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Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 8:36pm On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid:ok I see, lecturing job is stressful, look for another Federal Government job for her. If you want her to do business there will still be some issues. Or you look for a state government job for her, if you live in your state. But don't kill yourself and don't get emotionally stressed. God will make a way.... I told you I wanted to marry with that my salary but when I was given the marriage list nobody told me to look for investment and combine with my salary before I marry. As stated earlier I am building 5 self-contained rooms in Abuja here for rent. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 8:59pm On May 13, 2020 |
travelland:He doesn't have anger issues here, try to be reasonable on your replies. I think you are the one with anger issues here tho 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 9:17pm On May 13, 2020 |
LegitGirl: 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 9:18pm On May 13, 2020 |
Poorboy: Now you are talking ..... Investment!! Owo la fin sho ko obinrin 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by andyanders: 9:20pm On May 13, 2020 |
A woman who cares for her flamboyant life to the detriment of her home do not deserve any form of honor. How can a married woman who is just new into marriege be asking her husband to get money at all cost nomatter how and some people here are blaming op for his action. she wants to travel out and never considers her husbands financial position can do anything to get the fund. Op, never appologize to her. Stand ur ground. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 9:23pm On May 13, 2020 |
ademidedavid: Ah!! side chics are even more expensive.... Baba mi double your hustle! You are footing bills I commend you but your wife wants to travel to Dubai.... How far when will this be possible 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 9:28pm On May 13, 2020 |
bukatyne finance is the issue 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 9:48pm On May 13, 2020 |
Ybaby: 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 9:52pm On May 13, 2020 |
Poorboy: Change this your monika to richboy.... there is no good in being poor 7 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 9:54pm On May 13, 2020 |
Ybaby:hahahhaaahhaha I am still a POORBOY. I never reach e-money, cubana etc level |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 7:07am On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:Even if I triple it and she travels to Dubai today, tomorrow she will want to travel to US and another time she will prefer Canada 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 7:10am On May 14, 2020 |
Poorboy:Thanks so much for this, I so much appreciate and will work towards it. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 7:22am On May 14, 2020 |
ademidedavid: Very true! That is the true nature of life. We are meant to increase to go higher.... she is calling you to increase. Will you answer her? If she goes to the USA tomorrow it is because your income is much better and you can provide it. So na prayer. Pray to God. HE hears! 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Mariangeles(f): 7:43am On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby: She should kuku kill her husband niyen! Iyawo Oloju kokoro! Travel to do what by the way? For business or pleasure? What is the use of a wife that cannot support her husband in the way she can no matter how little? 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 8:05am On May 14, 2020 |
Mariangeles: A good woman supports by showing her husband what he can be and should be. Some men are not self motivated, they need a push Traveling for pleasure of course. Let us do away with the mindset of scarcity and welcome abundance. If he sets his mind of providing USA trip for her, you will be surprised how the universe will agree with him and doors and opportunity will open. It is not good to see a man as lacking - see him as abundance - see him prosperous and once buys into the idea. Prosperous he will be The men sending thier wives to USA donot have two heads neither are they more intelligent that OP. They bought into the idea and with faith achieved it. For OP to pay his wife's ticket imagine how proud of himself he will be and his confidence will increase. He is a provider man he just need to have faith by welcoming the idea. Always tell your wife ok I will do it - give me some time. Kneel down both of you and pray to God for the provision of it, write it down, imagine you have it and it will happen. I promise you! You need just a mustard seed of faith. Donot be like those who could not enter the promise land due to fear of giants forgetting that they have the bigger giant in them. OP your wife is calling you to be a mighty man of valor, will you heed her call? Or you want to continue managing your present condition. All seeds increase. Increase is not greed. Greed is taking what does not belong to you. Increase is turning 5 loaves to multitude. I encourage you to work with your wife to greatness. She is doing her job. Supporting you to the potential she sees in you. Heed her call. ademidedavid 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 8:23am On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:Alright, thanks so much...unreserved gratitude |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 8:26am On May 14, 2020 |
seanwilliam:I just weak I swear, the statement dey always echo for my ears......thanks alot 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 8:26am On May 14, 2020 |
ademidedavid: You are welcome sir. You are going higher beyond your imagination this year. All your wife wants will be chicken change to you and guess what you will not compromise your morality Because you are alive men will be able to feed thier family through companies you have created. Your divine Angels will help you. You are already the provider in your household and that will never stop. I appreciate you for providing for your household. God Almighty who made you the head of that home will uphold you. I see you healthy and wealthy. God bless you bro. I am sending you kind thoughts my bro. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 8:33am On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:Amen in Jesus name, I also pray for you and yours.......much appreciation |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Omar09(m): 8:34am On May 14, 2020 |
Mariangeles: Looking at the way people churn out their stupidity on here makes me hail you guys that put out the time to reply them. Just imagine the person you quoted just now. Just imagine. Smh 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by klenton(m): 9:20am On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby: you are just an empty vessel, na coconut water full that your head what is it with Africans and religious belief, kneel down pray, have faith like a mustard seed!!! must everything be about religion the woman's request is stupid and that is what it is, which one is pray for God to give you the money, what happens to the woman praying on her own for God to give her the money. do you know how many families that are looking for money just to eat, money to buy drugs, do you know how many families that does not have a decent shelter over there heads, families that cant afford a hospital, what happens to thanking God and been grateful, must it be pray for one luxury or the other. and let's say u prayed ur way to a dubia trip, what if the woman needs a gwagon tomorrow or even cravings to fly private jet or a cruise trip round the world and you couldn't pray yourself out of it....i dont know why some women have failed to be reasonable as a people, is it that there processing brain is limited from birth, honestly it differs logic. 33 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ybaby: 9:28am On May 14, 2020 |
klenton: Most poor infidel men have razor mouth. If I abuse you back you will refuse food for 1 week. Go and sin no more. That post is my opinion not yours. I am very busy today so have your pass. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Raalsalghul: 9:59am On May 14, 2020 |
Mariangeles: As in ehn, the things I see on this Nairaland. Terrible! I would advice the Op to prepare for divorce/infidelity: harsh, but by his account, his marriage is heading there. 12 Likes 3 Shares
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Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Raalsalghul: 10:04am On May 14, 2020 |
Omar09: Bro, you sef see am abi? You need to read what she has been spilling on another topic in this same section. These folks just keep making the "red pills" relevant. Haba! 12 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by CAPSLOCKED: 10:44am On May 14, 2020 |
emmaodet: O'BOY! THE ANGEL YOU MARRY TODAY CAN TURN THE HIGHEST DEMON TOMORROW. ALL THE WEDDINGS, ALL THE MARITAL BLESSINGS AND VOWS, STILL YET THE WORST THINGS HAPPEN IN MARRIAGES BETWEEN GOD-FEARING PEOPLE. THEM NOGO SEE MY BRAKE LIGHT. BY THE WAY PERSON LIKE ME NOGO WASTE TIME TO DIVORCE AND MARRY MONTHLY. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by galadima77(m): 11:50am On May 14, 2020 |
LegitGirl: You're the mouth running type. Insulting another woman's husband on a faceless forum. Who's the coward? Are you even married? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by galadima77(m): 12:19pm On May 14, 2020 |
Prymestrr: Many of them will just open their mouths to spill what's supposed to be in the laterine without any idea of marital experience. Boyfriend /girlfriend relationship is different from marriage and once there's no respect and understanding then you both become strangers. One even said he degraded himself.... I seriously doubt that one is married. Oga OP, if and when you finally apologise to her and she doesn't return same, then know she didnt deserve the apology in the first place! I hate selfish people. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Prymestrr(m): 12:50pm On May 14, 2020 |
galadima77:So many kids on here and their comments always exposes them. I just weak. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by emmaodet: 2:16pm On May 14, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: It is not that easy bro. You will first of all get disorganized for few weeks if not months just for the reality to settle in because most of these things, we don't see them coming. 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by LegitGirl(f): 8:40am On May 15, 2020 |
galadima77: Woman beater spotted! Get out of my mentions! |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ademidedavid(f): 6:58am On May 17, 2020 |
LegitGirl:Please, take it calm LegitGirl |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by asapeola(m): 9:05am On May 17, 2020 |
Dear Ademidedavid, I decided to reply ur post cos I av experienced ur situation personally: Just fresh from NYSC, I was teaching but I had an ex who sometimes moaned abt my paygrade (just abt 33k/month then). She would ask "When r u gonna get a car?" And I would be like "Are u normal?" (In MC Macaroni's voice). Then she nearly confused my life when suddenly she said "My friend's boyfriend just gave her (the friend) 100k for fun." Bros, we talking abt my slightly over my 3 months salary o! I argued it as a man but i was worried (as u were) that my woman was bn influenced and I just cant help it. Eventually, it turned out that the 100k wasnt actually a gift but for other purposes. But what if i had done something drastic just to "meet up"? Na so i for just kee myself for nothing. Many people have bashed on u here, some actually right and some too extreme! I still wouldnt wanna bash for u laying ur hand on ur wife cos I wasnt in the situation u faced, ur apology may depend on ur wife's reaction after that action of urs. Did she stop nagging? Did she realise she's overstepped her bounds n shocked? If she did, then u may apologize. Its always amusing when people say "walk away" lol...dem neva jam a woman in all her glory of fury. On the flip side, I would suggest u c her moans as her own way of wanting a better life for her family. Trust me, even if uv got all the money in the world, women wld still moan for the nearly impossible like "Making love on the moon"[left][/left]. I really do believe u want the best life for your family and i also must commend u for bn open n honest abt ur finances, pls dnt be discouraged! I was trained that way too but it doesnt mean we shld be careless abt how we spend it. Encourage her to always save from whatever u gv for monthly upkeep and her own income. She needs financial discipline and for her to appreciate hw difficult it is to save and watch money grow. Thank God ur a civil engineer and a lecturer, well I dnt no hw tight ur schedule but I think u shld start practising ur skills by the side more. U could start by looking for small building projects to consult for (even if na just bungalow) and u also need to update ur skills regularly. I have a civil engineer colleague (tho we r in the power industry), but he gets small jobs via referrals mostly and yet we work for a private firm! Lastly, an advice from a brother, U need to be careful with ur wife cos when a woman starts getting so influenced from the outside...its always not easy to turn their heads back in. Just gats continue to talk more with her n show her all d cards, hopefully she go reason with u. God be with you bro and ur family. Its a long story, Aye! No vex!!! 6 Likes |
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