Fastestmanalive:


Chai

Make I just manage my country like that biko

I hope you are above 20 sha.
Cos the boy is 19year old virgin boy that has never been in a relationship.
Btw, This thread has been turned to war between men and women.

Martinez39s:
You just gave yourself away. He didn't ask your gender, and he never asserted you are a female. It is now clear that you are a female.

na!don't conclude! The number of manginas nowadays are more than females. Hope you are aware males are no making up to half of feminists?men now see their fellow men as filth...he is likely a male

OldSoul1:

Get your facts right bud! No one signs prenup under duress! The process is clearly Explained to you before you sign on the dotted lines. You either sign or not. You sign if you have no hidden agenda or decline if you have one; or in some cases feel spited.

*smiles* The divorce court doesn't require evidence or rationality. All they need to annul a prenup is a woman's claim that the she signed the prenup under duress. The woman's claim is believed without evidence.

Also, to grant a woman sole custody of the kids, and to get a restraining order that prevents the man from seeing his kids, all the woman has to do is claim that her husband abused her and the kids physically and sexually. The woman will be believed even if there is no evidence. The legal system over there works on the Duluth Model.

Eberechiru:


For your information am a guy and the other day I saw a post where a man beat up his wife and decided to post it online saying she can call the police you can imagine the height of insolence.

Just because in Africa it’s the norm to treat women as trash and if she speaks out they’ll say she being rude. His talking about the woman he married for Christ sake he must have seen something in her that he like its not like she proposed to him, he proposed to her and why would she in just month act up in such a horrible way... And as usual we are saying it’s all the woman’s fault typical black stupid mentality......

another foolish talk again.

LinLinGentle:
All these people here that kept saying I did not treat my wife right in Nigeria don't actually know what they're saying. The answer is NO. In Nigeria, she never touched her salary, I never leave house chores to her alone, I did most things men do to show love to a woman. She just makes sure to tell me how inadequate I am and how she could have had better than me and deserves more. She had this ex boyfriend she always compared me to. Also, she has always had this pathological attachment to her extended family and makes it a duty to paint me in a bad light to anyone willing to listen. Her family expect more from me than I could offer, but did not even nurture the kind of relationship where this could happen. I was always the one doing the calling and visiting and all I get back is criticisms. Throughout our stay in Nigeria, none of her family members ever visited our matrimonial home, cos my wife cannot stop staying things like ''He drinks too much'', ''he never stays at home'', ''I think he is cheating'', ''his mother is a witch'' etc. We were both young professionals and we had busy lives back in Naija so we used to keep a maid, a driver etc. It was not really what you would call a patriarchy at all, just that I had a lower threshold for bullshit. The only difference between when we were in Nigeria and now is that I cannot keep up with her gbas gbos here, and have to back down most of the time for peace to reign, but back in Nigeria, she dared not do or say some things to me cos I would reciprocate swiftly. I am just a normal man with ''African mentality'' like most of y'all, I am not a trouble maker. I am just unfortunate to have this kinda wife whose expectations I have never met and who thinks I don't deserve appreciation, affection, respect, loyalty and love.

then why did you marry her in the first place. I think you should ignore her and face your kids while prayer for her deliverance

Martinez39s:
Prenups are nothing but glorified toilet papers over there. A judge could toss them aside for whatever reason. If the wife claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, she would be automatically believed even if there is no evidence to back up her claim, and the prenup would be annulled.

Hello bro

Please I wish you could open a thread and enlighten us on the pre-up of a thing....

Regards

tescoman90:


Hello bro

Please I wish you could open a thread and enlighten us on the pre-up of a thing....

Regards

Prenup is only about an arrangement on how your wealth is dealt with in case of divorce. What you get to keep and what you give your spouse/children, how much you pay her etc. And just like someone mentioned, it is not cast in stone and could be thrown out under some circumstances. A prenup doesn't prevent abusive women from using the gynocentric system in the west to frustrate a man and ruin his life.

LinLinGentle:
Prenup is only about an arrangement on how your wealth is dealt with in case of divorce. What you get to keep and what you give your spouse/children, how much you pay her etc. And just like someone mentioned, it is not cast in stone and could be thrown out under some circumstances. A prenup doesn't prevent abusive women from using the gynocentric system in the west to frustrate a man and ruin his life.

Gbam!

Black women never fail in showing their true colors. Wherever they go, they create drama out of nothing, they cheat, lie and even poison their hubby with intend to kill. And this is what I fear for you op. Too much freedom has gotten into her head that if you ain't careful, she will soon start to get funny ideas that why not just poison you, take what ever you have, take the kids and live her life free. Be very careful when women create drama and conflict out of nothing, they are just trying to get ways of getting rid of you.

My advice: Install multiple cameras in your house secretly, or even get some of those security companies to the it for you. It's not that expensive. Always be at peace and normal with her so that whatever abuse and threats will be only from her and it will be on camera. You can easily teach her a beautiful lesson with such video evidence. If if gets worse, you can open a police case with such evidence so that police radar will be on her as an abusive partner.
She can violent, abusive, stupid with stupid black women ego trips, but never let her outsmart you. Operate like the FBI, install those cameras

You need to be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove. I am not a harbinger of bad news, however the marriage is technically over except God touches her heart. I analysed all you said so far on this thread. She does NOT love you. I am married and do not live in Nigeria. I understand the danger in your situation. Sadly, i have to tell you she is like an enemy within. Self defense of your career,life and residency is key NOW. Things will most likely get worse once she is financially independent.

My brothers and sisters ...you cant judge a book by its cover ... always 2 sides of the story ... it will be nice to hear from madam herself... women just don't change overnight..sometime happen trust me ....for the sake of the kids seek marriage counseling and if e no work ..divorce is the only option.

DR PHIL once said kids prefer to be from a broken home than to be around fighting parents ..very unhealthy

******life is 2 short to be stressing... trust me hard times don't last tough ppl do.

chinchum:
You need to be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove. I am not a harbinger of bad news, however the marriage is technically over except God touches her heart. I analysed all you said so far on this thread. She does NOT love you. I am married and do not live in Nigeria. I understand the danger in your situation. Sadly, i have to tell you she is like an enemy within. Self defense of your career,life and residency is key NOW. Things will most likely get worse once she is financially independent.

EVILFOREST:

It appears you have never encountered a TERRIBLE LADY before.
It appears such doesn't exist in your DICTIONARY.
I PRAY it remains so.
Some MEN encounter Good Ladies during Friendship but end up with Jezebels in marriage, while some encounter Jezebels during Friendship and develop the Phobia for Ladies but eventually end up with a GoD Sent.

We also have TERRIBLE MEN.
But when the WRONG LADY is empowered it usually results in Anarchy.... and Pandemonium.
Such LADIES find it difficult managing Power and Rights.

That's what happens when such a Lady crosses to the US.

LinLinGentle:
Once again, neither of us was saintly back in Nigeria. I visited from abroad one time and discovered she was on dating websites and attempting to be with men amongst other disgusting things. This was one of the
reasons why we almost got divorced. Her family elders went with her to our family house to beg me and my people not to proceed with the divorce cos I had actually filed and sent the petition.

I forgave her for the sake of our children. They're my usual weak point that everyone uses to box me into a corner to get me to do something stupid. We resolved all issues and she and her family made several promises regarding her behaviours. I thought that it night be time we started planning on their relocation abroad as eliminating distance would be best for us all, only to get to this country and started dealing with even bigger sh**t

So there is really nothing like "Ask for forgiveness for all you did in Nigeria". I wasn't bashing or maltreating this woman. She is tougher than someone that could be maltreated sef. I have my occasional outbursts every now and then when I'm at my wit's end, but that's just about it.

I understand everything you said but if you really want peace to reign in your home ask her for forgiveness...even for the things you don't know you did..most ladies are like that
Then make her understand that you most things available are yet to be paid for and that if you mistakenly are sent back to Nigeria that she with the children will suffer cos they have not mastered how things work over there...
Most importantly is prayer never relent in praying for your family and everything

LinLinGentle:
I wasn't a devil incarnate back in Naija abeg. I was just a normal young married professional who is not a perfect human being. She is not here to tell her own side of the story but there is a high probability that she has hurt me more overall if we were counting. Someone asked about my happiness earlier, but the truth is that I have never been happy since I married this lady. I have always slept with one eye open since day 1, cos I have never seen any hint of her love, loyalty or respect. It was merely a marriage of convenience and strategic planning. The only thing that have kept me going through the years and caused sentiments that led to bringing her abroadx despite her toxic nature back in naija is my children, a decision I am now paying for dearly!

I am strongly looking into taking the red pill if I can successfully navigate this divorce/separation with minimal disruption to my life. I am one of the few guys I know who have never really felt that ''TRUE LOVE'' people talk about. Everyone I have ever dated including the one I married have always turned out to be using me as a part of their hustle.

No iota of joy since you married her?

LinLinGentle:
I thought I was the devil but she is a bigger devil now. Problem is that her actions would send us all back to Nigeria broke and battered. We have had a few good times and more bad times. The marriage hasn't been an easy one and we've both been at fault. I thought that by moving them abroad and eliminating the distance, some of our problems could be easily worked on, but this is apparently creating bigger problems that can ruin us. Are you married bro? Sorry to ask you but you sound like a single guy, no offence.

He is not married.

LinLinGentle:
I did not state anywhere in my post that my wife was an angel in Nigeria and has never hurt me, so I'm not really sure what the payback is all about. What she doesn't know is that she is going to spoil her own chances and also our children's once my job comes crashing. She has not started her career yet and can not support herself talk less of a family. Her advisors are pushing her to go on, reassuring her that she would get a visa as a victim of domestic violence and would not need me for anything. They have encouraged her to carry on to ruin my life. They tell her that she would be entitled to government benefits to cover her living expenses and to care for children. Unfortunately, according to the laws here, she is not even qualified for such a visa or benefits even if there was a real domestic violence. I have told her this so many times but she is bent on taking her chances to destroy everything first before she finds out the hard way.

Then destroy everything by yourself, let everyone start from zero.

Like a boss of mine always says: "Come follow me chop no say make you pursue me from my food"

If my plans and thoughts of you are for good and yet you stupidly want to show yourself, we will all go home and start afresh.

Spanishmilf:
This one loud gan ooh
Op u never tell us country name shaa

Its Canada. Only Canada gives citizenship like that.

This guy may be saying the truth about his wife but please let us all understand that there are 2 sides to a story, my best advise is for him to make her understand that all that happened in Africa is in the past, she should help them get a better future for both herself and the kids

He may not have been the hitting type but she may be the unforgiving type, so just overlook her tantrums and be the change you want to see in her, for your own career sake please.

aishamansur:
This guy may be saying the truth about his wife but please let us all understand that there are 2 sides to a story, my best advise is for him to make her understand that all that happened in Africa is in the past, she should help them get a better future for both herself and the kids

He may not have been the hitting type but she may be the unforgiving type, so just overlook her tantrums and be the change you want to see in her, for your own career sake please.

My wife is presently in this country because we both have moved on from ''whatever happened in Africa''. Like I said I was not a perfect husband back in Africa like most people, but I was not a beast either. We were both busy professionals who needed more work on our marriage, period! We worked on some of those issues and decided to move forward and this is why everyone has now relocated abroad. Since all these troubles started, I have had multiple failed attempts to talk to my wife, I even prostrated to her a few times begging for peace, asking her to just state whatever she wants for us to live in harmony and raise our kids in a healthy environment in order not to jeopardise their future, she was just laughing at me instead and trying to record me on camera to send to her advisors and people back in Nigeria so they could mock me. She called someone on one occasion while I was down on the floor begging her, she said ''Come see this mumu guy, so he can actually prostrate for a woman, he hasn't seen anything yet. Abroad has made the idiot humble, bla bla bla''.

This woman acts like she is now in control of the whole world and has exclusive access to the launch codes of some nuclear weapons. She is so power drunk, she acts like she is under some kinda spell. Like someone who is high or just on a self-destructive path. Multiple begging, trying to make her understand that all these recklessness would affect everyone, especially our children. I have cajoled her, persuaded her to let us all live in peace. I have involved counsellors and even the pastor a few times when nothing seemed to have worked. The pastors have spoken to the both of us a few times, prayed, counselled us etc. The pastor's wife even took it upon herself to mentor her and coach her one on one. They warned her never to call the police for any reason again unless someone's life was in danger, but to put a call to them instead. After about three further police calls happened, the pastor and his wife felt so disrespected and thought they were just wasting their time on us, they stylishly pulled out from interfering in our issues.

I once ended up in the hospital because I suddenly burst into tears at work one day and they had to refer me to the mental health team because they thought I was depressed, which no doubt I am. We are here at this difficult point because nothing has worked so far. I just cannot understand how someone could be as reckless as this, working so hard at destroying something that could be nurtured into something beautiful. I was not a wife beater even back in Nigeria where some people get away with it, never stole her money, I did not kill her family, impregnate another woman, so I don't really know what this ''revenge'' is all about.

This woman acts like she is now in control of the whole world and has exclusive access to the launch codes of some nuclear weapons

You got me laughing here, do you know any of her so called advisers or friends, is there any you can talk to, you know most women interprets things differently and I am not justifying her act but I don't want to be judgemental because this is your side of the story.

Please don't go with divorce all marriages have their fair share of issues what makes yours better is how you move on together, if you hear some stories of some marriages you will give praise to God for yours is still better and will be better by his Grace. Just be the change you want to see.

Forgive me , if you feel I am not believing your ordeal, I believe you but I am just being human. I am sure you still have your good times, there are times you may have to stoop to conquer, you are not weak but you are only being wise. Don't succumb to pressures because this moment will pass and you will definitely smile.

Can you chat me privately, for I may be of help to you and your wife

This is a serious issue, no wonder most men, don't travel with their Nigerians Wives.
You just need wisdom.

You need to calmly pull yourself out of this toxic situation. Start with a separation, I don't know how you would do it but you must live separately from your wife for now. You don't need to bother yourself about whether she would cheat if you move out, just separate for a while and gather your thoughts.

Staying in the same house may cause mental illness for either you or your wife. Separate for at least 6 months and get yourself together.

As long as you are living separately, you would have a certain amount of peace of mind. During this period, keep observing (avoid fights and quarrels) and thinking of what actions to take after the 6 months period is over.

Please follow this advice, after 6 months of separation, you would be able to solve your problem yourself. See your children without your wife being in the vicinity (make an arrangement with her or find a way if she is adamant about that).

You can't kick her out since it is the United States, so you are likely the one to move out. Your mental health is more important than your big house.

LinLinGentle:

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

Watch war room, muscle up and dress sexily, sex her like a stallion, always cook nice meals for her and the kids, give her money always, ignore her tantrums and pray without ceasing.
It is your marriage and you should keep it or die keeping it... Lmao


Don't quote me please, that's the bullshits they preach to women when she is going through hell, so I'd think you also need it.

hammed71:
bro please don't listen to Justwisenotwise advice ooo

I don't listen to anyone's advice. I read and sieve out only sensible contributions since I have a mind of my own. I am not from a life of crime and would never be.

My advised to u is to apply to another country looking for job online looking for Job. The moment u got the job don't let her know and accurate papers to work in another country. Then cancel your resident permit in that county and automatically her visa will expire. Then travel to the country of your job and give her flight ticket back to naija. If u can do it then u will thank me later