Good morning everyone.
I am in a relationship with this young girl who is six years younger than I am. I intend to marry her In the next four years.
I'd like to give a little about the relationship for clarity purpose.

I am a 24 years old graduate (BSc) and completed my NYSC last year November. Even though my parents are financially doing ok, I stayed back in my state of service trying to establish myself and find something to do because I love to be independent and think well for myself. In fact my girlfriend loves me for that single attribute.

Until this pandemic, I was doing some little job (teaching) while seeking the greener grounds. I had to return home to my parents in my state (also her state of origin and residence) because of the COVID-19. The pandemic has really affected my hustle.

Even though we don't stay in the same location, we have a house in her own area but we only go there when need arises.

I promised her that I will come visit but each time I try, it fails due to one thing or the other. The Lockdown in my state made things worst. The road is opened only at weekends (Friday through to Sunday). I have made several attempts but it failed.

Last weekend, I scheduled to go down to where she is (it was all set 100%) but before the weekend, she told me that she is in town, a little closer to where I stay to look after one of her sick uncles. I asked how she passed the security personnel on the road she said they lied to them that she is sick and are going to a big hospital.

When it was time for me to honor my words of going down to her I asked her where actually she is and she told me that she is back home so I can come over . I sensed that she was lying to me so I asked why she had to lie to me about that. And she said she wanted me to feel the pain of turning someone as I was doing to her. I apologized because I am quick in saying I am sorry.

I still insisted on the lie she told me and I pleaded that she should be more straightforward to me because sometimes she doesn't talk straightforward and she'd later come and say she was joking. it caused a big problem for us. In fact I reminded her that I have never lied to her for once. She was angry and never wanted to even hear sorry. I left her for the night. The next day I called her again and we talked normal but with reservations.

Yesterday we got talking and she told me this and I quote..." I can take anything from you now but if I change my mind, it will be difficult" I asked why she said that and she insisted that she doesn't say things anyhow.

Please note that I have been the only one saying the I'm sorry.
No apologies from her.

I do not want to make mistake about my marriage. This girl seem unforgiving. And my own heart is a simple one I say sorry even when I'm not at fault.

Your advice is needed pls.
Thanks in advance.

Spark2:
Good morning everyone.
I am in a relationship with this young girl who is six years younger than I am. I intend to marry her In the next four years.
I'd like to give a little about the relationship for clarity purpose.

I am a 24 years old graduate (BSc) and completed my NYSC last year November. Even though my parents are financially doing ok, I stayed back in my state of service trying to establish myself and find something to do because I love to be independent and think well for myself. In fact my girlfriend loves me for that single attribute.

Until this pandemic, I was doing some little job (teaching) while seeking the greener one. I had to return home to my state (also her state of origin and residence) because of the COVID-19.

Even though we don't stay in the same location, we have a house in her own area but we only go there when need arises.

I promised her that I will come visit but each time I try it fails due to one reason or the other. The Lockdown in my state made things worst. The road is opened only at weekends (Friday through to Sunday). I have made several attempts but it failed.

Last weekend, I scheduled 100% to go down to where she is (it was all set) but before the weekend, she told me that she is in town, a little closer to where I stay to look after one of her sick uncles. I asked how she passed the security personnel on the road she said they lied to them that she is sick and are going to a big hospital.

When it was time for me to honor my words of going down to her I asked her where actually she is and she told me that she is back home so I can come over . I sensed that she was lying to me so I asked why she had to lie to me about that. And she said she wanted me to feel the pain of turning someone as I was doing to her. I apologized because I am quick in saying I am sorry.

I still insisted on the lie she told me and it caused a big problem for us. In fact I reminded her that I have never lied to her for once. She was angry and never wanted to even hear sorry. I left her for the night. The next day I called her again and we talked normal but with reservations.

Yesterday we got talking and she told me this and I quote..." I can take anything from you now but if I change my mind, it will be difficult" I asked why she said that and she insisted that she doesn't say things anyhow.

Please note that I have been the only one saying the I'm sorry.
No apologies from her.

I do not want to make mistake about my marriage. This girl seem unforgiving. And my own heart is a simple one I say sorry even when I'm not at fault.

Your advice is needed pls.
Thanks in advance.

Piece of advice. "Stop wasting your time on girls between ages 16-23"

ifex370:


Piece of advice. "Stop wasting your time on girls between ages 16-23"

They are all confused like the picture below!

Na wa oooo.
Pls, is it too hard to quit in a relationship

She seems young and naive.
Op calm down and go see her. Keeping a LDR can be draining.

Getting married to a 18years old is already a mistake, my brother.

I can take anything from you now but if I change my mind, it will be difficult.

It means she's only TOLERATING you.
It also means you're wasting your time.

Invest that energy into empowering yourself.

When an “apology” is one-sided in a relationship you should know that you're DATING YOURSELF.

Why is that only guys complain about their girlfriends and relationships here something is really wrong somewhere.Guys pls be a man and handle it relationship issues or u workout.I believe relationship is pure scam is better to sleep around when u are ready to marry u look for a wife and settle down,Abeg na who get strength dey do relationship.....

What?

24yrs wants to marry 18yr old

TF?

that girl is way too young to be in a relationship

Lwkmd See wetin 18 years old girl dey do you

ifex370:


Piece of advice. "Stop wasting your time on girls between ages 16-23"

Thanks for joining the conversation.
I would like to marry at 28 and I'd like to marry a lady younger than I am. One important thing to me is that I need to spend some years (2-4) in a relationship to ensure I make the right decision. Can you pls strike a balance between this sir?

Shellsploit:


They are all confused like the picture below!

Lol

Sammy07:
Na wa oooo.
Pls, is it too hard to quit in a relationship

Never at all. Thanks for your contribution

hoes will be hoes

Spark2:
Good morning everyone.
I am in a relationship with this young girl who is six years younger than I am. I intend to marry her In the next four years.
I'd like to give a little about the relationship for clarity purpose.

I am a 24 years old graduate (BSc) and completed my NYSC last year November. Even though my parents are financially doing ok, I stayed back in my state of service trying to establish myself and find something to do because I love to be independent and think well for myself. In fact my girlfriend loves me for that single attribute.

Until this pandemic, I was doing some little job (teaching) while seeking the greener grounds. I had to return home to my parents in my state (also her state of origin and residence) because of the COVID-19. The pandemic has really affected my hustle.

Even though we don't stay in the same location, we have a house in her own area but we only go there when need arises.

I promised her that I will come visit but each time I try, it fails due to one thing or the other. The Lockdown in my state made things worst. The road is opened only at weekends (Friday through to Sunday). I have made several attempts but it failed.

Last weekend, I scheduled to go down to where she is (it was all set 100%) but before the weekend, she told me that she is in town, a little closer to where I stay to look after one of her sick uncles. I asked how she passed the security personnel on the road she said they lied to them that she is sick and are going to a big hospital.

When it was time for me to honor my words of going down to her I asked her where actually she is and she told me that she is back home so I can come over . I sensed that she was lying to me so I asked why she had to lie to me about that. And she said she wanted me to feel the pain of turning someone as I was doing to her. I apologized because I am quick in saying I am sorry.

I still insisted on the lie she told me and I pleaded that she should be more straightforward to me because sometimes she doesn't talk straightforward and she'd later come and say she was joking. it caused a big problem for us. In fact I reminded her that I have never lied to her for once. She was angry and never wanted to even hear sorry. I left her for the night. The next day I called her again and we talked normal but with reservations.

Yesterday we got talking and she told me this and I quote..." I can take anything from you now but if I change my mind, it will be difficult" I asked why she said that and she insisted that she doesn't say things anyhow.

Please note that I have been the only one saying the I'm sorry.
No apologies from her.

I do not want to make mistake about my marriage. This girl seem unforgiving. And my own heart is a simple one I say sorry even when I'm not at fault.

Your advice is needed pls.
Thanks in advance.

She is playing your head like balls....

lanibi:
She seems young and naive.
Op calm down and go see her. Keeping a LDR can be draining.

Truly draining. Thanks for your wonderful contribution

Shellsploit:

They are all confused like the picture below!

spyg1:
Getting married to a 18years old is already a mistake, my brother.

She will be 22 years in the next four years. Which is ok by me. Her age notwithstanding, she behaves older than her age

Ningen:


It means she's only TOLERATING you.
It also means you're wasting your time.

Invest that energy into empowering yourself.

When an “apology” is one-sided in a relationship you should know that you're DATING YOURSELF.

Thanks for joining the conversation. Feels happy reading your mature contribution. It's invaluable

Camelo:
Why is that only guys complain about their girlfriends and relationships here something is really wrong somewhere.Guys pls be a man and handle it relationship issues or u workout.I believe relationship is pure scam is better to sleep around when u are ready to marry u look for a wife and settle down,Abeg na who get strength dey do relationship.....

Haha quite funny.
Thanks for joining the conversation

What guts do men really have to date a 18year old baby What does an 18 year old know about marriage or love You people that date 18 year old, what do you people talk about Toys, dolls or what I can bet that 18 years knows nothing about marriage except for the gifts, hair, shoes, money, clothes and maybe the sex they get from the guy and when they don’t get it anymore, they will carry their pounded yam to go and look for soup somewhere else. They will continue that way till they are matured and know what marriage is as in when the future dawns on them but before then, they are still in the wonder land just like Alice.
Op go and look for your fellow level and leave babies alone for dem babies unless if your IQ is still of that of an 18 year old then the two of you can be playing sand sand together.
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Zabiboy:

Your parents are financially ok....thats great..
You are not yet financially ok but you are hustling....thats good..
Now my advice...
Leave girls alone and focus on yourself and your dreams...
So far the girl hasnt finished Uni and even NYSC, brother, you are wasting your time..
Those who have gone through NYSC camp would understand what i'm talking about
GL

Haha that's true. Thanks for your contribution

Spark2:


Thanks for joining the conversation.
I would like to marry at 28 and I'd like to marry a lady younger than I am. One important thing to me is that I need to spend some years (2-4) in a relationship to ensure I make the right decision. Can you pls strike a balance between this sir?

Don't worry, you meet the right lady when you are ready .These ones are kids that do not know anything about life or responsibility. Lest I forget, you mustn't date for 4years before you know a person.Those that are married know what I am talking about

Fidelismaria:
What?

24yrs wants to marry 18yr old

TF?

that girl is way too young to be in a relationship

Thanks a lot sir. In the next four years it'll be "28 years wants to marry 22 years" which is cool.

The girl is young to be in a relationship , I think I'm agreeing to this.

Seandisputed:
Lwkmd
See wetin 18 years old girl dey do you

Sounds funny right?
Thanks for joining the conversation.

You are 24 and she is 18? You both are children, if you get married today, mark my words, you will both be divorced before either of you turn 30.

Live a little, enjoy your life as a bachelor level up your finances and date women around your age. Take care.

Shormiey:

She is playing your head like balls....

Hahaha thanks for joining the conversation

Darato:
What guts do men really have to date a 18year old baby What does an 18 year old know about marriage or love You people that date 18 year old, what do you people talk about Toys, dolls or what I can bet that 18 years knows nothing about marriage except for the gifts, hair, shoes, money, clothes and maybe the sex they get from the guy and when they don’t get it anymore, they will carry their pounded yam to go and look for soup somewhere else. They will continue that way till they are matured and know what marriage is as in when the future dawns on them but before then, they are still in the wonder land just like Alice.
Op go and look for your fellow level and leave babies alone for dem babies unless if your IQ is still of that of an 18 year old then the two of you can be playing sand sand together.
If you have not read the book Atonement you are missing. It’s a practical and educative book for everyone.
Contact me for resume writing, cover letter, LinkedIn optimization, read my signature and call me NOW

Thanks, your contribution is price less

Mypeople2:
Don't worry, you meet the right lady when you are read .These ones are kids that do not know anything about life or responsibility. Lest I forget, you mustn't date for 4years before you know a person.Those that are married know what I am talking about

Truly!
Your words are priceless

MelaninSkinGirl:
You are 24 and she is 18? You both are children, if you get married today, mark my words, you will both be divorced before either of you turn 30.

Live a little, enjoy your life as a bachelor level up your finances and date women around your age. Take care.

Thanks for joining the conversation. We hope to marry in the next four years. But her attitude is a red light to me.

Egungun be careful.... You know the rest