pDudd:
The biggest mistake is to marry any woman at all.

As a man, can you tell me exactly what you benefit from marriage that you can't benefit as a single guy. Tell me.

My brother, you might be typing this out of frustration, but i tell you "it's very good to marry, it sweeter when u marry a good woman" It is BEST when both of you are working and contributing to the home.

The end shall tell, old age is NOT what any man prays to live without a wife by his side...
#fact

Obierika:
As a single guy in Nigeria who is about to select a wife the biggest mistake you could possibly make right now is to marry a lady who is either not working or is not earning any sort of income.

Do not ignore this warning if you plan to get married soon!

That's not the biggest mistake huncle..
What if she's working and not supporting the home front in any way?
What if all the responsibilities still falls on you as the man despite having a working class wife?
What if she doesn't encourage nor inspires you to soar higher than you were before ?
What if she doesn't give you the maximum peace of mind you deserve as a man?
What if all she does is spend all her earnings on herself, buying the latest bags and clothes and attending high societal functions and not caring to acknowledge your presence in her life?
Trust me, there's a lot to marriage than meets the eyes.
Just ask your maker for direction when you want to settle down.
She might be working yet feels entitled to your money..
Marriage is 50/50... All hands must be on deck to ensure the smooth sailing of the homefront.

There's no week this topic is not discussed on Nairaland.

Naija246:
oh you mean propaganda science

You asked for receipts, I gave you the science and you still want to believe what you want to believe not much I can do bro!

MJBOLT:

i just hope you wont get married to a working class lady with bad character character should be the first thing you look out for in marriage.

Staunch

Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a huge favor by marrying them.

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!!

Very wise

Helios85447:
at least they are in it for his wallet and he is having his fun driving them like okada on the bed so its a win win ......just live a happy life ooo but that is why pple prefer to do baby mama stuff this generation don spoil no be small

I have seen these professional bachelors, trust me they are lonely, there is only so much women you can sleep with and then one day, you wake up, 60 and alone with no legacy. Having baby mamas is punishment for your children and subjecting them to a bad start in life. There are single parents who are that against their will but to actively want to be a single parent is selfish.

Michelle55:

That's not the biggest mistake huncle..
What if she's working and not supporting the home front in any way?
What if all the responsibilities still falls on you as the man despite having a working class wife?
What if she doesn't encourage nor inspires you to soar higher than you were before ?
What if she doesn't give you the maximum peace of mind you deserve as a man?
What if all she does is spend all her earnings on herself, buying the latest bags and clothes and attending high societal functions and not caring to acknowledge your presence in her life?
Trust me, there's a lot to marriage than meets the eyes.
Just ask your maker for direction when you want to settle down.
She might be working yet feels entitled to your money..
Marriage is 50/50... All hands must be on deck to ensure the smooth sailing of the homefront.

emm I like your comment. It is sensible.

And you will make a good wife that I know

aeion:
Considering all the begging threads on Nairaland from married people asking for money to feed their families, it's obvious Nigerians are getting married with little to no money or savings, and I'm very baffled by this!!!! You should be telling both males and females to each have a stable job/source of income and sufficient savings before getting married!!!!

then when u r 70 ur first child is just 20 probably a widow then, perhaps ur husband was 75 or 78

aeion:
Considering all the begging threads on Nairaland from married people asking for money to feed their families, it's obvious Nigerians are getting married with little to no money or savings, and I'm very baffled by this!!!! You should be telling both males and females to each have a stable job/source of income and sufficient savings before getting married!!!!

marry first, plan ur birthing just 2kids OK, but I encourage u to marry early. It gingers some lazy men.

MelaninSkinGirl:


I have seen these professional bachelors, trust me they are lonely, there is only so much women you can sleep with and then one day, you wake up, 60 and alone with no legacy. Having baby mamas is punishment for your children and subjecting them to a bad start in life. There are single parents who are that against their will but to actively want to be a single parent is selfish.

Why do you bother with them?
Let them live by their principles. I hope they stay happy, single and alone with only sex to comfort them at 60.
Maybe then, those hormones that are driving them now, when they've been depleted because of age, they'll seek companionship.
Don't worry, they'll meet a lot of old happy singles in the old people home.

Michelle55:

That's not the biggest mistake huncle..
What if she's working and not supporting the home front in any way?
What if all the responsibilities still falls on you as the man despite having a working class wife?
What if she doesn't encourage nor inspires you to soar higher than you were before ?
What if she doesn't give you the maximum peace of mind you deserve as a man?
What if all she does is spend all her earnings on herself, buying the latest bags and clothes and attending high societal functions and not caring to acknowledge your presence in her life?
Trust me, there's a lot to marriage than meets the eyes.
Just ask your maker for direction when you want to settle down.
She might be working yet feels entitled to your money..
Marriage is 50/50... All hands must be on deck to ensure the smooth sailing of the homefront.

It's impressive to see a woman who reasons like this nowadays. You're a rare specie.

Although your fellow girls are gonna resent you for this.

pDudd:


That's right bro. You won't lying.

All women bring to the table these days is an expired pussy or a kid or kids from her baby daddy. They are broke, lack zero skills, and from poor semovita backgrounds.

If she isn't Beyonce or Rihanna that can add value to my life, then let her carry her expired kpekus and baggage and commot from my front. Empty barrels.

Man must wise now. Days of dulling are over.

I shudder to think of the women around you.

Change your circle bro.

The problem with you brothers is you don't want to follow the steps of your fathers before you....it is a man responsibility to take care of a woman both financially, spiritually and otherwise...if your wife is working or wants to work thank God If she is not better do the necessary needful

bukatyne:


I shudder to think of the women around you.

Change your circle bro.

Sometimes it is not about changing any circle.

They just want to be silly and post all manner of trash to insult women.Many of them are the opposite of what they claim online
I wonder what they gain from that

My friend shutbur tired mouth and carry ur diary to america.u no know the difference between naija and us

MelaninSkinGirl:

Married men and mortality
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. But is marriage itself responsible for better health and longer life?

Although it's hard to be sure, marriage seems to deserve at least part of the credit. Some have argued that self-selection would skew the results if healthy men are more likely to marry than men with health problems. But research shows the reverse is true: unhealthy men actually marry earlier, are less likely to divorce, and are more likely to remarry following divorce or bereavement than healthy men.

Another potential factor is loneliness; is the institution of marriage linked to better health, or is it simply a question of living with another person? Although studies vary, the answer seems to be a little of both. People living with unmarried partners tend to fare better than those living alone, but men living with their wives have the best health of all.

Numerous studies conducted over the past 150 years suggest that marriage is good for health. More recently, scientists have begun to understand why married men enjoy better health than their single, divorced, and widowed peers. But before we turn to the why, let's look at how marriage affects specific diseases, including America's leading killers, cardiovascular disease and cancer.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health

Interesting....

Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a huge favor by marrying them.

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!!

“hoard your ring!!” completely cracked me up!

Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a huge favor by marrying them.

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!!

i get ur point but how will u handle pressure dat comes wit being single

MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

this a pure lie

I want 2 marry a woman that can contribute at least ten percent of her income 2 d running of d family

Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a huge favor by marrying them.

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!!

Do you think the women don't know this truth.
They know it benefits them more, that is even the more reason they lose their taste in life and fun when their biological clock is ticking "late" and not yet married.
Men will leave and toil all the rest of their days just to fend for her incessant needs and that of the children. Later the man won't even taste the good from his children. More often the women spike their children aganit their father or the man dies off early even b4 he start to earn the dividends from the maturing children


Brize pls get this guy Hero on my bills

Have you seen this thread ??!

Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a huge favor by marrying them.

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!!

Solid.

There is NOTHING a woman offers in a marriage that cannot be gotten outside of marriage. Nothing.

luvlyADESUWA:


My brother, you might be typing this out of frustration, but i tell you "it's very good to marry, it sweeter when u marry a good woman" It is BEST when both of you are working and contributing to the home.

The end shall tell, old age is NOT what any man prays to live without a wife by his side...
#fact

Do I look frustrated

MelaninSkinGirl:
Hey, I showed you the science, you decide what you want to do with your lives. It's a free universe.

But believe me you, there is nothing sadder than a man who is 50something running around and sleeping with everything that moves. He thinks these pretty young girls love him, but he doesn't know they are in it for his wallet. It's a sad life.

Girl stop playing yourself. At 50, a man can still get any bleeping woman he want. Be it a virgin or teen. It’s men’s world. Just have money and the rest would be falling into place!

The older a man get, the more competition he becomes in women’s world. The older women get, the less competition she comes in men’s world.

That’s why you’ll see most ladies wanting to get married before time goes.

ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point

MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

Could you please cite the source of these studies?

aeion:
Considering all the begging threads on Nairaland from married people asking for money to feed their families, it's obvious Nigerians are getting married with little to no money or savings, and I'm very baffled by this!!!! You should be telling both males and females to each have a stable job/source of income and sufficient savings before getting married!!!!

I think a BEGGING THREAD has to be created.
What do you think..?

MelaninSkinGirl:

Married men and mortality
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. But is marriage itself responsible for better health and longer life?

Although it's hard to be sure, marriage seems to deserve at least part of the credit. Some have argued that self-selection would skew the results if healthy men are more likely to marry than men with health problems. But research shows the reverse is true: unhealthy men actually marry earlier, are less likely to divorce, and are more likely to remarry following divorce or bereavement than healthy men.

Another potential factor is loneliness; is the institution of marriage linked to better health, or is it simply a question of living with another person? Although studies vary, the answer seems to be a little of both. People living with unmarried partners tend to fare better than those living alone, but men living with their wives have the best health of all.

Numerous studies conducted over the past 150 years suggest that marriage is good for health. More recently, scientists have begun to understand why married men enjoy better health than their single, divorced, and widowed peers. But before we turn to the why, let's look at how marriage affects specific diseases, including America's leading killers, cardiovascular disease and cancer.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health

Feminist propaganda bullshit! Also in the stats, they often classed divorced and widowed men as “single men”(Clearly men who chose to be single and men who are single by circumstances will never have the same outcome. it is obvious the data is skewed).

There was an article that said woman and nagging causes strokes in men and heart attacks. Guys end up having strokes because of a nagging entitled wife. Also married men are more likely to eat unhealthy, drink more hard liquor(alchohol) , have less time to relax and put less time in the gym, clearly not healthy choices…

Now I am single and I have a routine to go to the gym, eat healthy, do what I want to do with my free time and spend my money where I want to spend it.

The research you sourced can be easily skewed to get the result they want.

And even if it were true, SINGLE MEN DIE HAPPIER!
I´d rather die with my bros than live with a hoe anyday lol.

angelfallz:

Could you please cite the source of these studies?

The sources are skewed to favour feminism.