No matter how long you've been dating, learn to always be ready to hit a bitch with these lines:

"Hey look. I can tell your heart really isn't in this thing we are trying to do together.
Given your behavior so far I feel it is best we take a break." and that's if you were actually dating exclusively or courting.

You should have hit her with that the moment you realized she was talking to your friend but not to you and your friend became telephone for both of you.
That's a very upfront move on her part that you are no longer important. Nigerian men tolerate too much BS.

All that extra stalking you were doing was unnecessary and beneath you as a man.

You were never her boy friend, you are just her maga.

2dice01:
What did i just read

You mean you sent someone 60k after you heard the person problem from a third Party

Which shrine are these ladies using cus the Baba Jazz is in another level

Bros you have been dating yourself all this while

Take heart Bruv

Come to think of it. The girl didnt tell u about her mom's health. You heard it from a third party and sent money. Why kind nice guy be this?

DNSPro:
Recently,

I discovered that a lot of Nairalander men have been wailing about their sour relationships with Nigerian girls and it is not surprising to me.

You would be foolish if you do not have a backup when dating a Nigerian girl and I do not say this because I am a flirt or womanizer, at least I can boast that girls I have dated is laughably very very very low in comparison to what is obtainable out there.

It is no news that most Nigerian girls are unstable mentally and emotionally.

For the ones who lamented about money they spent or how they almost went bankrupt, I am not surprised about one not let other guys bully you as if they never fell "mugu" to any Nigerian girl.

However, you will run into problems when start treating them like wife instead just a girlfriend. This is were we make mistakes.

Early this year, I was chatting with my girl and before I know what's up, her whatsapp line became inactive. This was surprising to me and I called her immediately to know whether she blocked me to which she said why would she block me. I told her to check and she said she will cos she was charging her phone. Next morning it was still same thing so I kept calling because I thought maybe the phone had been stolen.

I didn't think she blocked me. Why would I? Eventually, she picked the call and told me she checked but the whatsapp is not on her phone and some other things were wiped off. I believed this because he had been complaining about the phone for which I sent her money to fix it prior to this.

Anyway, I didn't bother about it after while and I stopped asking and just kept communications on normal calls, at least she didn't block me there and that didn't give me any reason to suspect I was blocked. I also didn't want to seem like a pest if prop further (you know how Nigerian girls react when you do)

So last month, I was calling her and when I do, she would cut the call. This was unusual to me. She did this for almost a week until I reached out to her friend in order to know what was happening. The friend let me know that the mum's health is bad. Her friend sent me pictures of the mums condition and it was an eyesore.

I know my girl(I may not be her guy lol) to be one who does not like bugging you with her problem but why would her friend know this and I do not? I thought about this for some seconds and waved it off. I probed the friend further to know the expenses and the friend told me about 300k is needed. I wanted to sent 100k but for some weird reasons, I sent 60k with a plan to send 40k after a while. At least that will help start something.

few days after that, I noticed that the friend was getting response from her faster and relaying them to me on whatsapp since when I called she does not pick. I had to ask the friend if she is communicating with my girl (I may not be her guy lol) on whatsapp and the friend said yes, she is. I said okay.

Thereafter, my girl (I may not be her guy lol) called me, probably to thank me for the money, but I missed it so she left a text message. She told her friend that she called but I didn't pick and wondered whether I was angry. The friend messaged me in the morning and queried why I didn't pick the call or whether I am still angry. I told the friend I missed it because the phone was not with me and that I am not angry.

So this is where it got interesting...

last week, the friend upload a picture that looks like one from my girl's status wishing her happy birthday and today the friend uploaded another thanking my girl (I may not be her guy lol) for the cake.

At this stage, I was wondering whether I did anything wrong that made this girl not give me her "new" whatsapp number because that was what I thought. I looked at the status of her friend again, saw old pictures of both of them and concluded it is impossible to have new phone and still have this old pictures that were stored in an old phone.

I called her today after that and asked her whether there is any reason for not giving me her "new whatsapp number. That was all I asked and she went defensive and aggressive, saying am I not aware of what happened to her phone blah blah.. same phone I gave her money to fix? Was she expecting me to bring out another money to fix it again? She ended by saying she is not ready for this talk and that we talk about this later.

I said I know but it is just a question. She refused to answer a simple question. I told the friend her reaction when I asked and guess what the friend did? She tried to blackmail me like Nigerian girls do and said my girl is trying to make me understand something and that women like to be listened to all the time. That I should listen instead of reacting. I smiled and within me, I said this one think I am a JJC. What she meant is that I didnt do anything about my girl's phone and that is what she (my girl is reacting to ). WTF?

So, I installed whatsapp on a new line to check her status. Lo and Behold, the profile is active, which means I was blocked all along. I didn't waste time to let the friend know my findings that I was blocked. Same friend only replied "it is well"

Well, I went back to the new whatsapp line and told her I am aware she blocked me and it is good. At least I now know I was blocked instead of assuming

I am not so pained though because when dealing with a Nigerian girl, I have learned to always have backup... we move!

But normal guy man supposed know when them block am for WhatsApp na?

Meeyankee:

But normal guy man supposed know when them block am for WhatsApp na?

I actually swapped number when it happened but it was still same thing. I don't know the number I switch to cos I get dem plenty lol.

This one na him I decide to use a recently bought line and that was how I discovered.

So maybe when I initially swapped line, I used a number she has, I can't recall, hence the result I got.

Anyway, no wahala.

DNSPro:
Winning? Dude, money lost can be made bro. I am not some hopeless nonentity without a future. As far as I am concerned, na peanut be that bro.

One thing I have learned it when giving a girl attention, never displease yourself to please them.

Your last line says it all....#word

DNSPro:
Recently,

I discovered that a lot of Nairalander men have been wailing about their sour relationships with Nigerian girls and it is not surprising to me.

You would be foolish if you do not have a backup when dating a Nigerian girl and I do not say this because I am a flirt or womanizer, at least I can boast that girls I have dated is laughably very very very low in comparison to what is obtainable out there.

It is no news that most Nigerian girls are unstable mentally and emotionally.

For the ones who lamented about money they spent or how they almost went bankrupt, I am not surprised about one not let other guys bully you as if they never fell "mugu" to any Nigerian girl.

However, you will run into problems when start treating them like wife instead just a girlfriend. This is were we make mistakes.

Early this year, I was chatting with my girl and before I know what's up, her whatsapp line became inactive. This was surprising to me and I called her immediately to know whether she blocked me to which she said why would she block me. I told her to check and she said she will cos she was charging her phone. Next morning it was still same thing so I kept calling because I thought maybe the phone had been stolen.

I didn't think she blocked me. Why would I? Eventually, she picked the call and told me she checked but the whatsapp is not on her phone and some other things were wiped off. I believed this because he had been complaining about the phone for which I sent her money to fix it prior to this.

Anyway, I didn't bother about it after while and I stopped asking and just kept communications on normal calls, at least she didn't block me there and that didn't give me any reason to suspect I was blocked. I also didn't want to seem like a pest if prop further (you know how Nigerian girls react when you do)

So last month, I was calling her and when I do, she would cut the call. This was unusual to me. She did this for almost a week until I reached out to her friend in order to know what was happening. The friend let me know that the mum's health is bad. Her friend sent me pictures of the mums condition and it was an eyesore.

I know my girl(I may not be her guy lol) to be one who does not like bugging you with her problem but why would her friend know this and I do not? I thought about this for some seconds and waved it off. I probed the friend further to know the expenses and the friend told me about 300k is needed. I wanted to sent 100k but for some weird reasons, I sent 60k with a plan to send 40k after a while. At least that will help start something.

few days after that, I noticed that the friend was getting response from her faster and relaying them to me on whatsapp since when I called she does not pick. I had to ask the friend if she is communicating with my girl (I may not be her guy lol) on whatsapp and the friend said yes, she is. I said okay.

Thereafter, my girl (I may not be her guy lol) called me, probably to thank me for the money, but I missed it so she left a text message. She told her friend that she called but I didn't pick and wondered whether I was angry. The friend messaged me in the morning and queried why I didn't pick the call or whether I am still angry. I told the friend I missed it because the phone was not with me and that I am not angry.

So this is where it got interesting...

last week, the friend upload a picture that looks like one from my girl's status wishing her happy birthday and today the friend uploaded another thanking my girl (I may not be her guy lol) for the cake.

At this stage, I was wondering whether I did anything wrong that made this girl not give me her "new" whatsapp number because that was what I thought. I looked at the status of her friend again, saw old pictures of both of them and concluded it is impossible to have new phone and still have this old pictures that were stored in an old phone.

I called her today after that and asked her whether there is any reason for not giving me her "new whatsapp number. That was all I asked and she went defensive and aggressive, saying am I not aware of what happened to her phone blah blah.. same phone I gave her money to fix? Was she expecting me to bring out another money to fix it again? She ended by saying she is not ready for this talk and that we talk about this later.

I said I know but it is just a question. She refused to answer a simple question. I told the friend her reaction when I asked and guess what the friend did? She tried to blackmail me like Nigerian girls do and said my girl is trying to make me understand something and that women like to be listened to all the time. That I should listen instead of reacting. I smiled and within me, I said this one think I am a JJC. What she meant is that I didnt do anything about my girl's phone and that is what she (my girl is reacting to ). WTF?

So, I installed whatsapp on a new line to check her status. Lo and Behold, the profile is active, which means I was blocked all along. I didn't waste time to let the friend know my findings that I was blocked. Same friend only replied "it is well"

Well, I went back to the new whatsapp line and told her I am aware she blocked me and it is good. At least I now know I was blocked instead of assuming

I am not so pained though because when dealing with a Nigerian girl, I have learned to always have backup... we move!

u pained bro...it's obvious

You guys that are into relationship get mind oo

How do you all cope with these dramas

PrimadonnaO:
All these kind of silly ideologies spring up because most of you are already in nonsense relationships to begin with.

Be wise man...don't just jump into a post and call it silly...e no happen to you no mean say e no go happen to another person...read and learn or keep quiet

DNSPro:


I actually swapped number when it happened but it was still same thing. I don't know the number I switch to cos I get dem plenty lol.

This one na him I decide to use a recently bought line and that was how I discovered.

So maybe when I initially swapped line, I used a number she has, I can't recall, hence the result I got.

Anyway, no wahala.

Without switching number or doing all these practical you wrote up there you should know right from the moment somebody blocked you on WhatsApp.

Nigerian girls
why generalizing?

Preshieben:
Nigerian girls
why generalizing?

They’re generalizing because majority carries the vote!

Meeyankee:

Without switching number or doing all these practical you wrote up there you should know right from the moment somebody blocked you on WhatsApp.

U would know but if someone had been flowing with you well as in, no quarrel or anything, wouldn't u feel the need to ask? The night it happened we were chatting... There was no quarrel.

Under such circumstances, u would not accept u were actually blocked. Why would u when there was no reason for such?

That was why I asked her if she blocked me and she said no. She later said it was her phone malfunctioning.. I believed her because she has complained about the phone for so long.

I was too busy that period to even bother my mind about it cos I wanted to do everything to secure some deals. Na so so travel I dey travel. I did not pressure her much so as not to appear as pest.

Well, it is what it is bro. At least now I know wetin dey and it is good.

PrimadonnaO:
All these kind of silly ideologies spring up because most of you are already in nonsense relationships to begin with.

are u a female or male.. Pardon me for asking cos guys like using the "f" too.

Notateflonguy:


Be wise man...don't just jump into a post and call it silly...e no happen to you no mean say e no go happen to another person...read and learn or keep quiet

bros, I no be new person for nairaland.
When u see these people dey talk like this, just ignore them. They will always act like man of Steel but if u see their story, it might even be worse than this.

As far as I am concerned, I didn't do more than myself. And the money is peanut, so I don't feel any pain.

DNSPro:


U would know but if someone had been flowing with you well as in, no quarrel or anything, wouldn't u feel the need to ask? The night it happened we were chatting... There was no quarrel.

Under such circumstances, u would not accept u were actually blocked. Why would u when there was no reason for such?

That was why I asked her if she blocked me and she said no. She later said it was her phone malfunctioning.. I believed her because she has complained about the phone for so long.

I was too busy that period to even bother my mind about it cos I wanted to do everything to secure some deals. Na so so travel I dey travel. I did not pressure her much so as not to appear as pest.

Well, it is what it is bro. At least now I know wetin dey and it is good.

See just lock for that girl and her friend. No even see them fir road talk to them e get why. Why are they both making fool of you . See guy I be guy this kind mind wey you get before but now my mind done rugged.. Nigeria girls need rugged mind .

bestabigaelever:
Hmmmm
Shey I will see husband Lai dis

Which one is back up again for God's sake

You will see husband . a good one at that if u always remind God about it.
Even though majority of men are messed up psychologically, there are still some good ones who will give u benefit of doubt, treat u well and put a ring on it . they exist .

Just be good and sincere yourself. You will be happy on the long run.

DNSPro:


No... I was aware the mum was ill but didn't know the extend of it as she didn't want to say it, even when I asked how is the mum, she would say fine but she was always travelling cos of the mum.

See this niggga
You are still defending someone that doesn't give a shiit about you

Weldone Sir

bestabigaelever:
Hmmmm
Shey I will see husband Lai dis

Which one is back up again for God's sake

You be lautech student

DonEd:


Come to think of it. The girl didnt tell u about her mom's health. You heard it from a third party and sent money. Why kind nice guy be this?

Na so we see am oo

2dice01:
See this niggga
You are still defending someone that doesn't give a shiit about you

Weldone Sir

yeah, just like u all come here forming voltron. WTF is wrong with u guys always doing this?

Meeyankee:

See just lock for that girl and her friend. No even see them fir road talk to them e get why. Why are they both making fool of you . See guy I be guy this kind mind wey you get before but now my mind done rugged.. Nigeria girls need rugged mind .

I just dey laugh all these brothers wey dey always form voltron whenever they read stories like this. ,

Bros, my temper dey destroy things and I know she can't withstand my own rage. If man dey calm down like this, e get why.

2dice01:
Na so we see am oo

lol... money way I don recoup since

victorian:







You will see husband . a good one at that if u always remind God about it.
Even though majority of men are messed up psychologically, there are still some good ones who will give u benefit of doubt, treat u well and put a ring on it . they exist .

Just be good and sincere yourself. You will be happy on the long run.

Just make sure you know a good one when u see it cos most of you ladies are blind.

DNSPro:
yeah, just like u all come here forming voltron. WTF is wrong with u guys always doing this?

Forming Voltron how?

Some girls use you play ludo
You grew some balls after the deed is done
Now am the one you are attacking

Weldone Sir

2dice01:
Forming Voltron how?

Some girls use you play ludo
You grew some balls after the deed is done
Now am the one you are attacking

Weldone Sir

No sir. You all need to stop acting like no woman ever played you. I hate it when u guys do this. Every time a guy shares his experience, you go on doing like u never been played. That is why I called u voltron!

I could remember a certain nairalander laughing someone years ago, calling him mumu, maga... guess what? Same person who was calling another mugu and maga like u are doing lost more money on a woman than the person he was laughing.

DNSPro:
lol... money way I don recoup since

Good for you

It's a jungle out there, men and women alike are so dishonest and disingenuous. I am getting a dog as a companion. I cannot deal with this bullshite. Divorce rate is even at 50%. Married couples are unhappy and cheating on eachother so what is the point?

DNSPro:
bros, I no be new person for nairaland.
When u see these people dey talk like this, just ignore them. They will always act like man of Steel but if u see their story, it might even be worse than this.

As far as I am concerned, I didn't do more than myself. And the money is peanut, so I don't feel any pain.

True

DNSPro:
No sir. You all need to stop acting like no woman ever played you. I hate it when u guys do this. Every time a guy shares his experience, you go on doing like u never been played. That is why I called u voltron!

I could remember a certain nairalander laughing someone years ago, calling him mumu, maga... guess what? Same person who was calling another mugu and maga like u are doing lost more money on a woman than the person he was laughing.

Wait you want me to pet you right ?

Dont be a weakling
Take your L in peace bro

If you like continue using money to entice every lady you meet
You ain't gonna see different result

2dice01:
Wait you want me to pet you right ?

Dont be a weakling
Take your L in peace bro

If you like continue using money to entice every lady you meet
You ain't gonna see different result

Yeah right, I am sure you missed where I mentioned giving to a male friend as well but whatever makes you feel superior and above female mischief makes you sleep well at night with an erected dick, doesn't it?

Stop making people feel bad for doing the right thing oga, otherwise, your daughter./sister will end up with a monster one day all because of such words from people like you.