philcz:
Preserved in ‘eternal’ silence?

IbrahimSkiba:



I ain’t a lady










Are you a lady? Cos you deserve some hug

MOnkeyBabe:
lol this One talk Say O.P still dey learn for where he dey. At least you still have one saved. My brother has none

Monfeels:


Yep.

I was actually itching to mention this in my original post, I'd have gotten a greater high out of it.

Monfeels:


I'm not glad to be a narcissist sociopath or whatever label that fits my personality. I am just a guy who has embraced who he is and found solace in loving himself.

And I can't help acting the way I act. Trust me, I'm very self aware and very knowledgeable and I've realized that there is no cure to what I am.

So I have two options.: Try to be a different person and suffer dissatisfaction and an internal turmoil so excruciating that it tears me inside out, or just do stuff that makes me happy, even though it might hurt someone. I know you'd pick the later but whatever argument you'd make would fly in the face of my lack of empathy.

born2begreat:
The beginning sounds like someone secretly used my hand and mind to type this. Then when i jumped on your second paragraph i realised this can’t be me even few of these can be seen in me. I don’t sex woman so that i can thrash them or make them feel worthless but my own is after sex i feel like i don’t need this relationship because i don’t have much. I see my calls dropping and one thing i believe that’s happening in my own is i have exhausted most of my strengths in my previous failed relationships. I’m not saying i’m a saint that women broke my heart, not really. I once gave up on a woman who would never give up on me because one prophet she forced me to go and see told me we are not compatible. I barely feed and clothe then which made me partially believe it. And in less that 2 months we parted ways i could see good things coming my way. And regarding care for family and friends... the reason why i’m still where i am, i so much cherished my family and friends i don’t like seeing them struggle even myself still struggling. I don’t joke with them, i wanted to rent an apartment in 2018 so i can settle with my then fiancé. And that was when they gave my parents quit notice i have no choice than to use part of the money to rent a house for them. Something i believe ended my relationship i was sad and mad at myself but at the same time i was still happy i did. Because they’ve covered my parent house with pan all over and my parents were still sleeping there which is dangerous. They sometimes squat with family that stays around. Op you need to see a counsellor i think some things are not normal about you, you really need help especially not caring for anyone. All the best

XhosaNostra:
I'd say you're a narcissist, but you're self aware. People like you usually have deep-seated abandonment issues or suffer from fear of rejection. You only skim the surface when it comes to emotions, so noone can get close enough to inflict any sort of pain. Get them before they get you type of thing. Underneath the seemingly uncaring facade, there's actually an extremely sensitive person that's scared to death of getting hurt, so they put up all these defences to protect their mushy core. Something like a human crustacean One person will manage to break down your walls though, mark my words. But it'll only take one person. It won't be easy sailing. There'll be a lot of vacillation between enmeshment & suffocation on your part. Good luck to the poor girl

Monfeels:


Why would I be ashamed?

I love myself and I've embraced what I am.

It's not like I chose to be what I am.

Arthur2021:
oga why the hate? Did OP haunt you?leave him jare...
The world is liberal, everyone is having their choices. No man owes a woman commitment after sex the same way no woman owes a man sex after his spending.

The world is now lawless,norms that were to put everyone in check so they dont hurt others or hurt themselves are now being fought as oppressive... So let everyone enjoy their freedom. If a lady is free to have sex,then men should be free to have sex without commitment, we owe no one anything.

If you tell the girls he chopped and dumped to close their legs you are a sexist/misogynist. So please leave us alone to enjoy modernity abeg....

Descortes:
if you had an atom of sense you'd have realized OPs problem is a general one not just towards ladies.. did you miss the part where he said he doesn't care about family members or friends even if they die?
you just picked out the misogynistic part because that's what you want to hear.
Smarten up bruv

Arthur2021:
what is misogynistic about dumping women after consexual sex?did he break any law?

IbrahimSkiba:



At the end, you got the 2mins fame you so desperately desired.

No wonder nairaland is a faceless forum..

Anyone can do anything and go scot-free., Without being held accountable for it.

Keep using different monikas to get attentions on here, and we'll see how long it will last.

Descortes:
you've quoted this guy for the umpteenth time in this thread
Seems you fancy him already

Descortes:
you've quoted this guy for the umpteenth time in this thread
Seems you fancy him already

IbrahimSkiba:





Is it your quote? Why can't you monkeys just mind your business?

says a halfwitted dolt with a cleft as vagina between her wrinkled deformed pair of mosquito legs.

Don't vent the frustration of your miserable life on me aunty DUMBOlina.
She-Orangutan

IbrahimSkiba:




For the record, I don't..


I just get to know someone who's exactly like him.

Eniolakiite:
What?!!!

UnclePrincipal:
I'm following this thread. I think i possess some of these personality traits op has.

XhosaNostra:
I'd say you're a narcissist, but you're self aware. People like you usually have deep-seated abandonment issues or suffer from fear of rejection. You only skim the surface when it comes to emotions, so noone can get close enough to inflict any sort of pain. Get them before they get you type of thing. Underneath the seemingly uncaring facade, there's actually an extremely sensitive person that's scared to death of getting hurt, so they put up all these defences to protect their mushy core. Something like a human crustacean One person will manage to break down your walls though, mark my words. But it'll only take one person. It won't be easy sailing. There'll be a lot of vacillation between enmeshment & suffocation on your part. Good luck to the poor girl

Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

Weebo:


If you are trying to put another person down to feel good about yourself or inflict pain or damage to another person to feel good about yourself, this shows that you are lacking self esteem and you are feeling deeply pain for yourself, so basically what you are doing is feeding on another persons esteem to regulate yourself, that is a sign of Narcissism.

Monfeels:


Why would I be ashamed?

I love myself and I've embraced what I am.

It's not like I chose to be what I am.