else's child essentially implies he is living a lie. No one deserves that.
As in bruv... sometimes the way these people reason, you start to wonder if sharwama and ice-cream have not finished their brain.

To choose between having a place in the life of a child borne of your seed VERSUS ruining the marriage of a man who doesn't even know he's raising a child that's not his - this is not even something to ponder on for too long.

He would be doing that man a huge favour, as well as restoring some karmic balance to the universe.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by KevinDein: 1:16pm On May 13, 2020
crackkhaus:

As in bruv... sometimes the way these people reason, you start to wonder if sharwama and ice-cream have not finished their brain.

To choose between having a place in the life of a child borne of your seed VERSUS ruining the marriage of a man who doesn't even know he's raising a child that's not his - this is not even something to ponder on for too long.

He would be doing that man a huge favour, as well as restoring some karmic balance to the universe.
Yeah, bro, I don't get these ladies. Their comments are genuinely disturbing. Sends shivers down my spine. How they do not feel it is extremely unfair for another human being to live a lie is beyond me. The more disturbing thing is these ladies are the majority here.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:25pm On May 13, 2020
poshestmina:
Please let the woman be.
There's no way you'd go to claim the child and not ruin her marriage.

You never wanted a child in the first place undecided undecided undecided undecided

You had no love and plans for her .

Don't ruin her marriage,you already ruined her happiness several times.
.....This is a very disappointing comment. But I'm not surprised because it is coming from a lady.You are not seeing anything wrong with what your fellow woman is doing by allowing an innocent man to train another man's child.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:27pm On May 13, 2020
KevinDein:

Yeah, bro, I don't get these ladies. Their comments are genuinely disturbing. Sends shivers down my spine. How they do not feel it is extremely unfair for another human being to live a lie is beyond me. The more disturbing thing is these ladies are the majority here.
.... It's very shameful I must say.
This only shows the height of moral decadence among our ladies.No shame,no concience.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by KevinDein: 1:35pm On May 13, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
.... It's very shameful I must say.
This only shows the height of moral decadence among our ladies.No shame,no concience.
And these are probably the "normal" women I come across on a daily basis. Beautiful faces with pretty smiles but cold hearts.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:40pm On May 13, 2020
KevinDein:

And these are probably the "normal" women I come across on a daily basis. Beautiful faces with pretty smiles but cold hearts.
....I only pity men that keep trusting them.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by crackkhaus: 4:14pm On May 13, 2020
KevinDein:

Yeah, bro, I don't get these ladies. Their comments are genuinely disturbing. Sends shivers down my spine. How they do not feel it is extremely unfair for another human being to live a lie is beyond me. The more disturbing thing is these ladies are the majority here.
People wives and girlfriends oo...

And someone here was asking me previously if there's anything wrong for a man to completely trust a woman he loves, and to believe her once she tells him she's pregnant for him...

Shey na dis kain females for here him wan trust laikdis? cheesy

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Genoa(m): 5:44pm On May 13, 2020
Climatology100 any update?
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Shinny1: 6:43pm On May 13, 2020
Once the child is doing perfectly fine where she is please leave her until she matures well to take tangible decision..
I think you should beg the mum(your ex) to allow you to visit the child once in a while preferably at school to prevent dead emotions coming back to live
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 8:01pm On May 13, 2020
This life is so euphemiral though full of twist and turns.
Firstly, I do appreciate all your concerted advices as well as the insults, I must admit no man is an island of knowledge.
I traveled and the DNA test was done, I was especting a quick result like 2hrs but the doctor told us it will take 5days to a week before the result will be out.
I'm in deeper mess, I saw my daughter today for the first time and no doubt she's mine but I will come back to that later as what happened today between I and my ex is I don't know.
When I first saw her, the rage in her is shocking as I've never see her in that mood before as I was so scared to move closer to her and when I do I received barrage of slaps and beatings, she cried profusely and strange enough my parents were just looking at us as I was left to calm her down on my own.
The situation took a twist when we reach home as the way she and my parents were doing look strange, just like the old days when she was younger, the gists and the friendship and despite trying to avoid her, we ran into each other twice and it wasn't funny as she can't look straight into my eyes, she was breathing heavily as the closeness is just too much believe me I don't know how we got kissing in the first place, thank God for my mum footsteps and the second was in her car when she was about leaving, we had a lengthy discussion where she told me she know I will be back and that she only marry her husband just to despise me, she also told me they have been living a separate life for over 3years after a physical attack by the husband after he won't pay back the money she loaned him to support his business.
Again, I can't explain how we end up kissing passionately again and all this is known to my dad as he told me he's being watching us especially what he saw us doing in her car.
I'm 37years of age and this thing? It's getting too much for me to handle.
My daughter is just like my mirror, the way we quickly bond together is amazing, she was so free with me and my parents and I kissing my ex twice? God help me.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Graxie(f): 8:58pm On May 13, 2020
Climatology100:
This life is so euphemiral though full of twist and turns.
Firstly, I do appreciate all your concerted advices as well as the insults, I must admit no man is an island of knowledge.
I traveled and the DNA test was done, I was especting a quick result like 2hrs but the doctor told us it will take 5days to a week before the result will be out.
I'm in deeper mess, I saw my daughter today for the first time and no doubt she's mine but I will come back to that later as what happened today between I and my ex is I don't know.
When I first saw her, the rage in her is shocking as I've never see her in that mood before as I was so scared to move closer to her and when I do I received barrage of slaps and beatings, she cried profusely and strange enough my parents were just looking at us as I was left to calm her down on my own.
The situation took a twist when we reach home as the way she and my parents were doing look strange, just like the old days when she was younger, the gists and the friendship and despite trying to avoid her, we ran into each other twice and it wasn't funny as she can't look straight into my eyes, she was breathing heavily as the closeness is just too much believe me I don't know how we got kissing in the first place, thank God for my mum footsteps and the second was in her car when she was about leaving, we had a lengthy discussion where she told me she know I will be back and that she only marry her husband just to despise me, she also told me they have been living a separate life for over 3years after a physical attack by the husband after he won't pay back the money she loaned him to support his business.
Again, I can't explain how we end up kissing passionately again and all this is known to my dad as he told me he's being watching us especially what he saw us doing in her car.
I'm 37years of age and this thing? It's getting too much for me to handle.
My daughter is just like my mirror, the way we quickly bond together is amazing, she was so free with me and my parents and I kissing my ex twice? God help me.
Hmmmmmmmm,another hmmmmmmmmm. You are gathering infested wood, see you see lizard.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 9:16pm On May 13, 2020
Graxie:
Hmmmmmmmm,another hmmmmmmmmm. You are gathering infested wood, see you see lizard.
Seriously ma, I can't wait to get over this stuff of entanglement, once the DNA result is out and positive, we will look for a compromise just for everyone to move on because today's situation really drain me emotionally.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by nuelyoyo(m): 9:26pm On May 13, 2020
Whatever mistake the OP and his ex may have made, it doesn't take a way the fact that his ex engaged in paternity fraud. The ex's husband is not aware he is training another man's child. She has clearly offended two people, the OP (by denying him the knowledge and access to his child) and her husband (by allowing him to ignorantly training another man's child).

OP just make a post on social media with your child's picture, make sure it goes viral. Also tag her husband If you know his social media handle. Then watch the drama unfold.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 9:54pm On May 13, 2020
nuelyoyo:
Whatever mistake the OP and his ex may have made, it doesn't take a way the fact that his ex engaged in paternity fraud. The ex's husband is not aware he is training another man's child. She has clearly offended two people, the OP (by denying him the knowledge and access to his child) and her husband (by allowing him to ignorantly training another man's child).

OP just make a post on social media with your child's picture, make sure it goes viral. Also tag her husband If you know his social media handle. Then watch the drama unfold.
Seriously bro? Exposing my daughter on social media? Internet never forget.
The mess is between I, my ex and probably the husband and not the innocent girl.
With what I see today, claiming that child won't be a problem, the problem is her opening up to the husband and on a lighter note, she said the man is not heavily involve in the girl upkeeping and if it go south, I will be ready.
I'm just emotionally down because of what happened between I and my ex today, Everytime I remember, I'm just scared.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 9:58pm On May 13, 2020
Genoa:
Climatology100 any update?
Yes sir.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by lilioj: 10:05pm On May 13, 2020
I don't seem to understand what you're scared of. Do you want to go back to her?
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 10:26pm On May 13, 2020
Graxie:
Hmmmmmmmm,another hmmmmmmmmm. You are gathering infested wood, see you see lizard.
Don't mind him, @37 so he doesn't have any woman yet to point at as his wife or perhaps his wife to be. @op if the story story you shared again happened to be real and the result should come out positive and you easily get away with that child, then you must be lucky your once to be girl friend married a calm guy. if i was to be the man, you wont even have access to that child 1 bit, i have nothing to do with the child o, but i'll use you to teach other men out there like you a lesson. @op no go marry you hear continue to dey kiss another man wife up and down, and your dad saw you guys kissing and he cant even scold you. Nothing person no go hear for this nairaland sef.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by nuelyoyo(m): 11:02pm On May 13, 2020
Climatology100:

Seriously bro? Exposing my daughter on social media? Internet never forget.
The mess is between I, my ex and probably the husband and not the innocent girl.
With what I see today, claiming that child won't be a problem, the problem is her opening up to the husband and on a lighter note, she said the man is not heavily involve in the girl upkeeping and if it go south, I will be ready.
I'm just emotionally down because of what happened between I and my ex today, Everytime I remember, I'm just scared.
If you still have the contact of any of her family members, then try reaching out to them, take the heat to her family. The truth is that if you don't use force, she wouldn't bulge. She will just be calming you down. Na vex make me talk the posting on the internet thingy, I just dey para for all the comments wey ladies just dey post here angry . But if you have her husband's handle, you can send a message across to him stating everything that went down between both of you. Trust me that woman won't open up to her husband unless you turn the heat on her or you spill it out yourself.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by fabulous85: 9:44am On May 14, 2020
Climatology100:
This life is so euphemiral though full of twist and turns.
Firstly, I do appreciate all your concerted advices as well as the insults, I must admit no man is an island of knowledge.
I traveled and the DNA test was done, I was especting a quick result like 2hrs but the doctor told us it will take 5days to a week before the result will be out.
I'm in deeper mess, I saw my daughter today for the first time and no doubt she's mine but I will come back to that later as what happened today between I and my ex is I don't know.
When I first saw her, the rage in her is shocking as I've never see her in that mood before as I was so scared to move closer to her and when I do I received barrage of slaps and beatings, she cried profusely and strange enough my parents were just looking at us as I was left to calm her down on my own.
The situation took a twist when we reach home as the way she and my parents were doing look strange, just like the old days when she was younger, the gists and the friendship and despite trying to avoid her, we ran into each other twice and it wasn't funny as she can't look straight into my eyes, she was breathing heavily as the closeness is just too much believe me I don't know how we got kissing in the first place, thank God for my mum footsteps and the second was in her car when she was about leaving, we had a lengthy discussion where she told me she know I will be back and that she only marry her husband just to despise me, she also told me they have been living a separate life for over 3years after a physical attack by the husband after he won't pay back the money she loaned him to support his business.
Again, I can't explain how we end up kissing passionately again and all this is known to my dad as he told me he's being watching us especially what he saw us doing in her car.
I'm 37years of age and this thing? It's getting too much for me to handle.
My daughter is just like my mirror, the way we quickly bond together is amazing, she was so free with me and my parents and I kissing my ex twice? God help me.
you are just an attention seeker, fake story. the gist now is your ex is separated from her husband, but go through your comment before you claimed she called you at an odd hour and then she told you not to worry about her husband she can call you anytime. you need help.

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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 10:12am On May 14, 2020
Climatology100:

Yes sir.
You this guy eh, i fear who no fear you. Anyway, i know ur type. how on earth will a sane man write down the date & time he had sex with his gf, thats absurd dude. you are a bad guy with dirty mindset, thats why you are acting that way. A bad person 'll always attract bad person & will always believe everyone too is bad. i feel like getting to meet you in person, let me spit on your wicked head. You lie so tey you say na your papa teach you to dey do am, but that same papa no teach you say you suppose to don marry @37 and stop trolling up and down. That same your papa no teach you say it's a death penalty to kiss another man wife abi? upon say he see you dey do am o. don't worry they will do worst to your wife, unless you chose not to marry & continue trolling up and down looking for another married woman to kiss. @op look at your monlker sef no be only climatology na geomorphology you go soon see. WICKED MAN!
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 1:42pm On May 14, 2020
fabulous85:
you are just an attention seeker, fake story. the gist now is your ex is separated from her husband, but go through your comment before you claimed she called you at an odd hour and then she told you not to worry about her husband she can call you anytime. you need help.
There's something we call "read to understood" yes she called me late and I had to call her back the second day in which she told me she can call me anytime she like whether the husband is aware or not.
She never mention to me that they're living separately back then until yesterday.
Fake story? Seriously sir, you're entitle to your opinion and I respect that but thanks anyway.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 1:51pm On May 14, 2020
Oladayo12:
You this guy eh, i fear who no fear you. Anyway, i know ur type. how on earth will a sane man write down the date & time he had sex with his gf, thats absurd dude. you are a bad guy with dirty mindset, thats why you are acting that way. A bad person 'll always attract bad person & will always believe everyone too is bad. i feel like getting to meet you in person, let me spit on your wicked head. You lie so tey you say na your papa teach you to dey do am, but that same papa no teach you say you suppose to don marry @37 and stop trolling up and down. That same your papa no teach you say it's a death penalty to kiss another man wife abi? upon say he see you dey do am o. don't worry they will do worst to your wife, unless you chose not to marry & continue trolling up and down looking for another married woman to kiss. @op look at your monlker sef no be only climatology na geomorphology you go soon see. WICKED MAN!
The least thing I will ever do is to be throwing insults on a faceless forum, you can type whatever you like bro, believe me I still appreciate your inputs.
You know my kind of person and you want to meet me in person right? and why I haven't marry at 37? I can only tell you to work hard and with luck you may find yourself in my caucus of maybe business or friends.
Thanks anyway.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 1:57pm On May 14, 2020
nuelyoyo:
If you still have the contact of any of her family members, then try reaching out to them, take the heat to her family. The truth is that if you don't use force, she wouldn't bulge. She will just be calming you down. Na vex make me talk the posting on the internet thingy, I just dey para for all the comments wey ladies just dey post here angry . But if you have her husband's handle, you can send a message across to him stating everything that went down between both of you. Trust me that woman won't open up to her husband unless you turn the heat on her or you spill it out yourself.
Thank you sir, there's no way the husband won't get involve if the result come out positive and my family have outline some steps to limit the damage it may cause.
We have spoken to the king and the DPO of the local station in the town(they are friends to my dad) as they will invite him over but all this will be done IF the result come out in favour of me.
I so much appreciate your advices sir, thanks so much.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 2:03pm On May 14, 2020
Oladayo12:
Don't mind him, @37 so he doesn't have any woman yet to point at as his wife or perhaps his wife to be. @op if the story story you shared again happened to be real and the result should come out positive and you easily get away with that child, then you must be lucky your once to be girl friend married a calm guy. if i was to be the man, you wont even have access to that child 1 bit, i have nothing to do with the child o, but i'll use you to teach other men out there like you a lesson. @op no go marry you hear continue to dey kiss another man wife up and down, and your dad saw you guys kissing and he cant even scold you. Nothing person no go hear for this nairaland sef.
I can only laugh at your write-ups.
See nothing will happen, Mr man, go get money, if you're rich and heavily connected you will do anything.
How I wish you were even the husband with this your boastful attitude and if the result come out positive and you don't want release my daughter? You will rot in jail.
As I have typed earlier, get rich and get connected okay?
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 2:18pm On May 14, 2020
Climatology100:

I can only laugh at your write-ups.
See nothing will happen, Mr man, go get money, if you're rich and heavily connected you will do anything.
How I wish you were even the husband with this your boastful attitude and if the result come out positive and you don't want release my daughter? You will rot in jail.
As I have typed earlier, get rich and get connected okay?
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 2:47pm On May 14, 2020
Climatology100:

I can only laugh at your write-ups.
See nothing will happen, Mr man, go get money, if you're rich and heavily connected you will do anything.
How I wish you were even the husband with this your boastful attitude and if the result come out positive and you don't want release my daughter? You will rot in jail.
As I have typed earlier, get rich and get connected okay?
You see your life? we're talking about a child's paternity and claiming the child or not. We tell you the bad trait in you that resulted to that iccident, instread you're trolling on faceless forum helmlessly mentioning one moniker to the other. Lol, you even claimed to be rich and highly connected. I do hope you know why the lady dump your ass off for some1 else. I kid you not bro i won't respond to any of your next line of super story. Like i said earlier, i know your type pretty well and the kinda family you belong to. You think you can come here and buy us with your cheap lies? CONTINUE
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 3:05pm On May 14, 2020
Climatology100:

I can only laugh at your write-ups.
See nothing will happen, Mr man, go get money, if you're rich and heavily connected you will do anything.
How I wish you were even the husband with this your boastful attitude and if the result come out positive and you don't want release my daughter? You will rot in jail.
As I have typed earlier, get rich and get connected okay?
Change your way of life and get married ASAP, also stop seeing ladies out there as being bad and deceitful. else you'll always come across such kind of ladies. abeg change that your mindset about ladies. Go learn how to lie dude cos you still be learner. Less i forget, abeg drop that your jotting skill sharpally. it will take you no where. Lastly, abeg stop to dey lie 4 your p-man head say na him teach you all those your bad bad attitude towards ladies, no 4get say we sef get papa o.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 4:22pm On May 14, 2020
Oladayo12:
You see your life? we're talking about a child's paternity and claiming the child or not. We tell you the bad trait in you that resulted to that iccident, instread you're trolling on faceless forum helmlessly mentioning one moniker to the other. Lol, you even claimed to be rich and highly connected. I do hope you know why the lady dump your ass off for some1 else. I kid you not bro i won't respond to any of your next line of super story. Like i said earlier, i know your type pretty well and the kinda family you belong to. You think you can come here and buy us with your cheap lies? CONTINUE
Mr Oladayo, I do respect your opinions, thanks so much for your inputs, I do appreciate.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Fabuloski(m): 4:44pm On May 14, 2020
Climatology100:

Mr Oladayo, I do respect your opinions, thanks so much for your inputs, I do appreciate.
How much does the DNA cost?
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 5:06pm On May 14, 2020
Fabuloski:

How much does the DNA cost?
I paid 93k but that doesn't mean that's the general price as I believe maybe if we use public/general hospitals, it may be less.
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by monopolistic: 9:16am On Jul 06, 2020
Climatology100:

I paid 93k but that doesn't mean that's the general price as I believe maybe if we use public/general hospitals, it may be less.


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