Please i need your help , am an introvert and i get angry easily , but i try to controlling it till i can't control it anymore , your advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

Seems like it's an habit. Do you know your triggers?

SirMichael1:
Seems like it's an habit. Do you know your triggers?

i can't stand an injustice , i can't stand and watch somebody that want to intimidate others.

EM123:
i can't stand an injustice , i can't stand and watch somebody that want to intimidate others.

Injustice cannot be stopped, many people will be douches and care less about others. Just like every emotion relating with adrenaline, your anger suppreses when you move away from the source. I.e., know how to avoid triggers. There are tons of ways to confront someone who bully others or are unjust to others than reacting in anger. Pray tell, what do you do when you're angry?

Someone should recommend a book to him on how to manage anger.

I don’t know any off the tip of my fingers.

SirMichael1:
Injustice cannot be stopped, many people will be douches and care less about others. Just like every emotion relating with adrenaline, your anger suppreses when you move away from the source. I.e., know how to avoid triggers. There are tons of ways to confront someone who bully others or are unjust to others than reacting in anger. Pray tell, what do you do when you're angry?

Awesome response

Op what do you do when angry


Physical violence
Verbal violence ?

Op, do u also stammer?

SirMichael1:
Injustice cannot be stopped, many people will be douches and care less about others. Just like every emotion relating with adrenaline, your anger suppreses when you move away from the source. I.e., know how to avoid triggers. There are tons of ways to confront someone who bully others or are unjust to others than reacting in anger. Pray tell, what do you do when you're angry?

i go violence

Donald3d:

Awesome response
Op what do you do when angry

Physical violence Verbal violence ?

physical violence

Uyi168:
Op, do u also stammer?

no i don't stammer , i do more of action than talking.

EM123:
Please i need your help , am an introvert and i get angry easily , but i try to controlling it till i can't control it anymore , your advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

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Getting angry easily, is like letting yourself be a remote/ switch in someone else's fingers. Meaning, anyone can control your switch, don't give people such privilege.
Self control is a virtue...

EM123:
physical violence

Please give more details, if you can.

As someone said above, avoid the triggers. But in your case I also understand your anger when people are taken for granted or injustice is carried out.

But, you have to understand that your actions would not make things better, just because you have a reason for doing it. The people who carry out injustice also have strong convictions or reasons why they do what they do.

So, I want you to gradually train yourself, renew your mind.

Understand and remember always that there is always a good and diplomatic way to solve even the worst problems

At that instant where your temper is rising, its advisable to leave the scene, take a walk, clear your head.

The only time your physical violence is "ok" , is when the person you are fighting for is actually being physically violated, then you can call that defense. But, its still best to avoid confrontation as much as possible, you can take the person away from the scene in this case, or attempt to restrain the abuser instead.

If you are a Christian, invite the Holy Spirit into your your heart and ask God to help you, talk to Him like you are talking to a counselor. It doesn't have to be in the "regular" form of prayer, make it sound like a conversation, He would definitely help you, that I can assure you 100%.Fill your mind with his word (The Bible). But you also have to help yourself by gradually training your mind and exercising restraint to react, one day at a time.

You would be ok

It's okay to be introverted and very okay to get angry especially where injustice is concerned. Do you get angry so easily? What is the duration of your anger? You said you're moved to action and not words, does that means violent action or some other actions? If you're introverted, I take it that you spend time examining the consequences of an outburst of anger or do you find yourself getting angry impulsively.

PS: you're going to get a lot of advice here and most of them might not work for you. However, youvey taken the most important step which is self awareness. That's your greatest guide.

Nobody makes you angry, you only use anger as a reaction.
You have to learn to live with the fact that people will always do things that provokes you.

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thank u very much

Spechialone:

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Getting angrily easily, is like letting yourself be a remote/ switch in someone else's fingers. Meaning, anyone can control your switch, don't give people such privilege.
Self control is a virtue...

thanks

traihit:
It's okay to be introverted and very okay to get angry especially where injustice is concerned. Do you get angry so easily? What is the duration of your anger? You said you're moved to action and not words, does that means violent action or some other actions? If you're introverted, I take it that you spend time examining the consequences of an outburst of anger or do you find yourself getting angry impulsively.

the action i take is violent actions.
PS: you're going to get a lot of advice here and most of them might not work for you. However, youvey taken the most important step which is self awareness. That's your greatest guide.

my anger doesn't last long, and i examine the situation before reacting. It might take days or month be i react.

This thread will be educative

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You're welcome.

Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. Also, let the Holy Spirit work upon you.

you need good kush to calm occasionally

johnkey:
you need good kush to calm occasionally

bros i didn't understand what u mean by kush

@OP stop saying you're introvert because being an introvert comes with humility and calmness. Introverts are always cool, calculative and attentive.
It's not always easy to reach a trigger for a confirmed introvert. Because they observe and always make a good judgement.
You're insecure about something, you're not introvert. Work on your insecurity and become your normal self snd stop attaching yourself with introvert.
I repeat, you're extrovert with insecurity and not introvert.
People often confuse insecurity with being introvert.

Microwhy:
@OP stop saying you're introvert because being an introvert comes with humility and calmness. Introverts are always cool, calculative and attentive.
It's not always easy to reach a trigger for a confirmed introvert. Because they observe and always make a good judgement.
You're insecure about something, you're not introvert. Work on your insecurity and become your normal self snd stop attaching yourself with introvert.
I repeat, you're extrovert with insecurity and not introvert.
People often confuse insecurity with being introvert.

I do not entirely agree with you.

One can have 60% of the characteristics of being an introvert and 40% of the characteristics of an extrovert but classified introverted.

What introverts show is what you described. But the actual truth is that they fight a war inside (speaking from experience). They have an opinion but fight a war with themselves and end up not saying it. They get angry and end up walking away in anger without any action.

Recently, my community people organized themselves to repair a road. I am an engineer so my input was highly regarded but when they were going to cast a culvert slab with just 2 bags of cement, I just whispered in my neighbor's ear, this cement is not enough. He repeated my words aloud immediately without thinking. That is an extrovert while i am an introvert. I took time to analyze the quantity of concrete and did the math in my head before whispering my conclusion.

Lets not get these things confused. Some people say its just lack of confidence that makes one introverted but i think is more a character than a problem. An introvert and an extrovert are complete opposite of themselves, one has to be in one place.

EM123:
Please i need your help , am an introvert and i get angry easily , but i try to controlling it till i can't control it anymore , your advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

Everyone gets angry,but with different intensity or duration.
Download " Cage your Rage" and read it

Bro please try asking God in prayer to help you get rid of that spirit. Anger destroys many things.

adanny01:


I do not entirely agree with you.

One can have 60% of the characteristics of being an introvert and 40% of the characteristics of an extrovert but classified introverted.

What introverts show is what you described. But the actual truth is that they fight a war inside (speaking from experience). They have an opinion but fight a war with themselves and end up not saying it. They get angry and end up walking away in anger without any action.

Recently, my community people organized themselves to repair a road. I am an engineer so my input was highly regarded but when they were going to cast a culvert slab with just 2 bags of cement, I just whispered in my neighbor's ear, this cement is not enough. He repeated my words aloud immediately without thinking. That is an extrovert while i am an introvert. I took time to analyze the quantity of concrete and did the math in my head before whispering my conclusion.

Lets not get these things confused. Some people say its just lack of confidence that makes one introverted but i think is more a character than a problem. An introvert and an extrovert are complete opposite of themselves, one has to be in one place.

No doubt you might be an introvert. Beside we are saying same. The OP said he need help over his anger management. He is actually battling between his insecurity and a "supposed to be" extrovert.
I am also an introvert. There is one thing introverts have in common, detail analysis and paying attention. Within split seconds, introvert can analyse and determine the end result of his/her action which makes them more calm and gentle.
Please next time as regards to that culvert in your area, please and please just speak up and defend your claims.

EM123:
my anger doesn't last long, and i examine the situation before reacting. It might take days or month be i react.

The violence aspect of it is what you should watch especially since your anger doesn't last long. No matter how much you examine a situation before reacting, you'd always feel you should have behaved more appropriately when your anger cools.
Seriously, I don't have any advice to give on this cos I'm yet to fully mature on anger management too. But it'd help you a lot if you become more self aware especially in the way you react to things and the consequences that follow.

traihit:


The violence aspect of it is what you should watch especially since your anger doesn't last long. No matter how much you examine a situation before reacting, you'd always feel you should have behaved more appropriately when your anger cools.
Seriously, I don't have any advice to give on this cos I'm yet to fully matured on anger management too. But it'd help you a lot if you become more self aware especially in the way you react to things and the consequences that follow.

thanks bro

EM123:
Please i need your help , am an introvert and i get angry easily , but i try to controlling it till i can't control it anymore , your advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

Are u male or female?
Introverts are very slow to anger o
They hate trouble & value peace more than anything else

xrayj:
Are u male or female? Introverts are very slow to anger o They hate trouble & value peace more than anything else

am male

EM123:
bros i didn't understand what u mean by kush

kush is collective word for all forms of marijuana, you can start with weed then graduate to Skunk then move to Loud, but please don't use anything more than Loud, thank me later