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She took it by her self.... abi wetin man no go hear 4 dis nation.... dat means she use that tin take chuck her pussycat..... make God help us o

@OP were you a virgin before you got married to her? If your answer is No, then fvck off

Justice128:
I dated her for 8 months which i engaged her but during our... Talk to me plz.

Do you want to use her virginity as collateral to get a loan from the bank?

This is why Buhari stated that Nigerian youths are dumb.

Even in the face of reality staring at you, you still came to Nairaland to ask questions.

Okay, believe her, she took it by herself.

The lie is obvious..but should forgive her.

This lie is new o, never heard it before.
It is obvious she is lying, and there might be more she isn't telling u, but will definitely surface in future. It isn't about just virginity it is about honesty.

I don't know y people tend to lie to get into marriage, even those that were honest with each other have issues, not to talk of those that their foundation is based on lies.

Always be honest with your partner at the onset of d relationship, if he/she likes you that much, he/she will stay. Such attitude only leads to a future disaster.
For instance, there is high tendency OP would stay even if she told him she wasn't.

Some people are happy today,all because they let go of somethings..if u truely love her,take her word..secondly,maybe she was not seeing anybody,but had a relationship before or she was raped.

I think she lied to you... but since you are now married, quickly let it slide and enjoy your marriage. There are more important Beautiful and uglier things in marriage than virginity

Justice128:
We started a new relationship which i asked her if she is a virgin which she said yes because me i am still a virgin then reason because i want to have sex with a virgin also, so we had an encouter which we had sex and i discovered that she is not a virgin because i have asked so many questions about virgins which our sex result produced negative, and she is claiming that i am the one that disvirgine her, this left me confused we had a little breakup and since then she has been telling me that i took her pride as a lady and dump her plz advice( )

You OP, stop lieing . remember Hell is real

flokii:
@OP were you a virgin before you got married to her? If your answer is No, then fvck off

Instead of you to frown on the part that she lied you are diverting attention. Did op stated that he was a virgin?

One of the things I hate most is lies. It makes the love diminish in my mind especially if I'd warned you severally before. Enjoy your wife, if truly she was deflowered you'd know. But if the lies persist, warn her.

Situations like this actually means that many guys may have promised her marriage but left her after "digging",now ,babe wants to settle down and somehow she decided to play smart,I mean somebody must bear the consequences and somehow again, you fell into the picture and she outsmarted you .
You don buy market be say you don buy market,forget it and move on,the deed has been done. If you are lucky she has a wonderful character, use that one and console yourself, learn to love her and move on," for better for worse",remember.

It is rather amusing and at the same moment annoying when guys jump into a thread and make unsound conjunctures.

Op stated that his wife refused him sex on the grounds that she was a virgin while they were dating. That's deception. I believe that the Op fast tracked the marriage on account of this. At the end, he didn't get what he bargained for. This is regrettable and should not be handled with frivolity.


This matter is indeed a grave issue. The foundation of every marriage is built on trust. Marriages crash these days when trust is not longer served. So it's of utmost importance to at least indulge the Op. The flimsy reason the wife doled out is insulting to ones sensibilities. So she was pleasuring herself, and while at it, she broke her hymen while her finance was burning with sexual overtures. Putting this matter mildly, she has a lot of explanations to give.


My advice to the Op is to throw in the towel and walk away. When things ain't adding up, my brother, subtract yourself. There is not any constraints to keep you in shackles under the disguise of marriage when it's sanctity has been violated.

Op, her primary weapon is deception and she has dropped a single........hope you had a rubber when you had the chance to dance. Because other lies that would tumble out of that lady would leave your ancestors dizzy.

You just reminded me of my new catch, I don sow seed finish remaining to travel down for harvest uncle coro no gree...
Chai make nobody trespass try harvest my farm. If this lockdown reach month end, nna na to sow kaftan follow goats for trailer heading down south remain oooo....
My stomach don begin dey do me somehow.

What do you wanna do?

STARGREEN:

Instead of you to frown on the part that she lied you are diverting attention. Did op stated that he was a virgin?

So after frowning.. what Next?

There are many ways a girl can lose her virginity e.g cycling, exercise, sports etc. The wife may be right or might be telling lies.

i discoverd she is not a virgin and i asked what happend to the virginity and she said she took it by her self to avoid much pain.

See me laughing seriously here

FAKE STORY

flokii:


So after frowning.. what Next?

There are many ways a girl can lose her virginity e.g cycling, exercise, sports etc. The wife may be right or might be telling lies.

See reasoning!

STARGREEN:

See reasoning!

Calm your nerves son.. to further educate you, some ladies use cucumber or intimacy gadgets on themselves. So it's possible the OP's wife deflowered herself with intimacy gadget

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flokii:
@OP were you a virgin before you got married to her? If your answer is No, then fvck off

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That's not the case at hand.
He obviously told the girl the truth while it seems the girl lied to him.
Next time if you have nothing to say, switch off your data and save your swearing and cursing for your parents.
You spoilt brat!!!

ObaOfUyo:
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That's not the case at hand.
He obviously told the girl the truth while it seems the girl lied to him.
Next time if you have nothing to say, switch off your data and save your swearing and cursing for your parents.
You spoilt brat!!!

Ignored!

I am sure you are still a teenager eating mama thank you.. go ahead and advice him to divorce his wife.
Then you'll present your "virgin" sisters to him to chose from. Iranu!

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Kobicove:


Do you want to use her virginity as collateral to get a loan from the bank?

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If I were to use your sense as collateral to get loan from the bank, na 500# dem go give me

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flokii:


Ignored!

I am sure you are still a teenager eating mama thank you.. go ahead and advice him to divorce his wife.
Then you'll present your "virgin" sisters to him to chose from. Iranu!

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She took it by herself naaaaa.
don't stress the talk unless you need a divorce

Enter link in my signature and start,earning,data,airtime and at least 5k everyday

op take it in good faith..maybe she is a secondary virgin

Akpurakpubem!!!

Dey haff scammed Huncle



Just take heart sha

You people will be bringing your trivial marriage issues to Nairaland every time as if this is a counseling office.

Your wife shits 14 times a day, you'll rush to tell us.
Your wife lied about having big breasts, you'll rush to tell us.
You wife cheats on you with your side chick's daddy, you'll rush to tell us.

Okay now, what do you want us to tell you? she said she took the virginity herself noni, what do you want to hear from us? That it is a lie?

A lot of you are very immature and have no business being married if you cannot handle simple issues in your marriage without running like cowardly chickens to Nairaland. Oya divorce her and send her packing since there was no hymen in her vagina. Brainless goat.